Author Topic: Want my guy to come back! (Read 992 times)

Kas · « **on:** January 05, 2012, 09:43:05 AM »

I attracted a wonderful guy about 6 months ago but I lost him in a month and a half because of my own in securities and confusion. He matches every single quality on my "soulmate list" and I cannot forgive myself for making stupid mistakes and confusing him. I've apologized, texted and clearly told him that I want a second chance with him because I have never felt the way I feel about him about anyone else. He said that he doesn't think it's a good idea and thinks it'll make things worse. I'm completely heartbroken. I feel as though the longer it takes, the harder it is to get him back. I tried to use LOA to attract him back for months but nothing worked (probably because I couldn't completely trust LOA). Which is why I had to tell him EXACTLY how I felt just so I can tell myself that I tried my best to get back with him.

What do I do? I seriously want another chance with him. I know my story is not like others' because we went out for only a few weeks. Can you tell me some techniques to attract him? I've read stories of people who had to "let go" to attract their ex back... But how do I let go? The thought of him not wanting to be with me is making me so sad. How does the whole "he may not be the one which is why I can't attract him back" come into play? Am I messing with what is in my destiny by wanting this guy?

Thanks for your help!!

chrissy8907 · « **Reply #1 on:** January 05, 2012, 10:02:19 AM »

I know it's hard to think about "letting go" but it's a must! I was in the exact situation two months ago no lie and i did exactly what you did. He then made it clear he didn't want a relationship. I started to focus on my own happiness!! It was such a amazing feeling. Do you have a journal? I suggest you start one. Don't hide your feelings accept them but don't dwell. Now he is back and we are doing well. I do still get attached from time to time but i have to remind myself no one controls my feelings but me!! You deserve a great relationship and don't think other wise!! You are beautiful, you are loved and you are attracting everything you desire

57angel · « **Reply #2 on:** January 05, 2012, 11:39:04 AM »

@Kas, it is good that you now take responsibility of your actions, your insecurities and confusion and is also responsibly taking steps to make things right. Focus inwards, identify which feelings and beliefs that need to be deleted, which needs to be strengthened and what should be added. Focus on loving yourself more, on doing the things that will make you smile and laugh the loudest! For you to get him back, you need to make the best you can be, that someone who will give him sleepless nights if he is not with you, that someone whom he can not live without. There are really some points in a relationship that both need to undergo, though it is painful, but it is a learning process to appreciate each other more, to love each other more. Forgive yourself, forgive him. Accept yourself for all of your choices, and love yourself more. Develop the attitude of being so very grateful and happy for what you have. Do your affirmations, meditations, and everything else which works best for you. Keep reading the posts of those who successfully gotten back their exes, you will have a lot to learn from them.

@Chrissy, congratulations for your success in getting him back! Good luck to your improved, very happy and more loving relationship with your beloved. Reading stories as this really makes me smile and so anxious for my next relationship now that LOA is always a part of my life

Kas · « **Reply #3 on:** January 06, 2012, 08:47:50 AM »

Thank you so much for your reply. It has been 3 days since I texted him and told him I want a second chance and I have never felt these feelings I feel about him. I was hoping I wouldn't have to be the first to tell him this and he'd contact me on his own. But since he didn't, I had to tell him. I've been feeling so light and hopeful since then. I know that he knows exactly how I feel now and letting go seems easier now. Before I was anxious about him not knowing my true feelings but now it's all out in the open. I've been tapping (EFT) a few times a day, keeping my mind off him, not checking his Facebook all the time, journaling, etc. I feel like I'm making progress. And I've also started manifesting small things like attracting emails from friends, catching the bus on time, etc.

Please do let me know if you have any other things I should do. I know how important this guy is because I would never go through such lengths for anyone else. I know he is worth all of this.

irishgirl69 · « **Reply #4 on:** January 06, 2012, 08:55:34 AM »

Check out the resources thread stickied in the relationship forum - there is a lot of great info there, as well as success stories from people who have attracted someone specific to their lives.

