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Huh? What's the problem?
1. You have an awesome job that pays you a shit ton.
2. You've got a girlfriend who adores you.
3. Your ex called you even though she didn't have to and if it were me and I hated your guts and didn't want anything to do with you...I would've just deleted your number and left it at that.

Sorry I'm totally missing the point, but who cares what her mother says? Parents tend to be out of the loop even when they are close to their kids.

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There needs to be more posts on this.
I once won $3.00 from a scratch off ticket and then $7.00 from a lottery ticket that I got for free (it was some promotion where if you filled up your tank of gas, you got a free ticket).  But that's been it for me. Both times I had this feeling money was coming. But after that nada.

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he contacted me when i finally really stopped caring at all and the day before i posted even on here that i dont care about having him anymore in my life or not and i meant it. i was sooooo ready to move on..... BAM. again something which is was waiting for, came when i felt its not worth anymore  to put efforts or hopes into it. i had given up my hope completely. right after that he contacted me after 7 months, out of nowhere.

Funny how they do that. When you're completely over it, there they appear. 

i am over him now completely, this last contact gave me big insights and i wonder how i could even ignore these red flags from the beginning. 
well, he surely doesnt deserve me and i was never that done with him as i am right now.
i moved on completely already 

So glad to hear that.

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Just turn it around. Change your thoughts and start focusing on being healthy.

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^or that.

Whatever's clever Trevor. 

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I think letting go of trying to control the situation and focusing on yourself is a great idea.

As for your wants...maybe they need some fine tuning? I mean, you got exactly what you asked for which is pretty amazing, though it had some bad side effects. Just some suggestions...

Instead of:

I wanted someone who didn't make me the centre of their life and had their own.

I want someone who doesn't rely on me for their happiness, but still makes it clear and obvious to me that they love me.

I wanted to minimize seeing him during the week.

I want someone who gives me space when I'm busy or stressed, yet still keeps in touch from time to time to make sure I'm alright and let me know he's thinking of me.

I wanted someone who had goals and dreams.

I want someone who has goals, dreams and is still able to pursue them while making time for me.

I hate texting and wished we didn't text too much.

I want someone who makes phone calls (well that's what I'd prefer over texting, insert what you'd prefer ) instead of texting all the time.

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Praying for you. I know you'll be better soon.

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To put effort into trying to make him love me, doesn't feel like I am loving myself.

Yeah, I feel the same way. I feel like I should be enough the way that I am and shouldn't have to do all this stuff to be loved in return.

I admit I don't really trust the Universe in this area. I mean surely it should have bought me my man by now.
But it hasn't. How can I trust it when it has forsaken me for a decade in this department.
Heck I can't even get a date!

It's been years for me also, wish I knew the answer to that. Guys appear all the time, but I either don't like them or handle the situation poorly.

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I suppose that's a silver lining. The tighter you hold onto sand, the faster it pours out of your hand.

Awesomeness, I've been following your story. I still think you need to take care of yourself. Also surround yourself with caring positive people...especially with the holidays coming up.

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I've been through that feeling more times than I'd like to admit. The other day I was super upset and fell on my hands while climbing the stairs. It was bad, but it kind of snapped me out of the mood I was in because it was like a scene from a movie and I had to laugh at the cheesiness of it.

I've found these mood swings to mean that there's something else in my life that needs attention. Like I need to make sure that I'm getting enough sleep, eating well or I need to take a day off to relax and get organized or spend some time with friends and have fun. Sometimes it means I need a new project or goal to get focused on. Sometimes it's just PMS.

Anyway, I do hope you feel better. 8 weeks really isn't that much time to have passed.

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Wow, it seems I should talk more about relationships if I want anyone around here to care at all...

Not even one bit of support for all my progress. Maybe this forum isn't the place for me.

 

Eep! Sorry. I often forget how important it is to celebrate the good times. It sounds like you're in a really good place and everything is coming together. It reminds me a lot of those success stories where they say things just happened. 

I'm not sure what the feather means, first thought was of the Secret and the feather example...which isn't much help. Same thing with the bees. No clue what that means.

