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Sweetruered,

If your boyfriend does not feel there is any chemistry between you, then how would you define your relationship? Obviously chemistry is not that important to him if you still have a strong relationship and that is good, for most people would not enter into a relationship if they don't feel a sexual attraction to some degree; however chemistry alone should never be the basis for a strong relationship, so I believe that as long as you have all the other elements then the obstacle of chemistry can definitely be overcome.

Maybe your boyfriend sees self confidence as being sexy. You don't have to be drop dead gorgeous or even pretty to be sexy. Or maybe he likes spontaneity? My BF finds that VERY sexy. I'm not conceited and I am not gorgeous but I do believe and know I am sexy; therefore I am! So start there. KNOW and BELIEVE that you are sexy. CONVINCE yourself that you are sexy! Then he will start to feel that you are sexy too!!

First be grateful that you have such a strong relationship, then work on and love yourself! You have no idea how radiant and physically attractive people become when they love and take care of their own self first, because their inner beauty comes through to the surface. Also be grateful that you CAN and WILL overcome this obstacle, and so you shall!








 

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Tereza,

As much as I hated communicating via messenger, I found myself signed in every time I was on my computer, hoping to hear from Ken. I would get upset if I saw him go online and go off again without talking to me. Yeah I know I could have messaged him first and he may have been waiting for me to make the first move, but whenever I did, he seemed to be busy and not feel like conversing so after a few times of getting rejected I left it up to him. I always made time to talk to him even when I was in the middle of doing an assignment for school. I ALWAYS made myself available to him and he was ALWAYS the first to say good night, that he needed to sign off. So my making myself available like that I guess sent him the signal that I would always be around at his convenience. When I look back on it I see how desperate I was because I put my conversations with him above all else. You have no idea how much I wanted to be the one to cut the conversations short but I couldn't (because I cherished the only form of communication we had.)


Because I found happiness apart from him, my life is no longer revolving around him like it used to. I mean at the moment he is doing his own thing in the bed room (watching Youtube) and I am in here  writing to my wonderful friends on the forum. And you know what he said to me the other day? He said that he appreciates how I have my own interests apart from him and I don't get upset when he wants to take time apart from me to work on the car or do his own thing.  He likes how my world doesn't revolve around him and how I am content doing things apart from him. He said all his other girlfriends expected him to do things with them ALL the time, and they expected him to be the source of their happiness. You know if I had not found advice on this forum, I would still be like his former girlfriends. I think that is why he came back and why he is finally content with his life.

Thank you Universe, LOA and thank you to all my friends here at the forum. I am so grateful for you all!!

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57 Angel,
I could not have said it better myself!

Mahi, put YOURSELF on that pedestal!  He may not have felt like talking because of his cold. Don't take it personally. And like Angel says, don't let his actions effect you. Applying LOA was not in vain. Remember that these positive changes may not necessarily happen overnight, but if you keep believing they will happen, so they shall! I am amazed at how much my BF changed. It didn't happen overnight but it DID happen. All because I believed it would. I did not expect it, but I hoped for it with faith and it did. I let go of expecting it. The difference in expecting and knowing is that you expect things at a certain time, while with knowing you don't set a time for things to happen. You leave the timing up to the universe. That's the difference.

And like Tereza said, check out that post about time delays. Whoever wrote it must have been inspired by some type of revelation from their higher consciousness.

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/the-beautiful-thing-about-time-delays/msg19932/#msg19932

KNOW that everything will be okay because it WILL!!!

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Tereza, RP and Sean make some very good points.

In my experience when I met my BF, he needed me and I needed him. Need is a negative reason to be in a relationship. Eventually this caused problems. We loved each other but our vibrations were both negative. He got to the point where he did not want my happiness to depend on him because he was constantly feeling pressure from me. It was like I wanted him to be something he wasn't (more affectionate and settled down for example,) and I would get negative and hurt when he could not be what would make me happy. So he left. He had always said that I needed to be independent of other people for my happiness and once I found it within myself to be happy, he came back.

Our relationship is much different now. He is happy from within himself and I am happy from within myself. When two people are a vibrational match from both being happy independent of each other, they can attract each other out of want and desire (which is positive,) and not need (which is negative.) They both bring their own happiness into the relationship which makes the relationship much stronger. And BTW, my BF is much more affectionate and more settled down since we got back together. He attracted a job this time around, and he is very content going to work everyday and coming home to me every night, which is something I always wanted too.

So Priestess, Now that your BF is happy within himself, you must find happiness within yourself apart from him, then you can be a vibrational match and attract each other again; but this time the match will be a more positive and stronger one, just like mine and Ken's.

