Conflicting Wealth Intentions with significant other

[Tapper]

Hello!  I am an entrepreneur and I've been working very hard at moving forward with my businesses and my beliefs of the Law of Attraction.  I read the recommended Financial FLOW and 25 Tips for Money and the Law of Attraction (as recommended by others users on this forum) daily, 3 times a day; morning, afternoon, and night.  In addition, I read my goal/vision statement for my life as it 6-8 years away as I believe it to happen.  I started only Sunday and I've already felt a shift in my perspective, attitude, certainly drive, and most of all, I just feel good.  I feel that I'm on the right path.  That the passion has been reignited. 

Well, my boyfriend of 13 years has a lot of what I would call "negative conditioning".  However, as I'm practicing the art of allowing, as explained by Abraham and Ester Hicks, it's been a lot easier to live with.  Here's the thing, though, we obviously have different paths, currently, with different intentions.  Here are two examples:

1) I was talking about my goals "I'll be making XX amount monthly, and I'll be living here, and so on and so forth".  His response?  "Are there any kids in the picture? (With what I perceived as a negative tone)  And I said, "Well I need to start somewhere for a goal statement".  And then he said, "Well what kind of life do you expect to have if you're so busy all the time?"  And he ended up becoming angry with me because some of the goals he had in mind weren't in my goal statement.

2)  A multi-millionaire that I know had sent out an email to me inviting me and others to a Black and White fund raiser for an Foundation she started 10 years ago.  And I said, "That's what millionaires do, they give back to the community because they understand that they more they give the more they get and it never fails".  And he says "Or they just understand the tax breaks"

So having said that, how would you recommend I work toward my goals through the LofA and continue to practice the law of allowing all the while staying in harmony with him?  This has been a "thorn in my side" that I've been trying to pull out.    Thank you so much!

[schenderson22]

My advice to you is to start being grateful for his (changed) behavior as though it already exists.  "I am grateful for (his name)'s support""I am grated that he and I share the same common goals""I am grateful for his unconditional love" etc.  Write it down, read it, repeat aloud, embrace it, feel it.  His behavior WILL change. Don't get me wrong, you may have some "not so great days/moments".  If that happens, just know it is the Universe aligning your desires with your reality and continue to be grateful. 

Let me know how it goes!

[Andrew Wilkie]

He is just a mirror of you and your own internal ideas and thoughts on some level.  He/you is just testing yourself. Do you really want these goals? If yes, things will change as you change.

Highly recommend what schenderson22 has said.

Your goals are in the future tense. i.e. I will

I'd suggest you sit down with him and discuss your values and goals, especially around sex and money. He has demonstrated to you one of his goals or values to him. Explain them to him why your goals are important to you.  If he can't or support you. That's another issue for you to deal with.  This often happens with LOA . 

He might be thinking, I should be the one providing, I feel ashamed, less of a man because I can't. He'll also just be repeating is own, old negative programming which he was taught.  When you get your goals. How do you think he will react? You'll need to work on your own fear or his reaction.

Since you know a family is important to him. Tie them in in some way to something he will understand and 'accept'. i.e. family and money.  You don't have to do it his way. It can just be easier way for him to understand what it is that you are doing.

I'll assume your goals include him?  It would be really interesting just to ask him, so when I get X, you will want to share in my success right? His response will be very interesting. If yes, well if he doesn't can't support you. You've been given much valuable relationship information.

If you can't discuss your goals with him. It can be easier on you to work on yourself and keep going until you get what it is that you want.

Don't ever stop going for what you want, just because he doesn't think you can't get it etc. This is a very parental/child behaviour.

[Jon Walsh]

My suggestion is to create a vision that you can share with your boyfriend.

If you have goals and dreams that you have created together then surely he'll enjoy thinking and talking about them. Sharing the dream.

I've experienced a similar reaction with my partner. I dealt with it by asking her to share a dream with me. Ask your boyfriend to day dream with you, get him to tell you something that he wants, and ask him how he feels when he thinks about that thing coming into his life.

Then say - "see it feels good hey! That's all I'm doing, visualising my dream life and it makes me feel good, "

Not having a clear picture of your goals can be compared to playing basketball without any nets. You just bounce the ball around and dont have anything to aim at.

All low of attraction / manifestation teachings emphasise just how important it is to have crystal clear defined dreams. Then you know what your aiming for and bring it into being.

If you feel that its frustrating then remember that forgiveness is the most liberating path for you and your boyfriend

and last but not least, use the law of attraction to attract a less frustrating reaction from your boyfriend

Good luck, I'm sure you'll find the way together

[Loreen]

This post describes me and my husband exactly. I love him very much, but we are definately not on a vibrational path financially. Since learning LOA, I have been experiencing wonderful things all the time. I am so excited about it, but he doesn't respond. He said he is jealous of me too. I know he thinks LOA is crap so I dont ask him to join in with me. We do have a vision board together and some things have already come to fruition. Our finances are  . We cannot agree on anything that has to do with money. He focuses on lack..we never have enough. I am trying to do my best but I need some suggestions. Can you guys help me?