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« on: April 25, 2013, 07:10:15 PM »
2 Weeks ago, I finally plucked up the courage to sign up for online dating, after being single for more than a year. A guy messaged me and honestly, I felt so comfortable talking to him and he felt the same too, so we arranged to meet up last Sat.
During our date, our conversation seems to flow effortlessly and we had plenty to talk about. The date lasted for about 3 hours with dinner followed by drinks, and he sent me home after that.
To be honest it wasn't a love at first sight for me. He wasn't exactly good looking. But I was so comfortable with him that I was willing to look past that and was hoping we will a few more dates to get to know each other better.
However he didn't arrange for another date again, and his messages also kind of stopped after the date, with our last message exchange on Monday morning, which was initiated by me. (we exchanges messages daily before that)
Well my instinct tells me he is no longer interested in me. I am kind of disappointed. Cause I thought the date went well. On the hindsight, maybe in my eagerness to show that I am a worthy person full of self confidence, maybe I came on too strong, maybe I talked too much, or maybe he didn't appreciate some of my teasing.
Whatever it is, I guess I will never know the reason. I am not inclined to message him again, since the last message was from me. And I know very clearly that he is not showing any signs of interest anymore.
I guess I am disappointed that he didn't give me a few more dates to get to know each other better before writing me off. I do feel a bit sore and hurt..
So just in need of some positive vibes from you guys..
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« on: September 17, 2012, 09:43:14 AM »
I love this thread, this came very timely as I am undergoing some downs and experiencing some self doubts at the moment:
Dear subconscious mind,
Thank you for sharing that I will never know what my dream is and I will just be stuck at my current job for the rest of my life. I trust that my higher self will guide me to fulfil my life purpose regardless. I am capable of doing great things and making a difference.
Thank you for sharing that I am no longer young and time is running out if I want to settle down and have kids soon. I trust that the universe loves me and have the perfect plan for me in mind. When the time comes, everything will fall into place perfectly.
Thank you for sharing that I am not attractive and will never be able to attract the guy of my dream. I believe I am attractive and the universe has made me a truly unique and beautiful person. I will attract the right guy and I do not need any guys who make me feel unattractive.
Thank you for sharing that I am not worth the effort and attention and I will have to fight for attention. I believe I am an interesting person and have much to share. I have enough self-worth and I do not need to fight for it or to prove it to anyone. I do not need anyone who makes me feel less than worthy. It is their loss if they are not interested in knowing me better.
Thank you for sharing that I am such an impatient, unkind and uncaring friend. I believe that I have enough kindness and care towards people around me, but yet I am protective towards my own boundary. I do not cross other people’s boundaries and I do not allow people to cross my boundary and make me feel uncomfortable too. I need personal space and privacy and I have the right to ask people to respect them. I do not sacrifice my own needs just to make other feel better or be accepted by other people. I take care of myself first before taking care of other people.
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« on: August 16, 2012, 07:51:32 AM »
Thanks everyone for your kind replies and encouragement. You have no idea how much they meant to me!
Yes I agree younger guys are fun to be with, part of the reasons why I like them. but that's precisely why I always feel so insecure to be in a relationship with them. Biological clock is ticking and if I want to start a family, I need to look for a serious relationship. I have wasted too much time on fruitless relationship. My worry is these younger guys are are just out to have fun... Why would they marry someone much older at being able to have children because their wife is getting older?
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« on: August 15, 2012, 09:23:51 AM »
Hi everyone,
The good news is I am finally over my ex. I no longer stalk his fb page, and have no more desire to contact hi..
The bad news is I have once again, fallen for someone much younger than me. My past two exes have been younger, 2-6 years difference, and it all didn't end well. This guy is currently going after a younger girl and I know there is no way he will fall for me.
I don't know what's wrong with me, I have guys around me who are of more suitable age and they do express interest in me too, but I have no urge to know them better.
I feel that I might have some hidden issues that caused me to fall for younger guys again and again. These boys, have no reasons to choose me over other younger girls they can have.. So why am I banging my head against the wall?
I am feeling very down now and really appreciate any advices you guys can give.
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« on: July 17, 2012, 01:28:55 PM »
It is becoming clearer and clearer that my ex is not someone I am after.
