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We love you Vicki Christina!

I hope that you and your honey will be able to talk again when you both have more time, but at least the time you did have was positive and good! I am sure he will be contacting you again soon. 

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@ Believing Love,

Sorry I can never sum everything up in just a short post but hopefully this long post will be worth reading.

I believe the key to doing visualizations is to first feel good and positive before you start visualizing. If you are in a desperate state of where you think you need something (like an ex) to make your life happy and complete, your visualizations will only make you focus on what you don't have, and you won't have it because you are focusing on not having it. Does that make sense? That's where letting go comes in, and that's where it gets complicated.

I think the first thing to do is to focus on and be grateful for things you take for granted. Things like warm water for showers, electricity, your legs for getting you from one place to another, your eyesight, your warm bed, your job, your car, your family; anything that you have been given. Also be grateful for the things that you want to attract like you already have them. Say, "Thank you for the great day you are about to give me." or"Thank you for the safe journey I am about to have driving to work." This should put you in a happy and positive mood before starting visualizations or affirmations. When we ask in the spirit of gratefulness and appreciation and when we ask for things with the faith in believing and knowing that the creator of the universe will give us what is better or best, and when we trust that the creator of the universe will do so with perfect timing and perfect alignment, that is when we let go and leave it up to the universe. I want to thank schenderson of this forum  for her valuable input and advice on being grateful!

Letting go is not only detaching ourselves of the outcome( for we are trusting the universe to take care of the hows and whens,) but letting go is simply acknowledging that we have the power within ourselves to be happy without someone. We are letting go of the desperation and dependence on that person (ex) to bring us happiness. We must not put conditions on our happiness by saying, "I will be happy once I get my ex back," because then we are focusing on what we don't have.

In my moments of calmness and peace (which were few right after the breakup,) and in between the crying and desperation, I felt very strongly in my gut instinct that Ken and I would be together again even after he said we would never have contact with one another. So in those moments of calmness I would send him positive and loving vibes and I would visualize him being happy and healthy apart from me. I affirmed that he loved me and would return once the timing was right and we could both work on issues that were obstacles in our relationship.

Another key here is to focus on having unconditional love for that person while apart from you. Love them no matter if they are with you or with someone else. Love them and ask the universe to bless them.  If you contact them (or whatever,) expect nothing in return, for then disappointment won't set in and you will remain okay and positive. (Thanks to Peter aka Magdog, for helping me see this.) Love yourself apart from them. Know that the creator of the universe made you beautiful and believe it! Know and believe the laws of attraction work and get happy and grateful  about it because you have discovered this forum and the  tools and the secret for being happy and abundant in life and relationships. Let go and get rid of those limited beliefs and know that anything and everything is possible!!

In summation, the outcome I visualized was that I would be happy. Just happy. No more crying and desperation; no more heartache, fear or pain, and no more doubts or insecurity.I didn't really focus so much on Ken, but I focused on the creator of the universe knowing what would make me happy, and giving me just that, whether it was another relationship or whatever. I just visualized being happy and knowing that I was going to be blessed and fulfilled. I trusted that the creator of our magnificent universe/ God would bless me; and he has, and I am so grateful. Because I am grateful, he will continue to give me more and more because he loves me and wants me to be happy. I need to show the creator God that I am happy for what he has given me so he will find glory and delight in giving me those things. So I just focus on finding joy in everything and turning the negative into positive because I know that I will get back what I put out. What a beautiful thing LOA is!!!!!

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MinDiddy,

Ken made what I thought were broken promises to me. Like he said he would do something and he didn't. he was confusing me all the time and if he were not here right now, I would probably be feeling the same way you are feeling! Whats most important though is that I thought he had changed, but what had really changed was my perspective of him. I was at the point where I was getting frustrated because I thought he was not showing me enough affection. I started accepting him the way he is and I didn't expect anything. It seems like he is more affectionate but actually its because I don't expect anything more, he seems more affectionate. Does that make sense?

You know when he left me last August I started using LOA. I was depressed, negative, hurt, angry and pretty much every negative emotion anyone could feel. It was when I decided to detach myself from the outcome he contacted me (5 weeks after he left me.) Those were 5 of the hardest weeks of my life. We resumed our relationship and he only came for a visit 2 times. Then in December he said our relationship was over (again,) because he did not want to be a part of my life while I was helping my daughter raise her 2 year old and her new born baby. He said for me to forget about him and move on, and I was trying to let go again but he could not let go of me! He said he was not going to go out and find anyone else but I saw he had put a dating profile on Plenty of Fish. I was crushed! He didnt do that when we split in August, and he didn't remove our relationship status on facebook back then either. But this last time not only did he put his dating profile up but he removed our relationship status as well. He was doing that so I would fix my situation. Nonetheless, he wanted to come for a week visit after Christmas. He said when he broke up with me this last time that he would not come back until my daughter and her babies moved out, but the baby came home from the hospital 2 weeks ago and Ken is still here! He even found a job here and I guess he plans on staying indefinitely.

