Author Topic: another success story about ex back! (Read 1193 times)

ava · « **on:** January 27, 2012, 12:12:46 AM »

Hi guys,i know you all want to hear success stories about getting an ex back.i found this success story on this site(http://exboyfriendhelp.com/forum/topic.php?id=4217). alhough it is less related to LOA but i think it is showing the power of letting go and focusing on yourself.it is written by HeidiSmith.
Hi girls. 6 months ago i was looking on this site for help and guidance. My boyfriend of 3 years left me after an argument I initiated. I was so shocked and heartbroken I begged and pleaded. Nothing was working. I couldn't eat but man I could sleep! I am someone who finds it very hard to sleep at night but I was a sleep by 9 everynight. I wished I would never wake up, I was only ever happy in my sleep. I looked forward to bedtime and would count down every hour. I tried nc from him and lasted two days!! I "HAD" to speak to him. I thought I would try and be like the girl he fell in love with and I'd try nd make him jealous by telling him how I'm going out clubbing (I was really at home crying lol) It was then I realised none of this is working. It's been a month and he is getting more and more distant every week. I had enough I was all out of tears, all out of ideas. I told him I agreed with the break up. We are not right for eachother and that I needed time to myself. He agreed but seemed quite pissed at the idea of it.

The first week was the hardest. I had withdrawal symptoms. Like he was my drug. Lol. I'd want to write to him just to write 'hey I miss you' but I didn't. I would have looked so needy. He wrote to me 3 weeks in asking if I'm ok. But I ignored. And carried on no contact. I had a lot of problems that wrecked our relationship and I needed to work on them on my own before I could even think of getting bk together. I was crazy jealous bk then. I would hack his Facebook. His email. I was queen psycho. I had no confidence in myself or our relationship. I bought the secret book and the power audio. I realised I broke the relationship not him. It must of been hard not to be trusted and accused all the time. I'd be so moody about little things and I'd rarely want sex. Why would he want to say. I'm glad I figured that out because I now knew the problems I could fix. He knew nothing aboutwhat I was doing as I deleted Facebook. I was very mysterious. I got my hair cut, I went tanning ( I'm so brown at the moment) I bought this hair curler thing and I do my hair like Kim kardashians. I bought all new clothes. I started wearing heels all the time Whitened my teeth. I got my nails and toes done every 2 weeks. I started pampering myself basically. And I ooze so much confidence. Something I never had before.

After every month I felt so strong. I used to be this girl who thought I could never live without him. I would have rather died then be without him but I was happy. I missed him yes but i was no longer in pain. I had been nc for 4 months at this point. I was drifting off to sleep and I got a text message. I looked and it was him. "hey I know you don't want to speak to me ever again but I miss you". I smiled but that's just words of corse he misses me but that doesn't mean he wants to be with me so I ignored deleted Nd went bk to sleep. The next morning another message "please". What didn't he get ? I dnt want to be his friend. Ignored deleted. A couple of days later he sent me a looooong 3 page message about how he made a mistake. He has been miserable. Feels worthless and didn't no what he had till it was gone. He asked if he could see me to discuss this more. It was getting harder to ignore. I left it a week and agreed to meet up. I was pretty blunt. I wrote ok meet me this Saturday for lunch I can't do any other time as I'm busy. He was very excited.

It came to that Saturday. I will admit. I was nervous and excited. I got up early and done my hair and make up perfectly. I wore this white sundress I had bought 2 weeks ago with strappy wedges. I felt Spanish lol my mum told me i looked like a model. But that's just mums aye. I don't no whether to believe her sometimes lol. I made sure I was late so I wasn't sitting there by myself. I went in and there he was. Was so weird. I hadn't seen him in 5 months. It was like looking at a stranger. I faked a huge newly White smile and said hello and asked him how he was. I didn't want to seem nervous at all. The last time he had saw me I was crying and was desperate. Now his presence didn't faze me. He looked sooooo shocked. He could stop smiling and looking at me. He wanted to know so much about what I had been doing. I told him I had been really busy actually. We was laughing and being very friendly. I wasn't flirting with him whatsoever though. He wanted to know if I was seeing anyone and I told him "it's none of his bees wax" with a big smile on my face. He laughed. It had been 45 minutes and I told him I had to go. I made plans to go shopping with myolder sister. He looked so upset that I was leaving so soon. I didn't want him to end it so I cut it short. I wanted to be in control. I kissed him on the cheek goodbye and he hugged me so tight and sAid he missed the smell of my perfume. I left and went shopping