I think it's great that you were honest with him. Now I would suggest laying low and focusing on attracting him on a spiritual level rather than a physical one. Continue to work on yourself, detaching, etc., and he will feel that shift in your energy and be drawn back to you. Just be sure to address the insecurities that you had in the first place or they will continue to be an issue when you attract him back.

57angel · « **Reply #5 on:** January 07, 2012, 06:51:37 AM »

@Kas, it is good that you let him know your feelings for him. It is now then up to him to weigh things out. This is much, much better than not letting him know how you feel for him! I had an experience on that, moving on was never sooo easy for there are a lot of my head, what if, what if, what if! I am glad that LOA came into my life, and have done things to really forgive myself for doing such

@Irishgirl, very good advice

Kas · « **Reply #6 on:** January 08, 2012, 02:08:52 AM »

@57angel and @irishgirl69 - thank you ao much. I know that LOA does work and I'm doing so much better. I'm manifesting little things. People who I haven't spoken to in a while are texting me to hang out, texting me to tell me they miss me. I know I am loved and I am lovable. I'm going to the gym a few times a week, I am putting all my faith in the universe because I know its only a matter of time before he is back in my life. I just know that this guy is my soulmate which is why I can't let go of him. I just cannot wait until I can write my success story here!!

This forum is a blessing and you guys are my angels.

57angel · « **Reply #7 on:** January 08, 2012, 07:13:34 PM »

You are welcome Kas! He will come into your life when you are both ready to have a loving and fulfilling relationship, the better you are in keeping the positive beliefs on the kind of relationship that you will have with him, the sooner you will allow him to come into your life

I will really look forward to your success story here!

Kas · « **Reply #8 on:** January 09, 2012, 05:12:46 AM »

I feel like I've been strong for the past few days since I sent that text message but I've been crying all day today. I am just so emotional over my ex. Everyone keeps telling me to let go and move on but I am just not sure what to do. I feel Iike if I move on then he'll go away and I'll just push him farther away, but it's not like I am any close to getting him right now because I am so emotional and almost desperate. Everyone tells me that I need to start dating again and if this guy is meant for me then he will come back. I am just so confused with the whole fate and deliberate use of law of attraction. If i start dating someone else and start putting my energy on them, then will it not push him farther away? Any help will be appreciated. Thanks so much!

57angel · « **Reply #9 on:** January 09, 2012, 05:46:28 AM »

Quote from: Kas on January 09, 2012, 05:12:46 AM

I feel Iike if I move on then he'll go away and I'll just push him farther away, but it's not like I am any close to getting him right now because I am so emotional and almost desperate. Everyone tells me that I need to start dating again and if this guy is meant for me then he will come back. I am just so confused with the whole fate and deliberate use of law of attraction. If i start dating someone else and start putting my energy on them, then will it not push him farther away?

Kas, I am sure you will push him away with the feelings of neediness and desperation. I too once like you, and I pushed my relationships away. It is indeed so energy consuming for him to put him as your reason of happiness, good if you are always happy, but what if you are not? You are putting much pressure on him, as much as you are putting pressure on yourself at times when things and events in your relationship will not happen the way you want them to be. You should find your happiness, you should find the love for yourself - more than anything else! Do the things that you love! When you feel so much love for yourself, not even him can resist not being in love with you. What is most important now is YOU! By feeling better, you are giving yourself that special gift of love to yourself. When you stop keeping in touch with him, he will feel that he is no longer in your pedestal. Only then will he be curious what keeps you busy and when he sees that you are happy even without him, only then will he find a way to get you back. The sooner you feel better of yourself, the sooner you will stay in the vortex, the sooner he will find his way back to your heart. Just date with anyone else if you feel you like to, but if not, then do something else that will make you happy!

Kas · « **Reply #10 on:** January 13, 2012, 09:24:32 AM »

I have decided go delete my social networking profile so I don't get tempted to see my ex's profile. I read that I should un-friend him but that would not feel good at all. So I deleted my profile. I know that since I won't be on there, I'll be able to shift my attention and detach. I will not be able to see all the other girls he adds because that always made me feel sad. I still think of him but I don't miss him like I used to. I'm focusing on my studying right now and hoping that'll help divert my attention. Good move?

yolo7 · « **Reply #11 on:** January 13, 2012, 09:40:59 AM »

yes, it's a good move! that's what I did as soon as me and my guy broke up. anything that can help you detach.

