Using the Law of attraction to get my ex back

[beautifulmesss12sc]

Visualizing , affirmations and gratitude are good things .. jst dont obcess over your Emma, do it for oyu.. at first we all start off by thining we need them we have to have them and thats why wee seek out forums like this .. but it is also a tool to heal yourself , love yourself and become the person she fell in love with . then Emma will be drawn back to you

[RichL]

 First night doing LOA did my affirmations and visualising before I went to bed and had a bit of a weird dream. I dreamt I was on a train and I kept running up and down it past her friends. I ignored them at first but eventually sat down and spoke to them. I apologised to both of them. One of them accept my apology and the other one started screaming at me. Eventually we got off te train where the one who had screamed at me told me my ex didn't love me anymore. But then hesitated and wasn't convinced. This carried on for a while. Eventually a 3rd girl showed up, someone who had never met Emma, and told me that after some questioning she had a new boyfriend and that he was healthy happy and a little eccentric. This woke me up at 5 in the morning. However I quickly deduced that this isn't an issue. It's a about the future not a possibile preset and that I shouldn't worry. But it did rattle me a little bit.

[RichL]

So this weekend has been a bit of a struggle if I'm honest.

I was feeling positive on Friday as I left work and went out for the weekend. All of last week I have been saying my affirmations, visualising us back together, 68 seconds of pure thought and remote seduction mediation. But going out and having a few drinks with friends got me a little bit down.

I was of the opinion that Emma can't do any better than me and that we will be back together soon thanks to LOA and I still maintain this thought. Not because I fly in the face of LOA. But rather it helps me to stay focused on my end goal and is part of letting her go. I.E go get in another relationship, or be with someone else that’s your choice. But as Friday night wore on I found myself missing her more and more. I tried to talk to other girls in the club I was in but I realise that I'm just not ready for that. I am trying to let go as much as possibile but as I said I think I just had a negative weekend. I found myself as I got home from the club on my knees asking the universe to help me get back with her.

I went out Saturday as well and had a few drinks and at first was feeling upbeat, I had already done my LOA rituals for the day and was enjoying myself, when all of a sudden I had a mass crash, found myself feeling unhappy and upset. I started looking at her Facebook profile and trying to find her on POF. When I couldn’t find her I had a freak out and thought oh god she must be in a relationship. This got progressively worse throughout the night and I just felt worse and worse. Again I know the drink didn’t help and am aware that when I'm not drinking I don't feel as bad I feel positive that the universe will deliver. When I have had a bit too much to drink I feel terrible and hard done by.  Although I'm not sure why, the universe brought me this amazing relationship and I am eternally grateful for it. I bring in my own negativity by dwelling on it and not focusing on how good it was, and how great it will be again. The solution is to know my limits. But again I found myself Saturday evening trying to get the universe to deliver something to me as I went to bed. I know it won’t work that way and I have to be patient. But sometimes patience is hard.

Anyway she isn't in another relationship (even if she is, he won't be me and I'm sure its LOA way of showing her that I'm where she is meant to be) but I have spent yesterday and today feeling a bit low. I ignorantly assumed that LOA would be a lot easier than this. Yes I know I'm not using the method of letting go as much as I would like, rather I am trying to work with the universe to attract her back.

Maybe because I'm tired or what I don't know, I just feel a little bit crap. But I'm hoping that I can will myself out of this. I have decided not to give up on this. I will get Emma back, the universe will help me. I think I just need to be a bit more patent and allow it to happen.

Thanks for letting me rant, if anyone has any kind words, thoughts or ideas I'm all ears.

[ESP]

If you don't want someone else, but you need a distraction here's a suggestion I've been using to let go of the love of my life, I still think of him, but I spend more time on my career, hobbies, completing other goals or projects that I will want to do with or without him.  Basicly I've been using the time I have been stuck apart from him to make sure that when he and I are reunited I am better positioned for in relationship, or alternitivly to have a good life for myself and know that he'll have to live with the fact that he's missing out.

You can do something similar, I've heard people want to make a certain amount of money, or be to a certain career level before they get married, or have kids.  Time is still passing, whatever future you wanted before whatever future you want with the person you love now the last thing you need is a reason to delay when even if you pick up where you left off you will be later then intended in your life for that point in the relationship to start with?

