Using LOA To Start Again

[unistudentuk]

Hi everyone

I've lost her. The first girl in my life that made me feel like it was all over.

But now im fine.Its been a month today since it all happened. The break up wasnt bitter, it wasnt horrible. I kind of saw it coming in a way. In the few weeks before the split, i became needy and possessive. In the week before the split, we got news she was going to london for a placement, our relationship wouldnt cope, suddenly problems arose that werent there before. Now i feel like they werent problems but excuses to break away from me. I feel that she thought i would hate her for choosing her career over me but truth is i dont, i supported her from the beginning.

It was clear to me she needed to do this on her own. I tried to reason, use logic but she was clear on what she needed to do.

Now she's gone, i wont see her for 4 months now. I read this article: http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/

I'm ready to let go of the old, to give the new a chance of life.

I am in love with her. No doubt. But im willing to let her go so we can grow as people. She said she doesnt see a future in us but i deserved that comment because i was trying to reason with her a mere week after it all happened.

I phoned her 2 days ago, told her i was sorry for the way i acted and hoped we could get to know each other again, start something new and to my surprise she agreed. I'm going to get on with my own life for the next 4 months, not contact her, give her what she needs, win back my power and see if our love survived, start again, slowly.

Do you think we can be together again if i stick to what i want; making myself happy first and letting her follow?

Mike

[David V.]

Absolutely.

[unistudentuk]

Thank you David.

Just so i am clear on my goals. i use the LoA to find the best version of myself. My goal is to be happy and my enjoy life.

I want her to be part of my life, i believe we are soul mates.

Do i focus on myself and she will come naturally because when i become my best version, we will both come together and things will happen naturally? Or do i need to ask the universe for it happen once i have asked it to bring me my first wish, true happiness with/without her?

Mike

[unistudentuk]

I just read your post david and i felt very inspried because i feel this way right now. Im not longer sad, im happy with my life. Grateful for my friends and family, excited about what the next few months hold for me but im also excited because when i think of her, im happy. I can picture us together, starting again. Sit in my new room, catching up. I can imagine our first kiss together weeks later, her laughing with me, i can imagine looking at my phone and seeing a message from her. I can imagine her smile. I can imagine her saying i love you for the first time.

I feel so positive about my life now. I'm excited to go through some changes mentally and physically. I have achieved so much already. Last night was the 30 days since we split and for the first time without effort when i thought of her, i was happy and confident, no certain one day we will be in a new, better, improved relationship

I will be with her again, it will be better and im so excited to start the "chase" that couples go through before getting together. I know we will be together.

[unistudentuk]

Hi everyone. I've invested a lot of time into an article this article
http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/
and many on here about the LoA. I'm feeling so optimistc about my future with/without. I realise now i dont need her to be happy. I feel happy now without here.

I do miss her on occasion though. Its hard because that clouds my mind with negetive thoughts. When that happens i read that article again and it makes me positive. This is because i feel i have reclaimed my power by not contacting my ex and that i feel i can decide what i want.

My wish to to the universe is to be happy regardless. My other wish is to start again with my ex. Not a relationship but to start our journey again, what ever that may be, as far back as humanely possible.

These are a few notes ive taken from that article that i am focusing on:

Recreating attraction in an ex-lover is a rather easy thing to do, in and of itself. It really comes down to just being yourself

Let her know that she can leave whenever she wants, and you will be FINE. And then do just that! Go on and be fine.

If you have placed your ex on a pedestal, above even your own needs and happiness. Then you have willfully GIVEN YOUR POWER TO YOUR EX
To get over it:   a) focus on getting yourself centered, and b) being a stronger and better person than you were before who is no longer affected by their exes' actions or feelings. Once this happens you WILL be an independent agent of free will again and the Law of Attraction will be better able to serve you

The only way to really get your ex-lover back is to MOVE ON & GET OVER THEM! You MUST get over them first. Why is that?

Because you don't want the SAME relationship you had with your ex, do you? That relationship didn't end all to well, right? You want a NEW relationship with your former lover.To get a NEW relationship with your ex, you must LET GO of the OLD relationship.

To do so, you must reclaim that power you gave to them. That means COMPLETELY MOVING ON AND LEAVING THEM BE! Then, and only then, can you make a powerful wish to the Universe that will attract many, including your ex back into your life!
It means that people will respond to you according to the manner in which you approached them. So, when you're around her, if you act like you're fine with everything, then she will treat you as if you're fine with everything

You want her to entirely forget about the "old" you. YOU want to entirely forget the old you, too

PROVE TO YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN MOVE ON.

I feel i am on the right path to happiness and finding my soul mate. If anyone feels i am not, please give me a helpful nudge in the right direction.

Who knows as a result, me and zoe will reconnect on a whole new level and have a more fulfilling relationship

M

[wannabhappy1234]

Wow !!  That is awesome.  I have to say, for the few weeks I have been reading here, it was your post which has finally made me get it !!  Thank you SO much and thank you to everyone here who posts.  I am slowly letting go and getting back to ME !!

[Andrew Wilkie]

Don't you just love it when the pennies start to drop?

Why do we say pennies...mmm? Isn't that pretty lacking and non abundant?  Don't you love it when the dollars/millions/abundance starts to drop?

What is the collective noun for lots of cash?  My bank account?

[unistudentuk]

Wow !!  That is awesome.  I have to say, for the few eeks I have been reading here, it was your post which has finally made me get it !!  Thank you SO much and thank you to everyone here who posts.  I am slowly letting go and getting back to ME !!

Hey thats great! It took me nearly a month to get there but once i realised ive been given "another chance" in a way, i got a lot more positive. She could sense i was happy ( Via Facebook etc) and the fact i was leaving her alone to enjoy my final few weeks with friends before the end of university this summer plus the fact i embraced every opportunity since we split, i slowly but surely became more busy and "unavailable" to her. Im not ignoring her by any means but im getting on with my own things at the moment. I realise i wont have any face to face contact with her until september so why mess it all up by bothering her now when i can prove to her and myself that i have moved on and in a few months will be ready to get what i truly want.

Whether thats to start a completely brand new relationship with her, a new friendship or keep things as they are now, i dont know but as long as im not focusing on the outcome, things can only improve from my current situation. I've learnt a lot about myself the last month or so, how my priorities were out of whack, i started putting her first TOO often. I lost my hobbies and interests slowly and lost my social status which ive reclaimed now. She never wanted to be put in front of those things ( part of the reason i think shes great) and now i have the ability to judge both myself and a girlfriend without too much sacrifice. It will be interesting to see whether she is the one i will be demonstrating my new strength with. I believe it will be.

Keep strong, trust time to heal a lot of the "damage" and move on and past the old so you can embrace the new because the new could very well be your ex. That way they will feel soon realise you're very comfortable with yourself and them and will start the attraction all over again. I know i can attract her back but why rush things when i cant even see her for now.

[Detached&Allowing]

Break-ups are tough, there is no doubt.  However the one thing we, as humans, need to keep in perspective is the Universe is taking us exactly where we want to go.  Sometimes things have to happen in order to get us to the next step.  The question is, do you know what you want in your life?  Many times until we are ready we will not receive what we want.  If you get a moment, look up speed manifesting on youtube. 

I am 37 years old and have been in many relationships.  I can honestly say each one helped me to see what qualities I did and did not want in my partner.  It took a long time for me to be ready for my true love.  It may be a bit too early but I can guarantee you will look back at this relationship and know it happened and ended for a reason.

Good luck!

[unistudentuk]

It sure did and im glad it happened. i feel so strong now. i posted another reply on my other topic so instead of re posting it, ill leave it there. thanks man