To anyone who wants to attract an ex back: Why would you want to attract the same relationship that obviously had problems and unhappiness? (hence the reason for the breakup.) The key here is that you want the person back in a better and more happy relationship right? And that only comes if both people are on a the same POSITIVE vibrational wavelength. If one is happy and the other isn't (apart from each other), it won't work. If both are unhappy within themselves and only happy when together, they will be a match but it will be a negatively charged one based on need, and eventually there will be problems and an impending break up.  If they are both happy within themselves (apart from each other,) it will most definitely work! And when I say "apart from each other", I mean their happiness does not depend on what the other person does or says and they love each other without conditions.

As for attracting a specific person, I have never tried to do that since I only discovered LOA during the time I was in my relationship with Ken, and it was after our break up last summer that I found this forum and the advice I needed on how to attract him back into what is now a more satisfying relationship. I learned to be happy apart from him, I learned to let go of the desperation and need for him to be the source of my happiness, and I learned how to apply LOA in other areas of my life. The point I am making is that I know my BF, I know his preferences and lifestyle, I know him on a deeper and more intimate  level, I know what he is like on the inside, and I know what a perfect match we really are.

So if you are trying to attract someone specific who you have never been in a relationship with and you have not discovered what they are like on a more intimate and deeper level, perhaps it would be good to try and attract a way to get to know them better? That way you can find out if there is more to them that you desire in a mate (not just whatever attracts you to them on the surface.) I can't tell you how many times I have been drawn to someone and after knowing them on a deeper level, decided that they were not really a match for me (and that was without knowing the laws of attraction.

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Akshay,

have you tried electronic cigarettes? There is a disposable electronic cigarette you can get the nicotine from but not the tar or other harmful additives that cause cancer or heart disease. They sell at some convenience stores in my area for around 7 US dollars and equal to around 2 packs of cigarettes. They don't make your breath, clothes, hair, car or house smell bad and it is like smoking a real cigarette. you just take a puff when you crave the nicotine and pretty soon you won't want a real cigarette, and thereafter you will be able to wean yourself off the nicotine too, (like the gum.) You don't have to worry about putting it out or burning anything because there is no fire or heat involved.Some people invest in those expensive electronic cigarettes but Square cigarettes do the same thing and they are disposable without the huge investment. You can read about Square disposable electronic cigarettes at this link:

http://www.squaresmoke.com/index.php/home?___store=english

Also follow the advice here and say"I want to quit smoking."

 Good luck!!

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 Hello to all my wonderful friends here at the forum.

I found this site a while back. It offers free books on metaphysics and success through the laws of attraction.
I believe it was Iron Ur who originally posted the link to this web site, but it has so many great books on the powers of the mind, how to achieve abundance and success, the power of positive thinking , etc. And these are books available for instant reading! How exciting is that?

I was reading something in particular that said we must teach others about LOA and that our understanding of the law will become clearer the more we tell others about it.

Anyway, below are the links to this wonderful site that offers books on LOA and how to live the best life imaginable. I have not read much of these lately but I am going to start because I truly believe the power of the mind and positive thinking hold the key to EVERYTHING that is LOA.

ENJOY!!

http://www.psitek.net/pages/PsiTek-ensure-your-dream-life-with-the-law-of-attraction-1.html

http://www.psitek.net/index2.html

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What these people don't realize is that Jesus said the very same things in his teachings! He said to ask and you shall receive. and he said to ask with the faith that it will be given to you. I think God wants us to be happy and he wants us to love each other in much the same way parents want their children to love each other. A lot of people who read scriptures  think that if they rely on LOA and the universe and love, that they are denying the existence of the creator /God whereby putting their faith in something other than God. For me, the universe and God are one in the same. I believe these things we ask for are granted by the creator of the universe and I believe he wants more than anything to grant our desires. Even if those things we ask for may unknowingly (by us,) bring us pain, we will still attract those things. We ask for them; we get them, if we are grateful, and let go by having faith that we will get those things. Asking for things, being grateful, and having faith that those things will come, are actually the same thing as prayer, its just that different people look at in different ways.

Why should we make life harder than it is? I really don't think God wants us to suffer. He loves us and wants us to have the best and easiest life possible!  If anything, trying to attract good things IS like depending on God and if we are grateful, we are thanking and acknowledging God for those things. That's more than a lot of church goers ever do! So I have learned more about how to love myself and others from LOA than I ever did all those years of attending bible study classes and worship services. In my opinion LOA should be taught in church classes. people need to know the secret of living a blessed and abundant life and I know I never learned that from any church because their approach is so different and not at all effective (for me anyway.)

