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« on: October 08, 2012, 04:12:33 AM »
That man who wants sex several times a day? SIGN ME UP!
I'll take it everyday and then some!
« on: October 08, 2012, 04:05:48 AM »
One other thing, action for a reaction is not helping you. I feel as though you sent that text to get a reaction and here's the thing, if you don't get a reaction you will probably go into some form of depression because you didn't hear from her. Is this good for YOU?
You need to admit to yourself that you are doing this in order to get a specific reaction and then you need to tell yourself you don't care if she reacts or not and really feel it and until you can get into THAT frame of mind, where you just don't care if she does or not........than you shouldn't be sending her texts, emails or anything else. You can continue to send love remotely but nothing physical until you detach yourself from the outcome.
Here is my way and what I do to help me, first off, I don't expect a reaction, none at all. I think of any type of small gesture I take toward my love in terms of seeds.......little sweet positive seeds being planted and I let them go, to germinate and grow and take form of positive feelings toward me and lovely thoughts of me. It's like building a little foundation of love.
But I was broken up for quite some time before I started planting those seeds and I got into the frame of mind of not caring a lick about a response.....not one lick! It's just me sending love and happy thoughts.
I will see the result when I decide to, when I am ready, when I feel he is ready, until then, I am letting it grow, grow into the perfect NEW relationship I am planning in my minds eye!
« on: October 08, 2012, 03:28:22 AM »
If you believe it will take more time, than it will, if you believe she is trying to get over you, than she is. If you believe she loves you, than she does. What if you try believing that it won't take any time at all, she feels it now and that she loves you and can't live without you and she is trying to get you back, not get over you. Maybe if you believe that instead you will have a better result?
You are the one deciding what you believe, no one is making you, so if you don't like how it is now, change your beliefs.
I never thought you were trying to change my opinion, you couldn't do that anyway unless I decided you could. You started off by basically blaming a therapist for the loss of your friend and then went on to list examples of other therapists and how much damage they have done. My only concern there is that this is your perceived reality and not everyone else's and also now that something that you are holding onto from the 70' (over 30 years ago) is still affecting your today. This isn't an argument by any means, I am attempting you help you see that you are choosing to believe what you do and you can choose to believe a new belief just as easily, a more positive, happier belief and you can also choose to believe that for the time being, your friend is just processing his life and he will decide to return to your life once he realizes what you mean to him, which he will if you believe he will.
Did I say you did? I don't remember saying that at all.
With all those experiences in your life, I can give dozens and dozens of experiences in my own and others lives that are quite the opposite.
The point is, when are you going to STOP telling yourself that therapists are bad and blaming THEM for other people's decisions, choices and behavior?
Every therapist wants to help, that is why they decide to be a therapist to begin with, but that never guarantees success. It is up to the person choosing to see that therapist also, it is what they are telling themselves about themselves that is really doing the damage, not the therapist.
Obviously, I am not saying all therapists are good, not by any means, but they aren't all bad either.
You are still choosing to believe what you do and you are still blaming "The therapist" for the behavior of someone else.
Everyone chooses their own reality, even therapists. The patient chooses to seek help for some affliction which 9 out of 10 time or even closer to 10 stems from their own negative self talk and feelings about themselves.
Some people are so messed up that they have difficulty seeing that they are doing this damage to themselves, and blaming someone for their choices seem a bit self defeating in a way.
You obviously have a very deep rooted belief that "therapists" are bad and do no good. I can't change that belief, only you can, but you have to want to.
Maybe you find it easier to blame them over the actual person who is seeking help for their own demons and holding them responsible for their own choices of what they believe about themselves that caused them to become ill to begin with.
I still believe we have a choice, a choice to believe what ever we choose, no matter if good or bad, about ourselves or someone else, it is still our choice and our beliefs.
« on: October 08, 2012, 02:18:54 AM »
Yes, and you are. If you weren't still his friend you wouldn't care what that therapist told him. You still consider yourself his friend.
This is a moment in his life and a moment in yours that right now feels like a lifetime and a loss but he isn't dead, he is alive and he is going through his own reality and you are allowing him to effect you this way and take it personally and you are choosing to blame the therapist but he chose this, the therapist didn't make him, it's not their fault.
Maybe he needs to take a break for now. Maybe you can choose to see that as a positive and a blessing, he will take some time and rethink his position and come to the conclusion that you mean too much to him to give up. Maybe you need to rewrite this story in a more positive light. Out of every negative story we tell our selves there is always a positive lesson to be learned and then we can rewrite the story and give it a new ending.
Just think how much more you will appreciate him and he will appreciate you once you let time do what it does best.......heal our wounds. Usually those wounds get healed BECAUSE we have had time to process and realize what the people we love and care about really mean to us. Give him your trust and faith that he will realize how much you mean to him.
Another case of over thinking, over analyzing and generally just getting a bit too caught up in your own thoughts and trying to make sense of things.
Do what makes you feel good, spend time doing that, if thinking about all this stuff causes discomfort than why are you thinking about it?
And as for peace in the world and people not doing anything or you not seeing it, I see it every single day........Really LOOK around, stop generalizing and LOOK, it's that person who helped someone with their groceries or took them food when they couldn't get out of the house. It's that person who took in that child and is taking care of them because they lost their parent. It's that person who adopted that animal from the shelter. It's that person who saved someone from a burning building. It's that person who donated to a charity out of the goodness of their heart. It's that person who volunteered their time to help build a house or serve food. Those are just a few examples, there are thousands more and each of those people believe in peace and goodness in this world.
