Author Topic: OOOOOOOOO i dont know what to do!!!!!! (Read 458 times)

Sunflower_Breeze · « **on:** December 10, 2011, 10:46:27 PM »

I had a posted a few days ago.. i said that my ex broke up with me, and said he didnt love me and that we wouldnt ever have a second chance. I got another message from him last night, it said this:

"Since you asked me to be honest with you, I want to tell you that I've decided that I want to work towards a future with Lisa. I am finding that I am still very strongly attracted and attached to her. This will not be easy to begin with, and impossible with you in my life. I do hope and wish you and Alyssa the best, and will pray for you. I will give you money for your cable from my check, Friday. I will also help you pay your car payment through the end of January as well as your cable in January. I do need to get my clothes and mom's vaccuum from you as well sometime. While there are never any guarantees in life, it is best for you to move on with your life as Lisa and I work on Bela's future. Please stop contacting me, my family, and my friends. I will contact you when I have the money to give to you." .........

Lisa is his ex-wife. He said his worst mistake was meeting her!!! And yes, they were together at dinner, because she really called me and i talked to her.. she was so abusive to him! Hit him, kept him on a chain, insanely jealous!! He was miserable!!! They were together 6 years, and they were seperated almost 2 years, and his divorce was just FINAL A MONTH AGO!!!!! I am so heartbroken!! I just know hes going to regret going back to this woman.. his family dosent believe he will move back in with her.. his family cant stand her!!! This is the message he sent me a couple weeks ago:
"I love you and miss you baby. Hope to see you soon. And yes, we'll always be together christie. We've put too much time and effort into us to consider anything else baby. Have a great day lover."
Cant you see why im so upset and miserable and hurt? We go from in love, spending all our time together, to his ex-wife trying to kill herself over a guy she just moved in with, to my ex leaving me to go back to the woman he just divorced and dispised?!!!! I see her treating him okay for a week maybe, but shes going to snap and go crazy... he told me all the stories.. i emailed him and told him he will regret leaving me.. should i still have hope he will be back?? I mean, should i have faith he WILL be back?? How do i go about this??? I do love him, and my daughter does too.. he was going to adopt her because her real dad signed up rights, so my daughter called him daddy.. please help me if you can!! Thanks!! Also, should i do affirmations?? Should i just put the ring away that he bought me? Cuz he still has his wedding ring and she has hers, and im sure they are wearing them again and considering themselves married even though they are now different.. OMG i want to lose it!!! Please help me..

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #1 on:** December 12, 2011, 08:22:30 PM »

Hi,

I want to reply but need to run right now but I am posting this reply so if anyone else replies I will be able to refer.

Just know, you are not alone here. I have a similar story, different outcome but it is still working itself out but right now you need to stop panicking! Try to pull yourself together and also realize that if she is unstable as you say she will show that again, it will just take a bit of time.

He obviously cares for you and respects you, if he didn't he wouldn't help with your bills or even write you at all so be thankful for that!

You have a lot to work with here but first you need to work on you and getting you into a better place, you need to take control of yourself, have faith in yourself and in the love that you share with each other.

Start there, I will pm you later.

Keep your chin up.......you'll be ok and he will see the light but you need to work on you for the time being and know that this requires extreme patience and faith.

Lots of Love,

Mariposa

marioska · « **Reply #2 on:** December 14, 2011, 04:42:39 PM »

Hi! I totally agree with Mariposa. It might seem a bit hard right now, because you feel really bad; let go those feelings. Improve yourself and try to do things that make you happy, like listening to music. You need to work on you and your thinking. Right now you have to let go the desperation of having him, because if you feel this, you'll be sending those vibes to him, and that's not positive at all. I can tell you that tere's hope for you, I believe you'll be with him! But, to reach that point, you have to give him some space. And you need some space to create your new relationship, the greatest one. When you feel better with yourself you should make a list of all the things you love on him, and how do you want your relationship to be. Then forget about them (i mean, don't get obssesed with them and BELIEVE it's already yours) and let the Universe do its job. Listen to beautiful music, dance, go out with friends... HAVE FUN with yourself, and be grateful for all the wonderful things you already have. I hope this post help you; just want you to know that we create our life with our thoughts, so... why not to choose the positive ones? I'm sending you a lot of positive vibes that may help you. FEEL GOOD

Loads of love and happiness from
Marioska
PD: If you don't understand something, or you want anything, I'd be glad to help you

I'm not a master on this subject, but I know that sometimes we just need to talk to feel better! ^^

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #3 on:** December 14, 2011, 07:41:41 PM »

Hi there,

You did what exactly? And I did respond earlier to your thread. I still need to pm you that is true. Just so you know, I am finishing up my classes this week before break starts and I am catching up on some work that I need to make up and turn in before the semester ends but I haven't forgotten about you, I am just very pressed for time.

About the ring, I think you should do what you feel like doing. If you don't want to stop wearing it, then don't. If you feel it isn't the right thing to do then take it off. I can tell you though that the question of you not wearing it causes me to believe you don't feel right about taking it off. I can also tell you that I wear a ring similar to an engagement ring on my wedding ring finger every day even though I am not with my guy. It is a symbol for me, a sort of "inspired action", I already feel married to him and so I wear it and actually, lately I have gotten to the point where I feel naked without it.

I hope this helps.

Lots of love!

Sunflower_Breeze · « **Reply #4 on:** December 15, 2011, 04:46:42 AM »

Hello, and thank you both very much for responding!!

Im having a hard time with this forum, so could you guys just send me messages to my inbox here and i can reply to them? Its so much easier for me. I have so many things to ask, so please message me when you can .

The one thing i have been trying to master is to sending him thoughts.. i try to send thoughts for him to text me.. or call me... but i feel no power when i do them.. plus, for the last 4 nights i have had dreams of him. the first 2 dreams, he came back to me. The 3rd dream, he shut the garage door when he seen me but he was smiling, and last night, he was mad and wrote me a nasty text.. not sure what those means.. im lookjing forward to hearing from you guys!!!