Suggestions for dealing with a colleague

[Sneha]

Hello Friends,

I need your advise on a situation that I am facing with one of my junior colleagues.We were like good friends for 3-4 months but then she started to fight over some trivial (non professional issues l ike loosing her hair pin...hahaha).She is like 3 years younger to me so when we were friends, I treated her like my younger sister.But, she started becoming very demandingaand throwing tantrums every now and then , when I did not pay much attention to her.
I felt bad, but ignored her behavior,I affirmed peace around me.But her behavior went from bad to worse.Now we are doing an assignment together and I have to review her work.She gets defensive on my review comments and refuses to cooperate.

I can escalate the matter, but I want to handle it on my own.I have no intentions of bringing up personal issues in to work and I only point out her mistakes for a quality deliverable.I have affirmed t be honest and unbiased review and it was quite helpful.But I want total peace and harmony.

I would like you guys to help me here because though it is a small issue but makes me upset every time some confrontation \ disagreement happens.Probably because we were friends before.

Thanks in advance.

[Mr positive]

Treat her how you used to treat her as friends! Im sure you can be friends again for your assignments sake! Immagine peace in her also not just around you! Puta invisible shield up around you to block off any negativity from yourself! Idk what else to say! Gl!

[Sailorsalem]

How I usually handle situations like that is by saying I forgive that person. If you are able to forgive her and see a positive outcome, the outcome will be positive!

[Vicki Christina]

Sneha,  Everything Mr P and Sailor said are of course good.  I will share an experience I had earlier this year with you too.   My car bumped another car in a parking lot and the other car had a little ding.  My car did too.   It was questionable as to who was at fault as we were both backing out of parking spaces.  The woman in the other car went crazy and started yelling and making a scene.  I could not even get to her to trade names and insurance information.   Fortunately an officer drove into the lot and I flagged him down.   Her paper work was a mess and it took a long time for the officer to write the report.    He could tell the other woman was acting over emotional and as a victim.   She was only concerned with her car too.    As I sat in the lot under the tree trying to be patient, I did Ho'oponopono about the incident.   About five minutes later she walked over to me and calmly said she was sorry for acting out.   So, I say send love and Ho'oponopono!   VC

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

Great Story, VC!!! 

[Sneha]

Thank you Salorsalem ,Mr.Positive and VChristina.

[DH4-everhappyinlove]

Hi sneha

when i am at work and there are any situation that are tense and make me fearful or doubtful of my surroundings and negative individuals i usually affirm to myself .....

I am beautiful conversation with XXXXXXX(name of individual)
I am at peace with myself and XXXXXXXX(name of individual)
Only positive outcome can be accomplish with XXXXXXX (name of individual)
It changes my vibration and the situation usually resolve without much thought.....oh! another thing i do when situation is really overwhelming (temper wanting to fly and hurt words wanting to come out is "cancel, cancel,cancel...it calms me down and diffuses the situation")
Hope this help some what.

@VC I always enjoy of reading your story about that lady and hooponopono...amazing every time!!!!

[Lucky Starrrr]

@ Sneha,

do let me know how have you handled situation later on, you have so very good inputs from all Mr. Positive Sailorsalem, VC and DHayanes gave fab inputs pertaining to this topic... do share how you overcome this situations....

Regards
VJ

[Sneha]

Thank you friends for your great advices.

I had absolute beleive that my call with her would go very fine today, but this was not the case in reality.She did not take the call I had scheduled.When i called her on her number to discauss it.Sh was being so rude, unrealistic.She said " i will call you after i finish my work".Woow...i mean i had caled her regarding work.She wouldnt even listen to me.She would start screamin on every point as soon as i started speaking

I couldnt take it anymore, bein polite to her.I had to speak at top of my voice to make understand.Then she did understand.

I am sad.I did not want to do this.I feel bad shouting on some one.

[Shrikanya]

Hi Sneha,

You already have said that you treat her like a sister, right? So what would an elder sister do when the younger one is wrong? Think it that way, you will get the answer. You can prove the point straight to her without being angry. may be something is eating her up, provoke her to spill her guts, once she does that, everything will fall into place.

Well, I have this experience talking with my cousin

Best Regards,
Shrikanya