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I totally agree with you Christy Michelle! We should never use LOA out of our own selfish desires. With my Frank, he got married and his wife left him a year later. I was supposed to marry him before he broke up with me and I thank God it was not me who married him! Through my despair over our break up, I did not see that there was something better for me that would come along a little over a year later. If not for the break up with Frank, I would not be with the love of my life(Ken) now. Ken was the one I was meant to be with, and I thank God our paths crossed! I also thank God for my temporary break up with Ken, because had we not split last summer, I would not have found this forum and learned about what the secret to love, life and happiness really is. It has changed my perspective and my relationship with Ken is better than ever!

Things do happen for a reason and even though we may not see it at the time (through all the heart break and disappointment,) there are lessons to be learned and better things waiting for us! TRUST and KNOW that!!

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I am so lucky, blessed and fortunate to have my guy with me this valentines day. He was working out of town last year, and this year he will be gone until later tonight because he is traveling 2 hours away to pay for a car he wants to buy me that he saw on Craig's list. He tried to go and pick it up yesterday and his truck broke down half way there. The poor guy had to spend 4 hours in an abandoned parking lot to fix his truck (my 15 year old was with him.) They came home greasy and exhausted. It was his only day off, and he spent it trying to do something for me. In any event, even though we won't be going out this evening to celebrate (as he will be home late and I am sick with a cold) just the fact that he is in my life again makes my heart sing!

This past Christmas I felt the same way many of you are feeling this valentines day because I was without him. Our relationship was kind of up in the air at the time and I was disappointed and sad because he chose to spend Christmas with his other friend.  But anyway I have him now and I am so grateful. I have learned to be thankful for everyday as though everyday is special (not just the holidays like Christmas or valentines day.)

So to those of you that are dealing with the emptiness that this day brings without your loved one, know that you will soon be with them celebrating everyday as a special day!

Much love and many blessings to you all, and Happy Valentines day!!

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Oh and I almost forgot. Tereza, if not for the wonderful support and encouragement I got here from you and others on this forum, I might still be in a pit of despair. So to reiterate what Schenderson said, we ARE here to support you! I am grateful for all the love and SUPPORT I have received here. Hope your days are much better and filled with love and joy! We will ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU!! We DO want to hear the rest so we can help you, because believe me, we have ALL been where you are at (I was there myself just yesterday, but feeling MUCH better thanks to the support I got from my beautiful  friends here,) and its okay to share your feelings with us. It's good therapy and if no one wanted to hear it, there would be no point in having this forum. So bear your soul if it makes you feel better. We love you and its perfectly OKAY!!   

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Thank you so much Angel Star!

I am doing so much better today and I am so grateful because Ken and I are really getting along well!!

Its funny how we have been together for 2 years and I love and appreciate him more now than I did when I first met him. Many couples fall out of love after a little while, but I am so glad to see him when he gets home from work. I love watching him sleep. I love him being next to me. I just love being around him and sharing conversations with him. I am no longer insecure when he goes without saying he loves me. I KNOW he loves me!!  I have never felt this way about anyone before so I know he is my true love!!

I no longer worry that he will leave me, I am just living in the moment and I am grateful we got back together. Thanks to what I have learned about LOA from the wonderful people on this forum, my life has changed and is better than ever!!!! I am truly blessed!!

 

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As for surrounding ourselves with more positive people, I think it is a good idea however there may be times when you are forced into a situation where there are negative people in your field of energy. You do not have to let them suck your positive energy from you! You can remain strong and change them by emitting positive vibes. They will react to those vibes!

I have tried changing my perception of people and it worked! I changed my perception of Ken and it brought the goodness he had inside him to the surface. People are a mirror of what we reflect, but knowing what we know about how powerful LOA is, we can change negative people. Our positive energy will get to them eventually.

