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« on: December 30, 2010, 03:39:44 PM »
I have a really important question about being a creator of our own reality or a creator of EVERYTHING.
So I know in LOA and quantum physics everything one experiences in their live is created from within however I have been finding gaps with this theory. Two good examples I have are: Firstly, I was driving and I saw all these cars and practising Loa I started thinking that these car exist because something within me manifested all them. But then I thought I never spend my days consciously thinking of the types of cars I will see when I go driving and as I have no interest in cars in general I am cant even believe for a second that my subconscious was thinking of all these cars that I spotted on my drive.
Secondly, there are people on this forum that I talk to and others maybe not but when I read a post and especially with people who have never had pictures of themselves on their profile I like to imagine what the person/people look like. Now say I have made an image in my mind of a few of the members and then suddenly meet them or they put their picture up on the forum and then they do not look anything like I have imagined well then I can not help but think that I am not really the creator of everything in my life. It's like I have black hair but some member not knowing this could imagine me with blonde hair. They could be so adamant from my posts that I seem like a blonde. Now I know I do not have blonde hair. I have never dyed it blonde and there is no way in this world I would ever dye it blonde and I can even say I would 99% likely never wear a blonde wig. So when this person sees me for real I will not be a reflection of this persons inner world imagination of me.
Actually I have come up with two new example as I write. I met my bff while working abroad and I never had imagined her or a bff before meeting her but one of the characteristics is that she has a scar above her lip and when I saw her I noticed this scar because it was distinctive. She didn't tell me about it to exist and it wasn't till several months after I got to know her when she for the first time really mentioned the scar and how she got it. So this makes me think that I did not create that scar above her lip but that it existed before I knew she existed.
And say I have a bag with something inside it and I tell someone to guess what is inside it. If I really get the person to think, visualise and really imagine whatever they want to be inside this bag and they open it up and then the thing they imagine is not going to be in it. And even worse so, if I gave false hints to the person guessing telling them it was a fruit and even going as far as telling them inside I have an apple and they have to guess what colour or brand of apple when in fact what is truly in the bag is completely different and once they look inside whatever is in that bag is not going to be the guessers creation. (How many of did this as kids when we go bday and xmas gifts wrapped up in boxes imaging that it was the newest Barbie or G-i-jo only to be disappointed for Cindy and Ken?)
I am not sure if my ramble makes sense but I suppose I am trying to say is I can not for the life of me understand that EVERY bloody thing is our own creation. I am really hoping someone can shed some light on this for me. So many experts in LOA and physicists are saying that the news we read in the paper, the fat bald guy walking past us on the street, our parents being annoying, being employed at our dream company, finding our soul-mate all comes from within us and It makes sense in some areas and not others. So please someone help me understand this.
« on: December 29, 2010, 02:13:01 AM »
So I am wondering how do we know if something is a limiting belief or its tradition or culture to do something a certain way?
While doing some research I have found not just on this forum but in various other sites and blogs people writing about mantras and meditation and things that are from mystical religions and cultures and although I am not judging anyone for however they do their meditations/mantras. Sometimes I do not even know and at most times feel confused by my own culture and religion because of the many different things people told me while growing and even sometimes now.
Anyway I know traditionally when using a mantra people are supposed to be clean like not eat meat and have bathed and not had s3x and a few other things. Normally I had thought this is tradition and this is how it is supposed to be but knowing LOA I can see it as a limiting belief. Especially if you as the question "Where is God not?"
So anyone have thoughts on this? Especially if you're someone who "practises" or uses methods from a different religion or culture then your own. How do you practise so that you don't violate the long standing practise of your new chosen philosophy?
I ask this so not to judge anyone but rather to understand things better for myself and my future. It is interesting and sad to see people my age in my family are married and having kids and passing on the same traditions without expanding there knowledge and perhaps for them they feel perfectly happy with the way things are but I am not. When I have kids I want them to feel freedom. I want them to be able to live this abundant life that the universe has for us all and to feel good about themselves without having to work at feeling it. So the more I know the easier it will be able to teach them.
« on: December 15, 2010, 12:03:57 PM »
Alright, so I understand why in LOA people say not to give a specific time for something to manifest. So to avoid disappointment, but I wonder why in other areas it is suggested to be real specific and clear as to what it is one wants to manifest.
