What To Do Now ?

[Pretty_Smile]

Plus he's busy nowadays

[Pretty_Smile]

Ok so I caved in and texted him cause he didn't reply from earlier and his response was : I do stay busy. I feel bad now.

[tereza]

I think you're trying way too hard and you're way too focused on him. Just let it go. The whole point of using the law of attraction is to attract things to you. It's not called the "Law of Reaching Out and Doing Lots of Work" for a reason.

Anyway, you might want to read this:
http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/getting-your-ex-lover-back

[hellokiki]

I agree with tereza.  Truly believe that your guy will come back to you and let go of the current situation.  When you try too hard and focus too much on something, the manifestations will likely be delayed.  Focus on yourself and enjoy your life now!

[Pretty_Smile]

Thanks guys. Today I deleted some text messages that I'd locked into my phone a couple of weeks ago where he was saying sweet things. But I did it so I could be a tad bit more detached and it worked. I feel better though.

[Pretty_Smile]

I texted him today and said that I hoped he had a good day and replied saying same to u too. I still feel so attached,ugh.

[tereza]

Again, read this link:

http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/getting-your-ex-lover-back

[irishgirl69]

You need to relax.  Exercise some self control and don't text him.  You're coming across a little desperate (okay, a lot desperate) and that is not only going to stop you from manifesting what you want but it is also a HUGE turnoff to men (and woman, actually).  Back off, let him miss you a little bit.

[jtut21]

As you consider any desire you intend to manifest it is always for the purpose for feeling better and to achieve happiness. Anytime there is any confusion as to what to set for an intention or knowing exactly what you want than happiness should be the focus. By intending upon happiness all good things will come to you. Relationships, money, career, and the feeling of happiness. That is not to say that those things are what create happiness but that they are a result of happiness. Have gratitude each day and pay attention to your thoughts being upon what you do want and the result will be feelings of happiness. Avoid getting caught up in the details too much and allow the Universe to do its part in working for you to bring happiness into your life in all areas. As you follow this advice not only will you have the perfect relationship but enjoy many other areas of your life.

To Your Happiness,

Josh
Get Your Ex Back www.romance-beacon.com

[57angel]

Pretty Smile, by giving your pedestal to him, you are also giving him the right to hurt you when he does or not the thing you want to be. He should not be there, you should be there in your pedestal When you put yourself in your pedestal, you will give everything that will make you happy and consciously decide to feel good on the people, events and situations that will make you happy as well as consciously decide to feel good even when other people, events and situations are not those that you want to be. There is a right time for everything, try to let go of the "how and when" things should happen. It is indeed a gift to yourself to just do everything that will make you happy - regardless whether he is in it or not

[Pretty_Smile]

OK, so I'm feeling low. There has been another guy I was talking to but I knew all that time that I still wanted to be with Travis but he was cool and we did fool around a couple of times, weeks ago I was acting and feeling weird. I was nauseous and being overly emotional and my calves, feet and ankles began swelling up and feeling "tight" but yesterday I passed a bloodclot with fetal tissue, in other words I suffered a miscarriage. And the guy really didn't care but kept blowing up my phone afterwards and I told him that I didn't want to deal with him anymore cause for a while every time I saw his number on my caller ID or saw that I had a text from him I automatically got a headache and I felt sick to my stomach. Last night Travis called me and was being flirty and saying that he missed me but today he told me that he's living his life and doesn't want anything holding him back and that stung but not as bad as I thought it would, I just told dim to be good and I wish him happiness and replied saying the same thing to me. After that I deleted his number and his pictures out of my phone. I feel so antsy right because I wanna text him but I'm staying strong. I feel like NC is the best thing to do right now. WHY CAN'T I GET THIS RIGHT ?! This dude doesn't even want anything to do with me ... maybe I should just give him what he wants and leave him alone for good. I'm such a fuck up 

[tereza]

maybe I should just give him what he wants and leave him alone for good.

I really recommend that you read the link I shared because it explains why your ex doesn't want anything to do with you and how to change that. I will post it a third time:

http://www.powerfulintentions.org/forum/topics/getting-your-ex-lover-back

To all those looking for the ' final solution' :-)) to this problem - I HAVE FOUND IT!

The answer is -

1) STOP STOP STOP with all the longing!

2) Master the art of POSITIVE SELFISHNESS. Ever wonder why selfish people always have people who love them and are loyal to them? They radiate a certain vibration, that's why !! You can't beat this law, so join it!! Think only of yourself (not of him/her), pamper yourself, enjoy the attention of those who do admire you, HAVE FUN, FORGET ABOUT THE LOSER WHO THOUGHT YOU WERE NOT WORTH IT! By positive selfishness i mean - be selfish but don't be hurtful to others.

3) I applied this formula - now my ex has eyes only for me, sends me the most flattering messages a woman would like to have, AND WHAT'S IMPORTANT IS - This man is no pathetic wimp, and has a lot of choices when it comes to women!

Cheers....to Myself !!! :-))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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It has always genuinely surprised me when a lover wanted to leave, when I wanted to continue. I'm good-looking, smart, cheerful, kind-hearted and interesting. I'm no wimp. I'm not needy. I rarely suffer from self-doubt. So for me the big question was - What is it then? I was determined to find out. And I did.

The first important thing to understand is that everything in the universe is energy, in one form or another. We are all energy. Our thoughts transmit this energy with a unique vibrational signature. We are masters at reading the energy of other human beings, and responding accordingly. Unless you develop awareness in this area, it's happening unconsciously.


Why do they leave?

