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Messages - qkqking
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« on: January 14, 2011, 02:01:24 PM »
Hope he gets well soon!
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« on: January 11, 2011, 05:29:54 AM »
qkqking,
Its been a bit since I have written anything on the forum. I have been reading it though.
Q, letting go, to me, means not caring whether she comes back or not. That is releasing and allowing. When you get to that point where you no longer have what I will call a "vested" interest in her, thats when she will most likely circle back around your way.
That being said, she may not. This is why you need to be happy with, or without her. You need to be happy no matter what happens with her, or what doesn't happen with her.
This to me is the most difficult thing in attracting an ex home. (My heart is what I call home)
As for what else can you do to attract her? Just keep loving yourself, however you have to do that, whether it be through a hobby, working out, writing, whatever makes you happy that does not include her.
Feel free to date, go have fun with your friends.
Put your intentions out to the Universe, be thankful for them as they are already in your reality, then release them, let go of the hows, whys, whens, wheres, and let the Universe do as it does best.
The Universe may set up a situation that lets your ex see you as very attractive again, it may not. Instead maybe it will offer to you a situation to attract someone much better for you.
You don't know these answers, nobody does. But then again its nobody's job to know these answers, not even yours.
As far as believing, yes believe, believe anything that your heart desires, even your ex coming home. But you must let go to the point that it bothers you not, if she doesn't come your way ever again.
That is letting go, thats when they almost always come knocking on your door again.
The Law of Attraction will not hand you anything, at best it will, by your allowing, create a situation that will give you the opportunity to achieve your desires, whatever those desires may be. Keep you eyes ans ears open for these opportunities because they will come, then its up to you to manifest your desire.
If you can hold on to a love of your ex, and at the same time let it go to the point where you only want for her happiness no matter how she achieves it. Then I would bet that she will come around again in some form or another. If it is not her, I promise you will be pleased with who it is.
Good job on the birthday card.
It sounds like she is open to communication with you.
I am not understanding why you don't open up a dialog with her.
You don't have to move fast or flood her with emotions, just be her friend and let her become attracted to you once again, naturally.
Hope this was helpful to you.
Peace and Love,
BlondeWop
It's been a while that I have not written or read in the forum. It's good to see you again! All of your words are appreciated. The reason why I didn't continue to contact was because on the card I didn't just simply write happy b day. I actually wrote that I've been busy and working(she doesn't know that I have a job now), and I also mentioned a song that she used to sing to me, the lyrics imply the couples get back together after the break up and then happily till the end. But she only texted me that she got the card and thanks a lot  She didn't say anything else, and I have no idea what I should keep doing. Talking to girls is not so hard to me, I can always talk to them(and she got mad at me when I talked to other girls). But this time, I really don't know what to say with her... In these months being single, I have to say, this isn't so bad. I get to do whatever I want, I have fun with girls(just talking and teasing a bit), hanging out with friends, I don't have to worry about her safety etc. But I still want to get back with her, the good time we shared is just pure and lovely.
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« on: January 11, 2011, 05:15:31 AM »
@king, I feel that I must respond to your post because you are exhibiting the reaction of the typical person looking for answers without the, rather than within.
You've been talking about applying LOA. There is no such thing, so let it go. The Law of Attraction is simply the statement, "Like attracts like." That's it. That's all. Is it true? I believe so, but that's just me.
All of the visualization, journaling, meditation, affirmations, letting go, etc, are actually steps in the process of DELIBERATE CREATION. Deliberate creation is possible, in part due to LOA, however, LOA ain't what you're doing son. You can't do LOA. It's simply a universal law and it's been pumped up to more than is necessary, due to the hype of "The Secret." Which is a good thing, so take a deep breath and relax.
whenever I get fun things to do, good restaurants and good movies to go, I picture she and I going there and having fun together. Maybe this's one kind of visualizing?
This is not one kind of visualizing, this is visualizing. There is no need to spend hours getting every little detail right. Merely allowing a beautiful, passing thought to occupy your mind for a nano-second is more than enough to ensure that your dreams will come true.
Letting go does not mean not caring about the outcome. It means accepting the fact that the desired outcome will happen. However, it may not happen in the way you initially wish it to happen. Sometimes, the outcome happens in an unexpected way. Yet, when it happens, you're so happy how it happens, you don't care that she's wearing a blue dress when you've been envisioning her in yellow!
You are so right! Now I kind of know why she hasn't came back yet. As you mention about my "visualizing", I thought that they were just merely thoughts, but it turns out that they were actually visualizations! I think I have made a lot of bad visualizations, sometimes I think about what my life would be without her, or I should have done something when we were together, and not it's too late etc. Those thoughts/visualizations are actually the opposite of what I want to attract. But they just came out of my mind, and I couldn't help it. And I now think this might be one of the reasons that we have to let go, so we reduce all the bad visualizations, and only keep the pure good ones.