I reactivated my fb recently and when I look at his profile, the friends he hang out with, and I tried to recall his personality when we were together, I realised that this is not someone I want to be with at all. I asked myself if I really want to be with him, for who he really is, never mind who his friends are. I realised I wanted to be with him because I want to be associated with his then group of friends, but not him, sometimes I even thought I would be embarrassed to introduced him as my bf. I am ashamed to think this way, don't judge me!
But now, he has changed and the group of friends he is now hanging out with, are really not who I want to be associated with.
that's when I realised that I have never loved him for who he was.
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« on: July 13, 2012, 09:50:02 AM »
You may be right that it is just my who. Or maybe I am worried that maybe other people are seeing things about him that I don't see
Why does he have so many friends? Why would pretty girls even find him cute? Am I missing something great?
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« on: July 13, 2012, 08:51:08 AM »
Yesterday night I logged into my fb account, and I went to his profile again.
Suddenly, I don't know what I see in this man! He is not my type at all and I found his physical attributes very unattractive. I looked at his photos and I felt really turned off.
I was turned off even by his posts, the way he talked.
Then I began to remember that even when we were together, there were so many things I do not like about him. I always found him too emotional, too loud, too needy, too hot tempered, and sometimes I even don.t like the way he dressed.
But he was really good and attentive to me, so I always tell myself I should give this rs a bit more time, I didn't find him attractive but I thought I should look passed appearance. Plus the fact that he has many many friends, and among them, are some very attractive girls and they always post on his fb saying how cute and how handsome he is, so I wonder what is it that they see in him that I do not see? I really want to know.
But today I realised that it was my pride from preventing me to let go all along.. Even though I was not really attracted to him and didn't rally like his personality, I persuaded myself to give it a chance. Cause he seems so popular and well liked, maybe I could discover another side of him and fit me well.
But we were not a good for and he broke off with me. I think it was my pride more than anything that prevented me from letting go. Maybe I couldn't believe that he dumped me when I was not even that into him! All the attempts to better myself later, perhaps it was just me trying to prove that he doesn't know me at all and I am actually a lot better than his friends and who is he to dump me etc...
I really need to deal with this feeling of rejection. Any suggestions how I can do that?
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« on: June 24, 2012, 09:54:05 PM »
Day 48
Hi angelelle, hope you have been doing great. Even if he is in a relationship now, it doesn't mean you will never be back together some day down the road. Continue to stay positive!
I had a short strip over the weekend. As I was travelling alone and reflecting on this relationship, it suddenly dawned onto me that perhaps I attracted this too! I reflected on all my past relationships, there were always this fear that my guys will like some other girls more than me. Whether it was true or not, this mindset has created a lot of problems in my relationships. And what you fear most will always become a reality. My relationships always ended with my guys leaving me for another girl, or my guys leaving me because they could not stand me being suspicious all the time.
I don't know is it because I have this fear of my guys leaving me for other girls, so I was always attracting guys who did that to me, or was it because I always have this fear, as a result, I always misinterpret things and think my guys were leaving me for other girls when it was not true. I don't know which is which?
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« on: June 21, 2012, 04:25:49 PM »
Day 45
I caved in to my curiosity.
Though I did not reactivate my account, I logged in another fb account of mine (have it due to work reason) and check out his profile. He set his profile to public, so I could see everything though he is not my friend on this account.
I must admit that after he texted me on day 28, I've been waiting for him to text me again. And as the days went by, I got more and more curious why he didn't text me again and why did he text me on day 28.
this morning I couldn't resist the temptation and went to have a look. He is still the same, nothing has changed in the past 1 month plus. I can still sense from some of his posts that he is pining and waiting for someone. On the day he texted me, he actually posted that he is feeling very lonely. I supposed that explain why he texted me and why he didn't bother to again after that.
To be honest I felt a little wave of disappointment. But I actually felt relieved more than disappointment. At least I know he texted me out of loneliness and it was not a prelude or a sign that he wants to get back together. I don't have to hold my breath and wait for the next text that will never come again.
I wish he had genuinely liked me while we were together and not just using me as a substitute or distraction. I wished he has saw me for the person I was.
