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Hopefully this will be short but I had a thought that we should be the kind of person who want to be with. If we want someone who is confident we should be confident. If we want someone who is kind be kind...etc.

If an ex came to you and said? "I'm so happy you took me back, I spent hours meditating and doing Remote Seduction just to get you back in my life" Wouldn't you feel a sense of desperation there.

I had an ex who came back several times to me and though I was miserable when he left I never tried to win him back. I remained friends with him. I was nicer to him because well I was still in love with him but I had NO hopes of convincing him to be with me. I never brought up our break-up, and I avoided speaking about his GF. Actually, I pretended she didn't exist. And a year later he confessed his love to me.

Another ex, told me all these nasty things he hated about me and it hurt. Tore me apart. I asked if he was willing to look past those things and when he hesitated. I told him I wasn't going to convince him to be with me or convince him to like me. I stopped speaking to him and just did what I needed to feel better. A few days later he came back asking what we can do to make it work because he loved me.

Both times I was still very much in love with these guys. I was really hurt but I also knew I deserved someone who wanted me as is. I think my confidence and my strength is what drew them back to me. It's sexy.

Don't you think the person you want to attract back wants the same from their partner? Someone strong. So BE that person, BE everything you want. BE CONFIDENT.

You can still love them, you can be sad. You can downright have a pity party every day. But know that a person who can't see your worth isn't worth your energy or time.

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This is unbearable, she posted this quote "The difference between a boss and a lider: A boss says go and a leader says lets go"

Ok what the hell is going on there??

Tammy....seriously....TAMMY! Under what circumstance could this ever translate to mean she and your guy are together? Is it possible that she has her own thoughts and beliefs that she occasionally likes to share on her page?

I really hope this is PMS lol....*hugs* stop worrying dear

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So I really like that idea about running at the gym when you think of him. Keep it up! I'm going to try that with squats!

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Don't you know that you're beautiful inside and out. Keep your chin up love is ALL around you.

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Maybe his dreams were bigger than his love for you and that's ok. It doesn't mean you aren't a good person. Right now if I met my soulmate I'd still want certain things for myself before accepting him into my life. We think people make choices about their lives based on what we are lacking. Truth is 100% of the time it had nothing to do with you. It's their own mission and purpose pulling them in another direction. You could be the most amazing perfect person on the planet but the truth is we all have a purpose we need to fulfill and no amount of love will fill that gap for us.

So let him go with love. If he's yours you'll be together effortlessly and the relationship will be great. If he's not yours know that the your special person is there waiting and once you meet him you'll forget every other guy before him.

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I'm not talented enough for the salary I want.
I am talented and I deserve the salary I request.

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After a few wonderful months with the guy I was seeing and a few failed attempts to end it between us, he has left the country for a few months. How do I feel? Ecstatic! I kept telling myself he wasn't my guy because why would the universe send me someone who so clearly did not want a relationship? Why would the universe give me someone who had almost everything I wanted except one thing? He couldn't be my guy and I couldn't possibly love him. Right?

He came to say goodbye and we held each other and spoke for a few hours. He told me he would miss me and I said I'd miss him too and then he was gone. I was initially worried that he'd find someone he liked more when he was away, maybe fall in love or decide that he wanted to be with someone else. But suddenly I didn't really care. Not in a SCREW YOU kind of way, but as he told me how another girl was doting on him, all I felt was happiness. I was happy he was being taken care of.

I realized that I was blocking out love by making excuses for why he wasn't right. But I was just afraid of falling for him and getting hurt. I feel so content and happy and alive. I can finally feel free to love him, without expectations of us being together. I'm not trying to attract him to be mine or anything. I am just so happy.

When he comes back I'll only be around for a few weeks before I leave the country again. The truth is I may never see him again and you know what I'm not worried one bit. 

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I'll share my story not sure it's a success. I was with a guy, I was totally in love with him. I went away for school for a few months when I came back he was acting distant. Eventually, we had a terrible break-up I was devastated. I remained friends with him, because I was too weak to let him go. I never begged for him or anything, I put my brave face on and said "I can't force anyone to love me". I left all the bawling and mellow drama for my alone time and friends.

A few months later I ran into him with his EX!!! We had been speaking this whole time and he never mentioned he was with anyone. I sort of knew because someone told me, but HE never told me. When I saw them together it was the first time in my life that I was speechless. I acted cool but it tore me up. I asked him later if she was reason he left and he said yes.

I continued a friendship for a whole year, the most depressing year of my life. On the one year anniversary of our break-up I decided SCREW THIS I need to stop pining over this dude.

Four days later I saw he left me a message confessing his love for me.  He said he never stopped loving me. HE GAVE ME NO INDICATION HE FELT THIS WAY FOR THE ENTIRE YEAR!

A few months later we were back together. It was rough. I couldn't trust him. All we ever did was argue and have amazing sex lol.

We finally broke up. We still speak from time to time. But I finally got over him.

