same guy here:
I thought he made a lot of good points! Let me know what you think!
When Your Desire Feels Ordinary, It’s On the Verge of Manifestation
Written by Sen on January 23rd, 2012
One of the misguided understandings people have, especially those who are learning about law of attraction, is that – “exhilaration is the highest vibration to achieve “, and that the more exhilarated they stay the quicker the manifestation. In truth, exhilaration is simply a state of transition when you are moving from a low vibration to a stable vibration – it’s a transitory state. You feel exhilarated when you have been on a low and are moving towards a state of relief, this transition is experienced in the body as that “blissed out” feeling. So in truth there is no such thing as a “high state” there is only a state of relief (which is akin to wholeness), and what you define as a high state is a temporary transitory feeling as you move from a low vibration to the vibration of relief. The stable state is always ordinary and feels more like wholeness than exhilaration.
Also, a lot of people have this delusion that once they reach their desired reality they will be exhilarated all the time, which is not only an unreasonable thought to have but it also disconnects you from the reality of physical life where excited states (or high states) are not permanent. The more time the body spends in a high state that more time it requires on the low state to compensate for it (that’s why over-excitement is always followed by some depression), the steady state for the body is one of wholeness, which actually is a state simplicity or ordinariness, it’s not a dull state, it’s just a state free of extremes (over-excitement or depression). When you reach a point where your desires don’t over-excite you but just feel “whole” or ordinary, you are far less resistant to their manifestation.
Visualizing The Ordinariness Of Your Desire
A lot of people focus on pumping up their excitement levels, which they equate with a high vibration, and try to visualize their desires in this state of excitement. However, a desired reality when it manifests would always feel “ordinary” – you can see it in all your past life experiences that every time a desired reality manifested it felt so ordinary, it felt like the next thing, and usually it manifested when you were no longer making a big deal about it. The truth is that “reality” is always ordinary, and it’s usually when we have some deluded, or hyped up, imagination about the future that we feel over-excited. And as long as you are not looking at your desire from the context of the ordinariness of reality, you will always have some delusion of big dealness about it – and thus you would indirectly be in resistance to its manifestation.
Of course, you can’t “pretend” that a desire feels ordinary to you (you can’t fake it), it’s basically a natural state the mind reaches, with respect to a desire, when it has seen through all the “extra-ordinariness” that it had been associating with it. In a simple sense, a mature mind (you can read the post – moving towards a mature mind) is able to see through its delusions more easily than an immature mind. It’s just reasonable, and logical, that if something feels extra-ordinary to you it just means you are not in touch with reality. And when you are not in touch with reality, with respect to a desire, you’ve not really aligned yourself with the circumstances, which you will end up in, when your desire manifests.
A desire becomes a fantasy when you are holding extra-ordinary imaginations about it, and projecting a lot of big-dealness to it. Reality on the other hand is far removed from the fantasies of the mind, it’s far too ordinary than what the mind imagines it to be. The hallmark of a mature mind is that it does not associate fantastic imaginations with respect to a desire and is willing to see the desired reality in the context of ordinariness. There is a place for feeling excited and exhilarated about a desire, especially during the initial few days when it’s hatched (and it’s an enjoyable experience), but if you don’t allow yourself to see through all your excitements/delusions and thus be rooted in the ordinariness of reality, you would just end up holding onto a fantasy which removes you from being aligned with the true vibration of your desired physical reality – which directly means that you are not a match to attracting it.
Get In Tune With Reality
A new desire always fills you with excitement or exhilaration, because for a while you are looking at it purely from the dimension of joy/love/sexuality in your mind. But soon enough you will start seeing it from the dimension of fear (when you have doubts about it), and then you will start seeing it from the dimension of hatred (hating the desire for not manifesting), which are both low vibration states of being and hence highly resistant to manifestation. However, the problem is that you keep trying to get back to feeling exhilarated about the desire instead of allowing yourself to naturally move into a place of nonchalance about the desire (where you see it as ordinary, from the dimension of boredom in the mind). You can read about all the dimension of the mind on this post – the 6 dimensions of the mind.
It’s important to understand that “pure” exhilaration about a desire is always felt only the first time it’s hatched, after that you are only trying to “re-create” the feeling of exhilaration about the desire. This is because you feel afraid of allowing the desire to feel ordinary, because you think that if the desire feels ordinary it will lose its importance in your mind. But if you allow yourself to just stay “natural”, you will see that the desire naturally starts feeling ordinary after a while and this is what allows a resistance-free manifestation of it. The state of exhilaration is only a primary/preliminary state, and it’s not meant to be “maintained” to manifest the desire.
