Author Topic: Using LOA to get ex girlfriend back (Read 5263 times)

cavvy88 · « **on:** January 30, 2011, 06:03:13 PM »

Hi,

This is my first post in this forum although i've followed other posts avidly for weeks seeing how LOA has brought people's ex's back etc and showing them signs before it happens. I have been trying to use LOA to bring my ex girlfriend back who split up with me in October last year. The problem is we work in the same company and smoke in the same shelter each day so i always see her every day a couple times a day. The story is it was my fault really I had issues over her being friends with a couple of her ex's (some of which work in the same company) and was a constant pain about it.. in the end she broke it off with me I had to move out of her flat (but luckily had my own house which completed that week). We tried to remain friends but my feelings got in the way and i ended up constantly doing things that pushed her further and further away to the point where we didn't speak for 2 months (she relocated to a different building on site anyway) and when she returned and we started talking again it was awkward and cold and bitter (she couldn't even look me in the eyes). I used LOA to improve our relations over a couple weeks and now she is able to converse with me (and look me in the eyes) almost like we are back to the way we were before the relationship started. But i feel i've plateau'd a bit.. i keep visualizing us coming closer and closer to the point where she remembers why she loved me (humour etc) and I keep getting signs for example I had a dream the other night about her randomly turning up on my doorstep which was odd in itself because i cant remember the last time i even remembered a dream! lol. That happened after a session of intense visualising and I had this sense that it would happen in a months time. I have left our contact strictly to when we see each other in the shelter i.e. no texts, mails, calls etc and she doesn't speak to me outside of it either. I believe she is seeing someone else casually which is like a dagger in the heart but i am trying not to show jealousy or clinginess over it. I know how to work the LOA as I've done it successfully before the only problem is when it comes to ex's its difficult to just 'let go' and not think about them. I guess I wanted to start this journal to gain help from those who have had success in using LOA for this type of thing. So I will keep a record of it all here!.. any suggestions will be very welcome!

Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck · « **Reply #1 on:** January 31, 2011, 12:30:05 AM »

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/6/for-those-who-went-back-to-their-exes-what-made-you-go-back/

read through this as we all should, good information

cavvy88 · « **Reply #2 on:** January 31, 2011, 03:07:51 AM »

Thanks I will take on board the info. I've been visualizing receiving a text from her in the last few days so hoping to get some kind of result soon. Its hard to stay positive but im getting better at it. Im hoping that when i see her tomorrow (which i will) i will see a change in her attitude .. but will try not to be disappointed if not!

57angel · « **Reply #3 on:** February 01, 2011, 04:46:45 PM »

Just focus on the end result, as to how and when, its the Universe to do

cavvy88 · « **Reply #4 on:** February 01, 2011, 10:42:03 PM »

Yeah will do. Although could use some outside perspective on progress. I saw her today and we were on our own talking in the smoking shelter, she seemed really amicable and friendly but i could detect no feeling in her at all.. it was weird kinda like we'd never met or something. I just played it off cool and acted the same way (happy, cheery and friendly etc). It was almost painful cos she was talking about this guy she met up with on saturday but didn't say under what circumstances etc. Its so difficult to not let things like that affect me, and also really hard to talk to her whilst she doesn't look at me in the eyes the way she used to. I know your supposed to stay positive and I really try to but i get nervous when talking to her and that surely can't help (although i think im hiding it quite well). I would say our relations have improved over the last month or so now we can talk to each other under friendly circumstances.. but can you tell me is this how it happens?.. i.e. focus on the end result and then a seemingly slow progression from not talking.. to talking.. to talking friendly.. and on and on until the end result presents itself?.. has anyone had experience of it working in this way? ..

cavvy88 · « **Reply #5 on:** February 05, 2011, 02:02:05 AM »

anyone?