[Autumn]

If you don't want someone else, but you need a distraction here's a suggestion I've been using to let go of the love of my life, I still think of him, but I spend more time on my career, hobbies, completing other goals or projects that I will want to do with or without him.  Basicly I've been using the time I have been stuck apart from him to make sure that when he and I are reunited I am better positioned for in relationship, or alternitivly to have a good life for myself and know that he'll have to live with the fact that he's missing out.

You can do something similar, I've heard people want to make a certain amount of money, or be to a certain career level before they get married, or have kids.  Time is still passing, whatever future you wanted before whatever future you want with the person you love now the last thing you need is a reason to delay when even if you pick up where you left off you will be later then intended in your life for that point in the relationship to start with?

Been doing the same thing myself. Exercising like crazy, I've always wanted to be one of those really hot people (not to say I don't like me now, I think I'm cute but I'd like to be really fit). I've taken up dancing, cycling, combined both with my love of music. I have way more time to spend on work now, and it's sure helping my academics. I have more time for my friends, to really get to know them, observe and assimilate things about people and their personalities. I've turned a shade more imaginative in cooking.

I think the list of things we can do to distract ourselves is neverending. And trust me, this helps with detachment as well. I woke up this morning feeling just so free and clean. For once, I knew I truly wasn't obsessing about the outcome. I've been asking my boyfriend to give the relationship another chance along with all the LOA, RS, meditation, detachment. But this morning, I didn't feel anxious. I don't think I cared at all, just a happy-to-alive sorta feeling. I just knew I'd have a great life however it turned out to be. I somehow felt that the Universe is bringing him back to me. He's coming back, no doubts at all. Meanwhile, I'm gonna have FUN!! I'll love myself even better and will be a better match to him when he does come back. Even so, whether he comes back or not, I'm never getting this time back again, might as well make the most of it 

[RichL]

Thanks ESP, I have been focusing on myself as well. I'm aware it’s not all about her. Rather I need to be in a better place for when she comes back. I have started a new job so that keeps me busy, I am watching a lot of EURO2012 (Football) which keeps my mind off things. So I am focusing on trying to be a better me. Things can be hard sometimes but not every second of every day is spent on Emma.

That’s great to hear 9J, I have too been getting myself down the gym to try and stay focused. Yep there is a never ending list, glad you didn’t feel anxious. I have to say I have some anxious moments, but oddly enough never when I'm affirming, visualising or doing RS.

[Autumn]

That's good to hear RichL, it means you're doing things right. We all give in to bouts of anxiety. But if you're not feeling that anxiety when you do RS or visualisation, it means your thoughts are coming from the right place. That you're truly happy when you're affirming and only the positive emotions are getting transmitted out there. Good luck x

[RichL]

Thank you. Although I do struggle sometimes with staying postive all the time. Do you find you have that problem. I mean I know I'm meant to focus on the end result and I am. Me and Emma as a couple.

But I still do get my down moments. Not because of Emma just down in general. I worry that maybe I am still a bit too focused on her. When I should focus on myself.

[Autumn]

That happens to me too. It's only in the past couple of days that I've started feeling better. I still think about him a few times a day, but the desperation/fear seems to have gone. I feel only love when I see a picture of him. I think you can't hurry detachment, just because you know it's a step forward. Maybe it just comes with time. I was consciously trying, but one text from him or a song on the radio and I'd be back to square one. Maybe I was trying too hard. One morning I just wake up, and it's gone. That's not to say that I'm completely healed. I do have my moments when I'm down and positivity takes a back seat. I feel sad, but the desperation and neediness has gone. I know it sounds kind of weird but I don't know how else to explain. Like loneliness, fear and sadness are all different emotions. Though they are strong when I'm down, they do not affect the belief I have.

I guess the realisation that helped me was that you can't force a relationship. The person has to want to be with you as much as you do. A healthy relationship will come with genuine respect and affection for each other. Also, you deserve the best. What you do deserve is a partner who will love you, for who you are, and is willing to go through thick and thin. I believe he'll come back, the Universe will bring him back if he's the one I'm meant to be with, if our relationship is truly the perfect one for me and he realises that. If he feels that regardless of the issues we had, he'd be willing to forget all that because he's happy with me. He will come back because he wants to, and wouldn't that be a happier way of looking at things. I think the Universe will take into account my desire, his free will and what is best for both of us in the long run, ultimately our happiness.

