whats the point

[lashark]

I have been scripting I have bene knowing, I have been believing to the point that I know.

Bundy has not changed his FB picture until August 28th. The picture he had was a picture I took on his 25th bday. He had it on his FB even after he dumped me in May. Well today I looked up a friend and I saw he changed it. He changed it on August 28th. I KNOW that what I see is irrelevant, it all depends on what I believe. well this sucks. I feel like all the believing, all the happiness, it has changed my point of view in life and yes that is what matters but loving him and desiring him as my BF, I cant help but ignore it. I feel like its time I move on, I just should move on.... This hurts and Im not the type to complain but it hurts my heart and it angers me that I dont have controlover my emotions when it comes to him. I think sometimes the come back, but its just not for me, I think I should move on and it hurts to feel this but to accidentally find out that he changed his photo hurts, I cant help it. Im done you guys, Im done with love. Im done with my dream of being with this man I love. Im done with dreaming, Im done, IDK if I will be back I feel like a fool and I feel like a fool for feeling bad. Im just done.

[UpLOAding]

Ha... you know how often I said and felt that way?!
 
But LOA gave me a lesson that even that is just a negative vibration (and will most likely produce what you are vibrating).
 
I will paraphrase something that someone told me in one of my threads:
Don't be lazy in your responsibility for your own emotions and feelings.
 
Having said that, changing a photo on FB means absolutely nothing. I don't even think it qualifies as a sign.
It's just some element in his life.
 
And who knows, it may be even something positively related??
 
Can you imagine that for all the time I pursued Natasha, even if I affirmed and visualized positive things about her, I had a tiny little doubt that she might be mocking me somewhere, e.g. by telling embarrassing things about me to her friends.
But yesterday I had a very nice chat with her friend, and they didn't even know about that embarrassing thing I had done!
 
I told it myself - thus attracting what I was expecting.
 
lashark, you're certainly more patient than me, and I think you have started achieving many things.
Think carefully before you make any drastic decisions out of emotional panic. Think of what happens to that stupid UpLOAding when he is in emotional.
 
Do you want to be like him? No?
Then stick to your guns and keep visualizing!
 
Your guy will return

[Mr positive]

This is exactly how i feel i been trying to attract my ex back for a year and a half! Alot of time wasted on some one that doesnt show the love back! Its a waste of energy i think having to see her in all kinds of relationships ive had the life from hell this past two years! I think its time to live my life for me and stop trying to attract the impossible! I think these ppl that got back there exes got them back because they just lived there lives care free and was not attached at all! For me that is kind of impossible! I dont believe its my desire to get back i believe its her desire that is attracting me to want her back so much! Idk anymore but im gonna make it a point to live for me and im so sorry your going through this! I hope the best for you and hopefully you and i truly let go and get what we desire!

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

I swear Facebook has led to such heartache on this board.  Alexia..c'mon chick. Even if you are moving on from Bundy you don't have to be negative and give up on love and everything.  You have been so positive these last months.  Has it all been an act?  I don't think so.  So you got bumped out of the vortex because you were holding on to the belief that the picture proved something.  And now one little thing..one little thing that might not even mean crap to Bundy has thrown you into this despair.  C'mon.  Now I can imagine if he had in his status....Over Alexia..but he doesn't.  It's just a picture that might not have the same meaning for him that you had attached to it.  So c'mon....watch some Abe Hicks videos and get back into the vortex.  You are not a fool..it's just a shock because you've probably haven't felt this despair in so long that it's intensified.  You're not done...if you were truly done you would not post this thread.  You don't want to give up.  Remember the Law of Attraction for Abundance.   

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

Mr. Positive..
You should have already been living your life for you.  The law of attraction (and I'd prefer to call it the law of having.  Cuz attraction in itself is a state of not really being together) can't be fooled or tricked.  Trust me I've tried.  You have to take care of yourself first and drop this martyr bull.  You have to get yourself into such a state of peace and happiness that it doesn't matter if that person comes back.  You are feeling so good and happy it becomes a win/win situation.  No matter the outcome it will be the RIGHT outcome.  The break ups that we experienced should be our initial inspiration for this journey.  It should not be the end all. 