I also tried changing my perception of this very negative boss I have. She is/was one of the most negative people I have ever come in contact with. I can't avoid being around her because we are forced to share the same space. I knew that because I was dreading being around her that she was going to be even more negative, and that was sucking all my feel good positive energy. So one day I decided to change my perspective of her. I saw her as being a kind person. I saw her as treating me fairly and appreciating me, and guess what happened? She miraculously became a kind and fair person toward me! So those negative people we are sometimes forced to be around? Change the way you see them! It will change their reaction toward you. They will start being the person you see them as. We were all created with goodness inside us. See the good in people and it will surface eventually. Do not dread or avoid being around these people because it will manifest more negativity. Instead emit those wonderful positive and loving vibes. Love them unconditionally and they will be attracted to that love and positive energy thereby changing the way they treat you! IT WORKS! KNOW and EMBRACE it!!! You are stronger than these people because you know the secret to love and happiness!! So start spreading that positive energy and more people will be sucked into that vortex. Hey people we CAN change the world by doing this!

SUCK THOSE NEGATIVE PEOPLE INTO YOUR POSITIVE VORTEX!!!!!!!!!   

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Brave Lioness, it was because you were expecting nothing in return that you got what you didn't expect. You got a warm welcome and once you expect nothing from Andrew, you will get what you don't expect. I think right now you are still expecting Andrew to make contact with you. There is a big difference in expecting things and trusting/knowing things will happen. Letting go is all about not expecting things to happen. It is when we let go of expectations, the unexpected happens! I stopped expecting Ken to return my affections for him and guess what? He gave me the affection that I didn't expect! It's like MD says: Expect nothing so you won't be disappointed, because disappointment sets the stage for more disappointment and that is a negative emotion you can't have in order for good things to manifest. Trust that the timing has to be perfect and right now (or anytime soon,) may not be the right time for you or Andrew.

So remember that because you did not expect anything in return, you got what you wanted, and that was a warm welcome!

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Miracles VC, and SpeedZ, Thank you so much for your replies!

I know my negative moods toward people who wrong others will bring me more of the same, so I am going to work at changing my perspective of these people. Changing my perspective of my boyfriend changed him,and it also changed one of my bosses' attitudes toward me, so I know it works! I think both my daughter's and my boyfriend's bosses had time to think about how fortunate they were to have 2 hard working people, and I believe now that they realize they could be letting good people go, both my daughter and boyfriend have a bargaining chip on their side. My daughter's boss called her earlier to ask her to come back, and my boyfriend said that when he talked to his boss today, his boss agreed that he was worth more than what he was paying him. As for myself, my dream job would be something that could use my talent and creative ability. I am grateful to be blessed with such talent as I have made all A's (with the exception of two B+ s in the three years I have been in college! My instructors have all praised my work as a designer and freelancing projects at home would give me great satisfaction. If I could just get that going I am sure I could start my daughter off with something and I could help support both my daughter and my boyfriend. I would like nothing better than to see my daughter and my boyfriend have a sense of self worth and value through accomplishment.

Anyway, I have so much to be grateful for as I have the love of my life with me again, my grand baby is healthy and strong and I am doing well in school (and there are so many other blessings to be grateful for.) I want to be in a good and loving mood so I can keep giving my loved ones the love they deserve. I know my boyfriend  would not want to be around a sour puss, so that should be enough incentive for me to raise my good vibration and manifest an abundant life for both of us.

Thank you for the video VC. It is actually one that Peter shared with me before Ken returned home. I need to watch it again and again so I can feel and send the love! I had forgotten about it and I appreciate your reminding me to watch it. I know I have been too worried about how my loved ones are being treated, but it just struck a nerve in me, and I think it may be because I am having my own personal issues with my frustration and stress caused by other things (the onset of menopause for one; LOL) Yes I have to let go, and trust everything will be fine; because it is!

Thank you Miracles for your kind words and encouragement. I am glad I have been an inspiration to you, and thank you Speed Z for reminding me that there is no limit to our manifestations!Miraculously in the last few hours,my mood has been better, my house has been happy and my loved ones have been cheerful and oh so sweet to me!

Thank you all again. I will start on a new gratitude list right away.You are all a blessing to me and  I love you all too!!

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Happy Birthday dear Peter. May you get all that you wish for and more!

Love ya buddy and God bless you!