In, Think and Grow Rich, Hill talks about being clear about the job/company/salary etc. And in advice for attracting a relationship it's advised to make a list of the kind of relationship you want even to write a detailed list of your ideal partner. And this list isn't just aimed at character but even physical features, family dynamics etc of the person.
I can not help but see giving a specific time for something to manifest in two months any different to asking for a job at such and such company with a such and such salary or for an ideal partner who is blonde, green eyed, with a high income job and comes from a good family background.
I mean if you just said I want my perfect soul-mate and perfect job it could be anything that the Universe sees fit for you but something you may not be happy with. For example you really want to work for Apple but you get a job with Dell. Just like you may want your ex but you get someone called Bob.
I just came up with this thought in terms of me looking for my life partner and having made my list of his qualities and wonder, if I say I want certain things about him if there is any correlation to if I want him by a certain time.
Any thoughts welcomed.
« on: December 04, 2010, 04:30:26 AM »
The Other Stuff
Janice bounced into my office and said, "I'm getting married." "To whom and when?" I asked. "To David Brown in September," she said. "How long have you been dating?" "Three weeks. I know it's crazy. I can't believe it myself, but I know David is the one for me."
Later, I discovered that David had been married twice before, had three children, and had lost three jobs in the past year. None of this seemed to phase Janice. "I'm so happy, she said. " I have never been this happy before." Janice is in for a rude awakening. Two years later she was back in my office saying, "I think I've made a big mistake." What Janice illustrates is that "falling in love" is not the foundation for marriage. Better check out "the other stuff."
Falling in Love
Falling in love is a euphoric experience. We become emotionally obsessed with each other. We wake up thinking about them. All day long they are on our minds. The person who is in love has the illusion that his beloved is perfect. Her mother can see his flaws, but she can't. His friends will say, "Have you considered.....?" But he hasn't and he won't because he is in love.
What no one has told us is that this euphoric experience is temporary. We have been led to believe that if we are really "in love" it will last forever. The fact is, it will last for about 2 years. Then you will realize that what your mother said was true. What your friends tried to tell you was real. Why can't we listen before we leap? Family and friends are God's gift. Accept the gift.
The euphoric experience of "falling in love" gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. We feel that we belong to each other. We feel altruistic toward each other. One young man said "I can't conceive of doing anything to hurt her. My only desire is to make her happy." He believes also that she will make him happy.
Such thinking is fanciful. Not that we are insincere in what we think and feel, but we are unrealistic. We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature, we are egocentric. Once we come down off the high we begin to assert ourselves. Without the help of God, marriage will become a battlefield. It's time to pray.
Is It Love?
Some researchers have concluded that what we call "falling in love" is not love at all. For three reasons:
Falling in love is not an act of the will or conscious choice. It just happens to you.
Falling in love is effortless. We do outlandish things with no effort at all.
The in-love experience does not encourage us to help the other person grow. We view them as perfect; no need for growth.
In the Bible, real love is a choice, requires effort, and seeks the well-being of the other. It may start with euphoric feelings, but when these fall aside, real love will continue. Real love doesn't walk away when the feelings subside. Real love is the foundation for life-long positive relationships.
Love is a Choice
We are emotional creatures and one of our deepest emotional needs is the need to feel loved. When we "fall in love" we think we have found the answer. It is heavenly while it lasts. Our mistake is in thinking that it will last forever. It was not meant to last forever. It is only the introduction to the book. The heart of the book is a love that is far more rational, and volitional.
This is good news for those who have lost the "in love" obsession, and are back in the real world. Now you can choose daily to do something that will be helpful to your spouse. To give them affirming words and tender touches. To buy them a small gift and to look into their eyes and say, "I love you." When you do these things, warm feelings return. Learning to speak the love language of your spouse is one way to make the choice to love.
« on: November 30, 2010, 11:00:42 AM »
I was wondering has anyone done the feather/cup of coffee test that is talked about in The Secret to see if the LOA works or exists etc. I know that it works and exists but mostly through looking back at my life and seeing that this and that happened or didn't happen because of my belief in the thing I was trying to attract. And all that was from before I knew about TS and LOA. Anyway I have been trying to do the feather/coffee test and nothing has happened.
