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Thank you all of you I am going to have a good read and digest these in the sun.  xx <3 xx

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11:11 is the birthday of my ex 11 November 

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Well, my ex is still with his girlfriend of 18 months, he has passed his exams and he is as a result going to Japan with her.  I have read so many things on here, and tried to remain positive, and I still want to be positive.  But I can't see that when he is there with her I will ever cross his mind - or that he would reply to any texts I sent him, if he hasn't changed his number - I haven't contacted him for so long.  Ironically it was only because of me that he managed to get on his university course, leading to him passing it and going to Japan in the first place.  So by that I have pushed him away!!

He has written "I'm so happy that I'm going with Becca" so this looks like the real thing to me.  Also, whilst I supported him in what he wanted to do I had no particular interest in Japanese culture myself, so does this mean that we are not aligned or whatever and would never come together in the future?  Seen so many loved up pictures of the two of them, it really makes me feel a loser. 

I'm very upset so please don't get cross with me as I can't bear "pull yourself together" stuff.  But I find it hard to understand how we could ever meet up again now. 

Thanks xx

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So nice to hear from you Katie.  Sorry to hear about your o/h's Dad; we are thinking of you, stay strong.  Lots of love xxx

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I would be interested to hear replies to your post RS - I posted a few days ago.  I have not seen my ex for 3 years and not heard from him for a year, he has met someone else, lives 150 miles away, we are not in contact any more and I need a real miracle.  Good luck xxxx

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I started a topic about this earlier in the week when I found Ryan had blocked me.  The weird thing was as I said, my profile is in the name of one of my ancestors (I do family history) and the profile picture is not of me.  I'd looked at his profile, but not obsessively, and looked at some stuff of mutual interest and "liked" some of his posts on those pages.  I think what he had done was then looked at my public profile, seen some public postings, gone on those sites and worked out that it was me, and then blocked me.  He then unblocked me later in the week (?? Why??)  I have been on his page again (just being nosey!  Not clicking on anything or "liking" anything). Now he has blocked me again!  My friend looked at his profile and about 15 minutes ago he has posted some nonsense about playing at vampires and biting his new girlfriend.  I know it sounds childish.  I do of course want to be back with him but I also want it to be when it is RIGHT.   I'm going to make 100% sure I don't even look at his profile for weeks and weeks just to let it all calm down (I think?  Right thing to do anyone??)  I did email him probably 3 weeks ago and he didn't reply (the email was only just chat, hello how are you etc), then when I looked at his page and clicked the "likes" he blocked me.  He is an IT technician though, and I wonder if he has some way of knowing who is looking at his page?  Miss him and want him back, but want a RIGHT relationship with him too.

Very confused, feel rubbish, but am trying. Worrying thing is he goes to Japan in September and I am in England - Yorkshire! 

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2thetop,
 thank you so much! That was exactly what I needed. Great advice. Especially about focusing on the new(future) times rather than the old. I never realized how much I thought about the past, even if they are good memories it still brings more energy to the old rather than the new relationship (what I want). I"ll definitely be keeping this in mind and use the methods you suggested whenever the doubts creep in!

This is my scenario sort of.  I do however try to think about the past, because that was good - and try to take those feelings forward into the present and the future.  he still has an annoying facebook picture though with this girl sticking her tongue out.  I try not to look at it.

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JonRymer, yes! There are a lot here in the forum who reunited with their exes after many months, no matter the distance You know well that you can be, do and have everything that you want...ask, believe and receive

Gosh, with me it is 2.5 years since we last saw each other and we are 200 miles apart - last contact was my birthday in April. 

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If anyone else wants questions answered please feel free to reply to these questions:


Name (you want me to use):
Age:
30-something
Main dating/finding love frustration right now:
Ryan - the one that got away
When was the last serious relationship you were in?:
How long were you in it?:
Before I met Ryan - for 11 years from 1995, see this guy now as a friend, I don't have any romantic feelings towards him
What’s the main thought you have right now about the whole thing that’s causing you to feel crappy or not so good?
That I may have scared him off or pushed him away but conversely that I never told him that I loved him
What’s your main question you want to know right now that will help you move forward?:
That me and Ryan will meet up/be together again when the time is right even though that is not going to be next week.

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I struggle with impatience and letting go.  I met someone this summer with whom I have an intense connection and attraction.  He was very honest with me and told me that he is not ready for a relationship because he is still getting his life back on track from a very bad breakup 2 years ago.  I do believe that we will be together when the time is right for him and am practicing gratitude and visualizing us together.  I struggle with remaining patient during this process and detaching from the outcome.  I am living my life and do have some interaction with him, but not enough in my book.   

That is almost my story, when I met him he was seeing someone as was I, and though we fancied each other we were only friends for a time, he asked me out 2 yrs later.  He ended up very badly hurt by the girl he was seeing when I met him.  He's now in Oxfordshire and I'm in Yorkshire and our paths don't cross at all now so I need to have this back on track through the universe and not me pushing it!

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I'm new at this.  What I struggle with is that I have "lost" someone, who make no mistake I loved very much, and I still do love, but even though I loved him, I never told him.  Also I knew that though I loved him, we would not end up married or together for the rest of our lives (because of an age difference) but it would be real love for as long as it lasted, but none the less any less real for that.  (still with me?)  That did not negate the fact that the love I felt for him was real and honest. 

He's with someone else now and I struggle with wanting to be with him in the future when the time is right against waiting for this relationship he is in to come to an end (but maybe that is a good thing for now??)

I'm confused!

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Has anyone done this, got back in touch with people from the past just as friends, whether they were boyfriend/girlfriend in the past or just mates?

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Hi Jon, Anna looks lovely!  Will put you both in my thoughts and prayers.  What I want firstly is for Ryan to remove his annoying profile picture which has him with the girl he is currently living with on it sticking her tongue out.  I know that the time for me and him to be together is not right now, but I want him to be thinking of me positively and remember me positively with a view to meeting up eventually when the time is right (next year).  Love and positive vibes to you and Anna  xx

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Lots of Love to you Katie for a speedy recovery!  xx

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