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cavvy,

my experience is different. When my guy contacted me 5 weeks after our break up, it started out with a birthday message to my son. Then I felt that since he was the one to break the no contact, it was okay for me to comment on his facebook status; not in a way that I would have if we were still in a relationship but in a way that just a friend or casual acquaintance would have. Then he commented back that he missed me, then I found him online and started chatting with him, then he confessed that he never stopped loving me, and from then on we just kind of kept our conversations on a friendly level, then it kinda progressed back to us being in a  relationship. Our relationship was never really over though; it was just a temporary split that happened for a good reason, so that I could seek help and get good advice on this forum about how powerful the laws of attraction are.

If I were you, I would not be concerned with the hows. Like, "Is this how a relationship restarts and progresses to the end result?" We are not to question the "hows" or "whens" of getting to the end result. Trust the universe to take care of that. When we wonder "how" we are going to get to the end result, we are again focusing on not having it yet. Focus on it like it is on its way to you, be grateful that you are at least having friendly conversations and be grateful like you already have it. Be grateful for these small steps and think of them instead as BIG steps that will indeed bring you to your end result.

I know you are anxious right now. The funny thing about manifesting things in small steps is that we sometimes forget to be grateful. We are still so focused on wanting the end result that we take the small progressions for granted. For instance, I was grateful my boyfriend made contact; but it was not enough for me. I kept wanting more and instead of being grateful that he was speaking to me, I wanted him to be with me again (the end result.) I was negative and mad when I saw him online and he would not say hello or acknowledge me for 3 days. My boyfriend picked up those vibes and he started doing things to piss me off even more (like put himself on a dating site because he knew I was checking.) I did not have to say anything, but he knew because we are so connected on a spiritual level.

Your ex is making it a point to make you aware that she is seeing someone new. She may be deliberately trying to make you jealous. My boyfriend put himself on a dating site to make me jealous because I manifested it! Your thinking about her being with other guys is manifesting itself! Your detecting no feeling in her at all is causing her to have what appears to be no feeling at all. Again, this is your conscious mind playing tricks on you. The two of you are not in perfect alignment right now, but that is okay because the timing is not right just yet. Trust the universe to line things up in its timing;not yours. The timing has to be perfect in order for things to work out. The universe knows when that is and it knows how it will line up so trust that and feel and be grateful like you already have it and that it is on its way to you. Also love her unconditionally no matter if she is with someone else. Love her but expect nothing in return. Then you won't get disappointed and you will manifest more than what you didn't expect.

Know that everything will be okay and get excited about it. These small steps are things to be grateful for. Be grateful so you can get more to be grateful for. Don't make the mistake I made and think its not enough right now. I got my man back but I could have avoided a lot of pain in the process by acknowledging and being grateful for the small steps that went from him saying, "We should never see or speak to each other again", to him being with me right now (my end result.)

You have happiness inside you. The creator of the universe put it there. Now pull it out and be GRATEFUL!

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ABSOLUTELY!!

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You know Peter,  break ups do happen for a reason and although we do not see it (at the time we are going through them, ) the break ups are a blessing.  For if not for my breakup, I would have never found this forum and I would have never learned from you and these other dear people all the lessons that have truly blessed my life. I too am grateful for the break up and  the lessons I learned because they have strengthened my relationship and it is better than ever!

I am also grateful to the universe and for Ken who gave me the time and space to grow while apart from him.

So to anyone who is reading this who is heartbroken over the breakup of their relationship, see this happening as a blessing because you will learn and grow from it for the better enrichment of your life! You may not know or see the reasons why yet, but know that there is sunshine on the other side of this storm. You will get through this and be a stronger and better person no matter what the outcome!

Peace and blessings to you all!!

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cavvy,

Remember that this is your conscious mind playing tricks on you. It is doing this because you are feeling negative right now. You are going to feel more negative vibes as long as you are thinking things that hurt you. Don't allow it to hurt you, but instead let it go and tell yourself that it was nothing. Tell yourself she was enjoying a night out with her friends. You should not be concerned with what she is doing or who she is doing it with because right now you are apart.  Stop focusing on what you don't have because that will keep you wanting it (meaning you won't get it because you will still be wanting it.) Does that make sense?

Also keep yourself from looking at her status on face book if that is what is causing your negativity. Face book can be a wonderful tool for reconnecting with old friends but it can also cause personal grief if and jealousy if we allow it to. 

