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Messages - lilly
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« on: May 10, 2013, 05:10:54 PM »
I don't think it is a sucess story or a failure for that matter, his change of attitude made you fall out of love by the sound of it and so your desire to be back together has died down too. I think what you interpret as a sign is more a response to your change of heart towards him. Basically the signs you see are a reflection to your mindset. I agree with one of the posters above, sometimes there is more than meet the eye and if those new friends are indeed a bad influence eventually he'll take his distance. If you desire to be with someone new and who coresponds better to your ideal then you should focus on that! 
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« on: May 08, 2013, 12:21:31 PM »
You are starting your message with quite a negative description of a man you didn't seem to be interested in initially and finish it by stating that you do want him. I think the only reason you want him now is because he is acting indifferent towards you. Kind of like a push pull phenomenon.
Clearly, he is not your dream man and something in you knows this otherwise you wouldn't have depicted him in such a negative way.
If you actually wanted to get him back using loa, you would have to get rid of those mixed feelings you have for him..
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« on: May 08, 2013, 12:08:25 PM »
I agree with daydreamer4life. Yes you can use loa but that's not going to prove you did it through visualization since your nail will grow back anyway.
I remember about someone growing a limb in one of Joseph Murphy's book, so that kind of thing is very possible, but that was more spectacular.
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« on: May 08, 2013, 02:18:03 AM »
I have had many instances where what I visualized came about in my reality in the exact same way i played it in my mind. The key was persistent visualization+feeling+faith.
Did you have always the same visualization with the same scenery and actions? Like, if I want to meet a guy this way, for example: I visualize I'm walking through my school corridor and go to the cantine's queue to have lunch and my crush is right in front of me in the queue. He acts nice and gives me the lunch tray then suddenly asks me if I want to have lunch with him since he is alone. Then I accept and we go and sit just the two of us in a table and start talking and knowing eachother better and also start laughing and having fun. When we finish lunching we go out of the cantine together blah blah blah...
I'm always visualizing the same as described above. It's like replaying the same video many times. That's what you did?
Yes, that's pretty much how it works. I would focus on the end result though, what would you talk about/do if you were having lunch with him. Focus on the result more than the process. When you start thinking of what you would say or do with him then you put yourself into a mindset of having already what you want, and that's very important. You have to make that scene in your mind as vivid as possible, so you have to put feelings into your visualizing. Also, pick a scene that is credible, that you believe to be possible to make it easier for you.
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« on: May 07, 2013, 08:36:12 PM »
If I visualise something all the time will it come about? For instance I have recently posted about my nail but no one answered that. So I am asking if I visualise something a lot will it somehow show up in my reality? Thanks xx
I would advise you to visualize what you want before you fall asleep. You have to be really relaxed and visualizing musn't be a task it must come effortlessly and it must be enjoyable. You should visualize but also use feelings when you do so. It has to feel real in your mind. If you persist long enough eventually it'll come about in your reality. I have had many instances where what I visualized came about in my reality in the exact same way i played it in my mind. The key was persistent visualization+feeling+faith.
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« on: April 15, 2013, 05:57:45 PM »
been reading the advice given by some in attracting ex back and found thay some give the idea you will attract someone better in process..isnt it discouraging?some may truly want their ex back right?