When I was living abroad I asked the Universe to show me a gold coin lying around on the streets and I had actually intended that when I did find the coin I would put it in a donation box so it wasn't for me to keep and spend. Anyway that was what I tried to manifest well I left the country without ever finding it.
Since being back I thought of manifesting the book The Power for free and that hasn't come about and I can see it happening but the kind of thing that could take months to years. Well I also thought maybe that isn't a "small enough" thing or something I could say I have a hidden limiting belief about getting it for free. Anyway so I decided to manifest a person. Well this person is no one special and actually I have never spoken to them before nor do I like them. Long story short it is someone that I am obsessed enough to want to see yet unobsessed enough to think about them 24/7 and wonder where they are. I know I can see her when I am going into work into the city and only then do I realise that I have not seen her and realise that I did visualise and she hasn't shown. Also I don't realise I haven't manifested her all the time just on the occasion.
I am not sure why I can't manifest a test of LOA. I read on TS website of people manifesting feathers and unique ones on top of it, within days and short weeks. So if anyone has any tips I would love to know.
« on: November 12, 2010, 03:08:00 PM »
Hey guys, was wondering how do you deal with other people when it comes to LOA. I mean not to attract people but rather to get along with them. I know you are supposed to see the good and grateful things about people who annoy you and that makes sense as this way you concentrate on the things you like and they become to you that good person. But people have a mind of there own. Or should I say issues of there own and if they don't practise being grateful or positive then they will remain whatever personality they decide to act as.
I once read in a relationship book that people act according to there highest value or according to what they think and believe is right and beneficial to them. The best examples I can give are parents and their own way of thinking they know best, spouses who act according to whatever reality they see and colleagues with there own issues. It was through the secret and through clearing methods which talk about the things in your reality are all your own doing but people who don't follow or understand LOA don't know this and tend to play the blame game on others. If you are having problems with other people its because of you so with LOA you can work on yourself or perception to overcome these relationship conflicts on your part yet not on the other persons behalf.
My example is before I knew LOA I would have a conflict with a certain person and if I was attacked by them I would retaliate by attracting them back. Through TS i have learnt to not provoke them or myself when they are attacking me and to respond back with love and gratitude. People who don't have knowledge of them being in control of their reality wanted or unwanted and especially in the unwanted have a tendency to blame others for the problem.
Anyway when this person was attacking me I was calm and I could see in the moment that I wasn't being affected by their words but I could also see that they were pushing there unhappiness on me and making it my fault. I suppose what I am wanting to know is how do you get the other person to take responsibility? I mean what do you even do with people like that? If you're a teenager living with parents who are constantly on you about the 5% you missed on your grades, then the 95% you got because they have issues with perfect marks, or a spouse who is a neat freak and is on you for not having put the cup in the right place, you can't just walk away from those relationships. And because the issue is that they aren't taking responsibility for something that they have a hang up on they play the blame game and say its you. You should get 100% on the math test, you should put the cup in the top shelf etc. Until they recognise its their own obsession not your fault for doing it they will keep blaming you, right?
In my situation I felt that if I got mad, it isn't the person who is arguing with me but my own fault for taking it personal and choosing the emotion of anger. I am okay with what happened but I know the person started the argument according to them "because of me" and as I have taken responsibility I am doing fine. But I know they are fuming and continuing to think I am to blame and its only a matter of time "I will do something else to cause their unhappiness"....So how does one deal with such an issue? How do you, if do you, avoid people putting their sh**t on you?
Any opinions would help clear up some confusion and be gratefully appreciated.
« on: November 08, 2010, 08:53:19 AM »
I just watched this Abraham-Hicks Video and I was confused as. Especially the bit where the lady says she is fine with the house she has but wants another house and then Abraham was like don't talk about what you want.
?? How is she supposed to manifest the house she wants if she doesn't visualise or concentrate on the house?