when I got home he had text me saying "thanks for meeting me. You are so beautiful". I didn't reply. It's not as if he asked me a question . 2 nights later he knocked at my door with flowers. He asked if he could come in. I wanted to say no but it's a lot harder to ignore someone to their face!! So I said sure but I'm going to sleep soon. He broke down crying. Telling me he made a mistake. That I'm over him and can get anyone I want and why would I want him back after all he put me through. I told him it's ok I forgave him weeks after the break up. I'm not angry at him. He asked if I would be with him again. I told him I need space right now (roles Are flipped) he just started crying again. I hugged him. I felt bad. He said I'm not giving up and left. We started going out every weekend. Just fun things like the movies and out for dinner. One night he wanted to kiss me so I let him. It was amazing. It was filled with so much love. I told him after we can take things slow and see where they go. I just want to have fun. He was vey happy he kissed me and hugged me so tight saying thank you thank you. I'm going to make this up to you.

Well it turns out he doesn't understand what slow means because last night he proposed to me lol.

soholoa · « **Reply #1 on:** January 27, 2012, 12:54:42 AM »

Thank you for this wonderful story Ava. It is very inspiring!

crazysoul · « **Reply #2 on:** January 27, 2012, 01:22:51 AM »

great story, she can be proud of herself by being that strong

maybe thats just what i needed right now, men/women have to get ignored sometimes to attract them back and they finally realize what they have done wrong

Kas · « **Reply #3 on:** January 27, 2012, 02:41:21 AM »

AMAZING STORY!!!!!!!!

Don't you think all of these "tactics" could've easily backfired on her? I mean if she really didn't care and was ready to move on, then fine. Otherwise, for someone who REALLY wanted to get back with their ex, he could've easily said, I'm done too!

What do you guys think?

crazysoul · « **Reply #4 on:** January 27, 2012, 02:43:35 AM »

i am not really understanding your question, but i think sometimes tactic is a good way to attract someone back

felkin9 · « **Reply #5 on:** January 30, 2012, 12:00:57 AM »

What a great story on self-care and Law of Attaction!!

It is just what I needed to see/hear. I am not fresh from a break-up but I am still in a funk. It has been a few months. I haven't been graceful about it. But it is so great you did all of that.

I have always felt the fastest way to get a man's attention is to ignore them. That is LOA right there. You put the focus on something else and you leave that space open. LOA brings it in. I also think you attracted the break-up so you could fix some things in yourself to prepare for marriage. Both of you.

Blessings!

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #6 on:** January 30, 2012, 03:42:40 AM »

Felkin,

I can tell you from personal experience that ignoring a man you want to be attracted to you is NOT a sure fire, fool proof way of getting them back. Sometimes they just don't respond to being ignored, some men take you ignoring them as just not caring at all about them and then they cop an attitude of despise toward you. I don't recommend ignoring anyone. I do recommend focusing on yourself and bettering yourself for YOUR OWN PERSONAL GROWTH and not use THAT as a way to get back with them.

Send unconditional, loving thoughts but focus on you and let them focus on themselves, the rest will work itself out in due time.

crazysoul · « **Reply #7 on:** January 30, 2012, 12:43:57 PM »

Quote from: Mariposa, (KnJ) on January 30, 2012, 03:42:40 AM

Felkin,

I can tell you from personal experience that ignoring a man you want to be attracted to you is NOT a sure fire, fool proof way of getting them back. Sometimes they just don't respond to being ignored, some men take you ignoring them as just not caring at all about them and then they cop an attitude of despise toward you. I don't recommend ignoring anyone. I do recommend focusing on yourself and bettering yourself for YOUR OWN PERSONAL GROWTH and not use THAT as a way to get back with them.

