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« on: June 10, 2012, 07:38:43 PM »
I agree with you Tereza, it really comes down to the use you make of Facebook. I have travelled quite a bit and lived abroad as well and therefore I have friends with which it is easier to stay in touch with through Facebook and so cutting myself from them just for one person would be quite unfair. I personally do not think blocking the person is a tactic of sorts however, I think if you've been hurt it is a normal and a healthy reaction to want to stay away from them for a while and it is only affecting the person who has hurt you contrary to deactivating the whole account. @Islangirl, I wasn't being critical of your choice as I don't know what use of Facebook you make in the first place. I was merely emphasizing on how unfair it would be for the other friends ( as well as yourself) you may have on Facebook and who would like to stay in touch with you just for that one person who hurt you. ( Besides I was initially answering a quote from Forever1....) Deactivating your account feels like a tactic to provoke a reaction from him and make him wonder what you are up to but what you are doing in the end is punishing yourself and cutting yourself from everyone else.
I see what you're saying, but it really depends on the person. I deactivated Facebook last year partially because of that guy I liked, but also because it just had no real value to me. I feel lighter without it and I don't miss the "friends" I had on there because the people that are close to me have my phone number, email and know how to get in touch with me.
For some people their lives are tightly interwoven with their ex. Like they share the same social circles and it's inevitable that photos and news of the ex will appear in their feed even though they're blocked. It's just easier to deactivate the account than go and block friends that are connected to the ex.
Also, blocking a person can seem like a tactic to provoke a reaction too. People are just always going to feel bothered when they've been blocked or un-friended. But I think that a person shouldn't really concern themselves with how their ex is going to feel, they should be more concerned about doing things to make themselves feel better. So if distancing themselves from their exes will help them get over the feelings, that's great.
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« on: June 10, 2012, 04:14:57 PM »
Actually you can see who has deactivated their account if you click on the friend folder and look up their name while blocking them looks as though you have disappeared from facebook ( unless of course they look you up from another account etc..). I was faced with the same situation but I thought, why would I close all communications with my other friends just for him? ( why punishing my friends or myself because of him) It goes to show to him that you have not moved on and that you are still hurting and that he is more important than all of your other friends and that therefore he has power on you and your life. There are options on facebook to hide every posts you make from him if you don't want him to know what you are up to and you can hide everything he posts from his newsfeeds as well, it just requires discipline. But deactivating your account or not logging on facebook requires the same discipline in the end. Deactivating your account feels like a tactic to provoke a reaction from him and make him wonder what you are up to but what you are doing in the end is punishing yourself and cutting yourself from everyone else. While I understand why one would want to deactivate their account in such situation and the thought occured to me too I don't think it is such a good idea as you are also closing communications with all of your other friends and making that specific guy the centre of your life and giving him so much importance that you'd isolate yourself from all of your friends online just for him and thus putting him on a pedestal.
Don't get me wrong I know how tempting it is to watch their profile and how hard it is to refrain from reading into everything they say but i think it's just best to block their feeds, or just not open facebook anymore while you can still receive messages via email. Deactivating your account for one person doesn't send a right vibe in my opinion.
thank you lilly, good point! i have to agree.
it cant be good to make them to the center in our lifes, especially not when we are not the center in theirs!
really well said.
if you deactivate yur account its just the same as if you block JUST them. they will think that youre not on FB anymore and wont know if you blocked them or deactivated your account.
just deleting them would be the best solution for me. you show strength by still being on FB..... and if you still want to look at their profiles.... mostly its set to private, so that you cant see any updates etc and neither can they look whats going on in your life. it will get broing soon.
they shouldnt rule our lifes at all!
w cant stop smoking by always avoiding to see any smokers again or being around them.
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« on: June 10, 2012, 12:58:49 PM »
While I understand why one would want to deactivate their account in such situation and the thought occured to me too I don't think it is such a good idea as you are also closing communications with all of your other friends and making that specific guy the centre of your life and giving him so much importance that you'd isolate yourself from all of your friends online just for him and thus putting him on a pedestal. Don't get me wrong I know how tempting it is to watch their profile and how hard it is to refrain from reading into everything they say but i think it's just best to block their feeds, or just not open facebook anymore while you can still receive messages via email. Deactivating your account for one person doesn't send a right vibe in my opinion. Hi, i can understand completely! i have been doing the same also on fb, checking every time her status and profile so today i have also deactivated my account.
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« on: May 25, 2012, 01:22:40 AM »
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« on: May 18, 2012, 12:16:35 PM »
I totally agree with you and it is because he decided to get back with his ex that I don't want to be in contact. He didn't want to part ways initially. the thing is we have been friends for many years before it got more serious between us, then last year he was supposed to move in with me but because of difficulties he just gave up. As to the ex, she's there and I'm not, that's the difference..it is just easier I guess. He would probably answer if i made the first step but if I did our relationship wouldn't change for the best and so there is no point. I don't want to talk unless he is no longer with someone else because I share your views on this and he's done and said things I don't deem right either. No contact works if you are tying to detach from the person. Personally, I don't think it is a good idea to keep in contact with an ex if you want to get back together with them and they are with another person, because it is disrespectful to their relationship.
