To everyone who wants thier love/ex back(PART 2)

[Happybeingme]

"what I am talking about is the feeling i got reading all the above after she said she was going out with someone.  it just came across to me as an attack against what she was doing for herself. "

2thetop,

I think you might be reading the posts different than I am as that is not what I got when reading, and not at all what I meant by my post if mine made you feel that way as well. I was more in general saying that dating others is good if and only if it is for the right reasons, if it is for you. In general I read a lot of posts that seem to be well if i do this then so and so will come back. if i date others then i will get the other person back etc. Going out and meeting new people and going on dates is healthy, if you read my full story i actually did attract my ex back before and it was when i was interested in someone else. I think dating others is good to raise your vibration and it can possibly bring that other person back to you, however it should be done because you want to meet others, explore possibilities and do things for yourself, not as a ploy to bring your ex back becaue doing it just to bring them back is usually not going to work becaue you are still attached. I'm not saying this is what AVA was doing, but i was commenting on the topic in general. Since none of us know that much detail about the others life in this forum and we cannot tell what the others are thinking i believe in giving general advice and comments and leaving it up to the spefic person to know what is right for them to do. Please don't get defensive and assume that anyone is attacking anyone else here.

[irishgirl69]

Shawn, I realize that you feel protective of Ava, which is very sweet, but you may want to consider that perhaps those of us that commented on her accepting this date were coming from that same place.  I know that when I read what Ava wrote about why she accepted the date, I was concerned that it would make her feel worse.  It seemed to me that she was feeling fragile because her ex didn't wish her a happy birthday, and I was afraid that by accepting this date with the mindset that it would get her ex back (because that is what I perceived from what she wrote) and if that didn't happen, that it would make her feel worse.

I'm all for dating for dating's sake and just to get out there.  But I'm also a strong believer in not doing anything in regards to LOA as a means to make something happen, and that's what it seemed was happening here.

Ava, you are a beautiful, wonderful woman and like Shawn said, any man in his right mind would be thrilled to have you on his arm.  I know very well how difficult it is to put yourself out there and I'm proud of you for doing it.  I think the progress that you've seen in the last few months is amazing and inspiring and I know you will be fine whatever happens.

[2thetop]

i understand where everyones coming from.  and again, im sorry if i came across a lil harsh.  however, answer me something.  why do you do affirmations?  why do you say things like, i am a loving relationship with so and so?  why do you visualize you and so and so together?  here let me answer that and the rest that i could ask.  because you want to attract someone back.  you are virtually doing the same thing.  trying to do something to gain something.  i see that a guy asked her out on a date for her birthday.  i see that she was wanting a text from the guy she wants to attract on her birthday.  i also see a huge chance of her sitting around wondering a waiting for that text. 

now which one is more counter productive here?  to sit and worry or to go out with someone that wants to go out with you, and be honest enough with yourself and others to admit that you are also doing it because it may help you detach more and bring the person you want back, all the while raising your vibration because this other person wanted to go out with you. 

well i can tell you what i will advise someone every time.  to be honest, if some guy or gal thinks that one date is going to lead to marriage, its their bad. 

thats just my view.  i dont expect anyone to accept it.  i see where you all are coming from.  but i still see nothing wrong with what she did or phrasing it the way she did.  and i commend her for being honest enough to say that was part of why she was doing it. 

and the discussion is done for me on this 

[Believing Love]

As I said before Im sorry if i sound rude or anything,Im just pointing out my opinion on what I read. I may be the voices that bring her vibration down but im saying it out of love. Hey,Im not saying after one cup of coffee then it leads to marriage,I never day anything like that. Im just telling her to detach because she is totally attach to the outcome. I know with the whole story if you date someone it will bring ur vibration up etc but it wont guarranty you it will bring your Man back in ur life. That is what Im saying here,if you go out with a man just bcos u think u will get ur man back that will lead you to more desperation.

No im not going to come with question and being defensive .. Im just gonna wish you good luck ava on whatever you are doing hope it will bring your man back. I just have one suggestion for you ... Detach! And really detach from your heart.

[truelove]

Bless you all for being so passionate about other people's happiness!! And for being able to discuss differing opinions with respect and love.
Well done Ava, always be true to yourself!

[bravelioness]

I remember an old thread entitled "Successful Relationship Stories".The purpose of this thread was "fake it till you make it" or "Keep lying until it becomes the truth".Does anyone think that it can help anyone here who struggles in the believing part like for example they pretend/imagine/feel like the loved one sent them sweet messages,asked them to go out etc.I'll try to look for that thread & sticky it.

[LovePoisoned]

Hey guys!!! About 2 weeks ago I was waiting my bus on the bus stop, with Reflekt's "Need to Feel Loved" playing through my earbuds. My bus came and I rushed through the closest door, and immediately turned right. I was looking for a seat, and I did find one... but I felt the inexplicable urge and TURNED BACK LEFT... I saw my ex on a seat I had not looked at at all, when I originally jumped on the bus.
"Come and touch me baby, I need to feel loved... Come and catch a feeling, it's electrifying me..."
I kept listening to that masterpiece of house music, whilst we were exchanging silent looks... As usual, he avoided my eyes, but I could just FEEL his stare in the moments when I "wasn't" able to see him.
I am so thankful for that sign.

Blessings and love to you all!

