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« on: September 19, 2010, 03:44:53 PM »
So here is my story and I would greatly appreciate any advice people could give me. I was living abroad in Asia and joined a social networking site where I met a guy from Europe. Long story short we eventually ended up having feelings for each other and even though we had not been to each others country but mostly just skyped we came to have a long distant relationship. We even had planed to be together once my work finished. By together I actually mean marriage and children which we openly and honestly spoke of. I admit sometimes I had doubts about our future because we are both different cultures and countries and I started listening to family voices about marrying into another culture. One day my man and I did break up and this was mostly with his insecurities of me being far away, however I did manage to manifest him back to me after two weeks. When he broke up with me I was devastated and knew at that point that I truly wanted to be with him despite what my family would think so I used eft to clear my limiting beliefs and LOA to attract him back. When he came back he said that he tried to forget me but couldn't and since then, on my behalf I always stayed positive and visualized us eventual together.
Well, this July I returned home and when I was on skype I saw he had a pic of him with some girl and then he told me that he met someone and this girl was someone who he also met from the social network site we met. He said it was all so quick meeting her and that he had not spoken to her for a long time until one day she emailed him and visited him. I know with evidence that he was not talking to/planing a future with her while we were together for the year we were corresponding. Anyway he said he met her and even though I was not happy I pretended to wish him well and hoped he be happy and he still wanted to be friends which I was ok with. I read on fb 3 days later that he was going to visit this girl and it was upsetting to see him off with someone else but I still hoped he would return to me. Then a week after he went and saw her he was online and we started talking and planning our future again and although he told me about the new gf last week I never asked about her and just enjoyed that we were the way we used to be. Eventually I did ask about her because I felt like I needed to know what the deal was. He said he was in love with us both which I find hard to believe. I mean his love for her, since they only just re-met and he and I were talking EVERYDAY about our future for a year. One day we had a conversation and he pretty much was making me compete with her. He said he told the other girl about me and she said she would fight for his love and that she couldn't live without him and although I felt/feel the same I didn't want to say these things because that to me in manipulating to tell him to choose me or I will die. I asked him to choose so that he will be happy and also in hopes him choosing me would mean he loves ME.
Well, being so far away, him and her in Europe and me in the Pacific he chose her and has shut me out of his life. You would think that is enough to tell me to move on but I feel like he chose her out of a simple fact that she is closer by. From what I have gathered their love is in the infatuation stage and they are seeing the relationship with rose colored glasses whereas I was a lot more mature minded and logical. Me and this guy were two years apart in age and this new girl is 7 years and I feel that she will not be ready to give the life he wanted with me and if she does well I am certain from reading books by numerous relationship experts love is not enough of reason to say to people are meant to be....Anyway I just want to know in others opinion is there still hope for me and him? I keep thinking that he will wake up and realize that he made a mistake and that he is just having a crises, like when married men have affairs or leave their wives for something new and younger because they get to used to what they have and then realize that the new gf has become old and boring or just simply that the grass is not greener on the other side. If anyone could give me their two cents I would appreciate it. I really want him back but since he has erased me off his contacts how do I get him back?
I also should mention when we were "together" I used to imagine us married and living in Canada where we had decided would work for us being of different countries. I used to even imagine our kids with some of his traits and some of mine and doing family things. Like making our own traditions of both our cultures. I really had visualised and truly believed in this family of ours and even shared it to my best friend. This visualisation was always so real even though I didn't have the reality of it I never felt any lack until he made his choice with her. Sometimes not seeing this imaginary life causes me more upset. I could sometimes even hear our family conversations and laughter. Not like a crazy person but like a person truly applying visualisation for manifesting.