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While I was walking away,I encountered Andrew's brother,Wilson on the way (he had earphones plugged in his ears). I leaned towards him & I told him that I have a gift for him that its there in the house but he still kept walking.I kinda felt bad for a little while but I said to myself,"Ok,if you mind me or not,fine.I don't care."

Well Wilson's reaction right there would make me not even want to attract him.

I know all of you mean well but my heart is set on Andrew.Yes,going out makes me feel good & it clears my mind but Andrew is always in my heart.I don't think about him desperately but I think of him lovingly.I don't cry anymore.I feel that pure love is flowing from my heart.I don't like anyone to replace Andrew,not even Wilson.I'm happy even if he's not around.Hell,I could feel his presence since his house is just a short distance from mine.I don't have to go to where he is.He is in my heart & he'll always be.
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Well it's her right to change her request.Clearly her heart is no longer set on Andrew.

Ever since the drama started,I was telling this to myself."It is ok if I don't end up with Andrew.I'm ok with any of his brothers.So I "chose" Wilson since he's just a year older than me.

Well perhaps she is in love with the entire family? She does love their mom a lot so maybe she just wants to get close to the mom?

Here is my opinion on this subject:
 I don't understand why Brave Lioness feels the need to have a relationship with someone in that particular family. I mean she could be missing out on someone who would love her and show her the respect she deserves so why is she focused on people who have alienated themselves from her? It is one thing to feel in your gut that you belong with ONE specific person but kind of odd that you would feel that way about two different people from the same family. I realize that Wilson has been kind to her in the past and that is why she feels compelled to attract him, but if I were to fall in love with every man who has shown me kindness or anything I could mistake for romantic interest, I wouldn't know the difference between true love and and the need to feel loved.

Brave Lioness has been trying to attract Andrew for close to a year now. I'm not sure if her attempts were unsuccessful because of timing, or because she has not let go (until now with her new interest in Wilson,) or if maybe we really can not influence the free will of another (which some may say is against LOA.) I don't know the reasons. But all I can say is that I  myself would not be wanting to attract someone who has blown me off, ignored me on purpose, or cut me as a contact on FaceBook or messenger. I would take that as a message that they were not interested and I think I would just put in a request to the universe that I wanted a relationship with whomever would match the list of qualities I desire in a mate. Then I would let it go and let the universe deliver them to my life when I was in perfect alignment.

Who knows? Maybe now that Brave Lioness has changed her focus over to Wilson, Andrew may be attracted to her after all.

Anyway Brave Lioness, it's your life and we all want to see you happy because we do love you and if it sounds as though some of us may seem harsh, it is because we see things from a different perspective and we don't want you to get your heart broken making the same mistakes we made. We are not only here to encourage and support you but we are also here to give you advice even though that advice may seem to go against what you desire;  the decision is ultimately yours to make.  Good luck with this one I hope you get whatever your heart desires and more! You know what you need to do................

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You visualize and let it go with the feeling that it is on its way to you, which involves trusting that the universe will deliver in its own perfect timing. You also have to be grateful (in advance) for that in which you desire like you already have it (or as if you are going to have it.) Like saying, "Thank you for the good day I am going to have." When I thank the creator of the universe for things I want (like I already have them,) I manifest those things in perfect timing.

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I think we tend to focus too much on the "when" and" I must be doing something wrong, or I'd get it quicker".  Thinking too much about "why" it has not come to you yet, is going to bring you more waiting, and it means you need to let go again. Just trust and know that the universe's timing is perfect and it is lining up what you want so it may take a little while. So yeah you may not be in alignment yet; and yes I would think that you have to be in alignment to receive it exactly the way you want it.

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I feel I can only confide in my "virtual" friends here at this forum. I used to talk to my friends and family about my situation and how I was using LOA but they thought I was crazy for wanting to attract Ken back after how he kept coming and going and confusing me, so I keep to myself and instead pour my feelings out to those of you who understand and give me encouragement and support here.

I once brought up the subject of LOA with this co-worker of mine. She is a devout Christian and has a closed mind to everything but Jesus and the Holy Bible. While I was raised as a Christian and I love the creator God, I have an open mind and I don't think anyone can say that they know the real truth except that we should love and forgive others for that is UNIVERSAL to all religions and philosophies.

