I'm taking my chance on a happy ending ;)

[Thumbelina :)]

 Hello everyone! Feels really good to be back in the forum! All this while, i was reading through the current posts, and thinking about myself a couple of years back when i first started writing here --
 I started following the LOA because i wanted to manifest a loving long term relationship with my ex. For starters, YES! I HAVE MANIFESTED HIM AND HE WANTS TO GET MARRIED THIS YEAR!
So, the answer to the question i often heard people asking about manifesting a particular person , the answer is YES! And, am a living example to it!

Now the twist is, I might dump him! This was a very guy, i have literally been with for on and off 5 yrs, and am sure most of you might be thinking that i am completely crazy to think this!
But, tomorrow when you are in my shoes, probably you will understand me!
Its easy to manifest a person - since, you are attracting him with love which in itself is the biggest power of the universe. But, after a while you realize, you just end up attracting the same old relationship in his terms, and your mind and your power is a tamed puppet. You may want hundred other things from life, and the other person might not and then you just have to bow down. Not many of us can live like that, and myself certainly not.
I have been there, done that. Therefore, an advice from a friend who's on the same boat as you are. Attract a particular relationship , which you can see yourself in. Most of us want our ex's back only because of the rejection syndrome working inside us, which after you achieve the person goes away and you are literally left with a hollow feeling.
Go after completing yourself, don't put condition to your happiness ! Live like its your last day on earth , and keep getting better at being yourself!!
Love is an exotic feeling, when experienced with the right one. Think about it - the one who makes you jumpy, desperate, sad, worried and impulsive ,could he/she really be the right one for you for life?
We all want an exotic holiday at Vegas, once in a while where we'd loose control and do all the crazy things we'd just look back at smile at, but just you imagine living that way for eternity?
Wouldn't you literally hate your life?
I remember reading the gratitude book by Rhonda Bryne, it was beautiful an experience! How wonderful it would be if we could live that way, and make our everyday so magical and positive!
Looking back through the years, i've learnt one lesson. Unless, you are whole in yourself nobody else could ever come and complete you!
Take 30days off all the things you are currently attracting. Your ex, your love, your money, your whatever! Just leave everything, for 30days and don't plan your days! Wake up in the morning with gratitude and work through the day, think of nothing. Let your body work, while your mind is enjoying doing "nothing". The moment you find yourself pondering over an issue just sing a funny song aloud or do something random - get back into the 'moment'. Your present!
I've been doing this for the past 1 week! And, honestly i've never been happier! I am enjoying the excellence of doing 'nothing' but living my present - being conscious of every moment with gratitude, and meditation!
I still have 3 weeks to go , whoever wants to be on board with me , can join
Take a break my friend, stop telling universe how and what to do!
Surprise yourself, since this might be the last breath your taking
God bless you!
Loads of love and luck ,
Thumbelina

[Free bird]

Thanks a lot Thumbelina, thats is truely very inspiring post............and wen read ur post, i realized u r so damn right...........wen my ex broke up i felt shattered, but i feel so happy and full

[Thumbelina :)]

Exactly
All we need is a Reality Check and self assumption of what we actually want and what we 'think we want' !
I am quite on that phase now, where am just 'letting go' and working towards what makes me happy this very moment!
Had a list last year of things which i want to experience that would make me happy!
Realized sitting in my room wouldn't take me to Paris, so acted upon it
I had forgotten a big step of LOA manifestation - Taking an action!
Sitting there - planning, hoping and expecting will only make us worried, bored and sad which are not a good sign!
So, why not make a move and let LOA do the rest

[onlyhappiness]

Thumbelina..you are so so right..thank you!! I gladly accept your challenge and will do 30 days as well no more manifesting , worrying , visualizing , i feel this big sense of relief right now I as well am attracting back my love , and it's funny , i love him but maybe you are right and it is really my ego in the way. I as well am not going to think of it for 30 days and just be happy!!

Thank You for sharing your insights and we will have lots of happy stories to share i know!!