« on: November 05, 2010, 12:53:35 PM »
Hiya I am hoping people would share there stories or wisdom on aligning religion with LOA. I know that many of the concepts in LOA are found in various religions but the way LOA is encouraged or applied to is more positive than most religious teachings. I am aware that I have some limiting beliefs, well not so much about my religion or LOA but rather ideas that were explained to me about God by the people around me and I am sure many of us have or had a problem with this. So I was hoping people would be kind enough to share how they have dealt or deal with their religion and LOA. Especially if you're surrounded with people in your family or friends who are so adamant they know best and their way of explaining or practising the religion is right.
My example is that before I knew the LOA I always thought as put by John Gray in The Secret "God had some plan for me" Or rephrase Neal Donald Walsh, I thought there was a blackboard in the sky that had already predicted my future. My family has a family priest who is like a psychic. He reads astrology and all that stuff. And I swear every-time he did a reading it was correct and so I became reliant on him to tell me if the job I was applying for was good for me or the relationship I was in, the one for me.
Well when I went abroad is when The Secret and LOA came into my life and I really liked the idea that I could choose my destiny and that I had control of how my life would turn out. This to me was a relief because before with having a psychic I would ask to check if something was right for me and I would want it so badly and then he would say it wont work out then I would give up pursing it. (Obviously in getting to know LOA I realise that my desire may have been at a conscious level and I may have had sub-conscience limiting beliefs but gave up pursing the desire because of my psychic reading meaning I didn't waste energy of applying for jobs or staying in relations that got me no where etc) Anyway TS was a relief and saviour for me and I had found the perfect relationship because of it and perhaps because of it also lost the relationship (through worry and negative thoughts). Well at that point I returned for help to my Psychic and he said the relationship wasn't going to work and I just didn't want to believe it so I used LOA and managed to attract the relationship back only to lose it again. I didn't go back to asking the Psychic for help because I am hoping that until I really believe that me and the relationship works he may keep saying it wont work so I guess I am waiting to really vibrate that I will have the relationship I choose than the one that is perhaps still set out for me. Actually I pretty much avoid my Psychic or at least asking him for predictions but a while back he did a reading for me without me asking and said that my answer was that "it wasn't going to work" I am not sure what he asked and part of me doesn't want to know so not to jinx my head. But also at that time I was waiting for a job reply and it could have been for that and not a prediction for my pursing relationship, because I didn't get the job four days after he told me.
Well that was my story but I am really curious as to how others have made peace with the teaching of their religion by the people who surround then and what they know of LOA. Is there anyone who has absolutely left following their religion? Personally I like my religion and can easily link it to LOA I just have to erase what people who are older have raised me told and think that's all it takes to know best. I have to erase those limiting beliefs. Actually I don't see them as limiting beliefs anymore they where when I first started LOA but rather now I just have to be persistent to listen to what I want and not others. It's like I have to be my own cheerer and supporter. I keep telling myself if so and so believes that they have to take what is given then that is their problem and I will only take what I ask for. How about others?
« on: October 29, 2010, 08:42:14 AM »
Thought I would start a thread to find out what people are grateful for today.
Obviously we all have a lot but would be nice to just hear a few things your're all really thankful for.
Me, I am thankful for the awesome family and friends I have and for all the really cool supportive people on this site.
« on: October 26, 2010, 11:18:15 AM »
I am hoping someone can shed some light on a few questions I have.
1. I am trying to figure out the purpose of the Universe in our lives. Before knowing the LOA I always thought God had planned my life and things were all created for me and I am ever so grateful that this is no longer my truth but sometimes I feel that I become confused about this. For example: I understand why people say not to put a time frame on something you want to attract. Firstly to avoid disappointment and secondly people justify not doing so because the Universe/God etc knows when it is best for you to receive whatever it is you want. At this point I get confused because then isn't that saying that the universe decides what you will get or not. Say for example that you decide you want to get married by the end of the year or find your dream job and you clear your limiting beliefs, take inspired action at ever job application or blind date and yet the year is about to end yet you haven't gotten what you have diligently followed the Ask, Believe, Receive method. Also in cases where you have studied years for a certain job and since your studies imagined working for you dream company and then you graduate and start looking for work but you go no where.
