Timeline of my personality. Suggestions for change?

[UpLOAding]

As I have written many times, meeting the woman I currently love was accompanied (not just because I wanted to impress her, but because I truly believed) in many changes in values and personality. Getting to know about LOA made these changes more valid, and "feasible", and I oriented a great part of my past 2 years according to what would bring me closer to her.

Many people, both on the forum and among my real life friends, are saying I should become more independent or "detach" from her, if I want to attract her back - but I am really AFRAID that detaching too much will change me again, possibly bring me a few steps backwards with regards to some features of my personality.

I would appreciate your advice on what to retain, what to erase, and what new ingredients could be added that might be useful.

Until 2009 / around the time I met her
- very open-minded and followed whatever aroused my interest at the moment;
- no sort of constraints in thought and lifestyle;
- worldwide network of acquaintances and contacts for getting favors;
- relationship-wise, I had developed a view of "making all women happy", whether they were married or not. I was promiscuous and what many would call "sexually free" (Though I also had high standards in my choices);
- very unfocused about my career path: I tried different jobs/internships in entirely different fields
- I was very good at anything I chose to do, BUT often started a project and left it unfinished
- spent extreme amount of time socializing instead of studying;
- and knew how to become popular very easily, and I truly was very popular, had my groupies of female admirers etc.

After I met her and learned about LOA (End of 2009)
- inspired to follow one direction and focus/specialize rather than being aimless;
- more attached to significant people and friends rather than wild and random socializing;
- inspired by idea of commitment and by the first results of living determined and focused in all areas: love, selection of career path, selection of friends, etc.
- a much steeper growth in the few chosen activities and skills
(which include her language, her country/area/culture and a few more elements that are more likely to lead me towards her);
- more time exploring and enjoying those specific areas rather than other stuff;
- discovery of spiritual and moral values, including religious ideas;
- greater connection with deeper things in the world;
- inspired by idea of eternal love and monogamy;
- greater peace with myself and with my aims, with what I truly want;
- less worried about what the world thinks about me
(e.g. I now go to high class parties with sport shoes, and don't care);
- all-in-all, a perpetual feeling of self-realization and being able to do anything I want.

I personally feel that this should be the right direction of my growth.

However,
during June-July 2011 (study stress) I felt...
- increasing sexual tension (hormones? heat?);
- probably a tiny little bit impatient since 2 years have passed.

SINCE THE PAST TWO-THREE DAYS when I try to listen to the advice given on this forum (e.g. let my girl have fun and go to Spain without bothering about it), I feel that if I accept her doing that, then also I have the increased desire to return to some of my "worldly satisfactions". I think that happens because I feel I need to stay "competitive on the market".
i.e. I felt being desired by more girls of her country/culture, and doing things that will increase my image, perhaps even return a bit to a less constrained vision.

Yesterday afternoon I spoke with one of my ex-admirers and she suggested something similar to what most people nowadays do:
be popular, enjoy sexual pleasure/diversity, etc UNTIL I am with the woman I love.

Many men do this, and although I have decided not to do so since very long time, I am now tempted again and it starts feeling pleasurable.

I feel that these thoughts I had in the past 2-3 days are very random and inconsistent with  my growth (even the fact that I met the ex-admirer... I hope that wasn't a sign). I don't want something to awake inside me that will distance me from her forever.

They are not my willpower but a result of my instincts.
I hope they are not leading me astray, into the opposite direction.

I want to really marry and build a family with the woman I currently love.

What are your ideas?