[ava]

Guys,my new progress: my affirmations for my guy's job,worked and he has a great job with great salary now! It is amazing.thank you angel star.i repeated daily: I am his great job! And today I called him.for the first time,after 1.5 years I heard his voice via phone.our communication during these 3 months was just by sms.but today I called him and we had a sweet conversation for almost 40 minutes!!we talked about old days,our jobs,our friends,our parents,our siblings,my clients,etc...we laughed a lot! Although he said something that made me sad for a few moments and I prefer not to talk about it any more,because I devote much energy to it by saying it! And at last,i invited him for a dinner and he said,you should not invite me.i should invite you.these days I am busy.but I will call you for that.and said take special care of yourself.guys,i know it is like friends,but I should be positive and I want to believe that we will have date so soon!although he promised me lot before to see each other and it never happened! But I hope this time,is different!

[Daniela]

Hello there!

I am new on this forum, but I read your thread, because I am in a similar situation like all of you. I believed in LOA even before I knew it is called like this, as many  things in my life happened in "mysterious" ways. I wished for, I had faith that God will help me and my wishes came true...

Now I am attracting back an important person in my life and I know I will succeed even if it seems harder than the things I attracted before, because when it comes to persons, the attachment to the outcome it is way greater.I guess I started to write  here, because I really like your posts- they are full of positive energy.
 I wish all your dreams  and wishes come true as soon as possible, as I have no doubts  they will.

[tereza]

Congrats Ava! That's awesome news.

and Hi Daniela! Welcome to the forum. Look forward to hearing your success story too.

[Daniela]

Thank you Tereza! I am happy to be here and I hardly wait to tell you about my success story

[love.producer]

hey all! Im back, but im not finished all the way yet hehe.

I dont think anyone remembers me though haha I wrote back on page 41 and i was quite active around then.

Heres what i have done to get my ex back as far as i've come.


Okay summary:
She broke up in 6th august 2011, I started focusing to get her back, I set november 10th as a date for something to happen.
NOTHING happened, i asked universe for help after november 10th. I needed clarity so i just asked simply for help.

I attracted a friend, who has the ability to talk to your higherself, like a psychic. (okay this sounds wierd i know, but its similar to Tarod cards or whatever theyre called)
So my new friend could actually "see" what im attracting, so she told me that, everything is working out perfectly but i need more time, or actually My EX needs more time to adjust to my love that im sending out.
With time as no concern, and belief steady as it is, nothing was impossible for me. apparantly, i chose to believe my friends words 110% percent.
My ex had been "trying" to move on, she was resisting all the love that i sent out to her (via visualisation and meditation).

But my friend told me that sooner or later love will prevail over resistance.
So i kept on doing this! trying to be positive as much as i could!

I got a better job, and my new friend really helped me when i felt low and insecure.
If you all THINK you're having problems with insecureties etc, you should watch me hahah xD
I was worried my ex would find someone else, that she liked being free and single, wow i really thought some bad thoughts from time to time.
but EVERY night i visualized us together and it felt awesome.

So heres what happened!

Emma broke up 6th august, i removed her as friends, no communication untill november when she suddenly blocks me on facebook.
I take this as a sign that she resists me. I keep on going. She removes the block. On christmas she adds me on facebook and sends me a very kind textmessage.
On newyearseve i send a kind one to her in return.
Beginning of january she starts comunicating over facebook, we start having conversations.
we accidentaly met at a bar in middle of january, we had fun and i could see that she still likes me!

january 23th she and her class in school moved to france for 1 month, and during that time she LIKES everything i do on facebook. (i dont start conversations as a rule for myself to not pressurize her hahah ) She starts following me on instagram aswell.
I visualized her contacting me once more on facebook since i get SOOOO happy by that a few weeks ago. This friday she said "hi how are you? hows your new job going?"
SHE ACTUALLY CARES FOR ME NOW! its amazing how much results you can get by not giving up ^^

I got so happy for her message on facebook that i visualized myself winning some money or something. ( warning this is a sidestory )
that sunday i won 750dollars on football, i asked a friend which matches i should bet on and he made betting scheme for me.(im dont know ANYTHING about football)

I got so happy for winning this money and for her messages, that i went to my friend to see where this is going.
So my friend talks to my higherself and my exes higherself and it seems like were having a date or something now in the ending of febuary or beginning of march.

I know this isn't a success story but, its a SOON successtory.

Love to you all, shes soon mine, and ive been waiting since august hahah xD It feels wierd to get these successes, after so long time.. it felt for a long time that i would never get her back.
haha how wrong I was

Love to you all / love.producer

PS. Dont worry about the attachement thing, I know im still 100% attached but everything is working out fine anyway

[truelove]

Thank you for your story love.producer! This is really inspiring, it's all happening for you.
I look forward to hearing your updates. 

[ava]

Hi guys.yesterday something interesting happend to me.one of my friends who could not see me on my birthday(January 16th),had a meeting with me yesterday to see me and give me the present of my birthday.her gift(present)was a wonderful t-shirt with the picture of Hilary duff on it.and in that box was a birthday card too with these words: don't give up on your dreams,and follow the signs! I was shocked,cause lately I was repeating the song(fly)by Hilary duff,in my mind all the time.cause it is the ringtone of my guy's call.so everytime he calls me,i hear this song from my phone and I know he is calling me.when I saw hilary's picture on the t-shirt And read the card,i shocked and thought my self maybe,that was a sign from the universe.cause the card said follow the signs..and the interesting part is lately I had told my friends I gave up.i am tired of attracting him back.and exactly after my giving up,i recieved this sign.i don't know,but maybe I am delusional and that was not a sign!

[2thetop]

youre not delusional.  and youre not giving up.  youre letting go and moving on.  i can say youre not giving up cuz at this point i know you well enough to.  its just easier for you to say im giving up because the whole letting go thing causes conflict in the brain. 

the lesson here.....keep doing what you are doing for you and your life.  he will be pulled to you when the timing is right.  even if it means you moving.  you will be fine ava.  and like i said.  its his loss for taking so long to pull his head outta his butt.