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« on: January 06, 2011, 09:26:28 AM »
It's been about 4 months since the break up. I have been being positive and happy most of the time. And been trying my best applying LOA. I don't really visualize a lot, but whenever I get fun things to do, good restaurants and good movies to go, I picture she and I going there and having fun together. Maybe this's one kind of visualizing? I find it really hard to let go, I know letting go is to not care about the outcome, but how? I think there are two type of "not caring about the outcome": one is that I trust and believe that the universe is bringing her back to me 100% for sure. So I'd not have to worry at all. Another one is to be okay if she doesn't come back. Which it doesn't matter if she comes back or not, I can be happy with her or without her. Which one is the better one? Or both of them are good ways of letting go? And what else I should do to attract her back? Please suggest! By the way, for the ones who have read my post before, that I didn't call or mail her the letter. But I did write her a birthday card, and she texted me saying thanks a lot And I didn't continue the contact, because I really didn't what to do next...
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« on: December 06, 2010, 09:30:08 PM »
Here is the previous post: http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/contacting-ex-good-idea-or-not/I got positive answers to contact my girl. So I am going to contact her, but it's been 3 months since we broke up, and more than 2 months without contact. I don't know how I should contact her... Any advices? Here are two ways that I think might be good: 1. Write her a letter: Since she wrote me one(about 2 months ago), so good to write one back. So I wrote this letter already but haven't mailed it yet. I wrote down a lot of thoughts on my mind, mostly about relationship and love. And how the problems we had, should be no problem. And I said I love her in the letter. I didn't write down anything like that I am begging her to come back, but it's easy to tell that I still love her and would like to have her back. I myself found this letter so touching, even I cried a bit when I wrote it and when I read it through  BTW I didn't write down the reason why I didn't respond to her "friend request" and birthday text) I really don't know if giving her this letter is a good idea. Because I really don't know what she feels right now, and I am kind of afraid that she turn me down again. Or maybe she still has feelings for me, but this letter might add too much pressure on her.(like forcing her to come back or not) Or any suggestions what I should or should not write in the letter if you think it's a good to write her one. 2. Call, text or message her online. Since she asked me to still be her friend, maybe I should start by being her friend first and attract her again. But I really don't know what to say to her, I don't want to talk like an idiot asking her how she is doing and today is sunny etc... Most of the time, when I have something on my mind, I don't know what to talk besides the thing on my mind. So in this case, I don't know what to say besides "I love you and still want to be with you". So please let me know what you think. Anything helps, and appreciated. By the way, I want to thank to everyone who replied my previous post, thanks a lot  And HelpingitHappen, I have to say you are the MAN again! Your words are so encouraging, thanks so so much my friend.
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« on: December 03, 2010, 08:43:59 PM »
I would like to have some female opinions here, for sure male opinions are appreciated too.
Like I said I wrote the letter, but not ready to mail it yet. I wrote down a lot of my thoughts and I love her at the end of the letter. I didn't beg her to come back, and didn't write down how we could solve our problems... But I wrote down that if there is love, there should be no problem, and if there is, we will solve it together. And that's what we believed that if we have love, we'll solve any problem. But she gave up, hope she'll realize that we really could solve all the problems we have. One of the problems was that I got mad often, I thought it should be no big deal, because when I get mad I basically don't talk. That's what I do when I get mad, I don't talk. She told me she was scared that I get mad... But I have EFT now, guess I could release all my anger soon whenever I get mad. I think my letter is so touching to me, I cried when I wrote it at the end, and I cried when I read it over today...
What do you all think? Anything I should add to the letter or something I shouldn't write in the letter?
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« on: December 03, 2010, 08:05:03 PM »
@Vicki Christina
The reason why I didn't respond to her "friend request" was because the talks we had after break up, they were really just me saying hi and asking her questions such like how's going? what you doing? and she just answered. It wasn't like good friend talking or chatting. And I don't just want to be friend with her, and especially that kind of "friend".
It was totally my fault forgetting to reply her birthday text.
@HelpingitHappen
You are the MAN!! I do love her much, and I realized how much I love her after the break up, might be much better if I realized when I was still with her. And man I saw your post yesterday, and guess what? I wrote the letter immediately! But I haven't mailed it yet, it is like 5 pages long... I really have much on my mind lol
@IAmLovely
I truly love her, I just didn't know what to do. And you are right, there are girls interested in me, and I know it won't take long for me to find another girl. But I LOVE her, that's why I am here. And I really don't know the main reason caused her to break up, she was finding excuses to break up. She mentioned a lot of small problems, I don't know which one was the main reason.
@magdog2765
Good luck to you! Hope we all get our love back!
