Author Topic: What's his problem. :( (Read 387 times)

ellebelle · « **on:** October 25, 2011, 03:22:58 AM »

I've explained on here before, but my ex who I've had little contact with for three months deleted me off Facebook a while ago. A few days ago he added me again and I eventually accepted a couple of days later. And what happened? He deleted me again. I don't know what to do. He's not the type at all to be immature and play games. It's only facebook and not really the biggest of deals but it has upset me. I've worked in harmony with LOA and somehow I've managed to drive him away again even before speaking to him!

lashark · « **Reply #1 on:** October 25, 2011, 03:42:02 AM »

Why did it take you a few days to accept? It sounds like there is resentment towards him, and youre depending too much on his actions. Maybe you should try forgiving him and think about how good of a person he really is and how much you deserve happiness, so you can try to reach for happiness on your own instead of on what he does or doenst do. You can still love him and be happy even though hes not around. You can still enjoy the thought of being with him and be happy even if hes currently not around or deleting you from fb.

Wow, I really cant stand FB. Im glad I deactivated that stupid thing, Im sure it does wonders for people to find old loved ones and stay in touch with family but to me it was like a bad version of high school. I deactived it and its done wonders for my peace of mind. Eventually Ill make peace with it and see the postitives in FB but for now....

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #2 on:** October 25, 2011, 03:46:30 AM »

Hi,

Send him a message and apologize for not accepting his request earlier. He is put off because you took so long to accept and he is being defensive. This is the time to humble yourself and be sweet and without ego, apologize and explain from your heart why you didn't accept it earlier.......You MUST BE HONEST with him and yourself. Be humble! This is not the time for ego.

ellebelle · « **Reply #3 on:** October 25, 2011, 04:31:31 AM »

Quote from: Mariposa, (KnJ) on October 25, 2011, 03:46:30 AM

Hi,

Send him a message and apologize for not accepting his request earlier. He is put off because you took so long to accept and he is being defensive. This is the time to humble yourself and be sweet and without ego, apologize and explain from your heart why you didn't accept it earlier.......You MUST BE HONEST with him and yourself. Be humble! This is not the time for ego.

But I haven't spoken to him in months.

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #4 on:** October 25, 2011, 04:41:40 AM »

I know you haven't, obviously that is why he is now hesitant to accept your accepting his original request, you waited too long and now he is being defensive. He took it personally and the only way to smooth it over and get back on his good side is to apologize and explain your thinking by being heartfelt and honest. Like I said, take the ego out of it!!

Who cares if you haven't spoken to him in months? That shouldn't matter, you like him, you want a relationship with him, don't you? Well, how do you do that if you refuse to speak to him?

The guy likes you and is protecting himself because you blew him off.......NOW FIX IT!!!

If you don't you might as well hang it up, this situation will NOT fix itself. I know it's hard and you don't want to put yourself out there but fight the fear and do it anyway. Just do it!!

Fear only brings more negativity and more fear, so fight through it.

BE BRAVE!!

irishgirl69 · « **Reply #5 on:** October 25, 2011, 04:42:48 AM »

I agree with Mariposa. You haven't spoken in months and when he tried to reach out to you, you ignored it. He was probably nervous to send that friend request and hurt that you didn't accept right away. Don't let pride get in your way here. If you want him back, you'll have to take some risks.

ellebelle · « **Reply #6 on:** October 25, 2011, 04:56:53 AM »

Thank you guys, should I message him or maybe call him?

I agree, I originally thought he deleted me because he was upset I took a few days to accept, but then I realised, my profile is on private. I might not of been online for all he knows. Sometimes I really don't check my facebook for weeks. I guess part of me hoped that seeing my profile made him miss me and he didn't like it, but maybe I was just getting my hopes up.

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #7 on:** October 25, 2011, 05:15:35 AM »

You can try to call him, it's always better to speak in person but if he doesn't answer send him a message.

57angel · « **Reply #8 on:** October 25, 2011, 08:15:00 AM »

Ellebelle, everyone here offered good advices. He initiated the contact, don't have second thoughts to apologize, he will understand also of your feelings. The thought of where your story will you both to when you do this makes me smile

lilly · « **Reply #9 on:** October 25, 2011, 09:26:22 AM »

Somehow I don't see why you should have to explain yourself on why it took you a few days to accept his friend request..you could have been away for a while or not checking your facebook right away..and it doesn't matter how long it took you as long as you accepted it in the end.

However, I agree with everyone else, he tried to reach for you and it is an opportunity to try and contact him too, either send him back a friend request but the best would be to call him and explain to him how you feel, that you'd like to get in touch again and see where it goes from there.