You see, I went through all the doubting and fear and negativity even after starting LOA because his actions were so confusing. I would instant message him and he would not reply for several days. Like you, I thought it was very inconsiderate. I mean how hard is it just to take a few minutes to reply? And to Lise too, I think they are not replying because they are busy, I think its because they are not wanting to say things to us they can't back up. They know they are hurting us and they think its better not to say anything at all. Ken does not want to promise he will commit to me so we don't even go there now. I am just grateful he is with me. That is more than enough for me. I don't expect him to show me affection; its just not in his nature. MinDiddy and Lise, I know you wish they would just let you go so you can move on with your life and find happiness with someone else. It's hard going up and down. Getting excited one day then getting upset the next when they don't call or respond. It's just that they aren't ready yet. It's not that they want you at their convenience its that they are not wanting to let go but at the same time they are not ready to take the big step of commitment either. If you both love your men and know in your heart that they were the ones created for you, I believe they will realize that they should be with you. It may take you letting go and actually moving on to dating other men. I was at the point where I was going to start dating others but Ken came back before I had a chance to do that.

Lise, in your case I think you should have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him he needs to let you go. It is not fair to keep you on a string like this while he is trying to make up his mind. If he thinks you are just going to wait around forever and pass up other opportunities, he may never break free of his other life. MinDiddy, i think you should just relax and lay low for awhile. I think your guy will be contacting you again and you need to act as though your life is simply wonderful so he does not feel pressured to please you. Take things slow but don't act overeager. Don't act like your world revolves around him. if he makes a date and has to break it, just say its okay and act like you have a happy  life apart from him. Don't try to change him, just change your perspective of him.

I know how broken dates and no replies can be frustrating.I know how when they say they will do something and then don't call until the last minute (or not at all) can be aggravating and painful. But don't expect anything and you won't get disappointed. Actually its when you expect nothing that you will get something when you least expect it. You know even though Ken is laying right next to me (he is asleep as I am writing this,) I am still letting go of the outcome. I am not planning a future with him; hell I'm not even planning next week with him because he may decide to leave at anytime. But I am detached from the outcome. I am grateful and appreciative that I am with him right now for the moment. I am not going to sit here and be fearful that he may leave (like I did last summer,)  because the universe will act on my fears and give me just that.

Anyway, just consider the fact that its not that they want to hurt you (or that they don't care,) its just that the timing isn't right and they can not really make commitments they aren't ready for yet. Be patient and grateful. Things will be okay. They really will!!!!  You both deserve to be happy so its up to you to find that joy that God put inside you and make yourself happy.

Peace and many blessings to you both!!

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Pretty Rose,

This is going to take some time. It has only been a few days but you must decide that you want to stop feeling this way. It took me several weeks to pull myself together after my boyfriend left me. My gut instinct told me that we were not done. People on this forum told me to let go. I was afraid that letting go would be like telling the universe that I did not want him anymore. I did not realize that once I let go for the need to have him in my life to make me happy, things would start manifesting.  I was so depressed and devastated! I lost weight, sleep and the desire to do anything but be miserable. Those feelings brought me more depression and misery until I decided that I was sick and tired of crying and feeling like crap. This took almost 4 weeks!

You see, when we ask for things we must do so with the spirit that we don't need those things because we already have them. We must be grateful and focus on what we have, and not on what we don't have. We can not ask for things with the condition that we will only be happy once we get those things. That is where letting go comes in. Decide first that you will be happy no matter what the outcome is. Do not worry about the how, why or when; just believe that you will get what you want because LOA works! Have faith in that and get happy and excited about it. Its okay that you started asking out of desperation. You have not blown things. You can still get what you want. Now get happy and positive and ask again, then detach yourself from  (let go) from the outcome. Being grateful and acknowledging the creator of the universe for what you have been (and are about to be) blessed with, will get you in that spirit of joy, self fulfillment and positivity. You don't need joy, you don't want joy; Why don't you need or want joy? because you already have joy. Where is that joy? Its already inside you! now pull it out, surround yourself with it, and feel it! The love you have for yourself is there too. The creator put it in all of us. So feel the joy and love for yourself! The creator made you wonderful and beautiful, so KNOW and BELIEVE that!

Guess what? I attracted my man back. LOA works! He is living here with me again. The man who left me back in August is back with me. Things are really getting better for us both. After almost 2 years, our relationship has never been better! I am grateful every moment for him, but I also learned to be happy no matter what the outcome.