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #6 on:** February 06, 2011, 10:11:52 PM »

cavvy,

my experience is different. When my guy contacted me 5 weeks after our break up, it started out with a birthday message to my son. Then I felt that since he was the one to break the no contact, it was okay for me to comment on his facebook status; not in a way that I would have if we were still in a relationship but in a way that just a friend or casual acquaintance would have. Then he commented back that he missed me, then I found him online and started chatting with him, then he confessed that he never stopped loving me, and from then on we just kind of kept our conversations on a friendly level, then it kinda progressed back to us being in a relationship. Our relationship was never really over though; it was just a temporary split that happened for a good reason, so that I could seek help and get good advice on this forum about how powerful the laws of attraction are.

If I were you, I would not be concerned with the hows. Like, "Is this how a relationship restarts and progresses to the end result?" We are not to question the "hows" or "whens" of getting to the end result. Trust the universe to take care of that. When we wonder "how" we are going to get to the end result, we are again focusing on not having it yet. Focus on it like it is on its way to you, be grateful that you are at least having friendly conversations and be grateful like you already have it. Be grateful for these small steps and think of them instead as BIG steps that will indeed bring you to your end result.

I know you are anxious right now. The funny thing about manifesting things in small steps is that we sometimes forget to be grateful. We are still so focused on wanting the end result that we take the small progressions for granted. For instance, I was grateful my boyfriend made contact; but it was not enough for me. I kept wanting more and instead of being grateful that he was speaking to me, I wanted him to be with me again (the end result.) I was negative and mad when I saw him online and he would not say hello or acknowledge me for 3 days. My boyfriend picked up those vibes and he started doing things to piss me off even more (like put himself on a dating site because he knew I was checking.) I did not have to say anything, but he knew because we are so connected on a spiritual level.

Your ex is making it a point to make you aware that she is seeing someone new. She may be deliberately trying to make you jealous. My boyfriend put himself on a dating site to make me jealous because I manifested it! Your thinking about her being with other guys is manifesting itself! Your detecting no feeling in her at all is causing her to have what appears to be no feeling at all. Again, this is your conscious mind playing tricks on you. The two of you are not in perfect alignment right now, but that is okay because the timing is not right just yet. Trust the universe to line things up in its timing;not yours. The timing has to be perfect in order for things to work out. The universe knows when that is and it knows how it will line up so trust that and feel and be grateful like you already have it and that it is on its way to you. Also love her unconditionally no matter if she is with someone else. Love her but expect nothing in return. Then you won't get disappointed and you will manifest more than what you didn't expect.

Know that everything will be okay and get excited about it. These small steps are things to be grateful for. Be grateful so you can get more to be grateful for. Don't make the mistake I made and think its not enough right now. I got my man back but I could have avoided a lot of pain in the process by acknowledging and being grateful for the small steps that went from him saying, "We should never see or speak to each other again", to him being with me right now (my end result.)

You have happiness inside you. The creator of the universe put it there. Now pull it out and be GRATEFUL!

cavvy88 · « **Reply #7 on:** February 07, 2011, 12:40:08 AM »

Sweet Spirit once again you have filled me with that optimism. Its funny it was just today after your other response to me that I clicked I hadn't been grateful for actually having good conversations with her (which is definately a big step in the right direction). I will absolutely take on board what you've said and continue to ignore the little things that appear to be negative and trust it is all a part of the process of setting things up for the end result. You have been an inspiration to me! thanks so much

Sitfab · « **Reply #8 on:** February 07, 2011, 02:05:53 AM »

Hey, there. I don't know how much knowledge you have on LOA and/or at what stage you really are, but I present to you some stuff that will help you a lot.

1) Do affirmations

Write down on paper some sentences that you repeat to yourself everyday. These should be made specifically FOR YOU and focusing on yourself. For example, if you want to build confidence, say something like "I have unstoppable confidence". Below is a link with how to make great affirmations

http://affirmyourlife.blogspot.com/2009/08/9-laws-of-creating-perfect-affirmations.html

2) Do a gratitude list

Same as above, only you can write in regards to anything. On this list you will write whatever you are grateful for. At the end of the list you can write : "I am grateful that ____ shares her unconditional love with me" and/or " I am grateful that ____ and I have a super-healthy relationship"

3) Visualize

Visualize you two are already back together and having the time of your lives. Be sure to put feelings in those visualizations. ( This one is closely related to the end result mentioned in the first post )

4) Raise your vibration

It's necessary to raise your vibrations in order to match hers or go beyond hers. Low vibrations are feelings like grief, apathy, anger and high vibrations are love, peace.

