Before I can move on I have to know what I am moving towards.
Bingo! *Hi5*... You got it.
Not knowing where you want to end up is like journey without destination, which is good if you want to be a hippie. But if not, put some efforts into deciding what your future will be like
But what if I just wanna be happy, safe and loved with my bf ?
And he is not giving me it? But I love him so much, and I wanted to attract him back 1 year and finally did this, and now he is not giving me all this things as should be in relationship? That means that he is not for me ? For me he is just for me he is my love, and I just wanna be happy with him.
NOTE : I am not judging anything. I am just trying to help you get even bigger and better perspective.
The essence of the post I made here is to ask for the feeling and not the thing/way to get it.
Now when you say "I want to be loved by my BF and he's simply not doing that". No matter how many "I AM" affirmations you make, not matter how many PSTEC/EFT rounds you take. YOU STILL BELIEVE IN BACK OF YOUR MIND THAT YOU ARE NOT GETTING YOUR DESIRES. What you believe you receive. Now if your belief is not getting love from that person, then obviously that is what LOA is rewarding to you.Now Giggles is thinking - Ok, I got what you are trying to say, but is it wrong to expect love from my ex?
The answer is NO - Taking LOA into consideration, your desire is to be loved by a desirable person. And by wanting to attract your ex back, you are trying to NARROW down your chances for universe to manifest it. You are forgetting abundance mentality and you are so much dependent on the outcome.
This might sound harsh, BUT think really deeply on this. Do you really believe you can't be loved by someone even better? Do you really believe that your EX is the ONLY person in the world you can get along with? Do you really want that person back or are you wanting the person back just because its easier to get him? Do you really want that person or you are just scared that other person might also treat you badly as your ex did?
Dig deep. Know the root cause. Identify the feeling and ASK FOR THE FEELING. It sounds hard to digest at first. But hey, you've been doing the same thing for an year without getting results.
If you keep doing the same things, you continue to get the same results. Life is all about experiments.
You are beautiful and wonderful human being and you deserve better. Know thyself
All the best
I've always wanted to have a successful career doing something I love, and hopefully gaining some recognition as well. Being a bestselling novelist and/or a successful actress are among my most fervent desires. If I boil those things down to the essence of what I want, I guess it's happiness, excitement, and financial freedom.
Brilliant. You already know the feelings you want to attract.
Okay, say I ask the universe for those things. I'm worried that what the universe comes up with might be kinda lame. There are plenty of people who are financially independent and happy who work typical nine-to-five jobs or are homemakers or what not. It's great that people can be happy with those things, but I've always wanted something more. What if by just asking for happiness and financial freedom I end up content with a "mediocre" life?
I am going to rephrase what truelove has said. She's spot on.
First thing. NEVER EVER DOUBT UNIVERSE.
Worries arise from the deep beliefs. Seems like your belief is you will always get lesser than you deserve. Such beliefs develop because of your childhood and/or social conditioning. Try to recall the incidents in your past that made you believe in this.
In your case, if universe rewards you with typical 9-5 job, will you be happy? NO. So don't worry about universe giving you that. You know what makes you feel good. And you ask universe for the good feeling. Universe only knows to provide you with what you want.
Ending up with mediocre life is your fear. Now this is why I don't like the idea of "lazy manifestations" or "actions are not important". If you want more and you are taking conscious actions towards that "more" then how can you get something mediocre?
Are you getting my point?
I think you are thinking too much on this.
What I will suggest is, you first give it a try and see for yourself.
I am not really able to put this into accurate words to convey what I really mean.
In theory, I should trust that whatever comes will ultimately make me happy, but I still can't help feeling like I might be settling for less if I let go of the Big Dreams, yanno?
Letting go simply means, you must not be DEPENDENT on the outcome. Its the fact that your ACTIONS SHAPE YOUR FUTURE. What you are now is the result of actions you have taken in the past. And what you are doing now will define your future. So Keep working on you BIG DREAMS all the time, but without worrying whether they'll manifest or not.
1) why is it so that in order to attract money we are supposed to figure out why we want it, how we're going to feel once we get the stuff we'll be able to afford when we get the money, etc etc. but we attract the lack of money (or most other negative stuff) - no questions asked. it comes directly as we fear it and not because it's some indirect feeling that might lay in our subconsciousness. if you focus on lack of money, you'll get the lack of money, not the final unpleasant situation but with all your money still in your pocket.
Number 1 :: Universe doesn't understand your words. Infact its not even listening to what you are verbalizing. All Universe cares about and understands is your TRUE feelings, no matter good or bad.
So considering the fact that your words are not audible to the universe, how can we convey to the universe what we want? Simple, convey the feeling you will be experiencing once you get that money. For universe the word money is simply a combination of vibrations produced my human beings. Its just meaningless.
Now I liked the question you've asked here. Why is it that we attract lack of money without even asking a question.
To be honest my friend, I don't really have answer for this right now. But may be it is because, if you are living in debt, then "lack of money" is easier to believe than "abundance of money". And what you believe, you receive.
This might be the reason. I will think on this and get back to you once I am having the answers and clarifications.
PS :: This is a research project so all your queries are welcome and PLEASE DO SHARE your thoughts on this. Your question has fortified this theory..
Please DO PARTICIPATE
2) if this theory were true, then all the talk about deliberate creation doesn't hold water. if i want money, for whatever reason, then give me the damn money, even if it's a pile of worthless, inflated paper, like italian Lire were or similar. i asked for the money and not some abstract thing. if i'm still not happy when i get it, i'll deal with it then.
speaking of which, i became aware of this phenomenon long time ago. i manifested some things that were not like i imagined them, but they were exact things i asked for. being aware that i got what i asked for, i was grateful (and still am to this day) for these things as if they fulfilled all the things i was imagining when i was making the wish.
Its getting complicated, isn't it?
Now the irony is there is this confusion here. Whether or not money will make you happy. Confusion is the biggest guarantee of not not getting what you want. Confusion = No Alignment. And that is why its easier to attract negative. Because negativity has lesser confusions.
You've made a few brilliant points here. We need to invest some more brains into it.
But one this I believe is, if you are able to EMULATE the feeling, then that is the fastest way to manifest your desires. And to EMULATE something you must know what you are doing and WHY...
So I guess the question is f I can see love in all of these other aspects why can't I see it the way I want it. hmmmm? Or is it purely because I 'feel' that it is missing?
Whats up? Trust universe.
The problem might be there because you want THE WAY YOU WANT IT, which is not necessarily be the best for you. Universe might have arranged something even better for you... THE WAY YOU WANT IT DEPENDS ON YOUR BELIEFS.
and also when you "feel" that it is missing, are you sure you haven't started to believe it?
Food for thoughts. Buy some chips and cold drink, go to the mountains or some place where you are lonely and silent. And think over it