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

Lashark!! 

I LOVE YOU!!! 

I am writing it in my 'LOVE' journal right now!!! 

Feel it, Believe it!!  Let it feed your soul!!! 

And Thank you for your advice and help!! 

XO XO XO

[Tinseltown]

Hey Alexia,

                Sorry you're feeling so bad at the moment.

What I would say is that there are 2 ways to 'get the ex,' providing you believe. The first is to do that active attracting, the gratitude, the visualising, the sending up and out of love. The second is, and I think there's a bird called Mallica from PI who supports this, to make the intention, release it and believe but not give a toss on a day-to-day level and go about your business, ie, taking the focus off this guy.

Now, if you're at the brink of not wanting to play any more in any sense, then that's fine, too. We all know LOA exists as a default and if you need to change what you're wanting or move away from the intensity of your desire, that's okay. Giving up is okay, too.

I'm feeling similarly at the moment, despite having arguably some stuff to work with. I don't think the relationship I had with him was healthy in the first place and now, with the e-mails and suggestion of meeting up, I'm still dancing to his tune and hate it. Maybe it's better for me to move on and find someone else with whom I can have something more equal from the off; certainly, I feel that the dynamic between me and my ex hasn't changed sufficiently for me to enjoy the communications without a degree of fear which existed when we were together, as well.

Right, have to go to work but am thinking of you - you know what the right decision is to bring you that emotional relief to which you're most entitled

Tins

[Ginny]

Hey Alexia -


I'm not sure I understand why this has upset you so much... Is it because you feel like it is a sign that you haven't truly let go? If so, don't worry about it - we all have blips - you aren't some automaton! If it's the fact of the photo change itself - I actually agree with Uploading on this, a photo means nothing. If it were me (ie, the one changing the photo on Facebook) I probably wouldn't have made the connection, and I gather that guys are even less likely to attach any significance to these things. A photo doesn't matter - you matter, your happiness matters, your relationships with others - these all matter. But a photo is nothing.


Hope you're feeling better soon -


xx

[Katie]

Lashark, I gave Patrick a beautiful gold chain years ago. He wore that chain for years and never took it off, until May, during the I-don't-love-you-it's-over-get-out-of-my-life episode. The day I noticed he wasn't wearing it anymore, it really hurt me. The meaning was very significant. He took it off to show me that it was over. I cried. Alot ! then I decided not to dwell on it, not to focus on it. I told myself that a gold chain has no power to make me feel bad. It's just a gold chain, and all the feelings attached to it were just feelings, and I had total control of those feelings.

In your heart, the "old" picture represents the link between you two, because you're the one who took the picture on his 25th birthday. He changed it, okay, but is that the end of the world ? You say " I KNOW that what I see is irrelevant, it all depends on what I believe" so why has this thrown you off track, to the point where you say you're "done with love" ? I totally agree with RCD who said :

it's just a shock because you've probably haven't felt this despair in so long that it's intensified.

By the way, thank you RCD for summing up detachment/letting go so clearly and so beautifully.

It's up to you, if you want to move on without Bundy, or not. But please don't let a simple picture get you out the vortex. It has no significance ! The gold chain did have significance though.. and I chose to forget about it, and look, we're together again, engaged, and living a very happy life, much better than before.

[lashark]

I had a moment, I own up to it. Yes Im in complete control of my life and how I feel
It was significant to me because I made his FB for him, with that photo. He never changed it no matter how different his look changed. It was in the very begining of our relationship when I took it. Even after we broke up. And in this new photo hes wearing sunglasses and just looks mad. It just brought everything up again. Everything I USED to believe came flooding back. And I saw it as a sign of him moving on with his life. And here I am imagining and feeling awesome about having a future with him and he hasnt even text me back about giving me my clothes back like he promised. Whats so hard about dropping some clothing off? If he didnt want to see me or deal with me he could EASILY drop them off while Im not home. His parents live down my street and I know he goes there sometimes.