Also, please keep updating about your progress outside of the dating world. I'm so over the whole romantic relationships thing right now. I'd rather hear about people going after their dreams.

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If you didn't know about the other girl, would you have called him back? If you would've, then call him. If you wouldn't have. Then don't. I've been re-attracting the same guy for years...one thing I've learned is that it doesn't matter if you screw things up because there's always a chance to reunite...if you want to.

Yup, the only thing that matters is you. Don't concern yourself about why he's with her or why he's trying to talk to you...all of that is unimportant and will just make you miserable. You've got to really get connected with you. Find out what YOU want in this situation and make your decisions based on that. I've never regretted doing something that I wanted to do even though things ended badly. I have regretted doing things I didn't want to do, but did anyway because I thought it'd make someone happy or for whatever stupid reason.

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Glad it wasn't serious and sending good vibes.

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I wish you guys coudl come and live in my shoes for a day and see what it's really like and then give me some advice on what I should do. 

Been there, done that, moved cross country and got my own place. Also, that's more whining^

When it comes to moving, I don't think there's anything I CAN do.  We can;t move until my dad either decides to transfer or look for another job, and he's virtually impossible to talk to about that, and I don't know of anything else I can do.  I think the only reason we're still here is becuase he doesn't like change.  Not just in big stuff, but in everything. 

That's an excuse. (Also no offense, but if you're both relying that heavily on your dad for income, then you don't have the right to push him to move. He's doing you two a favor by supporting everyone.)

My moms current job allows her to work from home, which also allows her to homeschool us (though I'm technically graduated).  I can guarantee 100%, she would never take a job working for someone else.  She's an entrepreneur-type, and I am a musician-actor and wouldn't last long in a "regular" job, either. 

That's another excuse.

An excuse is just a well-planned lie and you're lying to yourself that you can't do what you want to do. All you're focused on is how everything depends on your dad and you're shutting out all other possibilities that could come through your mom or yourself.  I mean, if you're a creative type, then find creative type jobs or do what all the actors/actresses in LA do until they hit it big - work part-time. If she's an entrepreneur, then she needs to figure out how to earn more or find another stay at home job that pays better.

Feng Shui and vision boards are great and all. But if you're not putting yourself out there, you're going to miss out on huge opportunities.  Personal example. I worked part-time at a crappy job in FL, while there, I made friends with this one lady.  She quit and I thought I'd probably never see her again. Months later, I used that crappy job to get me to CA.  While at that crappy job in CA, the lady I had made friends with called me up and set me up with a job that matched exactly everything I had wanted to attract into my life. I now work full-time, have enough money to do fun things, barely work hard (cause now I've got an assistant and lots of help) and I get to meet celebrities from time to time. That wouldn't have happened if I just did Feng Shui and didn't look for work.

Anyway, start looking for work and open a savings account to put your change in. Also, look up the cost of a plane ticket and hotel reservations. When you know how much stuff costs it makes saving a lot easier.

Oh and read the Millionaire Next Door.

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What's messed up is that you and your mom keep blaming your dad, when both of you are doing what he's doing. Nothing.

Like the trip to Hawaii change jar...if you really wanted to go to Hawaii, then you would've put that money in a bank account he couldn't have access to or you would've found a way to make back that money instead of complaining about how he took some small amount to wash his car.

I mean if your mom was sick and only had 24 hours to live and the only way to cure her was to buy this really expensive medicine that cost a $1000. I'm pretty damn sure you'd find a way to get that $1000 before the 24 hours were up, not make some lame change jar.

That's the sort of attitude you and your mom need to have. All this whining and not doing anything because you're afraid to the make the wrong move is what's holding you two back. You're 18! Go find a better job or work two jobs! And your mom, she should just start applying places that pay better. Who cares if it's the perfect job? She just needs to put herself out there and experience life so she can find what would be perfect for her. It's not like she has to stay at the job forever if she doesn't like it. Heck, maybe she could get a second job too so you two could go to Hawaii sooner.

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