I'd like to attach two paragraphs that I found on this forum, I don't know who posted the 1st one (I've forgotten), but I attribute the second one to Magdog. They've helped me immensely and I'd like to thank both of them. I just copy-pasted them into sticky notes on my desktop, so whenever it powers on or I switch windows, I catch a glimpse of it.

Be patient. Everything in life is subject to the universal laws of “Divine Timing”.

This means that we must wait for everything to fall into place before we can go ahead with our plans for the future.

What you desire needs a firm foundation, and you and any others involved must be ready, mentally and practically, in order for you to attain the happiness you so want and deserve.

Please have faith that your patience will pay off in the end.

I consciously commit to flexibility and detachment.
I allow myself and those around me the freedom to be themselves, without imposing rigid ideas of right and wrong.
I live my life in a state of engaged detachment.
I release the need to judge or criticize.
I express myself honestly while releasing any need to impose my beliefs on other people.
Whenever I notice that I am becoming emotionally attached to a point of view, I take a deep breath and come back to a more centered place.
I embrace detachment by choosing to be free from the good and bad opinions of others.
I Leave it to the Universe to work these things out.
I Leave it to the Universe to work these things out.
I Leave it to the Universe to work these things out.
I Leave it to the Universe to work these things out.
I am free of longing for ____ or anyone.
I am in a beautiful, loving relationship with _____, and I release this intention into the universe.
I forget all about it.
My life-slate is clean and blank.
I enjoy a fabulous love-life - with a new love!! ja, ja :-)))
I practice the art of positive selfishness.
I plunge into life - in every area - live in the moment, to the very fullest!!

I hope that helps. And sorry if the way I explained things seems rather centred around my situation. I tried to put it in 3rd person wherever possible, in a way writing that down made me understand and appreciate it better.

Warm wishes xx

[RichL]

Yeah it’s weird because when I started this I felt really positive in myself. Last couple of days I have felt a bit down. I think it’s more a case of having to wait and being impatient. But my mind-set is and continues to be we will be back together. I try not to let my mind wonder, but it’s hard when you get reminders/signs of her. I know I need to focus on that end result. What happens between now and then is irrelevant. I do feel love when I see her picture or think of her. I agree detachment is hard, I do wonder if I'm contradicting myself because I am becoming more detached but I also do Affirmations, Visualisation, 68 second pure thought, and remote seduction which has a lot of Emma attached to it. I would say my neediness and desperation has gone, I do get a bit lonely sometimes, but try to surround myself with friends when that happens.

See I know that I can't force a relationship, and I truly feel that the universe brought Emma to me for a reason and I'm sure it was for us to learn and grow together and be a couple again. I'm sure that this is being done to help me to grow as a person and be better prepared to be her boyfriend. The thing is I am not going to give up on this. But it would be nice if the universe could deliver this to me.

Thanks for those Sam, I will read them and say them out loud before I go to bed tonight along with my other affirmations.

How long have you been using LOA to bring back you ex and what success have you found from it?

[Autumn]

Believe me I understand what you mean when you say that. It's just that I totally lost him after the breakup. He completely changed his views on relationships because of how much I hurt him. He's just a totally different guy and cold to me. We were each other's first and only loves, since school - 12 years of knowing each other. I'm finding it really hard as well. We broke up just above a month ago. He yelled, shouted and believe me it was ugly. After I started using the LoA, he would somehow text, and the texts would be softer, showing more of the side of him that was hurt (the guy I knew best) than the vengeful proud side. I felt so hurt but at least it was easier to talk to him and try to reason and explain things out.

As for the LoA working, it works beyond a doubt. I've used it on occasion for little things like weight loss, even wishing his mom not visit the day I was visiting him (we were doing long-distance). As applied to our breakup, it has made him think of and reminisce about the happier times and all we had. I don't know how it is going to work, or what will change in me or him.

Like you, I believe that this is so that I'm a better person and in a better place to receive and love him when he comes back. Maybe this is also to teach me that I can't give up on us when the going gets hard.
I was hopelessly confused too, wondering if I was contradicting myself by visualising, affirming and doing RS. Most of the posts I've read here say that you don't have to stop doing them unless they make you feel worried or anxious and if you feel that you're doing it to get someone back. If you do it purely out of a will to see her happy and send love, I guess it should be okay.