Know that you will be okay even though the pain is great right now. This is only temporary and  it will pass. Don't get discouraged because this feeling is normal right after a break up. Allow yourself time to heal and decide that you want to be happy no matter what the outcome. You will be amazed at how quickly you will start to see things manifesting once you do that.

Now look forward to a wonderful future and know and believe you have the power to create your own happiness!!

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I think he just decided that he will be happy no matter what the outcome is. It all depends on what one's definition of being over someone is.To some, if you are over someone it means that if they were to appear in your life wanting you to be back in a relationship with them, you would say "no" because you're not in love with them anymore and you have moved on. (That would be my definition anyway.) He would say" yes" to her  if she were to return to him; so by that definition, he has let go but he is not completely over her. A lot of times when we move on, our ex comes back with the intention of starting up a relationship again. Frank did that to me. He broke up with me, married someone else, contacted me again when his marriage did not work out and I had already moved on. Even if I were not in another  relationship, I probably would not want to start something back up with Frank because I am over him.

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@VC,
It is time for you to contact him. I know you are probably hesitant because you are not sure what to expect, but do it with the attitude of expecting nothing in return. I believe he would not have contacted you if he did not want to talk to you, so let go of the limited belief and just do it! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Get in the spirit of knowing and believing that everything will work out well. You are a wonderful woman and your honey knows that as well.

@ Peter,
 Yeah you are kicking my butt in karma points LOL, but it is well deserved. You have been such a great asset to our forum and I for one really appreciate your guidance. I am grateful you are here. Keep up the great advice and encouragement. You are a blessing!

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He will come into your path again if you believe he will!

LOA works, just KNOW and BELIEVE that the universe will give you another opportunity!

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This means you have let go and she is on her way back to you.
So happy for you Peter!
 

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Orion,

You have not made a mistake in your attempts to attract this girl, however saying that you will never see her is a limiting belief. I suggest you just keep visualizing her with you, but not to the point that you are focusing on NOT having her. You see we should not focus on what we don't have. You can focus on her but not focus on the fact that you don't have her right now. Focus on the fact that you are going to see her again. Does that make sense?  Believe it and know it!

Yes LOA absolutely works, so as hard as it may be, detach yourself from the outcome and get ready to receive, because in the mean time the creator of the universe will be  getting things lined up to where you and this girl will meet again. The timing has to be right, and  when you are both ready but you need to trust that it will happen in the universe's time frame. Relax, be grateful, be patient and trust that she will appear when you least expect it.

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I did the same thing. It was not enough that he was contacting me. I was wanting more and I was silently  pushing him away because the universe knew my desperation and was acting on it. I did not outwardly lash out at him or demand things from him but I was silently thinking negatively and I was doubting and overanalyzing his actions. (read my past posts and you will see how I was;) LOA picked up on this and gave me more of the same: Doubt, misery, depression, negativity,and  fear; and this was all after we were in contact once again! I was not grateful that I attracted him back. I was not grateful that he still wanted to be a part of my life after he had said we would never see each other again (back in August.) It was when I relaxed and gave him space, that  I attracted him back. When I started loving myself and finding joy within myself it took pressure off him to fulfill my needs to be happy and when I didn't expect anything in return, I got what I wanted, and that was him as he is. The beautiful and loving man I never saw before, because I was so busy trying to see an unloving and uncaring man that did not even exist. I made these false notions up in my mind and failed to see the kind and wonderful man he really is!

You know since I have joined this forum my relationship with him has gotten stronger. I no longer worry about whether he will leave; I just take one day at a time and I am grateful and I appreciate him and love him more everyday. I have noticed changes in him as well for the better. My attitude has changed and because of that he has changed. I did not have to tell him I had changed because he felt it. The man who said he would not ever come back as long as my new grand baby came home from the hospital to live here with me, this same man  has been here for almost three weeks, and the baby came home two weeks ago!  I never expected him to be here for one week like he originally planned, but he has been here almost three weeks and I am so grateful. He acted on my fears back in December and said we were no longer in a relationship. So you see, just because they say they want things to be over and they say they want to move on, they may only be saying these things to get you to realize that you need to work on yourself and the issues that are an obstacle in the relationship. They want you to work on your doubts and insecurities. Once they feel that you are changing they will be back; but you don't have to tell them you have changed, they need to see it for themselves.

MinDiddy I believe that since your guy was making efforts to stay in contact, he did not want to end things. He wanted to start over slowly. Things should never be rushed because we want them so much. Take this time to be by yourself and work on whatever was an issue in your relationship. Believe me; he will know what changes you are making without you having to emphasize them. Just silently send out loving and positive vibes and he will feel them at some point. LOA really does work to attract a person. You do have a chance so be excited and happy about it and look forward to getting your desires. Detach yourself from the outcome while knowing and believing LOA really works. And most importantly be grateful that you have the power to overcome things. You have discovered the secret of LOA and this forum so you have the knowledge on how to help you get whatever you desire. And KNOW that you WILL!