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« on: May 17, 2012, 04:00:27 PM »
Thank you Free bird..I do believe he is the one but because it is the first time we haven't talked for such a long period of time which is already tough in itself and I've never used the loa in this situation i tend to doubt. I've had many successes but every time doubts creeps in it comes to my mind: maybe in this situation loa won't work etc etc..It is just a matter of patience and trust I suppose, we left each other on very bad term and I have no idea how he feels right now..i don't know why he would keep me on social networks or even put that picture up when he is clearly reconnecting with someone else..maybe I'm just reading too much into it haha.. But i agree with you on one thing in particular, if it is no manifesting it is because we are not ready yet to reconnect. Hey Lily,
No contact is for u to know whether he is the one for u or not..........and even if he is then Let go is an equally important step as much as staying positive is caus e when u let go u r telling the universe that u trust universe completely...........and even if the universe does not respond, then it is clearly telling u, right now is not the time for u to be with him..........that more work needs to be done on urself............u have many things to learn, u have to learn to be more open, u have to learn to stop looking for signs, to have learn to be secure in our own space, learn to be happy with urself and most importantly love urself.......
And if u truly believe he is the one, then keep that faith with u and trust universe............u will get him
Hope that helps
Wish u best of LOA 
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« on: May 17, 2012, 02:59:18 PM »
Hello everyone,
So after a bad argument me and my guy have fell out of touch and have been on no contact for a few months now and he has decided to get back with his ex in the meantime, to sum up things.
I have been trying to stay positive and apply loa for a reconcilliation first because I believe that's the first step to take..
So far I've seen no progress until yesterday, as for some reason he has not removed me from social networks including facebook..he changed his cover picture to a picture he took during his holidays with me in my country so i feel it is kind of symbolic. But still he is still currently with the ex and they seem to be on good terms, even though nothing is official on facebook so I don't know what to think of the whole thing..
It has been months now and i haven't seen much progress towards reconcilliation, do you guys think this could be a sign that he misses me in some way. I've never used loa in case of no contact and so it kinds of feels hopeless..
Any advice will be appreciated, thank you!
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« on: May 01, 2012, 01:09:21 AM »
I've noticed exactly the same with me. I got to know about the LOA through Joseph Murphy's book and manifested lots of things through simple affirmations and visualisation but it was always some kind of recreational visualisation and effortlessly. Since I've tried to read and learn more about techniques and all it has just blocked things. I think for me it is best to stick to the basics, but it all comes down to finding the technique that works for you and it might not be the same as the next person. I don't think using a hundred different techniques at the same time is making things faster or more efficient, on the contrary it makes attachement grow because you are always self conscious about the process.. For me it seemed like I manifested easier before I was deliberately using the LOA but then again I havent been deliberately using it that long. I think Im thinking about the outcomes too much now that I know more about the LOA. I dont have any anxiety over it but I cant stop thinking about what I want to manifest in all areas of my life so maybe i am attached to the outcome and I need to think about other things but its hard since im trying to manifest for every area of my life since my life is kinda blank now.
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« on: April 30, 2012, 10:08:09 PM »
I'm just stating that so that you don't feel low if his name was to disappear from the box because it would mean nothing. As a matter of fact I have noticed the exact same thing as you with my guy although we are not speaking and I'm not checking his profile. I understand that, that's why I'm specifically going to my friend's profile and my real profile from the fake one to see if it makes a difference. It could be that he is staying in that position because I've been going to his profile, but he could be going to mine as well if he's been missing me too. I rarely go to profiles - I just look at my feed. But that fact that he is in that position and stays there means something. And if'ts because I've been going to his, then that should change soon to my friend.
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« on: April 30, 2012, 09:45:33 PM »
The thing is that he may not check your profile but yet have subscribed to you and have what you post in his news feed and so that would be irrelevant. A lot of people just check their news feed and don't go to actual profiles. I'm conducting a little Facebook experiment. I have the timeline and I've noticed that my guy has appeared in my box of 8 friends on my profile consistently for some time and never changes position. It used to be the bottom left but now that they changed the format, he's in the second from right on the bottom row position. I think the bottom two right positions are significant and I think they may be who you are viewing the most, who's viewing you the most or maybe who you most recently interacted with. Not sure.
So, here's my experiment. I'm trying really hard not to go to his profile at all. I go to one of my friend's profile every time I log on (which is multiple times a day). I also created a fake profile and visit my real profile from that. I've been tracking who shows up.
Here are some interesting things I've noticed:
Those 8 friends stay the same for most of the day
Except for the two bottom right positions, the other 6 rotate positions every time I log in
When I go to my profile from the fake profile, all the friends are the same EXCEPT for the two bottom right - they do not appear at all.
