What is emotional intelligence and why is it so important to understand this concept?
Emotional intelligence is our ability to be in touch with our feelings and emotions and acknowledge when negative thoughts arise, quickly identify them and transform them to more empowering states of mind.
The opposite of emotional intelligence is denial and being out of touch with what is bothering us or eating away at us from moment to moment and day to day.
The quick and simple way to develop emotional intelligence is by acknowledging when we feel negative feelings and immediately bringing awareness to what the negative thoughts are, so that we can begin transforming them to more positive thoughts and feelings.
In reality, this is a very simple process, but over the years we have created a disconnect from our emotions because when we felt negative feelings, we didn't know how to effectively handle them, so we went into denial/disconnect mode. After a while, it became commonplace for us to walk around with uncomfortable thoughts and feelings to the point that we have lost our sensitivity to them. Now is the time to change that.
The main things that have contributed to this emotional disconnect we have are:
--being told its weak to have fears and any kind of negative emotions, thus creating a dysfunctional disconnect.
--having negative emotions and not knowing how to deal with them, so we just become accustomed to feeling crappy and accepting thatís just the way itís meant to be.
Unfortunately, we pay the price by living our lives with our fears, self-rejection, resentments and a host of other negative feelings beneath our awareness. Even though the feelings are buried, they are still there and still causing us a loss in quality of life, and they are constantly feeding our subconscious mind negative thoughts that make it impossible for us to really apply the law of attraction in an effective way.
The way out
Simply begin developing awareness to when you feel uncomfortable throughout the day and look at your thoughts at the moment and simply bring a non-judgmental awareness to these negative thoughts and then apply an effective self-help technique like belief-change work or something called EFT. Remember, don't get upset if you have negative thoughts, they are simply your current programming and you can change that programming with some effort. Be sensitive to when negative thoughts pop up and keep developing an awareness of how you feel and donít deny negatives. You can quickly clear those negatives out with some practice. Take the first step and raise your emotional intelligence so that eventually, you don't have to live with constant negative feelings nagging you and instead live more and more in joyous states as your way of life.