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« on: December 02, 2010, 05:08:10 PM »
I need some advices from you. Not necessary about LOA, more like from all your perspectives or life experiences. Anything helps, and appreciated. It's been about 3 months since we broke up. It wasn't like she dumped me, just she asked to break up. We were having a fight that day, and she said she still loved me, but didn't want to be with me no more. I did ask her to stay and give us one more chance(actually I kind of begged her back), but she refused. So I let her go. But we were still friends, we said hi and talked a bit online. One week later, we went to a show, because we bought the tickets when we were still together. We had fun that day, at the end, I asked her if we really had no chance to be together. And she said no. We didn't contact each other after that. And weeks later after we back to the states, she asked to see me and returned me the books she borrowed from me, and gave me a letter. In the letter, basically saying that she thanks me for the good time we shared, and she was sad to make this decision, but she thinks it's right. She said she realized that we wouldn't get married, because we got so many problems. And that's why she gave up. At the end, she asked if we could still be friends. I haven't replied her, and since then, we never contact each other. Maybe she thinks that I don't want to be friend with her, so she never contact me... So I have been applying LOA for more than two months(after she handed me the letter). She is not back to me yet, and like I mentioned, she never contacted me. She actually texted me happy birthday on my birthday. And I forgot to reply  What do you think? I have been waiting her to say she still love me and want to be with me. Should I contact her first? I had thought about writing her a letter. I'm not going to beg her back in the letter, just to let her know what I think, let her know that I still love her, and let her know all the problems between us could be solved. Hope the letter is touching enough to make her come back. Do you think writing this letter is a good idea? My friend told me it's not a good idea, but I really have no idea what else I can do besides rely on LOA. I am so grateful that I found this forum and have all the supports from you 
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« on: November 25, 2010, 07:32:18 PM »
Sending you much love and light
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« on: November 04, 2010, 12:24:58 PM »
Hi, I have questions on visualizing. When I visualize my girl and I are chatting or having fun, somehow I cannot see the clear face of her. I know she is the one I am talking with, but her face is really not clear. And sometimes I just think of the good time we had, or the fun things we did together. Is that visualizing too? Or I should visualize something I want we to do in the future? And when I am visualizing, I can feel the good feelings, but I know it's not real. I know I am just visualizing... Do you guys can really feel like you already have the thing or the person you want when visualizing? Thanks for the helps
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« on: October 13, 2010, 12:29:32 PM »
I am happy no matter what And thank you for loving me!
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« on: October 13, 2010, 12:16:03 PM »
This idea came up to me last night, I have no idea why. I believe LOVE is a good positive energy, so why not get some good pure love energy flowing in this forum? And by getting so many people saying they love me, really make me feel I am so super attractive, attractive enough to attract anything I want Everyone gets 2 votes
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« on: October 07, 2010, 06:39:29 AM »
Hi, I am told that don't get obbessed with something because that creates some desperation. Or in my case, not to get obbessed with the idea of getting my girl back. I also read this article http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-in-action/relationship/get-your-ex-back-relationship/#It mentions that "More badly you want, faster it will manifest." I am kinda confused right now, because if I want something really badly, I get to think about it all day. Isn't it like the idea of getting obbessed? Somehow I know I must misunderstand something on this, so please correct me! Thanks for all the helps
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« on: October 06, 2010, 07:37:40 AM »
You need to start clearing away all the doubts you have. Should I do this,this this etc. Act on all your insights, ideas etc.
I did act on my idea one time... that was a week after we broke up. We went to a show together, we bought the ticket before we broke up, so we decieded to wactch the show together anyway. So I was thinking about if that date went well, I would ask her to give us another chance. Fortunately, that day went pretty well, we were talking and had fun. so at the end of that day, I asked her if she wanted to give us a chance to be together again. But she said NO because she felt happy and had fun these days with her friends, she just don't feel like she wants/needs to be with me... I know I have to clear all the doubts and have faith... I had failed once acting on my idea, and now my insights are telling me to let her know how much I love her, how badly I want to be with her... But I am so affraid that she will say no again. Now really I can feel positive mostly throught everyday, and I do feel great visualizing I am with her happily. But there are still negative thoughts come up into my mind somtimes and I once I notice it, I just try to think about the good happy things, then I kind of feel positive again.
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« on: October 04, 2010, 10:12:23 AM »
It really hurted for me to visualize/think of my girl, because I felt so mad and blaming her for why she be so heartless or something. And it hurted because I thought I would have no chance to be with her... But now, I have those sweet and positive feelings when I visualize/think of the good time I had with her, because I know she is coming back, and we will have more good memories. So should I be visualizing whenever I have time? And when I am not visualizing, I just forget about her and this, and just enjoy my life? And I know it is a really dumb question, do I have to do anything else besides BELIEVE this? I mean like since she and I dont really phone or text right now, I don't know if should text her or call her to get her back? Or I the only thing I need to do is to belive and fully let go, because the univese knows how and when is the best? I really appreciate all the helps
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