Success in the making! need some advice

[SSS]

Hello everyone!

i know it has been long time since i was on here. been busy but the positive is that I have some progress to report. After 2 years of not wanting me to step foot in our house, he finally agreed that i can stay with him when i visit his country in a few weeks. As you can imagine i am quiet nervous as all the communication between us was mainly about the divorce for many months and lately just friendly chat. The last time we spoke he said he is tired of this divorce talk and just want to take a break from it and i agreed, he hasnt said anything about getting back though but it is ok. he hasnt finalised it yet and maybe at the back of his mind he wants to spend some time with me first before he does. I know he is still seeing the other woman, whom he had an affair with which led to us breaking up but he says it is not serious!!!

anyway I am so excited and nervous at the same time, i wont be sharing the room with him, i will stay in the guest room next to his but being in the same house with him for five weeks is a big step for me and ofcourse i dont want to screw it. i know it is a great chance to reconnect with him and i want to make sure i do. I know the other woman is still in the picture but i dont want to focus on that and make it an obstacle.

I need advice, opinions from friends on here on how to conduct myself during that time. He says he wants us to remain friends and i guess that is why he agreed to let me stay. the other reason could be that it would have cost him alot of money to find me alternative accomodation and the house is in joint names. He didnt allow me to go back into the house for two years and i havent been.

I am excited to see my house again and be home and just to spend some time with him. I have a very good feeling about this, i dont know why but i never lost hope and i am finally seeing signs of a positive outcome.

Would appreciate any advice

thanks

SSS

[Mr Brightside]

I would go with no expectations, no nervousness or anticipation of negative/positive results. Just spend time with him and enjoy the time.

Show him the strong independent woman you have become and go from there. In essence stay positive and strong, without having any expectation.

[Life Is Blissful]

SSS,

First of all Congrats!!!!  Its a great progress.  I am Very much happy for you.  You won't believe it, yesterday I was thinking about you and today I see your post with some good news.    You are nearing the success.  This is a great opportunity for you. 
Show all your love to him in different ways.... may be by cooking his favourite dishes, helping him out when he needs etc. 
Be cheerful and smiling always. 
Dress up well (which gives a very decent look).
Indirectly let him know how HAPPY you are to be back with him.
Accompany him for walks so that you can talk more.
Just be positive and be open to accept anything.

Keep us updated with your progress.  So much of love to you.  Waiting to hear your success story.

[I AM LOVE!]

Wow am so happy for you SSS
Your objective should be to just enjoy this trip and go with the flow Dont stress about anything,you are already amazing just the way you are and my best wishes are with you btw life is blissful gives great advice

[Detached&Allowing]

remember to be grateful for each and every moment.  If at any point you feel yourself getting insecure start stating Ho'oponopono.  I love you, please forgive me, I am sorry, thank you.  If at any point he responds or doesn't respond in a way that you feel is appropriate or makes you feel bad, immediately say to yourself that you forgive him.  (don't tell him, just say it to yourself over and over)  ZERO expectations... live in the moment, live in today.  Keep yourself in the moment, the present... You have waited a long time for this... all will be okay.

Much love and the very best of LOA to you!!

[57angel]

Schenderson said it so well Oh wow, you have gone this far SSS! Be yourself, be the best you can be, someone who is so loving, so happy and so confident