Yesterday I was chatting with my friend who recently went through a very traumatic breakup with the father of her child. During a conversation she made a comment that she would feel better about being sad if she felt he were sad as well. What struck me about that statement is that she was basing the appropriateness of her feelings on someone who clearly cannot hold a candle to her. It got me thinking how often that we as individuals seek validation and approval not from people who love and support us and are our cheerleaders but rather people who do not value or honor us. Why is it easier to believe the bad stuff people say? Why does that one negative comment out of a hundred good ones haunt us? Well I am here to say that you are magnificent and I hope this script helps you to block out those people who believe you are anything less than that!
Setup Phrases
“Even though I tend to believe the bad stuff people say about me and I internalize it and let it erode my self esteem I choose to change this pattern now and I deeply and completely love and accept myself “
“Even though I focus on the negatives about myself rather than the positives, I choose to change this now and I deeply and completely accept myself”
“Even though I often forget all my amazing qualities and let one little insignificant, petty person say one little untrue thing about me and let it steal my I now choose to clear out those reasons why I ever listened to them in the first place.
Negative Reminder Phrases
Eyebrow: I believe the negative untrue things people say about me
Side of Eye: Why do I listen to them?
Under Eye: Hmmm…maybe I don’t have to
Under Nose: I place more weight on their opinion of me rather than my opinion of me.
Chin: That doesn’t seem right and so I choose to change this now.
Collarbone: I choose to believe only the good things that are said about me
Under Arm: And the next time I hear negative something negative about me
Top of Head: I will simply close my ears and say next.
Positive Phrases
Eyebrow: I am magnificent
Side of Eye: I AM magnificent
Under Eye: Deep inside I know it
Under Nose: The more I acknowledge my own magnificence
Chin: The more people see it in me
November 11, 2011, 08:09:26 AM
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