Those of us who have lost an ex and are trying to attract them back have gone through or are still going through what you are feeling right now. It's easier to let negative thoughts slip in than it it is to stay positive until you can see some sign of hope because we tend to focus on what we don't have, hence manifesting more longing and desperation. Just remember that what your thoughts are, will become your reality. If you want positive things, think and be positive!

One word of encouragement: It is possible to get your ex back. Mine came back after telling me we were through and would never have contact again. He is sitting here right next to me now. I count it a blessing that we broke up because I would have never found this forum and I would have never learned how real the laws of attraction are! My relationship with my boyfriend is stronger now than it has been in 2 years! Before we split we were both negative thus causing more negativity. Thanks to this forum I have learned to be grateful and I have learned that I can create my own destiny. I have also learned to change my perception of my boy friend and that has miraculously brought out the very best in him.

So take this time you are apart, to work on yourself, grow and learn more about how you can manifest great things in your life and get excited that you now know "the secret". Use it and be positive. Let go of the wanting and get ready to receive. This may take time so be patient. Trust the universe's timing because it is perfect!

Now go and do things that make you happy and stop depending on being with your ex to bring you happiness. You have to be happy by yourself in order to be truly happy with someone else.

You can do this! Now get POSITIVE!!

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I am so happy for you Peter! You and I both knew we would get our exes back because our higher self said so.

@ Lise, it is okay to cry and purge yourself. I think it is a sign of letting go. Once you let go, the truth will be revealed to you and then your gut instinct/higher self will be able to guide you as to what inspired action you should take. In other words,  letting go is the step one needs to take in order to allow the truth to be revealed or to feel peace. You will soon know what this connection is and what you should do. Keep trusting your higher self. It really does know!

@ Orion, Yes our higher self does know what is best. It may know a certain person we are trying to attract back is not right for us, and we need to be aware of whether it is our higher self that is trying to guide us or whether it is our conscious mind telling us lies (whether they are what we want to hear or don't want to hear.) Now that you know the difference you can disregard those lies and tricks your conscious mind is playing on you. May you now be able to feel the peace that comes from the truth your higher self reveals!






 

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Young blue eyes,

When my boyfriend left me back in August I was very hurt and naturally I bashed him and brought up all his negative points to make myself feel better (because I thought that by bashing him it would make me feel like I was better off without him.) In all actuality I was still missing him, still wanting him and still desperate to have him in my life to make me happy. I was miserable when He was living with me last summer because he was acting like a jerk, but I also knew in my gut that he was my true love. It was the way I perceived him that made him that way. People say you can not change a person and to accept them for the way they are. That is only half true. You can change your perception of that person. You can visualize them being sweet and kind and affirm that they are sweet and kind. I knew my boyfriend could be sweet and kind but my perception of him (being a jerk,) was bringing out the worst in him. It was when I started loving him unconditionally and saying he was sweet and kind while not expecting anything, (letting go,)  guess what happened? He DID change! He is more loving and we get along so much better. I stopped being clingy and he started being more affectionate.

Well we are back to living together and this time I love EVERYTHING about him. I am not miserable like I was when we were together last summer. It is because I changed my perception of him that he is no longer acting like a jerk. My ex wanted to be with me and I knew in my gut instinct that he loved me. He said while we were apart with no contact for over a month, he still loved me but was giving me time to grow. He knew I was hurting and he was hurt too. So its not true that we are always trying to attract someone who does not want us.

So when people want their ex back even though their ex may have hurt them, it was not always the ex that meant to hurt them. It was their perception and negativity about their ex that caused their ex to be hurtful. We allow ourselves to be hurt. We build our exes up and put them on this pedestal and when they break a promise or don't do things we expect, we feel that they are jerks that hurt us. We are the ones who hurt ourselves.

On the other hand, there are those cases when an ex really did treat their mate bad. The mate did nothing wrong and took the beating and still loved their ex. The mate never said anything negative about their ex but still the ex crapped all over the mate, took advantage of them and dumped them like yesterday's garbage. Those are the exes no one should ever want to attract back and they should be thanking their exes for dumping them; otherwise they would still be in an abusive situation. Those are the ones who should get over an ex and move on to someone who will treat them better.

