Would appreciate your feedback (long, but entertaining)

[Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck]

Up,


We told you to let go of the negative past emotions, and quit stressing yourself out. You are a young man and things take time to evolve and change, you asked about LOA at its purest form as Deepak Chopra and others describe it. So we gave you our take on it, nobody told you to follow or not. That is your choice, and the funny thing is that what is happening is probably a result of you not letting go until now, and down deep you know this, own up to your emotions and thoughts. You have been in self-doubt for weeks, go read your past posts, and those doubts have manifested themselves. Take responsibility for your own actions, and do not put them on others. What we think today travels at a certain speed, so letting go will give you the results when it hits, so you have to a point with your why, how, when manifested today, so let go, and manifest tomorrow the way you want it to be. Letting go in its purest form is just letting go of the control, you still have intention, but you let go of the control and become emotionally detached to not imped the energy. That is my take.       

[Sweet Spirit]

@ UpLOAding

Even though you may never get a chance to read my post here, please forgive me if my words sound harsh;  I really feel the urge to give my opinion on all of this. I have remained silent the last few days even though I have been keeping up with what is being said here. Everyone has their own opinion and although the opinions differ somewhat, it is up to each individual to discern what is wise for their situation. None the less, there are is some very sage advice on this forum. I know this forum has been beneficial to most who participate and it is a shame that you feel you have been harmed just because people have not embraced  your ideas. l feel sorry that you have not been helped by this forum.

 You have argued with and over analyzed almost every bit of advice and commentary from others. It is no wonder you feel bitter; however you must blame yourself for these negative feelings and not the wonderful people of this forum. You find fault with almost everything anyone else has stated. You are entitled like everyone else to your own opinion, but why must you shoot down the opinions of others when it is not of the same opinion as your own?

 Letting go also means to forgive and it is my opinion that you have not reached that point yet. People who harbor unforgiveness in their hearts are doomed to be miserable, so unless you can finally do that for whatever reason, you will most likely feel the bitterness, suicidal thoughts and sinking relationship continuing. We as humans do not have the power to forget but we do have the power to stop dwelling on memories that are not so good. I will admit that I have not read all of your posts because I can't get past the first paragraph without becoming exhausted or confused. It takes a lot of energy to make order out of chaos, and I would rather expend my energy on reading more meaningful and insightful posts.

As  for values, I hope you are not under the impression that you are the only one here with values. You seem to be self righteous and judgmental and even though you have said some things that are wise, I believe most on here are smart enough to make their own decisions so I do not understand why you would deem any advice as harmful.It is only harmful to you because that is what you are putting out.  In all honesty, you are one of the last people on this forum I would want guiding me.

I'm not sure these words will make it to your eyes as you have decided to leave the forum, but I really think if you will stay here and just read what others have to write without over analyzing things, you will get wisdom and you may be able to discern what may be helpful to your situation.

I apologize if I have overstepped the line here, for we are supposed to be supporting and encouraging each other, but I don't know whether to laugh or be offended at your words. Instead, I choose to shake my head and feel sadness for your state of bitterness and confusion. I myself have let go, forgiven and chosen not to dwell on the past. I don't expect anything, I accept and love my ex boyfriend unconditionally, and I have spent the last week in his company. This is perhaps the best time we have ever spent together in 2 years because I expect nothing in return. It takes the pressure off our friendship/relationship and we told each other just a little while ago that we were each others' best friend. He will be leaving soon and even though I will miss him, I am going to be happy without him while knowing that he truly loves me. I owe the wonderful friends from this forum who have great values and have offered me their love, support and encouragement; for without their advice I probably would have blown my relationship for good.

So upLOAding, I am sure that you are a wonderful person and if you will humble yourself somewhat you may notice a change for the better in the perception others have of you. I wish for you all your desires being manifested. May you finally find peace and happiness with whatever the universe sends your way........

[LeyLine]

Mel, what a FANTASTIC POST!! 3 times bravo to you!! And dont worry, u can be sure that uploading did read your post....each primadonna gives the grand finale (and then peaks through the curtains to enjoy the applause

[loveofabundance]

Yay!!!!!  Let the positive energy flow!  I've waited for this day a long time!    Finally, we can have some fun again!

[UpLOAding]

Thanks for your kind replies. Still, I feel misunderstood again.
 
I never meant to show any disrespect towards anyone or anyone's values or beliefs. I am just trying to communicate how I experience the different values when I apply them to my situation (with LOA), and I observe that some ideas most people have here have been destructive in my situation.
 
I am simply observing (AND EXPERIENCING, in my REAL LIFE, RIGHT NOW) this and communicating it to you.
 
How can you explain this?
 
Just tell me how can you explain that when I started this topic things were going fairly well and improving (I was using my own LOA approach), whereas over the past week they got worse, because I tried to consider your approaches, as well as your beliefs?
 
I'll sum up again what let me to success (ca. end November- throughout December):
- living according to relationship foundations (working towards life with her, finding career path that would overcome the practical obstacles of the relationship, e.g. distance) and view of non-separation inspired by Christian values (which I described in "Mission Accomplished") which involve forgiveness, understanding, empathy and constant growing towards the other person.
- belief in personal non-staticness (people can change. If they say they don't love you, it means so only in that moment and can change the day after)
- visualizing and attracting everything in accordance to the above
 
This led to a lot of positive manifestations and very frequent communication.
 
