WHY am I upset he is fighting with his girlfriend?

[MeowMix]

Hi guys!

Like most of you I am trying to manifest a new relationship with a previous lover. I have made a lot of improvement however, today he told me about fighting with his current girlfriend. I don't know why this upset me so much? Aren't I supposed to be happy? But in reality I am not :/ Although I do want him with me, I don't want him to feel bad or have any problems with his current lover. It is pretty contradictory I know. I just want what's best for him but I think it's time for me to move on. I've been using LOA with this guy since June and I am oh so tired. I have no idea what he feels towards his girlfriend and I honestly don't care or want to know. All I know is that I want him to be with me in a harmonious way. Which I know is not up to me to decide how they break up but still...I don't view this as a sign that they are going to break up and he will come to me, I see it as he is upset. I don't want him to be upset :/ I want him to be happy with or without me. What I can't comprehend is WHY am I upset?! Most people would be like yay! my time to step in! But I want him to come to me on his own terms because he WANTS to not because I was there when things went wrong. Any opinions?

[Jagged]

I can somewhat relate meow. The person I'm attracting has done the same with me in the past. I actually talked to her and helped her figure out what to say to end it with the other person(one of many that its been). I felt torn because someone was getting hurt in the mix. And I also felt like you, I don't want to be the fall back or the one who she runs to when somethings wrong. Although, I will say it isnt necessarily a bad thing, because there is still some care and trust there for them to want to talk to you about stuff and take your advice, etc. Though I don't really know what it means. I always seemed to hear from her alot when things werent so good, but when things were great or she was happy with someone then I would be the one doing most of the contact. I don't really have any answers for you. But I can say the "getting tired" part I can relate to. It's going on 2 years that I've been apart from her. But I think it's a good thing to just let it go. I think actually that's the letting go stage. It's the part where you have put your intention out there, you believe in your desire, and you let go.. You get tired you dont care to try anymore, but yet you still believe that it is yours, then it just happens. That is when our desires become ours. I am curious to see what others will say.

Lots o' love

[MeowMix]

Thank you for replying!

The thing is that I am detached and I let go then he comes to me! Whether things are good or bad he is always texting me and initiates all the contact. Which is the frustrating part and where I am stuck. I can feel our bond and that he cares about me but why isn't it enough to give me  a chance, I do not know. I try so hard to just not contact him until he contacts me to say "Hey I am ready to give it a shot" but he always contacts me just to talk and to know how I am. Which sometimes bothers me because I just want to scream "WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!" lol

[tereza]

Which sometimes bothers me because I just want to scream "WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!" lol

Maybe you should say something to him along those lines?

Also, maybe you were upset because considering your history with each other, it's a bit inconsiderate of him to talk to you about girlfriend problems? That kind of conversation just puts you in a weird position. It's like he's treating you like a buddy, but at the same time he's hinting that he's available so it's not really platonic. It's just confusing.

[MeowMix]

Exactly. Which is what I am going to do. I will wait for him to text me so I can tell him that I don't want to be in the friends zone. It's time I put my needs first. I know he has some sort of feeling for me but I want him as more as a friend and contacting him and him talking about this particular issue just messes up my LOA process.