Hear What Others Say. But Then Listen to Yourself

Quotes for the week:

“Nobody’s opinion matters
more than your own.
Jim Zinger

“What’s important to me
is not what other people think,
but what I think of myself.

Both these quotations have the same message, and it is one of the hardest lessons for many of us to learn. I know that I personally had a hard time with this one. Many of us are people pleasers; we want everyone to like us.

The problem here is that they won’t – no matter what we say or do. Statistically, 2% of the population won’t like you and there is nothing you can do about it. Others of us care about our reputation. Whether it is at work, or personally, we care what others think. After all, at work our promotions and future depends on it. And the same can be said of our personal lives. And of course, many of us are still trying to make our parents proud of us. So we live our lives according to how we want others to perceive us.

There are several problems here. First of all, as I said before, not everyone is going to like us. Secondly, if we live our lives worrying about what others will think, we will never take a risk or stretch ourselves. And probably most damaging, if we live our lives attempting to please others or make them proud, we often give up our own dreams. Those closest to us may not understand or agree with how we want to live our lives, and if we let their opinions count more than our own, we often try living their lives, not our own.

Everyone is entitled to have an opinion. And often the information and feedback we receive from others is valuable. However, we must remember that other’s opinions is just that – their opinions. It is not facts. So we must learn to hear what others say, consider it’s validity, and then make up our own minds. Our opinions are important too. We must learn to listen to our self, and then act true to our own thoughts and opinions. I know this can be tough. We may be call stupid, selfish, or worse, by people we care about. But remember, it is your life, and it is your opinion that counts. If you need someone to talk to, I’ll listen and honor your opinions. Let me know how it goes

Affirmation for the week:
I honor my opinions above those of others.

Action Assignment:

1) Listen to the opinions of others,
check for validity.

2) Then make decisions based on your opinions,
not those of others.

How to use this newsletter:
1) Read the quote and affirmation daily.

2) Do something everyday that is an outcome of the affirmation.

3)Watch your life change for the better.

Greer Tavel is a speaker, workshop leader and success coach in the area of personal growth and transformation. Author of “Beyond Belief: A Guide to Your New Reality”,she will help you identify limiting beliefs, change them to more empowering ones and incorporate these more positive new beliefs into your life. For other information or to subscribe to her free newsletter “Limit Buster Tips”, visit her web site athttp://www.limitbuster.com/ or e-mail her at: greer@limitbuster.com

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