For me, I don't feel like doing visualisations, scripting or RS everyday after the detachment. Somehow I believe, I don't know why. I know it seems impossible, but inside I feel it's possible. I do feel sad sometimes, and miss him too. But whenever the urge to do RS or visualisation comes over me, it almost always feels natural. Some days I do one, and sometimes the other. The RS has become more weird though, since detachment. I get random dreams and the feelings merge into it. The feeling in the dream is that my emotions have reached him. He's thawing, but slowly. Because he still sometimes gets really sarcastic, even in the dream. And I get unconnected things that I've never associated with him before. I don't know if it's a sign of reaching out to him after his thinking's changed or I'm just losing it.

Another weird coincidence is everyone seems to be calling me by the nickname only he used to use for me. Very few people have ever used that before and now suddenly everyone seems to be overcome by a tendency to call me by that name, even those who had other nicknames for me, random people, close friends, acquaintances. Even he's resorted to using it on the rare occasions when he texts, but sparingly. Actually I really should ask one of the others who've been inundated with signs like this if it actually means anything.

For my part, I really don't know how long it'll take him to heal or when he'll come back, if that  is indeed what's best for me. I would really like it to happen, though I know I should trust that whatever comes my way is way better than what I had - either a new, better relationship with him or a new guy. In any case, one thing that I've found to help is my gratitude rock. Whenever I feel low, I just clutch it and affirm positive things to myself, even if they are slightly hard to believe at that moment. I guess I've just started associating it as an anchor to shift my emotions into the positive. To remind myself that I should stay positive. It acts to stabilise me when I falter. Another thing I do is I have a picture of him as my wallpaper. So the moment I wake up and just before going to bed I wish him good morning and good night with all the love, just like I used to text him before. It makes me feel closer to him and kind of calm. Though I don't think about him nowadays as often as I used to. I try to keep busy. Hope that helped.

[RichL]

Yes it did help. Thank you Sam. Unlike yourself me and Emma have been apart for 3 months now. I wish I had found this board a lot sooner. Maybe me and Emma would be back together now. I do feel like in some ways I have lost Emma. But that was due to my negativity and now I'm hoping with a postive attitude I will attract her back.

This is the first time I have proactively used LOA although I'm sure that Emma coming into my life (way too much in common and timing was spot on) was a gift from the universe which universe I thank you for everyday. As you said and I agree I will not give up in this. I hope the universe recognises my determination.

The one thing about all of the LOA exercises is they don't make me anxious. They do make me postive which I hope is a sign. I do these everyday at the moment. Which I hope isn't too much.

I wish the signs I get were as clear as the ones you are getting. It sounds promising. I don't intend to rush the universe and just because I dont get big ones everyday doesn't mean the end result is out of sight. I do the same although I have a bracelet of hers I wear everyday. Every morning and night in bed I kiss it and tell her I love her.

Once again Thank you for that, I really hope it works out for you.

[jtut21]

The most important thing to understand is that anything that we desire in this life is because the thought of having it would make us happy. In your case the thought of having your ex girlfriend back would make you happy. In order to use the law of attraction to realize the relationship of your dreams you must get into the vibration of being happy. The easiest and best way to start yourself onto the path of happiness is to find gratitude in all the things you can find to be grateful for. As you are going around being grateful for all the things that are working in your life start to notice other things that put you into the feelings of happiness. Maybe some certain music or activity, whatever it is start to deliberately surround yourself with those things. As you become happier all the things in your life will begin to "magically" improve even your relationships. Also as you are apart from her begin taking action on all the things that you can improve about yourself which will also help bring you happiness.

All the best,

Josh
Get Your Ex Back www.romance-beacon.com

[RichL]

Hi Josh,

I agree with you but sometimes it can be hard to get into the vibration of being happy. I am trying I really am. Sometimes the loneliness of the situation overwhelms me. But I can assure you I am happier now than a month ago, plus I am focused on the end result of me and Emma back together. I have started to thank the universe every day for all the things I am grateful for. So that helps. I am also trying to improve and take action, I am spending time with friends, watching football, and working hard.

I know that the positive result of me and Emma is coming to me, time is irrelevant. Thank you for your words though

[Autumn]

You're welcome Rich, and thanks (: I wish the same for you.