By: Priya Deelchand (Life Coach)
The Law of Attraction states that we attract into our lives, whatever we give our energy, attention and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted. Since our though is energy, people holding certain thoughts and vibrating a certain way become magnets and attract to them people vibrating at more or less the same frequency. That’s why we say “Birds of the same feathers flock together.” For example, let’s say you are vibrating at 75, it is very likely that you would attract people vibrating at 70 – 80 level and very unlikely that you would attract people vibrating at say 30. If you want to attract your ideal mate, you have to become a “vibrational match” to the person you want to share your life with.
The vibrations that we emit can be either positive or negative and the Law of Attraction will always respond to the vibration that we are emitting by giving us more of the same. If you are a very positive person, you will be emitting a positive vibration and you will be surrounded by positive people. If on the other hand, you are a person who is constantly angry, doubtful, fearful, etc, you will be emitting a negative vibration, and you will tend to attract negative people, situations and experiences into your life.
If you want to attract your ideal partner, first of all, you have to see what you are currently attracting in this particular area of your life and what vibration you are emitting. If you are not attracting the relationship you want, you will have to be very clear about what you want in a romantic relationship.
How do we become clear about what we want? Most of the time, it is very difficult to know exactly what we want in an ideal mate. One of the best ways to become clear is to make a list of qualities and characteristics that you do not like in your existing or previous relationships. You don’t have to focus on what you do not want to attract but just examine briefly what you do not like or want. Once you have made a list of around 40 to 50 qualities and characteristics that you do not like, you can proceed by making the list of characteristics that you do want in an ideal partner. The things that we want are the exact opposite of the things that we don’t want. For example:
What I Do not Want
Want What I do Want
|1. An uncaring partner
||1. A caring partner
|2. A quarrelsome relationship
||2. A harmonious relationship
|3. A partner who does not share Responsibilities
||3. A relationship where we share responsibilities equally
You continue with this exercise and once you have a list of all the characteristics that you want in a partner, you start focusing only on this list and then you proceed with the next step which is to become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner you want to attract.
How do we become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner we want to attract? Well, suppose in your list you want to attract a loving and caring partner. If you, yourself are not caring and loving, it will be difficult for you to attract a loving and caring person. According to the Law of Attraction, you attract what you vibrate. You must therefore start raising your vibration to become loving and caring. It is only then that you can attract what you want into your life.
Once you have become clear about what you want and you have raised your vibration to attract your ideal partner, the last step is to allow your ideal partner to come to you. Allowing is the absence of doubt. If you have a strong desire to attract your ideal mate but at the same time, you have strong doubts, you will never be able to attract what you want because you will be sending mixed signals in the universe. If on the other hand, you have a strong desire and some doubt, you will attract our ideal mate, but it will take a little longer. The best combination for rapid manifestation of your ideal relationship is when you have a strong desire and no doubt at all.
You now have all the necessary ingredients in your hands to attract your ideal relationship. Just follow and carefully apply all the different steps we have mentioned and you will definitely end up attracting your ideal partner. The right understanding and application of the Law of Attraction will definitely bring miraculous results in your life.