Most of the time this idea will come from people who don't have strong faith in LOA to begin with and who will influence you negatively with their limiting beliefs. They do not mean bad, they just don't want you to keep your hopes up because themselves, they weren't able to attract a specific person (how could you with such a mindset?). In the end the universe will give you what you focus on so try not to let other people's belief influence you, read success stories instead
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« on: February 26, 2013, 03:55:02 AM »
because I was finding out a lot of upsetting things and no one really cared enough to contact me
This seems to be the major problem for you. Like another member said above, Facebook is just a tool and you can add whoever YOU want. You seem to be missing the ability to communicate with family members through it so I'll assume that they are not the ones causing the problems you mentioned above. Perhaps, you could just add family members. That said, why is it upsetting you that "no one cares enough to contact you?" Is this one/several persons in particular that you wish would contact you? why do you think they don't contact you? do they contact you out of Facebook anyway? Perhaps you are just perceiving this wrongly and they are not actually ignoring you. Maybe, do the first step to contact those people and keep the link alive. In any case, I don't think Facebook is being the problem, facebook is just the tool to help you keep in touch with people ( It is as if you blamed the phone because someone called you to announce you a bad news), the problem seems to be about communicating with "certain" people who bring negative feelings into your life for whatever reason. If they do that online, they would do it offline too and the best advice anyone could give you is to stay away from those people and not add them on facebook! Hope this helps
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« on: February 23, 2013, 02:47:35 PM »
I don't know what your personal experience is or how you use facebook, but generally you would use facebook to stay in touch with friends and family who are away, etc.. The fact that you are associating (two comments above) with your ex, by deactivating it, the vibe that I would get is: A: your ex is too much in your mind and you need to cut that link you have through facebook by deleting your account or staying away from it ( but you could do that by blocking him), B: you delete your account or stop posting because you want to make him wonder what you are up to and it sounds like a tactic of sort to make him contact you. Whatever the reason is, your ex is still on his pedestal and is so important to you that you'd rather cut yourself from all of your other friends and social life on facebook than just block him altogether, you are obviously not over him and are penalizing yourself not him. If you are indeed trying to get him back or even if you don't, I would suggest that you live your life and have fun and use facebook as you normally used it before you got to know him. By retreating back because of him, you give him power and put him on the pedestal and that is obviously the case otherwise you wouldn't be associating facebook with him on a forum! Goodluck!!
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« on: December 17, 2012, 01:12:12 PM »
You have a much bigger problem than this particular girl..you are terribly lacking social skill and you are stuck in a huge negativity bubble. If you were to get interested in another girl the same pattern would occur which is why it was very important to listen to the people who advised you to work on yourself and get out of this negativity because now that you took action you are completely clueless and still just as negative. You thought you'd be the happiest man if you received even a spam message from her but evidently that's not the case..
You are making progress, be positive about it, prepare a reply to her email and be grateful for her reply!! Some people on this forum never get such a chance or opportunity. You have no idea how lucky you are!
It is obvious you haven't been using the Loa techniques despite what you claim when you come up with things such as " she may be annoyed if I answer.." It doesn't matter whether you do A technique or B if you have such a negative mindset. You seriously need to work on that.
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« on: December 16, 2012, 02:14:38 PM »
She responded to be polite.
Here is exactly what I said:
Her name,
It's come to my attention that my email has been sending out poorly written spam. Some people only received one or two messages, others had a few dozen. My apologies if you were in the latter group.
It's been a while since we've communicated...how are you? Still at [place of work]?
Here is exactly what she said:
Hi [my name]
No worries! I think I only got 1 email, and my account did the same thing last year! I changed the password on my account, and that seemed to fix things.
I'm doing well. I'm still at [place of work], but I'm looking for jobs closer to where I live. I hope you're doing well too!
This has to be the biggest joke I've read in my entire life. Seriously HQ please tell me that you are kidding?
I really don't want to bash you at all, but I'm sorry to say that you really do lack social sense. I'm really not trying to be mean, but it's true. She gave you a GREAT response with numerous opportunities to keep the conversation going. She wrote multiple lines and seemed interested to keep talking. I don't understand how you can be so blind.
Please tell me you are kidding. Please.
I agree with happymelly! First congrats for sending her an email, that was the way to go! She seems to have answered very quickly and she sounds very kind. I don't understand why you still feel so down and negative, you have the message you wanted. If you are in such a negative place it is no wonder you are perceiving her message in a negative way but everyone on this forum perceive it in a very positive way!! Seriously, if she didn't care, she wouldn't have answered at all, she would have just clicked delete. Can't you try to focus on the positive of the situation ( that she answered you! and very kindly!!). You seem to be lacking social skill to hold a conversation, just because she didn't ask questions, doesn't mean you cannot follow up! I would write something like donleo advised as an answer! Stay positive and grateful for the message!
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« on: December 15, 2012, 10:54:37 PM »
Lily, what do you do when cannot escape this situation? I cannot feel good. It is absolutely impossible for me at this point.
Thank you dreamland, I appreciate seeing someone trying to help instead of dismissing everything I am trying to communicate.
Stefzilla, would you please tell me why you keep returning to this thread if it is such a burden of negativity? I don't ask you directly to help me or read this or post. I don't see how you can blame me for putting negativity onto you when you are making the choice to read and respond to this thread. Could you please tell me why you keep returning, I've asked many times already. I don't understand at all why you keep coming back only to say it's pointless to be here.