Kas · « **Reply #12 on:** January 17, 2012, 08:59:59 PM »

yolo7 - did you get your guy back? did it help with the detach/non-attach?

I have really really good days where I feel so hopeful and then I have low days. The low days are NOT as low as they used to be, but I still feel myself thinking about the HOW. How is he going to come back? How long will this take? What if this doesn't work? What if he really never liked me enough and I'm holding on to something that was never there? I know these are the things someone who is non-attached shouldn't think of. But I still get attached from time to time. It seems like he's moving on without me and my friends seem to be moving on with their lives as well and I just feel STUCK.

yolo7 · « **Reply #13 on:** January 18, 2012, 12:22:19 AM »

Quote from: Kas on January 17, 2012, 08:59:59 PM

yolo7 - did you get your guy back? did it help with the detach/non-attach?

I have really really good days where I feel so hopeful and then I have low days. The low days are NOT as low as they used to be, but I still feel myself thinking about the HOW. How is he going to come back? How long will this take? What if this doesn't work? What if he really never liked me enough and I'm holding on to something that was never there? I know these are the things someone who is non-attached shouldn't think of. But I still get attached from time to time. It seems like he's moving on without me and my friends seem to be moving on with their lives as well and I just feel STUCK.

Kas- no I didn't get my guy back..My guy and i have been on and off a lot but the times we have gotten back together I guess you could say I was detached without realization but I can't seem to re-call it

. But right now I am in the same position as you.. I'm no longer with my guy and I haven't been able to detached and it's honestly getting me nowhere.. with him or in my life because like you, I'm stuck. But I have a friend who I actually posted her story with being detached and she doesn't know anything about LoA ..

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/law-of-attraction-for-relationship-6/detachment-5752/

And this is something I will tell you that other members here on have told me... don't think about the HOW because it doesn't matter on how it will happen. That thought of the HOW is what is keeping your from aligning with your desire and allowing it to manifest. You have to just trust in the universe and within faith and yourself that it will. From what I'm aware of with being detached, you have to really let go. You have to find true happiness within yourself and know that YOU can live without your guy. Once you have reached the level then you are truly detached. I completely understand that this is hard and you have your good and your bad days.. (I'm literally in your shoes) But with what I'm going to tell you and I'm sure every member will tell you, you have to be happy for yourself. Not being happy because knowing by doing so you'll get your guy back. You have to TRULY do it for yourself and no one else. It won't be easy.. it's something you'll come to realize and do on your own time.. but once you are there, believe me everything will fall into place the way you want and was meant to. You have to take action to bringing yourself happiness.. that to me will be the inspired action in the creative process.. start with you..then you will see everything will blossom.

I hope this helps. It's funny how I can write this all to you and yet I can't sallow my own advice ..

like I said, easier said than done.

Kas · « **Reply #14 on:** January 30, 2012, 07:57:56 AM »

Thanks for your advice and story, Yolo7. Really appreciate it.

I just wanted to post an update.

About 2 weeks ago I asked the LOA for peace of mind. I felt so restless and anxious regarding my relationship that before I could be with my soulmate, i needed to make sure i was calm and relaxed. I seriously believe that LOA delivered what I asked for. I feel like I am detaching because I no longer feel like i am obsessing over him. I am definitely not thinking about him 24/7. I think not seeing his profile online and not seeing any status updates is really helping. I read some stories on this forum where people have left it up to the universe to bring their ex back or the best person for them. I think I am doing that. I felt so much resistance and so much doubt as to how he'll come back and when it'll happen so i decided that it's best if i just focus on being with my soulmate/the love of my life. That is allowing me to be more hopeful and relaxed. I sincerely hope LOA brings my ex back because I feel like he is the one for me. Everyday I wake up and i say to myself "I am so excited to see how my life will unfold and how the LOA will work for me". I will keep you all updated but as of right now I am truly at peace and happy.