We learn from two sources - our environment, and our experiences. Very often these two sources seem to impress upon us that life is a struggle. Our parents - their struggles make deep impression on the psyche. What we learn is that in order to deserve a love relationship we have to give in and give up….ourselves. And this is actually what causes loss of love.

If you fall in love and cannot keep your energy centered around yourself, your partner will leave. This is a law, as sure as sunrise and sunset.

Some people suffer a whole lifetime captured in this pattern - the same energy will bring the same result, over and over and over. If you are serious about mastering your love life, you HAVE to master the art of keeping your energy centered and aligned at all times. So how do you do this?

The art of Positive Selfishness.

 In your mind, build a fabulous pedestal in granite or marble, in the middle of a town square - a pedestal with space for only one icon or idol. Place yourself on this pedestal. 'You' in gold, or platinum or titanium or whatever you wish. Does this bring home a message?

 Stop focussing on - does he/she like me? will he mind if i say this/ do this….STOP! And start listening to the voice within…it will tell you how YOU are feeling.

 Let your emotions be your guide. If you are getting feelings of sadness or discomfort in a relationship, take yourself serious! Don't hesitate to communicate with your partner over this, and don't hesitate to end the relationship if required.

 Never turn your existing life and routine upside down for your lover, like cancelling appointments to accomodate him/ her unless it's really necessary. Don't neglect other areas of your life such as your work/ study/ sport/ children etc. Make it a habit not to think of your lover when you are doing other things. Live in the moment!


The Essential Nature of the Universe

( This may not seem relevant - but it is!! It will get you in alignment to ALLOW and RECEIVE )

We live in a dynamic, ever-changing universe. Just look out of your window! Is it ever the same? Seasons change, winds turn, trees grow, clouds come and go….and yet we human beings crave for certainty to give us a safe feeling. The truth is - change and uncertainty are the essential nature of the universe. When you accept this, you align yourself WITH the universal forces, instead of against.
You have to understand that this uncertainty is not your enemy, it is your best friend. This uncertainty is unlimited potential - it is the zero-setting for all manifestation. The Indian yogis understand it better than anyone else, they are the masters at this. My years in India have given me a wealth I cannot express in words.

Life is a healthy, free flowing river. When you let go and join the flow of life, trusting the current, it will take you to new places, new encounters, new people, new loves. When you pine and long for a person from your past, you get stuck and block the flow of life-force. The very things you want move away from you, simply because you want them, and your alignment set to negative.

Let's get one thing clear. Uncertainty in this context does not mean doubt, it refers to the ever-changing, never-static quality of the universe.

SO you want to be a manifestation master - you have to stand on this uncertainty - not only embrace it , but use it as a TOOL and as an opportunity. If the universe is renewing itself every moment, it's your golden chance to renew yourself. Yesterday's apartment can be turned into tomorrow's mansion. Yesterday's rejection, into adoration today….

When you are pining and longing for a person, you are NOT loving them, you are indulging in a personal party of misery and lack - therefore you are not transmitting vibrations of love. The more of this energy you send out, the more it will repel this person fom you.

If you truly LOVE a person, what does it matter where they are, with whom they are, as long as they are happy? You may certainly wish and intend that they be with you, but if you are jealous, hateful, fearful, the person receives each of these vibrations. So….let go, with love !!

When you combine clear intention with detachment, you get what you want.

intention + let go = receive

But this let-go…it has to come from deep within, it has to become a life belief.

So, to get your ex back-

1) Stop the longing - it is a self-destructive vibration (that reaches the ex).
2) Make the intention that you want him/her back, release this intention into the universe.
3) Then forget all about it.
4) Wipe your life-slate clean and blank.
5) Make a new intention - I enjoy a fabulous love-life - with a new love!! ja, ja :-)))
( sounds contradictory and disloyal - but this is vital - it puts out the signal that you're a healthy spirit )
6) Practice the art of positive selfishness.
7) Plunge into life - in every area - live in the moment, to the very fullest!!

That's it!

And believe me, as I got happy and strong in my own life, the man who had walked away started to come back - slowly. When he first began to make contact, he was careful, as if he was almost afraid of the energy he had experienced before. But this time it was a different energy, an attractive one. Very soon he started to contact me daily, and still does. As for me, I have changed. I have made no move towards him. I do answer one out of 5 of his messages. He's really crazy about me. At this point I commit to nothing. The choice is mine to make!


* A word about RS - You can try it if you feel attracted to do so. I have. It worked. I don't use it anymore - I don't feel the need. The above-mentioned formula works better and balances you in all areas of life.

Also, it's good that you deleted his number and his pictures. Just let him go...especially right now. You've been through a lot and need to take care of yourself.

[Pretty_Smile]

I appreciate it and trust me I have read it but every time I found myself not thinking about him I got worried and the toughest thing for me is to let go because I always feel like I have to do something because it feels like I'm not doing enough

[tereza]

I appreciate it and trust me I have read it but every time I found myself not thinking about him I got worried

But that means you're still thinking about him.

I always feel like I have to do something because it feels like I'm not doing enough

Just let go of him, it's not doing you any good to hold on to him. Plus doing more for him (or to attract him to you), just makes him move away from you and it takes energy away from yourself.

Are there other areas of your life besides relationships that could use improving? Why not use the LoA to manifest more money or a better job or a nicer place to live or a fun vacation somewhere? Also, why not try to attract someone better? Why not manifest a couple of cute guys into your life? Figure out how to live your life to the fullest like in the 7 steps listed.

[Pretty_Smile]

Yeah, there are definitely other areas that need work lol. But as for this, I know what I want. Do I need him ? Of course not. But I do know that I have to let go of being desperate and I have to let go in general.