[beautifuldreamer]

Thank you for this post Thumblina I have been thinking about this about lately. I was thinking about my past relationship with my ex with new eyes and realized that had he not left me, I would have continued to be as unhappy I was during the whole relationship. So why should I want him back? he did me a favour, but it's, my ego I know it is. Deep down I want him to come back for me to be able to tell him NO (childish I know).

So I will join you!

[onlyhappiness]

  beautifuldreamer,

 I could have written your post!! I was with my love for 5 years ( with a year off at 1 point ) and no if we had remained together i still would not have been happy , i wasn't at the end so maybe this was meant to happen and we attracted it to find our own happiness I'm not saying i don't still love him and want him back , but i know i need to find my own happiness before anything can happen. I truly believe when i do , he or someone even better will be back in my life

[beautifuldreamer]

  beautifuldreamer,

 I could have written your post!! I was with my love for 5 years ( with a year off at 1 point ) and no if we had remained together i still would not have been happy , i wasn't at the end so maybe this was meant to happen and we attracted it to find our own happiness I'm not saying i don't still love him and want him back , but i know i need to find my own happiness before anything can happen. I truly believe when i do , he or someone even better will be back in my life

I for one know it's my ego because I have been in this situation before with another ex and I waited for him for a year, while he was with the person he left me for. Once I got him back it was nothing like what I thought it would be. It was terrible actually and the truth is, I could never trust him again.

I think sometimes we romanticize the past and or our fears of not being able to find love again keeps us clinging on to our exes. We say it's our fault we attracted it with our fears or insecurities etc and it can be fixed and with LOA yes we can fix it. But just as we wanted things to work so bad that we found a way through to fix it, isn't it also true if our exes wanted it to work equally as bad they would be searching for ways to fix it too? We are no smarter or more resourceful than them are we? My ex introduced me to LOA and even after our break-up he admits that what we went through was avoidable and because of insecurities etc. But even knowing that, it never made him want to work on us, it never stopped him from finding a new girlfriend 3 weeks later and moving in with her.

Maybe I am bitter, but maybe just maybe I deserve better.

[Love is here]

But even knowing that, it never made him want to work on us, it never stopped him from finding a new girlfriend 3 weeks later and moving in with her.

This is a generalization but it seems like guys move on way faster than women. It always annoyed me to no end how my ex's would find new girlfriends long before I even begun to start dating again but I think some men just dont like to deal with breakups and the hurt emotions.

[beautifuldreamer]

Mars and Venus says the more a man is hurt by a break-up is the quicker he'll move on. However, I would have liked if he at least tried.

[JustForToday]

  beautifuldreamer,

 I could have written your post!! I was with my love for 5 years ( with a year off at 1 point ) and no if we had remained together i still would not have been happy , i wasn't at the end so maybe this was meant to happen and we attracted it to find our own happiness I'm not saying i don't still love him and want him back , but i know i need to find my own happiness before anything can happen. I truly believe when i do , he or someone even better will be back in my life

Thank you for this post Thumblina I have been thinking about this about lately. I was thinking about my past relationship with my ex with new eyes and realized that had he not left me, I would have continued to be as unhappy I was during the whole relationship. So why should I want him back? he did me a favour, but it's, my ego I know it is. Deep down I want him to come back for me to be able to tell him NO (childish I know).

So I will join you!

i will join you as well!!!! as well as with your statements and this thread here, letting go for 30 days
i too attracted my ex back, but it was the same as before, so why should i continue living an unhappy relationship. especially with loa in your life, you are supposed to love and respect yourself, but how can you love yourself when you set your emotions under such circumstances?

 

[Apple]

I'm in too 

Iron Ur posted a link the other day on this exact topic. I have been doing this going on 3 days now. Just living in the present moment going with the flow. It does feel good.

[I AM LOVE!]

Thmbelina...THUMBS UP!
You have always been an inspiration loved reading your posts and blogs I am IN too.lets JUST LIVE !