Send unconditional, loving thoughts but focus on you and let them focus on themselves, the rest will work itself out in due time.

that right as well, but even with loa you have to take a step back sometimes

57angel · « **Reply #8 on:** February 08, 2012, 05:33:24 AM »

Thank you for sharing Ava

beautifuldreamer · « **Reply #9 on:** February 14, 2012, 02:29:38 AM »

Quote from: Mariposa, (KnJ) on January 30, 2012, 03:42:40 AM

Felkin,

I can tell you from personal experience that ignoring a man you want to be attracted to you is NOT a sure fire, fool proof way of getting them back. Sometimes they just don't respond to being ignored, some men take you ignoring them as just not caring at all about them and then they cop an attitude of despise toward you. I don't recommend ignoring anyone. I do recommend focusing on yourself and bettering yourself for YOUR OWN PERSONAL GROWTH and not use THAT as a way to get back with them.

Send unconditional, loving thoughts but focus on you and let them focus on themselves, the rest will work itself out in due time.

I think that if someone hurts you badly and expects to easily come back into your life something is wrong there. Any good man/woman would understand that they have hurt you and would expect more than a "I miss you" to get you back in their arms. If they really cared for you and understood how hurt you were, they would want to work a little harder to have you in their lives if they value you enough. How ppl here are manifesting a relationship with someone who has treated them badly and has moved on?Many, and they don't give up because they care about the person and they see their worth. I think if you are willing to do that for someone, you should expect them to do it for you.

I think holding out for more than "I miss you" shows that you have a certain level of respect for yourself.

beautifulmesss12sc · « **Reply #10 on:** February 15, 2012, 02:58:28 AM »

I dont think you should ignore them if u truly want them back but i agree with taking a step back

i know for me when i hear from him i am ready to jump back in with BOTH feet .. thats what i have done in the past when i attracted him back

now i know he will come to me gradually ... take it one day at a time .. i know i personally wnat to hear more than "i Miss You"
however some ppl are just not good at apologizing ... u knw your guy b etter than anyone else , i had the fear if i didnt stop contacting him hed forget me , i caused more damage by being persistant than i wld have by giving him space

but i realized the less i do the more i get

Will i get him back?? absoutely! yes i will but i know with him i have to let it be on his own time and i will do my part by sending love doing affirmations writing in my journal and being grateful

SO
THANK YOU!
THANK YOU!
THANK YOU!!

beautifuldreamer · « **Reply #11 on:** February 15, 2012, 04:19:20 AM »

"The less you do the more you get"

I am totally agreeing with that one.

marioska · « **Reply #12 on:** February 15, 2012, 04:44:07 AM »

This story is great! It fits perfectly with this pharagraph I've read somewhere on this site: "(...) you get what you want when you don’t really seem to want it"
She could, so we can!

2thetop · « **Reply #13 on:** February 15, 2012, 05:28:01 AM »

Quote from: Kas on January 27, 2012, 02:41:21 AM

AMAZING STORY!!!!!!!!

Don't you think all of these "tactics" could've easily backfired on her? I mean if she really didn't care and was ready to move on, then fine. Otherwise, for someone who REALLY wanted to get back with their ex, he could've easily said, I'm done too!

What do you guys think?

kas thats the point. this is exactly where everyone needs to be. its why i dont think daily anything that has to do with your ex is a good idea, heck from all the stuff i read, i dont think any thing more then once a month MAX should be done. you need to move on and forget about them. he wasnt gonna walk away. the science behind it wouldnt allow it. she completely detached and took care of herself. she realized she doesnt need him. its where everyone needs to be. because lets face it, you were born with out them, you sure as hell can live with out them.

animor · « **Reply #14 on:** February 15, 2012, 05:37:39 AM »

Nice story as a getting back together one but personally I don't like it and never do that.
I don't like all these games. I only see it as the story of a insecure girl with zero self confidence. She gained the confidence after the break up, good for her, but then she wanted to pay the man back, to make him suffer just like he did to her.
But then I guess she said 'i do' to the proposal, no matter she claimed that wants things to go slow... it was just a part of the game.