I even had this temptation to ask him out and confront him. And tell him I know what he has done. But I don't want to put us through that.
Though our relationship has been shortlived, I do love him in a way and really wish him well.
I really hope to have someone to love and to be loved. I hope that the universe can bring the right guy to me soon!
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« on: June 18, 2012, 07:57:58 AM »
Day 42
I still have not reactivated my acc. I do not miss anyone on my fb and if I reactivated my Acc, it will be because I want to check him out. As long as I have that thought, I know I am not ready.
Frankly speaking after he texted me on day 28, I have been waiting for him to text me again. But he didn't. I wonder why did he text me in the first place, he didn't say anything else except good morning, he didn't even attempt to find out how I was doing! What did he want? Weird.
I had a dream a few days ago. I dreamt that we apologises to each other and we got back together. I could feel the warmth of his hands as we hold each other, it was a beautiful dream and has brought a smile to my face. I look forward to the dream coming true
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« on: June 09, 2012, 10:34:29 AM »
Hey island girl, you have made the right choice! Trust me by removing yourself from his updates, you will feel more at peace. Instead of spending time trying to analyse every single posts on his fb. The time is better spent investing in yourself. Really!
I did the same recently and it's been 33 days since I deactivated my acc, and I'm still counting.
All the best!
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« on: June 06, 2012, 06:15:25 PM »
It's DAY 30!
I survived the challenge! Woohoo!
Guess what, he texted me on day 28. Just a simple good morning msg. I replied that it was a nice surprise to hear from him, then we exchanged a few teasing messages back and forth. And that's it.
I don't deny that I was waiting for him to text me again after that. But he didn't, and I won't initiate either. As I mentioned earlier, I have other things on my mind now, he is no longer my priority. Maybe we could have made it work, but the ball is in his court.
Right now, I am more interested to figure my career path out and hopefully, find my callings.
The past 30 days have been a bit difficult initially. But as days go by, I found that I have shifted the focus back to me. Right now, I am more interested in myself than in him.
I would also like to thank everyone here for your support!
though the.challenge is over, I think I would still like to continue and see how long more I can resist logging in! Maybe, another 15 days more?
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« on: May 30, 2012, 06:29:23 PM »
Day 23
57angel, thanks for your post! You know my biggest wish is to thank him in person. Not to be sarcastic, but to really thank him from the bottom if my heart, if not for him, I will never be who I am today. I really hope we both will have a chance to do that and share that with everyone here.
In just another 7 days I'll be done with this challenge, how did time just flew past? To be honest I don't think I'll reactivate my acc yet though.
Been very busy with my work and also planning for my studies. I also have a few travelling plans lined up till end of the year. There's something to look forward to everyday, every week, and every month. I love my life now!
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« on: May 26, 2012, 04:11:01 PM »
Day 19
In about 10 days time, I would complete my challenge. This journey has not been difficult at all. unlike a few years ago, I tried to do the same to get over a previous relationship, I found myself secretly logging on every time, and everytime dreaded what I might found.
We all have control over our lives, we all have control what information we want to receive. even if I log on and get updates on what he is doing, what good can it possibly do? So what if he is attached, not attached, happy, not happy, what difference does it make to our relationship?
As I reflected, I realised that if I genuinely like someone, if I genuinely want to be a person's friend, it won't make a difference whether he/ she is on Facebook or not. hence it shouldn't make a difference to how many genuine friends I have whether I am on fb or not. I have a few hundred friends on my profile, but how many of them do I really care for? Do I really care if some random friends I have not met in years are sick, have a bad day at work, getting married, broke up with his gf, quarrelled with her husband, resigned, gave birth etc etc etc... I have friends who are not active on fb at all, but I make an effort to ask them out to catch up with them because I care.
Anyway, I really believe that the universe loves me and want the best for me. If only I open my heart and allow it to. It is a strange feeling and I never thought I would feel this way. And who else do I have to thank beside this ex? He broke up with me because he found me too negative, it was really a wake up call for me. I lost a guy because of my negativity. It has led me into this self discovery journey and as a result, I really love myself, love my life so much better than before. For this, I will forever be grateful towards him.
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« on: May 23, 2012, 08:02:49 AM »
I guess we can all choose what works best for us. Thank you! 
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