Anyway when I talked about how we attract things just by our feelings and vibrations, she literally FREAKED OUT and started yelling at me that those things were of Satan and that Jesus was the ONLY way. I mean she was so dramatic that everyone looked at us and I was so embarrassed at the attention we were getting because I thought, "Oh that's great. Now everyone is going to think I need exorcism." But she was looked like she was the one possessed, so its kinda funny in hindsight. But my mother who is also a devout bible thumping Christian (sorry if that offends anyone,) agrees that positive and negative vibrations bring the same. But she has also said that she worries that I am turning away from from what I was taught and that I may not see heaven. But I told her that if the church would teach us what I have learned about the laws of attraction there would be less unnecessary suffering so I am grateful and more happy than I ever was when I served God in the church. I can serve God more by being an inspiration and encouragement to others because I believe God wants his children to go out and spread love and the truth about how our thoughts can turn to inspired action thereby making this world a happier and better place. We can convert negative people into positive people in much the same way religions convert non believers into believers.

Anyway, I don't mind sharing the concept of LOA to the people in my life because of how I feel it can change their life, but as far as sharing my thoughts and feelings about my relationship with Ken, that is reserved for my friends here at the forum, because none of you judge me; instead you lift me up and heal me, and I am grateful for you and I truly love ALL OF YOU!!!!

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Sunshinee and Anamarie,

You are NOT psychos!!!Just a little desperate (which we all are when our heart gets broken.) I was desperate too but I would NOT contact Ken. I decided that if he wanted me, he would contact me first, and he did. Its never a good idea to contact someone until you have moved out of the desperation stage and into the  letting  go thereby detaching yourself from the outcome; but it is hard not to contact them because we want to know what is going on and we need to hear from them if there is still a chance, or if we should grieve and move on. So it is certainly understandable why you would want to contact them. I am just thankful that I am the type of person who refuses to be the first to make contact.

But anyway, don't be too hard on yourselves and just know that it is normal to wonder why things happen and in the desperation stage (the stage before letting go,) all we want are the answers, so we can let go easier. It is up to us to just accept what has happened and not question them as to "why".

Love to you both! You are very special women who deserve to be loved by the best!!

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When Ken left me last August in between my crying and desperation I would go to my front porch (where Ken and I used to have conversations) and I would just look up at the trees and think about how much I missed him and loved him. I would feel the breeze and visualize the same breeze blowing his way, carrying my thoughts in the wind to him. I was not for certain where he was, but I had a feeling that he had gone to stay with a friend 100 miles away (and that was in fact where he ended up staying.) I felt there was a strong connection and bond between us even though he said it was over and that we should have no contact ever again and go our separate ways.

I knew in my heart that it was not over (and I was right for he did return to me and is with me to this day,) but I would send him those vibrations just by speaking "I love you Ken," to the wind and imagining the wind carrying my message to him. I knew he felt it and even though I never asked him if he felt it, I told him what I did in his absence and he said he did  know I was thinking about him. So I am certain that he was thinking about me at the same moment I was sending him vibrations of love.

So I guess in essence, I was holding that proverbial  "pink ball" and after  I released it, he felt (or received) it.

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You know,I thought about it way that they may come back after all in the future,though I don't need them now

Sunshinee,
Relationships should always be based on desire and not need; because once a person no longer has a need for their mate, why stay in a relationship? So I think what you meant to say was that your ex may come back after all, but you no longer have a desire for him?

You know I was with my ex husband for 24 years out of need, and when he could no longer give me what I needed, I left him. Now some may say that was really cruel of me to abandon him, but I was miserable the whole 24 years we were together. I married him out of need to get away from my controlling parents. I loved my ex but I never really liked him or respected him and he never really liked or respected me either. Also I don't think I loved myself so I didn't know how to love my ex husband.

But anyway, I don't need my boyfriend Ken; I want my boyfriend Ken. BIG DIFFERENCE and the difference that will make this relationship work much  better than my marriage did!

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@Ginny. You're right. having a mental disorder is nothing to be ashamed of. I was on prozac for a while and when I asked the doctor if it was common, she stated (jokingly) that "half the world is on some type of an anti-depressant and the other half probably should be."
With all the stress and pressures placed on society these days it is no wonder that the people of the world need something to help them cope. Besides that,  it is a chemical imbalance in the brain that brings on deeper depression. I found however that I can control my depression with what I know about LOA and positive feelings. Before going on prozac,  I would have fits of rage periodically and states of depression at other times. Then sometimes I would be really happy. Almost like Bi-polar or something, but most of the time I was just plain negative even though the rage and depression only happened occasionally.The thing that made me seek help was the time that I tried to kill myself. Then I got a divorce and I lost my ex husband's insurance and had to stop taking the prozac. Besides that, the unhappy marriage was the main contributor to my stress and depression and once that was over, I was a little better but I still have a slight chemical imbalance. I think now, I suffer more from anxiety than anything else.

I believe however that I have gotten even better because of this forum and what I have learned about LOA  loving and forgiving myself. For the first time in my life I am EXCITED to be alive!!!!
                         
                     

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