2. LOA and relationship. I am going to give my personal example for this. I understand when people talk about manifesting the partner or your dreams to write about it, get clear and imagine that person. When I look back I did this without knowing about LOA in attracting Peter. He was all the things I asked for and he came to me and even said the same things about me and then this girl came along. Peter and I both believed in forever in relationships and I can tell you that I am very selective in the people I have dated because I know myself well and I...Ah this is n't about justifying why Peter and I should be together but the question I suppose is, I manifested Peter without being specific about a person, but on the qualities of the person and I feel that I got him (Peter)and then lost him. For our relationship it was the other women butting in and being closer to him that broke us up not our feelings for one another. We didn't start to see the bad things in each other we didn't fall out of love with one another this Girrrl just came into his life and was able to convince him that she was the one and she had the power since I was abroad.. I think this is gonna be a long post so hopeful to get to the point. I am wondering with relationships, people say concentrate on the kind of relationship and kind of person you want. Well I got that relationship and Its like do I just keep doing that and find a new person the universe will give me and then again have them leave me for whatever reason and then again I go back to looking for the quality of the person not the specific person. And I am thinking is this it. Do we just keep going round in circles until someone decides to commit to you. FYI I did ask for a permeant relationship or should I say one that leads to marriage. I asked for a man that was ready to settle and commit. I wasn't looking for a date and I never suggested it to the higher power. Most of us who are ready for marriage I am sure mention that they want a life partner and not someone to go to their college ball.
I probably have lots of other questions but will ask later after someone could shed some light on the above two. Are we really in control of our lives/manifestations/realities or does the universe give you what it thinks is right for you? When a relationship gets broken do we spend our lives asking for someone (or thing) just to lose it and keep asking till we get it permanently or until we can be satisfied ?
I hope the questions and example make sense its harder to explain in writing as I get several thoughts and examples but if someone has some thoughts I would love to know.
« on: October 23, 2010, 02:23:49 PM »
Okay guys so I hope this is a sign.
Well this guy who was a good friend asked me out about a year ago while I was living abroad. I wasn't attracted to him and turned him down and he was really hurt by this due to some miss understanding. Anyhow after I said no he stopped talking to me and I was bit upset with this because we were really good friends and we had lots of friends in common and it became hard for me to hear about him through friends even though they didn't know he had asked me out. Well after he got over the rejection we made up but it was more like we were friendly then friends. So I kind of just drifted away form him and found no point in us knowing each other since I was moving home and we were heading in two different directions in life likely to never meet again. Well today the guy added me on facebook. Which I thought was weird because I know that many times Fb suggested I be friends with him since I had deleted him last year and surely they had suggested me to him. And he finally decided to add me.
Second sign is another guy who I had liked had rejected me and we fell out too was recently on msn which I had not seen him for a long while.
Well my point is to say both these guys played in my life a relationship issue that I used eft and affirmation etc to forgive them and myself for the way things became between us and I always yo-yoed as to whether or not I was over it. Now both guys have made contact so I can't help but wonder if this will happen with Peter returning to my life. Especially because FB has suggested Peter as a friend and about two weeks after he broke up with me he did send a message but I have not heard anything more from him but still I feel if J*** & E**** came back then so can Peter.
« on: October 19, 2010, 10:09:41 AM »
Hey hope someone can help me with a question.
I understand that EFT is used to deal with emotions but can it work for memory? Or is there anything that can work on dealing with thought. What I mean to say is that I use eft to deal with negative emotions especial on situations such as getting over the anxious or fearful feeling of loosing my boyfriend. I have found it has helped me a lot. When I see or think of him I am quiet calm and stable. Now I am wondering is there a technique (not hypnosis) something simple like eft that can minimise thought of him, because I know I can't complete lose them (unless it was amnesia also its not healthy to erase certain memories as they have a purpose). I just want to be productive with my memory and thoughts and not waste time thinking of something that I can't unfix so I wonder if there is a way to train my brain to think less about him or any memory that is not useful.
Cheers for any feedback
« on: October 06, 2010, 07:29:30 AM »
Hey just wondering if anyone can answer a question about EFT.
I know how to do it but was wondering when you are trying to rid of two or more problems can you incorporate it in one whole set of tapping or should you do each problem separately? That is to say if I am tapping for relationship and wealth or health should I do 3 different sets of taps or can I put it into one? Also if its separate taps can you do one after the other or should you do them after a time period (10 mins or 1 hour) or one a day?
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