I haven't always been positive, I've sometimes been in the same frame of mind as you perhaps even worse but "I took action" whenever I could and I kept visualizing and hoping on the long term. The thing with you is that you are expecting her to ring at your door and say hello let's be friends. It is obvious to me that you need to initiate contact, chit chat and become friends first. Then you can worry about deepening the relationship. You have tried to establish contact before several times, you need to try again and again, show her that you want to be friends, get to know her. You need to establish some sort of relationship to make things easier. Take every opportunity to talk with her. Can you be specific and answer those questions? How did you meet her for the first time? Do you work at the same place or where can you see her often? Are you living in the same town? You really need to focus on a way to establish a connection with that woman, that's the barrier right now. You cannot wait 5 more years for her to send you an email in vain, you need to take direct action, not spam messaging. While you try to initiate that contact, do some RS, RS does really work well! You may not see the results immediately but you will eventually!
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« on: December 15, 2012, 07:57:36 PM »
Unfortunately, LOA requires consistency and a generally positive attitude if you want to use it to your benefit. Right now you are vibrating the total opposite and you'll just keep attracting more. It doesn't matter what you've tried or haven't tried it is more of a philosophy of life, unless everyday of your life you decide to focus more on the good things in your life rather than what is lacking you will not be using this knowledge of the loa to your advantage.
On a side note, RS has been working wonders with me, I have also tried using Wendi's mp3 a few times as a test and every time I've got a phone call and/or message within a day. It has happened every single time, sometimes after a few days/week of not talking so I don't think it is a coincidence for me. BUT, I'm in a generally good and positive mood these days so this must be having a lot to do with it.
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« on: December 11, 2012, 12:40:13 AM »
I agree with Stefzilla, if you are so desperate that you are considering suicide what do you have to lose by initating contact? What does it matter that she thinks you are crazy if you want to kill yourself anyway? Besides, if you go along with the whole suicide plan, you might as well do it because she DID turned you down, not because you think she "MAY" turn you down. Not that I'm telling you to do it but to make you realize how stupid this plan is to kill yourself over something that hasn't even happened.
No girl is gonna think you are a psycho because you initiate contact, you are just assuming things and playing those little dramatic scenario in your mind because you cannot get the courage to confront her. You don't have to tell her that you are hopelessly in love with her, initiate contact, see how it goes, talk more and more, build friendship and eventually tell her how you feel.
Stefzilla is right, she is probably not gonna respond to spam, do you seriously respond to spam?? and this doesn't prove that she doesn't care about you, she doesn't care about spam that is all.
Again, you should follow Stefzilla's advice and send her another email to tell her about the whole spam thing and initiate contact from there. She will not think you are crazy, really!
Does she have facebook? Perhaps send her a friend invitation ( not it is not crazy..), if she accepts you'll know she is open to friendship, if she doesn't, at least you'll know for sure that she doesn't, but perhaps you are afraid of knowing? Perhaps your problem is that as long as you do not make a move and know for sure what she thinks of you you keep the hope that she indeed likes you.
Is this your problem? Are you afraid of knowing what she really thinks of you? Because if you are not afraid then follow the advice and initiate conversation.
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« on: December 09, 2012, 10:19:09 PM »
Celebrities aren't really a good example to follow because you don't know what they really feel and what their life is like outside of their work. Kurt Cobain was depressed and most likely what you see as a success professionally and a source of happiness was just a creative outlet for his depression. If you point out that he didn't love himself, you can see that that the love and admiration from millions of fans was not enough to make him happy and to help him love himself.
The positive aspect of this thread is that you were willing to take action. Instead of sending spam, why don't you forward a funny picture or whatever to all of your friends and add her to the list. It is much more positive and likely that she would answer than if you faked spam message.
It is much more productive for you to focus on a positive way to initiate contact with her and developing a friendship.
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« on: December 04, 2012, 02:49:25 PM »
thank you...yes he wants to move on...he is moving on.....i should move on
It may be hard to believe right now but if you do have a strong connection, it doesn't matter whether he is blocking you right now, when his pain subsides he'll reach for you. Like I said, I had been on NC for about 7 months, and we had blocked each other and eventually he reached for me! I really recommend RS, you may not see immediate results but it is really working.
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