Taken 4 granted? Or smthng else.

[kins 9]

What if a person whom you care for takes you 4 granted because of their moods. Doesnt ans cals or repy to msgs . . Or is there any other reason? :?
I have stopped calling him and replying his stupid text  which shws dat he is sorry and too busy or watevr . But dis is nt true i know.
now i have stopped bothering him and nor am i going 2 use loa to be friends with him. Because he does this always al time. And now i am letting go everything and jus concentrating on my other areas of my life. i have many things 2 achive . Dont know what exactly he wants. . 
just need ur tips what would you do if sm1 takes u for granted.

p.s he says that i am very special to him. But his behaviour is wierd.

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

This is easier said than done but let it go.  I know what you mean and I have probs with this is all aspects of my life.  I do feel like people take me for granted.  Still a part of me accepts it and tries to focus on just doing good and being there for people.  I have gotten better at this since I started LOA because most of those type of people would bring about negative situations and feeling and I try to avoid that. 
As for your case Let it go.  He knows that you have a problem with it and he still still does it.  With men oftentimes Actions(or inaction) Speak Louder than words.  And if you don't change your response then he won't change his.    Maybe try to attract that your friends will return all of your calls and be there for you.  If this guy is meant to get his act together then he will.  This way you won't be focusing just on him but on all aspects and relationships in your life.

[kins 9]

Real crimson.. Ur rite action speaks alot..
thanks 4 reminding. How do i stop myself from calng him or text him. . .?

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

This sounds silly but my guy has a specific ringtone on my phone.  If I'm hankering to call him or feeling low I play the ringtone and pretend (visualize) a perfect conversation with him.  I have also been trying to read, researching on the internet, practice cooking so that I can impress him with my culinary skills, and taking road trips.  I am just trying to stay busy..busy ..busy..and of course the support from this forum is AWESOME!!  I write down the things that I love about him and work on my goals and remember how not only is this helping me but it will also help our love when I move to be with him and we are married.

[tereza]

For me, I've noticed that when I feel neglected or ignored by others, it's usually because I'm not making myself a priority. When my life is full and happy, I don't notice if one friend forgets to call me back or keeps on canceling when we're supposed to meet up, because I have plenty other things to do. But when I've got nothing to do and I'm bored/lonely...well then I get super annoyed when my close friends aren't there for me. In those situations, I find it's better to forgive the person and focus on my own happiness.

Of course, there are some people who just aren't reliable and will always be late and always call when its convenient for them instead of when you need them. I've read that you can change that sort of behavior by focusing on the good things they do. Schenderson has posted and had success with that somewhere on this forum. I've yet to have success with that because I think I'm a little too attached and well, my default reaction is to cut people out of my life when they're annoying. I like what Crimson's done though and might try it one of these days on someone I want to get along better with.

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

RealCrimsonDynamo:  Great Post!!

Ok, so is there some reason why simple communication isn't being considered?  Why couldn't you just sit this guy down and tell him how you feel?  If he cares about you then he should care if you are annoyed by his behavior.  How will he know, if you don't tell him? 

We aren't mind readers here......well, some of us are but most of us aren't.

If someone has a problem with me, I want to know about it because ultimately I want my friends and loved ones to be happy!  I am happy if they are happy. 

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

LOL KNJ....Now if you are going to be reading minds I may have to make use of your talents!!!

You made a great point.  The art of straight forward communication.

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

Thank you. 

I am not sure it's me reading someone's mind or my universal source but I do get very definite intuitions about what someone is thinking or why they are behaving in a certain way.  It's been happening most of my life and I have always known but sometimes my conscience mind will not get on board and doubts set it. 

I am now trusting what I am being told, the voice is always right! 

Thank goodness it is because I have an amazing future!!! 

[kins 9]

I am just trying to stay busy..busy ..busy..and of course the support from this forum is AWESOME!!  I write down the things that I love about him and work on my goals and remember how not only is this helping me but it will also help our love when I move to be with him and we are married.

thats a great point real crimson

 like you... ill work on my self and towards my goal..
and appreciate the bond we share:) and forget everything ...
and may be things will get better ! i think the solution is letting go and keeping myself busy

I've noticed that when I feel neglected or ignored by others, it's usually because I'm not making myself a priority. When my life is full and happy, I don't notice if one friend forgets to call me back or keeps on canceling when we're supposed to meet up, because I have plenty other things to do. But when I've got nothing to do and I'm bored/lonely...well then I get super annoyed when my close friends aren't there for me. In those situations, I find it's better to forgive the person and focus on my own happiness.

the same is with me tereza i feel horrible if any1 behaves like that.
thats coz i bored and lonely but now i have taken up work so ill have new things to do and now it wont bother me much as it used too...


KnJhappilyforever: taking it out is a gr8 option but we both have  ego and the thing is i am not sure whether hes interested in meeting... so i am just letting it go !
and if he calls ill straight away tell him!

this forum is awesome....  you all have been gr8 support!!
i am thankful for it....