I want to attract my Angel back to me and marry her!

[Angelland]

I want to attract my love of my life back to me, emigrate to her country and marry her, start my own music band again and live the life of my dreams, in Heaven on Earth!

[ava]

wow.that's excellent!! you described your goal so specific and in detail.that's excellent.but i think that's better not to set a deadline.cause setting a deadline for your desire,makes you anxious.i say from my personal experience.but every one has different experience.

[Angelland]

I really don't mind when, as long as that IT happens:-)
I am ready, my house is completely empty, I quitted my band, gave everything away that I owned to poor people.
And I am ready to say Goodbye to my home country to emigrate:-)
My website is ready to start a new music band in her country, so Im set to go!

[I AM LOVE!]

hi angelland

I was wondering if during this period didnt you attemt any chance to reach out to her?You see one very imp thing is LOA is INSPIRED ACTION
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[Angelland]

Hi,

If you read other topics from me, you will see that I send her now and then a message.
But no respond ....yet.
And did some huge active action steps, by clearing out my entire house, quitted my music band, gave all away I owned etc etc etc.
You can read it in other topics from me

[Sweet Spirit]

So you have sent her messages since the break up over a year ago and still no response from her?

What have you been doing in your life the past year you've been apart? Have you been longing for her this entire time, or have you been trying to enjoy life apart from her? You've got a lot of patience and faith if you are still hanging on to hope after a year of getting no response back from her. Most people would have given up and moved on by now. I know I would have. Life is too short to be wasted on being stuck in the stage of wanting something and not getting it (because of attracting the "still wanting it.")

So if you are honestly happy still wanting and not getting, stay where you are at. If not, LET IT GO!!!! Because letting it go is the ONLY way you're gonna get what you really want. SERIOUSLY! How is the universe going to take your desire and turn it into manifestation while you are still hanging on to it so tightly?

[Angelland]

Well, call me a fool, stupid or whatever...
I am still waiting,hoping for that beautiful message from her ever since 4 april last year.
I even can't date others, or wanting another relationship.
She is the ONe! for me
But I am going between two emotions eversince, holding on maybe too tight I don't know and sometimes even mad, angry that over something stupid she broke up, while she made her portion of mistakes too.
But the overall idea, I love her and i cant explain it.
For i am a guy who normally would say, get the ***** out my life if you dont like me
normally i have my mouth with me, like they say here, but with her its all different.

I even dont know why im holding on, while there are so many woman on earth, even here and even in her country where i would love to emigrate to, and im not that bad looking i guess......

And, if they feel how we are feeling, wanting etc...
Wouldn't WE be feeling how THEY feel also?

And maybe I did some wrong things, like scripting about it ( maybe writing things down how I would like them to be, but with that limiting myself ??)
And Talking to others about it, ( tempting fate?) and speaking out my wishes and talking about everything too much, keeping her away from me??
I just learned about that since yesterday so now I keep myself quiet about everything as much as possible and when someone asks me about it, I just smile and say nothing anymore.
Maybe if I knew all that, I would be already living together with her??
I dont know, just thinking everything over why it hasn't come true yet while doing everythin g loa says, visualising, dreaming, daydreaming, affirmations, reading many books about it, use everything I got and can, be positive as much as i can.
Now I also started to focus on other things, like gaining money, what i lost a lot off since quitting my band, gaining some weight ( i was pretty sick before i knew her and lost 17 kilo's body- weight).
But actually, I have been doing loa since two/three years now and couldn't manifest anything ....yet.
So it would be a first if I manifest something I really wish for.
I also thought many times of just stopping all this non sence, because it never worked for me and I never had any proof, result that I could manifest anything.
But with signs, Yeah, I aksed for a letter combination to the Universe to show me she will come back, instead I saw  a car from her country drive by ( you see that on the license plate here in europe)
Is that a sign???

I just keep going and try to think as little as possible of her, maybe that will bring her to me?

[Believing Love]

Life is too short to be wasted on being stuck in the stage of wanting something and not getting it (because of attracting the "still wanting it.")

So is it normal when the person we want to attract has come to us and we feel like we dont want them already because deep inside we feel like we already in that relationship already? but if we're feeling that, will it still manifest ??

[Sweet Spirit]

Angelland,

Well if you are still waiting, whining and hoping then that is where you are going to stay.

You know I went through all those emotions too. I was pissed off, desperate, longing, sick in love, crying, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, depressed. etc etc etc

Thank God I found this forum and was able to let go and take him off that pedestal! I decided I was sick of feeling all those negative emotions and I didn't want to waste my precious life being stuck in that pit of despair of still wanting, waiting, whining and hoping. I decided that I was going to be happy no matter what. So what if he didn't come back? I can't control whether he wants a relationship with me or not but I can control what I am going to do.  I didn't let go for the sole purpose and intent of attracting him back; I did it so I could feel better. I did it for ME and my peace of mind. Yeah I knew in my gut instinct that he would be back, but I also knew that I had to accept that he was gone and not base my ability to be happy on whether he came back or not. I basically detached myself from the outcome. And it worked. Letting go not only gave me that peace of mind, but it also prompted him to contact me and resume our relationship.

You know what my boyfriend said to me when I was begging and pleading with him not to leave me? He said "If you love me, you will let me go." And I did.
And because he loved me,  he came back to me.
 
Letting go doesn't mean you have to move on and forget about your desire to be with her. letting go means to detach yourself from the outcome. You're not detaching yourself if you are making plans to move to her country, (you don't even know if she is still in that country or even if she has moved on and married someone else by now.) You're not detaching yourself if you are giving away all your stuff with the intent of being with her. You're not detaching yourself if you still have to look at her pictures and you are whining, wanting and hoping.