The natural phases/transition that a mind goes through with respect to a desire are – Exhilaration (joy/love) – Doubt (fear) – Frustration (hatred) – Nonchalance (boredom). When it reaches the final phase of nonchalance, it’s least resistant to manifesting the desire and hence the manifestation starts unfolding with ease. A lot of people either get stuck in doubt or keep trying to re-create the exhilaration (which basically creates more frustration), instead of allowing a natural transition into nonchalance where you are no longer making a big deal out of the desire – this is when you really get in tune with the ordinariness of life, and thus see your desire from the context of reality, this is the stable place from where you allow a smooth manifestation to unfold.
Post by: tereza on April 02, 2012, 04:41:18 AM
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Post by: truelove on April 02, 2012, 05:27:53 AM
Thank you so much for posting Moscowlvr. 😀
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Post by: onlyhappiness on April 02, 2012, 07:09:29 AM
Thanks for the post 🙂
Post by: Moscowlvr on April 03, 2012, 05:13:42 AM
@CityofDavid: You're welcome! Oh man, I'm really glad I found this article then! haha I agree. I've had so many experiences prior to learning about the Law of Attraction that things I wished for happened only after I stopped putting all this hype into them! Go figure! But it actually really, really makes sense!
@emilylb: Hey, same here. So no worries. I really do agree with this article in that we need to let the "spectacular-ness" of our desires become ordinary. I don't think it means we need to stop wanting it or thinking that it would be great to have it, but I think once it becomes more "ordinary" feeling it feels more real to us. And when things feel real, and authentic then we believe in it!
@truelove: That's awesome! I'm really glad I chose to post this article I found then! I found it awhile back, and I was debating whether I should share it, but then I thought that it might help! So I am so elated that its helped you look at things in a new, helpful way! It really has for me. I've been reading a lot of this guy's articles lately. Very informative!
@fanatic44: Same! I love when everything comes together, don't you? hahaha
@tina_attract: YES. I'm the SAME. EXACT. WAY. In the morning I used to wake up in a state of panic and desperation for it, and then by the end of the day...I'd be like, "Eh, what happens, happens." I think the more we progress, the easier it gets to stay in that state!
@onlyhappiness: Yeah! I think you've got it down pat! Keep doing what you're doing and see it as something ordinary that's bound to happen, instead of some fantastical, unachievable thing. I think you're doing great!
Post by: beautifulmesss12sc on April 03, 2012, 06:09:21 AM
Post by: sh-boom on April 03, 2012, 08:21:01 PM
Just this morning I was waiting for the metro and it was taking forever for some reason. I was carrying a really heavy backpack and it was starting to get to me. I thought about taking the bag off and just setting it on the ground and then I said to myself, "I bet the second I start to relax the metro will come and I'll have to get on board." I didn't really care if that happened or not, I just thought it. So, unable to bare carrying all that weight on my back I finally gave in. I set the bag on the ground, started stretching and....there was the metro. 😛
Is this a good thing though? I feel like this is beyond nonchalance, but I'm hoping this is me finally detaching from all that I want!
I was 'trying' to get a part time job in LA for two years, to substitute my singing career -
I would go to the interview all pumped up and over excited and confident and bubbly and reeeeeaally wanting the job.....
I was baffled as to why I wasn't getting one!
THEN, recently, I went to an interview and I TRULY thought, I don't really care, I can take it or leave it, I'll be fine either way....I was relaxed and friendly and chilled out and they called me the NEXT day and hired me.
Two weeks later I quit because I hated it (hahaa)
I was walking past a cool cafe the other day that has two recording studios upstairs and lots of musicians and producers come in all the time (good networking!)
I asked if they were hiring and they said not at the moment.
A couple of weeks later I thought, I'm just gonna run in again and see if they need someone now! ...knowing they didn't, so not really caring but I felt like taking 'inspired action!".... again, they said they're not looking- then after chatting with the manager for a few minutes, he said "Actually, maybe you could work the days I don't want to"- and he gave me a JOB!
:-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*
I really love this thread because I think it is crucial to the process of allowing.
Funny you should share this. I was just reading something on the Abraham Hicks Fb page that said that we are always in vibrational alignment with what we want. Being too excited or too sad equally bring us out of alignment. Meaning we don't have to pump ourselves up in order to get our desired results, just be content.Have you got the link to this beautifuldreamer?