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I got a free lunch

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i think as we all move thru our journey , if that be wanting our ex's back .. we are growing as people , some ppl who were desperate to get someone back eventually either met someone else or decided they really didnt want their ex back .and some got them back that never tht it wld happen. we will all fig it out at some point .. i have been here over 2 yrs ... my desire has never changed .. although i have changed how i want it to happen at first i wld have taken him back under any circumstance then i realized i didnt want it like it used to be .. so i asked for  it to come when it  was right when we were both ready ... it is all coming together .. everyones circumstances are different ..

i fell in love with a man who was going thru a bad divorce .. he used to tell me i WISH i had met u 2 yrs frm now .. when all this is over and im over it and can shake it off(he is divorced now)
my desire was for him to come when he is ready ..
He is coming around .. things are happening for me and i am to a point where i have let go of him
i just got a message frm him yesterday .. i used to over think it i used to be desperate for signs
now when i get them i just smile and go on abt my day .. if  a sign is what keeps u hopeful then ask ask ask .. u will get them when the time is right (ive had some pretty obvious and incredible signs)

so my point is we all have a journey .. wether that is knowing /wanting  an ex back or money or whatever it is .. its not for anyone else to decide whats right for you ..ONLY U CAN DECIDE WHEN ITS TIME TO GIVE UP OR MOVE ON. if u r sure it was your ex then .. keep on keeping on and dont give up .. at some point u will fig it out .. wether u get them back or dont ... at that point u will be ok with it .. u cannot possibly go thru this journey and not learn and grow as a person ..

YEAH i knw some of u are just sick of the wanting an ex back thing .. but we all came here for a reason and for support ..and to see whats  working for others .. to read success stories etc. so u do what u need to and i will do what i need to dont judge ... noone here is wrong .. u knw what they say abt opinions ..

I'm not judging anyone or telling anyone how to move through their process. I'm simply introducing a new way of thinking about love and thinking about ourselves. I find it less painful when I treat myself with love and make choices like that. It's easier for me to say well hey John is pretty great but he's emotionally unavailable and play games. Now because of how I feel about myself I can accept that John in his current state is not for me because it would not be a healthy love. If I find I still want John I can question what would make me want someone I know can't fill my needs right now, is it because I don't deserve it? Do I not love me enough?

Not everyone here will be at this point I can respect that. But in my darkest days when someone told me the same thing it brought me some clarity.

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I just wanted us to see how we put these people on a pedestal for simply existing. We require nothing of them to actually feel love for them. But we break our backs proving things to them. If we love ourselves enough we would realize that we didn't have to prove anything to anyone just like we don't require them to prove anything to us.

We need to love ourselves first and give ourselves the kind of selfless love we give others. The way we act sometimes makes me we think we're all guilty of thinking someone else is more worthy than us.

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Yeah I know Calm. But knowing what I learned from then is what made it easier to let go of someone I was involved with recently. In the past when I was in the same situation I felt devastated. Now this time around I was able to take what I learned here and from the past and feel only teeny amount of hurt.

I just wanted to put another way of looking at things

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Reading many stories here and I can say I've wanted an ex back. Pined over him for a year remained his friend even when it hurt because being away hurt more. I look back and I don't recognize that girl anymore but I see her in so many posts here. Why is it when someone has decided you aren't the right person for them we think we know better than them so we have to SHOW them that they want us? If we love them shouldn't we just respect their choice and their process, they know themselves better than we ever will. And why would we want someone who doesn't love us? We love these people regardless of how they treat us, and all they have to do is exist. While we believe we have to jump through three rings of fire for them to decide we are worthy of a one word text. Are we being fair and loving to ourselves?

I'm not saying your ex isn't "The One" but if they are your soulmate why are you worried? They are already yours and will be yours forever. So have fun an start working on attracting all the other things you want. No one is THAT special or worth waiting around for. Time us ticking you can never get this time back.

And that ex I spoke about earlier we went on to get back together several times after. I stopped worrying because no matter how nasty it got we always became friends again, naturally. Now I don't feel those feelings for him but it taught me that nothing is really permanent and most ppl find their way back to you if they care enough. You don't need to convince ppl to want you to be worthwhile

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Thank you so much Rodan. Your words truly inspired me. My mother gave me the money to purchase a small laptop and I only have to pay back a small portion. I am so grateful.

Lately I have been finding it hard to be still and wait for my purpose. I remembered a dream I had for an organization to help young women that I wanted to start a year ago that I started working on and I'm seeking advice. I still have no source of income and I have a small debt of around $600 that I would love to pay off because it has been causing me so much anxiety. It doesn't seem like much but when you have very little cash it is like a mountain. There are many blessings I receive everyday and I am so grateful for the support of my family. I just want to be self sufficient and not have to depend on hand outs.

I have started planning a 6mth trip in September to commence research for the organization I want to start. I hope to save enough so I can go and I know I will I just don't know how. I need to practice my allowing. I often imagine myself as strong and independent even when I don't feel like it.

I feel so pressured to find a job to make money but I also know I don't want to be trapped in a 9 to 5. I want time to develop my ideas. I will try meditating tonight. Little by little it's all coming together I have to have hope.

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I have been doing without a laptop for about 2mths. It's how I make money. I wasn't too worried because I used one provided by my office. I ended up leaving my job two weeks ago with no idea how I'd find the money to get a new machine. I've been taking it easy not thinking about it too much. Even when I was getting bothered about it and being pressured to get a new one so I can start working again. Then one evening I searched online found one at a affordable price and mother is giving me the money. I don't have to pay it back! I pick it up today and I don't have to settle for a model I didn't want. It took two secs to find it so easy!

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