Much peace and many blessings to you! Everything will be just fine dear.

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MinDiddy,

I agree with Ginny (and everyone else.) You should have been grateful for the little things he did, but it was not enough. Your desperation to have more pushed him away. you are in constant need to have him complete your world and you want it too quickly. It puts a lot of pressure on someone knowing you are relying on them to make you happy. You need to be happy without him, even when he is not in your life at every moment. I know these things because I did exactly the same thing! I got so excited when I heard from Ken, and then when I did not hear from him for several days, fear, doubt and negativity set in. I started overanalyzing things and thinking he is just using me, etc. I wanted him to be something he wasn't, just so I could feel loved. I wanted him to shower me with love and affection and I was not satisfied with him remaining in contact with me. I accept that now and I am so grateful that he is in my life, and because I expect nothing in return, he is doing things that I don't expect!  Ken no longer feels pressured by me to be what will make me happy. I am no longer living everyday in fear that he will leave me like I did before. When I did that, he left me.

You need to let go and accept things the way they are for now. I'm not saying you should forget about him but like everyone says, you should focus on yourself. You have shown him that you are desperate and needy and because things are not progressing as fast as you want them to, you are putting pressure on him. Do not focus on what you don't have, instead be grateful for what you do have and be grateful and appreciate  those things he did, like inviting you to go snowboarding or texting you on your birthday or even coming to your birthday celebration. I remember you saying that when he left your party, you were sad that he was going home to his separate life from you. Would  him  going home with you and spending every waking moment of the rest of his life be what you need to make you happy? You are expecting things too quickly MinDiddy! You are not allowing things to happen naturally; instead you are wanting to control the outcome, and you want too much too soon, not when he is ready. His staying in contact with you was a great thing! Most people here don't hear from their exes at all!

I hope I don't sound too harsh, but you need to learn from what has happened and let go. I don't believe you have pushed him away completely so don't despair and dwell on that. There is still a chance you could attract him back, but you must let go and give him his space. Take this time to love and forgive yourself. Be happy without him and he won't feel pressured by your need for him to complete your happiness. This poor guy was obviously feeling he could not do enough to please you, so he decided it was best to move on. People do not want to be controlled or possessed by anyone. Just take this time to learn how to control your emotions. Expect nothing in return and let him be for now. If he does make contact again, don't be so eager but also let him know that you are happy by yourself. That will take so much pressure off him. Also be grateful for everything you have, anything we often take for granted like our jobs, our car, our homes; even your eyesight or your legs getting you from one place to another! When we are grateful for what we have, the universe feels we will appreciate what it is about to give us. Do not beat yourself up over being too pushy, instead learn from it and start anew.

Everything will turn around for you once you let go of the desperation and need to have this man to make you happy. Find it in yourself to be happy by appreciating the things you have. That is what letting go is all about, and that is when you will feel abundance and joy!

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Sit fab,

You are about to manifest some wonderful things. Keep up your gratitude list EVERY day and EVERY night. You are letting go, you love yourself and you believe that the universe is going to grant your desires. Just remember to replace any negative thought or fear with a positive one (and I believe you are good at doing that because your negative feelings never last very long.)

You have it down pat. How could you go wrong? When things don't happen quickly enough we as humans tend to get anxious and wonder why LOA is not working in our favor. We wonder why? when I did everything I was supposed to do, why is it not manifesting? We can not question why or even when. The universe knows when the time is right and when we are ready to receive. It has to line everything up perfectly. We just need to trust that and be excited that it will happen.

I am so glad that you feel great and have accepted things as they are right now. You are in a great position so get ready to receive!!

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Angel,
Although it may be hard to forgive, it will make you happier in the long run. Those who can not find it in their heart to forgive will only make themselves miserable. The people who need forgiveness don't care if you forgive them or not because they don't realize they need forgiveness. It only hurts the person who needs to do the forgiving not the ones who need forgiveness.

You are loved and a blessing to everyone whose lives you have touched for you are indeed a special and beautiful creation. Remember that you are loved even when others try to hurt you.

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Never put a time frame or limit on things because LOA knows no limits! In order to manifest great and lasting things, the timing has to be perfect and with trusting that the creator of the universe will give you your desires, you must also trust that the timing will be up to the universe because it will line everything up perfectly when the time is right. When we try to control the outcome against what the universe knows is best, (meaning we have no patience and try to rush things to beat the time frame,) things do not always work out perfectly because the timing is not right. Trust that the creator of the universe knows things we don't and it is best to let go and let the universe do what is best, within its timing; not ours.

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VC,

Just remember that when we expect nothing in return, we often get what we don't expect!

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