...the reason why I want myself and her back.

[David V.]

I think I would do good outwardly voicing my motives, my original motives I was able to restore, before I became weak enough to let them overtake me with pessimism and negative energy.

I come from a family so dysfunctional it could not be called one anymore. Father and mother hating each other. Relatives too physically distant, or neglectful, or incompatible, or deceased.

As such, I took it upon myself to start from scratch, wanting to forge my own destiny with my own family with which to live a prosperous and happy life. Then I met this woman, who was all for it. We made our respective vows to forever be together.

But there was this breakup, and needless to say, it accounted for a setback in that matter.

Yet, now, I am able to see the light through this matter. I see myself able to emerge stronger from it. I do not depend on her anymore. I do not need her anymore. It is not right to give her all the power or responsibility.

But I decided, from the bottom of my heart, that I want to preserve this dream. I love this woman so much. It is my most fervent desire to fulfill that dream of a happy and prosperous self-made man, and it would make me happiest for it to be with her at my side, as true, understanding equals.

This is why.

[miss_giggles]

Hey David, I think not needing her and relying on her to make u happy is a great stage to be at! It's so important that we love and make ourselves happy inside because we r the only ones who can. There is a big differance between need and want as I've rightly pointed out.

As they say, "let God and let go".

[David V.]

Yes....I can tell I am growing stronger because I am less and less depressed while thinking or talking about it. I am in a good position to not need it anymore. I can now survive through the night without talking to her. Which to me is wonders, now that I have read quotes like..

“If you have to capability to be apart from your Ex, You have the Power of being a Part of Ex too.” – Ankur Sancheti

I have already forgiven her for breaking up the way she did. I have even forgiven myself for the whole matter.

And when asked how badly I want it......very, very badly. More than I have ever wanted anything.

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-in-action/relationship/get-your-ex-back-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-1967

It was this article I read as well, which brings me to my earlier points.