When Other Exes Come Back...

[Tinseltown]

...you know, like the one from the same city with an almost identical name. That kind of stuff. What does that mean? That the universe is hearing my somewhat dizzy request and just grabbing a handful -  - at random?

There's definite 'ex' energy going on, or at least that's how I'm feeling at the moment.

Ooh, and - opinions please - on my reply to him which will be sent tonight. I'm going to put

'I'm all talked out, to be honest, but it's nice to know you're there; it's a kind offer - thank you.'

Not jumping down his throat to talk! Talk! Talk! and also not dismissing him completely....whaddya reckon?

Love

Tins

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

Maybe there is something that you need to work out and learn from you previous relationships that is intefering with the reunion with your guy.

WHEN OTHER EXES COME BACK

sounds like a bad B horror movie or a Fox Television show. 
Cops was filmed live in Belmont.  Now stay tuned for WHEN OTHER EXES COME BACK....on Fox.

[tereza]

If you want to talk to him, talk. If you don't, don't. I really wouldn't bother being coy and I'd treat him like a platonic friend or I'd treat him like someone I don't know depending on my feelings towards him. I mean...is he someone you're interested in? Also, I think this guy reappearing just means you're close to attracting what you want.

[lise]

Maybe there is something that you need to work out and learn from you previous relationships that is intefering with the reunion with your guy.

WHEN OTHER EXES COME BACK

sounds like a bad B horror movie or a Fox Television show. 
Cops was filmed live in Belmont.  Now stay tuned for WHEN OTHER EXES COME BACK....on Fox.

Ha ha That did make me laugh - that's a film I'd like to see lol

I've often had exes come (or try) to come back and apart from once - never been interested. I used to think they came back just to annoy me! or make me think - what the hell was I thinking. Now, possibly I think it's to remind you of what you don't want. I sound mean - I have in the main remained friendly with my exes. I think also possibly they serve other purposes too - e.g show you how much you have changed or thinking about them without much thought attracts them and shows you - you can attract people back.

[Tinseltown]

If you want to talk to him, talk. If you don't, don't. I really wouldn't bother being coy and I'd treat him like a platonic friend or I'd treat him like someone I don't know depending on my feelings towards him. I mean...is he someone you're interested in?

No, not at all. We exchanged a few texts over the weekend and he was suggesting a coffee to which I somewhat blandly agreed it would be 'nice,' but beyond that, no, nothing there for me.

[Tinseltown]

this guy reappearing just means you're close to attracting what you want.

  (to the power of 50)

[Tinseltown]

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Now, possibly I think it's to remind you of what you don't want....I think also possibly they serve other purposes too - e.g show you how much you have changed or thinking about them without much thought attracts them and shows you - you can attract people back.
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Oh yeah, this guy does remind me of what I don't want, most definitely! And I have changed to the degree where I don't want to give him mixed signals or let him back into a place which isn't actually for him any more; I'm sure of this.

But why have I attracted back someone I don't want?

Tins

[lise]

Perhaps to underline what you do want? To remind you of how much you have changed? To remind you of things he/ you did when you were together good and bad  and so you do / don't repeat the same things again?

[Tinseltown]

@ Tereza - hang on, there's some confusion here (caused by me, I think). The guy who's coming back ISN'T the one I want back. And the bit about replying to 'his' e-mail refers to the one who I DO want back. He mailed me in response to finding out about my dad's stroke, suggesting that we could 'talk.'

Tins

[Tinseltown]

@ Lise - yeah, possibly. I know that as much as we had a nice time, he wasn't the one for me and I broke up with him twice and treated him, to be frank, not very well. So, yes, this just underlines that whole feeling of not wanting him back. I suppose I'm interested in the energy at work here, the feeling of 'what am I putting out to the universe?' 'Cause it's sending me something near but not quite....

Tins

[lise]

Well at a guess - and it is a guess cos I'm doing pretty crap at stuff myself right now - is my best guess is the letting go part which I never had any problem with - with exes and so they boomerang back sooner or later!!!

I've also found that I've worried the person I want might forget me - and then some bloke who I dated briefly years ago looks me up on fb makes me think well if THEY didn't forget me after all this time and when it was so short lived that it's less likely HE will forget me.

Is there anything significant about the ex? Something your subconscious might be reminding you about? to take on board for the one you DO want?

[lashark]

Could it be that maybe you are just becoming in general more attractive and people are gravitating towards it?
I had some weird texts from guys in my past just coming out of nowhere. not once did I respond but I just thought to myself that my energy and positive outlook on life is just radiating and even people from the past sense it and start to come around. I just figured im becoming even more and more attractive in every aspect...

[Katie]

Also, I think this guy reappearing just means you're close to attracting what you want.

I agree with Tereza. Have Faith dear Tins