My friend gave me typical GF advice, like "Oh you dont want him, you just think you do, you wouldnt really be happy if he came back, you can have any guy in the world" And even though I am all about LOA it got me thinking, I would be happy if he came back however I guess I could be happy now as well.... Point being happiness... I just dont want to feel like I gave up because a desire this big, you dont have the option to give up

It definately threw me off, realizing maybe I havent let go completey, I just dont understand that, Ive been so happy with all aspects in my life and just feeling really good and really believing and no more doubts and no more worry and not stressing about Inspired action, so how havent I let go?

Idk, I still believe and still desire a relationship with him and many other desires too! Of course I love him unconditionally so if he wants to change his picture and live his life, thats fine. Good for him. I gotta get more control of my focus, and KEEP it on my happiness and on my dreams, let nothing else distract me from this. This reality stuff just gets so frustrating sometimes.... Thanks everyone, I totally had a moment, sorry.

[lashark]

Haha Im sitting here reading back on everything and like almost crying and laughing at the same time, all of you are so beautiful and your responses are so heartfelt even uploading! and you girls throwing in some inside jokes (you know who you are and yes I noticed )

I feel very grateful and appreciative right now, because of you guys, thanks for being you. Thanks for being alive, thanks for responding to me lovingly. Thanks for being wise.

Oh look at that, back in my vortex : )

You know what I feel peaceful, I feel eager to get dressed and go to work later I feel excited about the rest of my day and I feel very peaceful right now. He just doenst know what I know, which is we end up together like a fairytale! Hell know soon enough and if he doesnt find out, that really is ok, because like my friend said "you can have any guy in the world" and its true. AND being happy right now, is more important to me than any relationship. I feel so peaceful I wouldnt want to be in any other place than here right now at this moment, 4 in the morning sitting here typing to you guys. : )

aw I feel really good , I love you all so much thanks again everyone.

[Katie]

I love it when you're in the WHATEVER !!!! attitude    thank you !!!!

[ava]

Dear Lashark,i can't say anything new.cause you know better than me about LOA and you were always a person with positive vibration so that is so strange to see you upset!but i am happy now to see that you are in the vortex again.i can understand and feel your situation. for his 25th birthday(my ex)i gave him a watch and when he tagged  new pictures,my heart wanted to explode!!i wanted to see if the watch is in the picture? although i always saw the watch in the pics,but i got angry with myself,cause i could not let go!i was completely attached to him and his actions!!!!!! now after 2 years,i am not detached from the outcome.i had to deactivate my facebook profile,cause his small actions,had a great effect on me!!!i love myself and any thing in my life.i am grateful for that,but i can't deny i am attached to him!!he completes my happiness.YES!!!!!so I agree with Katie.nothing is more important than our beliefs....you are always in my prayers.you are a grateful person,so kind and full of positive vibration

[ava]

this video is just dedicated to you.just you:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=OpECBDzOITE&feature=player_embedded

[2thetop]

Ahh another wonderful video post ava.

Lashark its good to see you in a better place now.  I thought I was going to have to jump on a plane and come straighten you out.  You are the forums happy face these days.  I found myself in the same spot when my girl changed her pic finally.  Its funny cuz she left her pic up forever after I complimented her on it.  Sent her a "take care" letter and havent responded on her pics since, and now they change weekly.  Well I dunno about weekly but the last few times I have looked its been a new pic.  I am just like eh whatever these days, as far as pics go anyways.  Think of him changing that pic as a new beginning.  Remember, we are NOT trying to attract back that old relationship that led us all to this place.  We are trying to attract a new and more fulfilling relationship.  This may not happen over night.  We may have made all the changes in the world.  It may be the other person that needs to make a few changes.  Its up to you if you move on or not.  For me I know that I will love this woman no matter what I do.  So instead of moving on and being unfair to another person, I will continue to expect us to be reunited. 
Make your choice, or dont make your choice.  Maybe just focus on you and only you for now.  Let the choice be made with time.  Like I have said before, love doesnt just vanish into thin air.  Sometimes its just buried under a ton of trash and we just gotta wait for it to be uncovered again. 
keep your head up lashark and dont make me have to get on a plane