Everything keeps going wrong, Need guidance and help. :(

[Blore]

I've posted a few times about my ex, and I think I keep sabotaging myself.

We broke up on October 30th, and a week after that we started talking again, and tried to work it out, but then things just crashed and suddenly he was all bitter, and told me we weren't friends anymore. So we stopped talking, and then a day later he emailed me, twice asking me where I was, and that I should visit him. I ignored them, but a week later I caved and emailed him, and things got nasty. Eventually we started talking on the phone, I cried, and he was kind of a dick, but after awhile we discussed getting back together, and we were on friendly terms, we agreed to talk about it the next day, and he told me how he was going to write me a letter for Christmas, and then the conversation got a bit naughty.

I was happy because I thought I got another chance, but then the next day he was cold, and started being mean, telling me he was jerking me around, because it was fun, and he was bored. So we fought, and that was the end of it. He texted me later saying this version of goodnight that we always used to show affection, and I told him to stop it, so he just keep texting it over and over. I told him that I hated it when he did that because it made me feel like things were good between us, and he said "That's a bad guess. Or is it?"

I'm just so confused. I noticed today I focused a lot on how it probably wasn't going to work, and all his negative behaviors, and started worrying, so I think I sabotaged myself there.

I guess I just don't know if I should keep trying, or if it's hopeless. I'm so confused, once upon a time he really loved me, and wanted to be with me forever.

I guess I need advice on the situation, and advice on getting into the mindset of us having a relationship that we're both happy with. Or I don't know. I feel lost.

[Detached&Allowing]

I will gladly help you.  However before doing so I need to ask you a question..What do you know about the Law of Attraction?

Lots of love!!

[arminhul]

You want him back, don't call him your EX.  Use his name or say 'my love'.

Read up on the forum, the first 3 topics on the relationships page.

All the best.

[Blore]

I will gladly help you.  However before doing so I need to ask you a question..What do you know about the Law of Attraction?

Lots of love!!

Well what I know is you attract what you focus on, if you focus on how negative an outcome is then you will get negative. I know feeling it now is heavily stressed, instead of I want this happen to sometime, it's more so it is happening.

[Detached&Allowing]

You hit the nail on the head.  so let me ask you... do you ever play "make believe" as a kid?

[Blore]

You hit the nail on the head.  so let me ask you... do you ever play "make believe" as a kid?

Actually yes, that was my favourite thing to do as a kid.

[Detached&Allowing]

okay.  what I like to do is "fake It til you make it"  Recognize everything happens for a reason.  Day dream as much as you can.  When you find yourself worrying.. take yourself to your favorite day dream.  Does that make sense?