In order to do that, check out this site : www.loveorabove.com This is a program written by Christie Marie Sheldon specifically to raise your vibrations and allow your desires to manifest into your reality.

5) Let go

This is the hardest part for most of us. It basically means :

- ALWAYS think of the END RESULT, not "how", "where", "when" is it going to happen. Just set it, forget it and trust the universe will deliver.
- clear yourself of ALL the neediness, sadness, longing, negative thinking about her, about your past relationship.
- NOT CARING if she comes back or not.

Until then, live your life, do what makes you happy, feel free to date other women until your feelings for your ex are completely gone. Then and ONLY THEN will you be in the position of receiving.

Just ASK, BELIEVE AND ALLOW the manifestation to become a reality.

Vicki Christina · « **Reply #9 on:** February 07, 2011, 07:18:54 AM »

Pay attention to Sit Fab's post as it will help you in the process of manifesting a wonderful life!

SpeedZ · « **Reply #10 on:** February 07, 2011, 10:01:55 AM »

Quote from: Sitfab on February 07, 2011, 02:05:53 AM

5) Let go

This is the hardest part for most of us. It basically means :

- ALWAYS think of the END RESULT, not "how", "where", "when" is it going to happen. Just set it, forget it and trust the universe will deliver.
- clear yourself of ALL the neediness, sadness, longing, negative thinking about her, about your past relationship.
- NOT CARING if she comes back or not.

Until then, live your life, do what makes you happy, feel free to date other women until your feelings for your ex are completely gone. Then and ONLY THEN will you be in the position of receiving.

Just ASK, BELIEVE AND ALLOW the manifestation to become a reality.

+1

THIS IS IT

Believing Love · « **Reply #11 on:** February 07, 2011, 11:16:45 AM »

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Until then, live your life, do what makes you happy, feel free to date other women until your feelings for your ex are completely gone. Then and ONLY THEN will you be in the position of receiving.

I love this part sitfab ...
im starting to lost my feeling to my boyfriend but i still believe that he's mine ...
so i guess mine is near

cavvy88 · « **Reply #12 on:** February 08, 2011, 01:20:00 AM »

Hi Sitfab,

Thanks for post it is extremely useful I really appreciate it!. I will do everything i can to follow every bit of advice i get on this forum.. i really appreciate everyone's input, you've all been a great help!

cavvy88 · « **Reply #13 on:** February 09, 2011, 01:07:03 AM »

This is so weird I just had a phone call from my ex! (first time since October!) so I was really shocked but it turns out it was because I received an important letter at her flat. She was completely open and talkative like we were really good friends. We spoke for a while and she told me she had a new guy (although not an official boyfriend yet) and I just played it cool and said 'thats cool'. We joked and laughed about a few things and then we ended the call. It was really weird cos that was the first time we'd talked on the phone in months and had an actual catch up, up until now it had been confined solely to the smoking shelter!. I actually visualized receiving a call from her recently so I guess the universe has presented my request lol. It was dissapointing to hear from her about the new guy, she was saying that they haven't had the 'relationship' talk yet and it was difficult to laugh with her about it but I did (I guess that was the best thing to do?). I just said at the end we should go for a coffee and she was a bit hesitant but said 'yeah ok'. I don't really know how to take all this, I mentioned I had been sort of seeing another girl (which was a while ago) and it didn't seem to phase her at all so I guess she's not really missing me as such, but I guess it is another step in the right direction. I know others on this board have ended up having phone conversations with their ex's and I know that usually it leads to more frequent contact so I hope that that is the case for me and that it lead onto more intimate conversation.. I suppose its best now to keep on visualising!

Magdog, MD, Mr. Best Luck · « **Reply #14 on:** February 09, 2011, 01:19:11 AM »

Don't be dishonest or manipulate, would you like her to be that way with you, ask yourself, if you are not seeing someone do not pretend to, just go with the flow and have faith in your affirmations and what you know will happen. She may have said a big yes if she felt you are free, think about what I am saying, honesty is love, love and trust.