I think most the people on here have not been abused by an ex. If they did, they are glad its over and done with. So when those of us bash our exes and still want them back, its because we love them and know that they did not mean to hurt us; we are just hurt because they broke up with us that's all. There is nothing wrong with trying to attract an ex back if there was a true connection between the two people. My ex and I had a true connection and that is why he felt he had to return to me.

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How do we know if the feelings we are getting are true or false? Which feelings are coming from our gut/instinct and which are coming from our conscious mind?

Here is how I know:

At times, I have gotten physical feelings from my lower gut, or from my core, or from deep within my heart. At times I have not experienced anything physical but I have strongly felt things spiritually. However, if I feel an overwhelming sense of peace, that is when I know that I am hearing from my gut instinct or higher self revealing the truth about things. Our higher self/gut instinct is our connection to the creator of the universe (or God if you will.) He has given us a higher self ( gut instinct) so that he may communicate and reveal what is true. The truth shall set you free even if the truth is ugly or hurtful. It may hurt for a while but knowing the truth will give you peace.

Have you ever had a gut instinct about something or someone that just was not right? It is this strong overwhelming sense that you just KNOW in your gut that things are not as they appear to be. TRUST that feeling. It is coming from your higher self and it KNOWS the truth. The truth is not always pretty but it is peaceful to know the truth and it will stop you from making a costly mistake or trusting something that is a lie.

Now to knowing about whether your ex is the one and you will get back together:
If you feel in your gut instinct that your ex is the one for you, then they are.
If you feel in your gut instinct that you should move on and find happiness with someone else, then you will.
Remember your gut instinct is your higher self and it does not lie. It KNOWS the truth! Knowing the truth  should bring you peace.

Now lets say that you "hear" this inner voice telling you things like: "My ex doesn't want me, my ex doesn't love me,my ex is having a thing with this person they are in a picture with on facebook, my ex and I are through etc." What happens is you get more sad and depressed. It is not your gut instinct/ higher self telling you these things. It is your conscious mind playing tricks on you and deceiving you by telling you lies to make you feel worse because you manifested it! You manifested those unsettling thoughts by feeling the longing,  sadness  and desperation. It's a vicious cycle. You feel bad, you bring on more bad, your mind tells you negative things, you feel worse, your mind tells you even more unsettling things, you feel even worse, and so on. THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS!!!

Here is the difference between a lie that we hear from our conscious mind and the truth coming from our higher self:

If what you are hearing and feeling is peaceful then it is the higher self revealing the truth. It may be telling you that you will reunite with your ex or it may be telling you that you have not met your true love yet. If you feel peace, then it is coming from your gut instinct.

If what you are feeling is unsettling and brings on feelings of despair or negativity, it is your conscious mind trying to deceive you. However there is one note to consider: You could be in love on cloud nine, happy and still trusting a lie. Your conscious mind could be deceiving you even when you are feeling euphoric and blissful. It is very important to know the difference.

It is usually when your mind is quiet and receptive that your gut instinct will reveal the truth. Listen and take inspired action. But also remember that the truth does not have to be beautiful to bring you peace. Feel the peace knowing that the truth (however ugly or beautiful,) has been revealed.

On the other hand it is when your mind is in conflict and you are having inner turmoil, your conscious mind will be telling you lies.  DO NOT listen or act on this by feeling negative, but quiet your mind and TRUST that the truth will set you free.

 The important thing is to stay grounded and aware so you can discern between what is coming from your higher self or what is your conscious mind.  I had a strong gut instinct that I would reunite with Ken. I also had negative thoughts that he did not want me anymore. The strong gut instincts gave me peace. The negative thoughts gave me bad feelings. I tried picturing myself with someone else when the wrong thoughts were telling me that he was not the one. I did not feel peace with picturing myself with someone else. I did find peace picturing myself with him because that was the truth. I am with him now. My higher self knew the truth. My peaceful gut instinct was correct. It did not lie.

If your gut instinct tells you that you will reunite with your ex then so you shall!!!!!! IT KNOWS THE TRUTH!!!

I hope I have not confused anyone.

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