There is a reason she has not responded and if you will just let go and accept that you have a life apart from her, I think you will be pleasantly surprised.

@ Believing Love:

Lets say I wanted to attract my boyfriend back, and I got what I wanted. I attracted him back. Now am I still wanting to attract him back? No. Why am I not still wanting to attract him back? Because I have already attracted him back. Do I still want him? Yes. I haven't changed my mind now that I got him back. I still desire him, but now I HAVE him. Why would I still be wanting to attract something that I already have?

So that is why it is said that we should desire things with the feeling that we already HAVE them. That way we are not attracting more of wanting something we don't have. Does that make sense?

[Sweet Spirit]

Oh and by the way Angelland,
You are NOT stupid, nor are you a fool. You're just in love.

[Angelland]

Hi Spirit,

Well with some I agree and with some I don't agree according to the loa and what the secret and everything else tells you to do.

I may hold on too tight and i wish how to let go....

Second I did all those things, gave away everything, quit my band etc etc, to show active faith and that is what you have to do when you want something.
Every loa ''teacher'' and even the secret tells you to do things you never did before and show active faith, and that is what i did, with giving away everything, showing I am serious and trust the universe everything will work out great.
Now you tell me that i did all wrong and that is what confuses me.
Because it IS and was a huge step of faith, a huge leap of faith with giving away everything to show I trust the universe.
Because I alwasy was a guy who loved his stuff, and everything in my home, I saved and played many times with my band in order to buy all those things and now I gave them away showing faith and along the way making lots of people happy with it.

But I guess you right about letting go, she told me the same last year, in the last days we still had contact, to let her go if i loved her.
maybe i waiting too tight to receive a message from her.
and maybe if i had let go sooner, i would be with her right now.

still trying to let go, but dont know exactly how to do it.
hope it will all turn out great.

[Sweet Spirit]

Yes Angelland you did show a HUGE leap of faith by doing those things but what good is going to come of what you did if you can't let go?

I actually commend you in taking those steps. It shows that you do trust the universe by taking such extreme inspired action. Now that you have done that, and you have let her know how you feel, there is no need to take anymore inspired action other than letting it go.

You don't know how to let go?

Live your life accepting that her physical presence is not a part of it right now! You have done well to feel as though you already have her but still be HAPPY without her physical presence! STOP the feeling of waiting and hoping and wanting and get the feeling of having joy and peace. STOP being attached to the outcome like it is all you are living for. Like I said, I took my boyfriend off that damned pedestal. Lucky for me it didn't take me a year to let go. He might have moved on and found somebody else by then. What is it going to take for you to have joy and peace in your life? Her? You have to have peace and joy in your life before you can attract her back and letting go will give you that peace and joy. Don't be one of those people who say "I can only have that joy and peace once I have her." because it doesn't work that way. Its just the opposite with LOA. "I will have her only when I have that peace and joy first". You've heard the expression "I'll believe it when I see it"? With LOA its the opposite. "I'll see it when I believe it." 

Stop putting so much energy into wanting her and put more energy into letting go. Then and ONLY then there be a possibility of reuniting with her.

I pray that you will get to that stage. Like I said before, once you let go, you will be PLEASANTLY surprised.

Much love to you dear!

[Angelland]

Thank you, doing the best I can and stop talking about her too much, trying to let go much, way much more.
And hope to find a way to do it fast, so that peace and rest will come to me as well.

[lashark]

If you are "trying" to get it done fast it is because you have an active vibration within you that it hasn't happened yet.
Deactivate the resistance.
Deactivate the noticing of it's absence and by law it must show.

I advise you DO NOT "let go" for the sake of getting her back, it will feeling depressing and it will backlash.
You have to get to a point where you "let go" for YOUR sake, because your happiness NOW is worth it.
and your happiness RIGHT NOW is where all your power lies.

In letting go for her return, you are just taking action and placing effort it trying to make it happen. Let the universe do the work. Let it go completely. Yeah at first that idea seems ridiculous when one is in love but if it is true unconditional love, what does it matter where she is or long it will take? Does that change yoru love for her ? I doubt it. So what does it mean? It means you are still attatched because those factors are what is causing you to yearn. You have to be complete within yourself first. You have to make peace with where you are. You really do have to let it go. and dont worry on forcing it, we are beings that are constantly moving, you wont be stuck in the same place for long even if you think you will. Pay attention to what you feel and reach for better feeling thoughts and know your deliberate happiness is in your complete control : ) And once youve got that in control you have already let go.

[Angelland]

Thank you Lashark,

But I think I have to let go in order to feel peace, quiteness, rest and be at full silence in my head again.
First maybe I think I HAVE to let go in order to attract her back, and maybe that is what I am doing.
But I also think about that I wish to have fun again, without me thinking of her all the time, because that is taking all the energy from me.
I wish to have fun no matter what, feel the peace, watch with peace a movie again, and as i am a sentimental guy ( yeah they still exist:-) ) I wish to feel the emotion of a good movie without being afraid i feel it because of missing her, but wish to feel it because of the movie and not for her, if you understand what i try to say?

I wish also to let go and not be afraid of losing her forever.
I wish to let go also to really experience miracles, when they happen.
I wish to let go, in order to attract her back, knowing that I am worth it, that i am a good guy, that i am loved.
I wish to let go and have fun talks with other girls, without worrying that i tell the universe i dont want her anymore, because i am talking to other girls, but just because i like too, while still loving her.

I hope i make sence here somehow.