Help me..

[Lilleriino]

i'm met a my  boyfriend year ago. We went to 11 months. I lived with him in another 3 months. Because he did not let me go. I got a new opportunity relationship but he will hurt me. Other women are always more important than me. If I want to go away, he says, dont go. We both feelings we are soulmates. He is my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend too. But he always hurting to me:( Do I need to continue the relationship or attracting new realtionship? I really want harmonious and prefect relationship...
I do not know what to do.

Sorry about my english.
Greetings form Estonia.

[Sonal123]

if your getting hurt in your relationship with this guy what is the whole point in being in a relationship in which your not happy??
go for a relationship that makes you happy instead is what i would suggest.

[ElleM]

Hi, This is my personal take on relationships and what has worked for me. Nothing is more important than YOU feel good. So pay less attention to what anyone else is doing (including a partner) and concentrate solely on finding ways to make YOU feel better. Imagine your perfect relationship, write a list of the qualities your perfect partner would have and focus on that while it makes you feel good. Do other things, spend time with friends and family, watch kids laughing in the park, take a stroll in the sunshine, treat yourself to a nice coffee....whatever it takes, you get the idea....and spend more than 51% of your time feeling good and happy and re-reading your written 'perfect partner' list. Be selfish about it!!!!
Then one of two things will happen.....your current partner will start to take on the qualities you've been meditating on OR he will gently ease out of your life and someone with those perfect qualities will ease in. Either way it won't matter.
Trust me, I did this and have been in the most wonderful relationship for 10 years now. And we still practise looking for the good in each other and tending to our own happiness. 

[Andrew Wilkie]

If it doesn't make you feel good. You don't need or want it. There is not a lack of potential relationships for any of us.

[Lilleriino]

Oh well... He said he wants to have fun with others. He said he is grateful that I've been patient with him. I am also grateful to him because I had a bad past. I have no family. But his family is like my family. I love my boyfriend's family so much. They have help me so much. I am very grateful that they are my family. I have a very sore to go away. I love my man and his family so much. I have one question. Does the law of attarction really help me? I have it very difficult to understand.

[Detached&Allowing]

You attracted him into your life b/c you wanted a family so badly.  Maintain the relationship with the family but move forward with your life.  Yes your relationship with them will change but it doesn't need to be cut off.  I maintained relationships with the families of past boyfriends.  It is OK.  The only way to find true, healthy, love is to take time out and be the best person you can be.  Love yourself enough to know that you deserve only the best.   

[Vicki Christina]

Nice post, Schenderson.   My soulmate and I are friends again talking about family.  He has two daughters who are young adults.  They do not have a mother.  They have kept a relationship with me and it has been very nice.   He has been calling to ask my opinion about matters with the girls.  It is good; sometimes though it makes me feel like the divorced step mother.   I keep looking at it as a good loving way to connect.   The girls and I do have a great friendship! 

[loveofabundance]

Vicki Christina!  It sounds like you are making progress!!!!!!!!!  Good for you!  Your soulmate and you are building a brand-new relationship.  That's wonderful news!

[57angel]

@Lillerino, take their wonderful advise, you deserve to be happy and have the best in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with connecting with his family, but over and above anything else, you must not be affected anymore whatever you will learn about him. Focus on yourself, do spoil yourself a lot more and your giving yourself reasons to smile is indeed your gift to yourself.

@VC, that is a very wonderful news! It is indeed so worth the smiles when we can give love easily and joyfully:-)

[Vicki Christina]

@ Angelgrace and Loveofabundance --- Thanks for the positive messages!!!   Yes, we are communicating, however he is still dating the other girl friend.  It is a weird thing.   He just sent me a text to tell me he had a really big day at work today...   Over the weekend she found out he was talking with me and they had a BIG fight.  He told me about that too....   He went to an art show over the weekend and called to tell me he bought me a picture and will mail it to me.   We live several hours apart now.  Most of the time we were dating he was either in the town I live in for work or two hours away.  We spent all free time and weekends together.

I love the way everyone is feeling so positive the past couple of days.   It is contagious!!!

[57angel]

Yes VC, the positive people here are very contagious and am so grateful now that I found this forum. In the past days, I have another setback again, and stopped my EFT and affirmations, and been here but not to read that much nor to comment on the posts here. But I realized, the more I became negative. Now, I will stay here most of my time, and have to refrain from going to Facebook that will only disappoint me Thank you as well for your stories that you can share with all of us, they do inspire us. Have a wonderful weekend VC, have a smile filled weekend everyone

[Vicki Christina]

Yes, 57Angel, stay away from the places that make you feel negative feelings!!!   I am struggling with feelings of fear when my Honey gets too close and I have to work on ways to not let apprehension lower my vibration.