If you believe they don't exist, then they don't IN YOUR WORLD, once again that is YOUR perception. It is not mine, but you see, I have learned to see things differently and I am grateful for those kind souls, and that is MY PERCEPTION.
It's all in HOW you choose to view the things in the world and how and what you choose to believe that makes your reality what it is.
None of THAT is dictated by the news or any other thing broadcasted on TV.
Even TV and the news is perceived, how ever you choose.
You see war and negativity, I see peace and positivity!
« on: October 08, 2012, 01:48:07 AM »
You already know, you manifested all of this yourself.
What else did you think about or expect from her? Better ask yourself, and also conquer those fears you have because that is what will happen next. This is a story playing out according to your own thoughts, so what else did you include?
« on: October 08, 2012, 01:42:35 AM »
It seems sometimes that some of us try so hard to make sense of HOW things work they don't realize or understand that you are the ONLY person creating your own reality, it works however you THINK it does, no differently. It's simple, so very simple, why complicate it with over thinking?
« on: October 08, 2012, 01:38:26 AM »
Really? You can't believe what you don't see, feel or hear?
Even evidence is perceived. It's all in YOUR mind no matter what. What you perceive may be entirely different to someone else's perception but that isn't what is truly important here, it's what you believe and perceive that is important.
YOU choose how to perceive information, ALL INFORMATION, no one else does that for you. If you want to believe something, change YOUR PERCEPTION of that belief and you have changed the belief itself.
No evidence is needed because in reality, the only evidence you ever have is YOUR OWN PERCEPTION.
« on: October 08, 2012, 01:23:29 AM »
Ha ha Foxie! Gotta say my guy's favorite music is Country and I wasn't a fan. About 6 months ago when I got my new job in the town he lives in I started listening to the Country station each way to and from work. It's about 40 minutes each way and now......OH my, I have become the BIGGEST FAN ever!! And what you say about the words, NOW I know why he loves Country so much! It's like they are telling our story all the time, only I imagine it is always a happy ending and the part I love the most is my riding in the truck with him and singing to the country station for the first time and the look on his face is simply priceless, he is not only shocked that I can sing so well but even more shocked that I know the words! Yep, I'm a Country music fan now and it's all due to the love of my life!
« on: October 08, 2012, 01:02:42 AM »
The first time I did it, I didn't use any recordings at all and honestly it was the best experience ever. I cried and cried but it felt so good and full of love. I did the same thing for a while and then tried a few other methods. I have tried Wendi's recordings and there are actually a few of them not just one and I prefer remote influence over remote seduction since I get too worked up myself and then I just miss him even more. So try a few different ways and see what works best for you.
The first time I used this method, I love it:
One other thing Ginny, I decided to go see a therapist EVEN AFTER my mom went and saw one (A really bad one). I didn't expect them all to be bad just because she saw on that was bad. This therapist my mom saw when I was in HS told her that she was great and that all her problems actually stemmed from her marriage and us kids and her parents. She didn't encourage her to look at herself at all, just blame others and that is what I believe spurred this mid life crisis thing that she went through to begin with but that doesn't matter now, it's in the past.
Point is, I didn't make a generalization about a profession just because I saw a negative outcome from one professional, and even after my own experience I didn't make that judgement. I realize they are all different and you must listen to your own gut when choosing one, if it feels good to talk with them then it's great, if it feels bad, get the hell out of there and FAST!!
So sorry to hear your experiences or perceived experiences with therapists. I put myself in therapy for the 1st time at 19 due to having to deal with my mother's mid-life (or sort of) crisis. I was so afraid I would become like her and her mother, I wasted no time and honestly looking back it was the best thing I did for myself. Each and every time I found myself in a situation where I needed help I could find it in therapy. But for me they are just a sounding board for my own voice, someone to chat with about my own identity and ideas. They aren't there to tell you you are wrong, but to just listen and help you make sense of your life.
I have been so fortunate with good experiences and looking back I only had ONE bad therapist and honestly that woman should be banned from therapy all together. She was new and obviously had her own issues (most do, that is WHY they decide to be therapists) and I was being stalked by a previous boyfriend and this crazy woman kept trying to convince me it was all in my head and I was imagining it. I couldn't convince her otherwise and she was doing way more damage trying to convince me I was crazy then I could handle so I quit her and complained to her supervisors with a letter. Never in my life have I been treated so badly.
But I had other therapists (all after her were great) after her and they were completely and totally fantastic but I have been blessed, I expect to get a good one and I do. I think with the bad one my fear of someone new, who I didn't know and might be nuts herself caused my experience. It was my own thoughts about the entire situation that brought on that situation into my reality.
I remember my 1st one like it was yesterday and it was almost 20 years ago but he introduced me to Wayne Dyer, he was the first person to attempt to introduce me to me creating my own reality (I was just too young and immature to realize it) I will always be grateful to him and miss him.
Today, I am happy to tell you that I AM THE OPPOSITE of my mother, and I am so happy that I instinctively knew I needed to go see that guy to help me, I blessed myself and honored myself.
I truly hope you conquer your aversion to therapy, it can be such a wonderful, life altering experience......In a good way.
« on: October 06, 2012, 12:10:37 AM »
Gratitude is a key part of this process, so yes, you should feel grateful for everything.
When I was just starting I was unemployed and at a low point and I swear I was grateful for toilet paper. LOL!!
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