So that's my experiment. It will be interesting to see if I can prove anything. Of course, I'd love to believe that he is showing up and staying there because he is viewing my profile a lot. I'm definitely viewing my friend's profile a lot more than his these days, so if it's who I'm looking at then it should change soon.
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« on: April 26, 2012, 05:34:45 PM »
Hello all!
I'd like to know if any of you who have had sucess stories experienced reccurent dreams related to your wish. If so, does it mean your wish is close to manifest or is it just a representation of your desire?
Thank you!
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« on: April 11, 2012, 01:38:24 PM »
Irishgirl, I think your best proof and a big faith builder will be when what they predicted you will happen and especially since they gave you a time (summer) then I think with hindsight it'll be interesting to analyse all the signs and experiences they put on your path to get to it. I'm looking forward to reading your success story! Since I've begun working with my guides, I've been taught an important lessons. The more you doubt the more reasons you are given to doubt. Conversely, the more your trust and believe, you will see more and more signs and proof that your desire is manifesting.
I struggle with it as well and now that I've been channeling my guides, it's on a different scale. I have been doubting that I actually do have the ability to channel and that I'm communicating with my guides, etc. It's difficult sometimes to wrap my brain around it. So this past weekend, they decided to teach me a lesson. They told me that things were over between my guy and this girl he's seeing and I believed them. I felt great and then I looked for proof and found out that it wasn't true. I was upset at first thinking they if they had lied to me about that then maybe they were lying to me about everything (they tell me we will be together, etc.). After calming and centering myself, I saw that they were teaching me not to doubt things so much or they will give me reasons to doubt.
So, I gave myself a challenge to just believe in it completely - why not? What do I have to lose? In the past couple of days, I've been overwhelmed with signs and predictions coming true.
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« on: April 11, 2012, 01:32:54 PM »
I suppose that from an LOA perspective, the bad mindset and doubts attract more of this under different forms including what we take as negative signs! It actually makes sense in this way and what we believe to be signs are just indicators of our current mindset. I posted the same question as you a few weeks ago! I was so worried that I should give up my desires and blahblahblah but really, the bad signs are just what's going on in your subconscious! Trust me, once you start ignoring the bad signs and start detaching from the outcome, they go away, because your subconscious is in a positive state.
Have faith and don't give up on what makes you happy! That's basically what the wonderful people on this forum told me, and I'm so glad they did.
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« on: April 11, 2012, 01:28:20 PM »
If you visualize something it is because you want to experience it to an extent and it is a goal in a way but I personally find it hard to make the visualisation a task in the "I'm gonna visualize this particular thing everyday kind of way" to achieve this goal if that makes sense, because then it is strained. The goal within the visualization is implied already. BUT, I'm talking about what I noticed was working for me, I think it comes down to finding the technique that makes you bring about the right feeling/frame of mind to manifest what you want with the least possible attachement. Lily, I can't really believe in what I'm doing if I don't have a goal. I'm very objective with what I do. I almost never just do something, because I feel like doing it. I normally need an objective. The only real thing I've done and do regularly is to play guitar and that's really the only thing I do without any objectives. But in the case of visualizations or affirmations, they all have a goal, a believable one. The problem is I have this barrier in the way :/
Lise, i think it's true what you say. To me the keyword in the law of attraction has always been "Happiness" and it doesn't matter why you're happy, it just matters that you ARE happy. And through that you'll be handed every opportunity from the universe to preserve that happiness. That's what I think is so great about the law of attraction and it's actually why I tried it out.
Stef, I need a goal in life. I can't just be happy without a goal except for the music part and even that doesn't last long. What you say is what I believe in aswell. Action must exist and this self confidence is the product of the law of attraction / NLP-process and it makes it easier to achieve your desires. I get that, but I just don't know.
I'm kinda lost at the moment, I'll be back tomorrow after I have a good night's sleep and I'll let you know tomorrow how I feel.
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« on: April 11, 2012, 03:35:49 AM »
I have the same feeling sometimes and start doubting then I start to think of all the things i have manifested, they could be coincidences of course but when i make the list it is obvious to me that it is a lot for coincidences. Some of the things I manifested they seemed impossible to me at the time and even when I get mad and frustrated I keep thinking that 10 manifestations of things that seem impossible cannot be a coincidence and sometimes very precise things and that's what keeps me back to Loa.
Now the things is that it is so random really, there are some things i manifested and other I didn't and I can't pinpoint the difference of process in each case. All I know from my own experience is that everything that manifested was something that was not strained, when visualization was some sort of daydream recreation rather than trying to implement a new thought pattern in my mind..it was always a natural/innocent daydreaming thing without trying to achieve something through it and I believe that's what books would call detachement. I think when you become self conscious of the whole thing/process, that's when it doesn't work.
I think your own faith can only be built through your own succession of success stories and no one can convince you. There is no harm in visualization, I kind of see it as an outlet that makes you feel good about what you want and the plus thing is that it's working towards getting you what you do want. I used to visualize and daydream about things before knowing about loa and it has never made me feel like I was committing to some sort of lie, it is a natural thing really.
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