Last year I did a series of courses about the universe and how it works and how to use that Universal Laws to live the life you want.
A very important law is the Law of Duality. That everything (in the physical world) has an opposite- happy sad, good bad , etc. This law tell us that no matter what the situation, nothing is all good or all bad. Our human brains just perceive it that way. Connecting with the good and bad at the same time and collapsing these polarities in on themselves is the middle way/God/enlightenment experience (this has happened to me and it is life changing) ... but anyway...
Sometimes when we want something we see it as all good- this is a lopsided perception what ever it is- there will be a downside to having that thing I absolutely guarantee it. Now when we can't see the downside we put the thing/relationship, or whatever, on a pedestal and get very excited about the idea of it.. This excitement pushes our desire from us.. If you can sit and find what the bad side is to what you want, what you will sacrifice or lose by having it, it becomes a balanced perception and therefore part of your real experience. It isn't held apart from you. You will then remain in a calm state about the idea of having it because you realize it is good AND bad, just like everything else... you just decide that the good is worth the bad that comes with it.. Am I making sense?? hahaha I hope so.
Once you take your desire off the pedestal and into the realm of reality it can manifest in yours! 😀
@tina_attract: I think truelove is absolutely correct. I think you're in the right state of mind. You probably had to get through that moment of disappointment to release those negative feelings. But now that you're in the non-caring state I think that's a really, really good thing. Don't worry about driving tests and failing them! Sometimes, it all comes down to the driving tester you've got in the car with you. Some can be more particular about tiny, insignificant rules than others. I failed my driving test the first time I went around too. I got everything perfect, and then at the last second when we parked I accidentally hit the curb, and the tester said I could no longer pass. XD But the second time around, I did really well, and the tester was more focused on how well I drove instead of one accidental curb bump! You can do it, tina_attract! You've already got that license in your hands!
@Daniela: I'm so glad that I shared this now! haha I was so unsure people would find it interesting, but I'm glad they did. And yes! That blog is really full of a lot of information. A lot of it is quite wordy, but also REALLY helpful.
@beautifuldreamer: Woah! Well that's just awesome! Actually, feeling normal feels a lot more "whole" than trying to be excited ALL THE TIME. I really like this idea! Thanks for sharing!
@PinkyPink! Congratulations!!! What a great success! And a serious testament to how much a difference it makes when we stop putting things on the pedestal of perfection! Fantastic!
@truelove: I could not have written better myself! I really love this. I agree full heartedly. Its true, sometimes we visualize things, and we think that once this ONE, AMAZING THING manifests, then it will all be gum drops and rainbows for the rest of our lives. As nice as that would be, it isn't true. There needs to be contrast as you said! And nothing is completely good nor is it completely bad. I guess its kind of like how some people say, "I can manifest small things but I have trouble manifesting big things..." But... in reality nothing is really that big. Every thing is actually quite a small deal. All manifestations are the same, it's just we're attached to some more than others.
And that's why I think detachment/non-attachment works so well for people, because they've just gotten to that state where they see everything as ordinary.
You are so right on the hammer with this one, truelove!
A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret
From The Secret Daily Teachings
You cannot bring what you want to you if you are feeling stress. Stress or any tension at all is something you have to remove from your system.
You must let the stress go - it is the only way you can bring what you want. The emotion of stress is saying strongly that you do NOT have what you want. Stress or tension is the absence of faith, and so to remove it all you have to do is increase your faith!
May the joy be with you,
Maybe I just didn't understand this article, but it doesn't click with me at all. I've had many things manifest in real life that brought me much elation and excitement. I love witnessing the wonderful ways in which the universe delivers my desires and feeling that sense of wow, I would never have thought it would happen like this. Isn't that the reason we try to manifest our goals and dreams in the first place? If everything always felt the same level of "ordinary" where's the motivation to achieve or experience anything new at all?If you are successful with manifesting your goals and desire, don't stop what you are doing. At the end of the day, it is all about your vibrational level IMHO. Like the saying goes: "if it ain't broke, don't fix it".
I think they are more referring to trying to manifest something, not after it has manifested. Of course our desires bring us joy and excitement when they have manifested. But I think the article is more or less saying, if we are too excited when trying to manifest something, we are probably putting some attachment to that desire. But if we are very nonchalant about it then we are less resistant.