Yet, when I started adopting some of the ideas mentioned on this forum, such as:
- letting go (not building my daily life according to life with her)
- letting go of good memories of the past
- letting go of any beliefs that make her the most important person and aim in my life
- letting go of idea of making her the only person I will ever love
(basically, letting go of many of my values)
 
...things have been going really bad. Firstly, my "instinctive" feelings/spontaneity became almost adverse and indifferent to her, and as a consequence a sudden drop in communication. She called me before New Year saying she was so happy to hear my voice and wants to talk to me at least 15-20 minutes a day. After New Year she completely disappeared. And when I called her after a week, she didn't answer immediately, and when she did she sounded bored and tired.
 
Just how can you explain this?
 
Again, I'm not attacking anyone's ideas. I'm just describing the effects they have on me. I have become anxious and posted my negative emotions and questions here as a CONSEQUENCE of these negative results, not out of prejudice or self-righteousness...

[Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck]

Up,


I told you to let go of how, when and why, you continued to question everything and filled your post with how, when and why. Let go of these and the control, watch this video.


Letting go in my belief is letting go of the why, when, and how, becoming detached, letting go is not sending love and intent. Its letting go of the control. I have attached this video that takes it to a scientific level:

Animated Quantum Video

tell me what you guys think

[Sweet Spirit]

Up,

I don't recall anyone on this forum telling you to let go of the good memories. If that was what was implied, then you should disregard that advice. Do hold onto the good memories. The bad memories are the ones you should let go and forgive. Whether it was you or your ex that was responsible for creating what was a bad memory for you, you should either forgive yourself or your ex. it is perfectly okay and healthy to remember the good times for they are positive. Like I stated in my earlier post, you should never be expected to forget anything: good or bad, rather don't dwell on it or let it be an unhealthy obsession.

While I believe it was not your intention to disrespect the views of others, you often did so not only with the opinions of others in your own situation, but you also argued with or over analyzed the statements made in other people's situations. It is okay to disagree, however you made it a point to stress that the opinions of other members were blatantly wrong or harmful. I found your opinions in objection to others'  to be the ones that were unrealistic or misguiding.

We are all sorry that you are misunderstood here, but your comments are truly off the mark, contradicting, and confusing. That may be why no one understands what you are implyi

[inara]

Lovely profile picture, Sweet Spirit!

[Sweet Spirit]

UpLOAding,

oops! sorry I was not finished with my last post before I accidentally hit the "post reply" button. To continue with what I was saying, we (the members of this forum) are having trouble understanding your implications, not on purpose, but because you are in conflict. I just feel that you take a lot out of context and twist it to go against your value system. Your values may be different from others. I understand that you hate cheaters and liars and promiscuous people but doing so does not punish those people; instead it gives you negative vibes and you should know that feelings like that (unforgiveness,) will  will only torture your soul, thus manifesting negative outcomes. I believe your sinking relationship has a lot to do with the way you are trying to let go. You are either trying too hard or there are still some unresolved issues within yourself that you have not dealt with yet.

I really don't know what caused your relationship to take a turn for the worst. It may be that you got too confident and comfortable and you started expecting things to go your way; or it could have been that your ex was going through something that you over analyzed with negativity, thereby resulting in what appears to be a sinking relationship. I think you expect too much and letting go is all about doing whatever works to make you happy without your ex. You know now that I stopped expecting Ken (my ex) to do things that make me happy, he is totally catching me by surprise and doing those things that make me happy. Go figure! I love and am so grateful for the unexpected! I am so grateful he has been with me the past week. I am so grateful things are going well and I know that my attitude will bring me more good things with him.

 When you feel needy and wanting, it means that all your thoughts are in a place of what you don't have. When you are focusing on what you don't want you are only activating the law of attraction to give you more of what you don't want. Your ability to manifest becomes one of effort and struggle instead of ease. Because what you are hoping to send out to the universe and what the law of attraction is receiving based on your signals are in conflict. Be happy with less. When you can be happy just where you are (apart from your ex,) and you feel satisfied, then your inner sense of peace will send a clear signal and the law of attraction will respond to that. Move into a state of intense gratitude. Were you grateful when things were going well? You see, when we once manifest our desires, and forget to be grateful, that is when our desires can disappear just as quickly as when we first manifested them. The laws of attraction are ALWAYS at work even after we get our desires, so never take anything for granted, and always try to stay positive. Just because you have attained your desire does not mean LOA is finished or has stopped working.

I believe you need to step back and reevaluate things with positivity and understanding. Just relax. Don't get upset that what you expected is not going as planned. Without commenting and over analyzing, just read others' posts here and try to discern for your own situation what may help you. I think the problem here is that you are in constant conflict with yourself and your emotions. This is just my feeling and may not reflect the opinion of others(or even yourself.) We really all want to help you. Calm down, feel good, and try loving,  supporting and encouraging others for a change; that is what you will get in return my friend! We all love you upLOAding even though we may not completely understand you. Stay here and learn!!! many blessings to you!

@Inara,

Thank you so much for your kind words. You are a dear!