Still in love with ex-boyfriend

[littlegirl]

I started dating this boy I used to work with before. We dated for six months and were very happy together. He told me he loved me very much and that our relationship was very special. Then he began to lose interest in me and cheated. Now we are no longer together and do not talk. He is interested in someone completely opposite to me.
I still love him very much. Can I get him back using LOA? Please, I really need to know.

[Galia]

Hi little girl!

May I ask you something...? ...

    1. Do you feel very deeply in your soul that this guy is your soulmate for life?  

    2. Are you ready to accept that your "boyfriend" replaced you so quickly with another woman? Do you think you deserve that, or better?   
 
    3. How do you see that guy being a father to your kids?   

Ask yourself those questions first , and we'll advice you if you think it's necessary...

Let us know if you need help further with that?

Bless you!!!   

[littlegirl]

Hi Galia

I spent the last few weeks thinking about this.

I know my previous post sounds very lame.
The truth is that we used to work together seven years ago and were attracted to each other. Our paths separated
but I always thought about him in the next ensuing years. I felt my thoughts made him gravitate to me. So many years
later, when we met we felt the same way about each other.

I feel so torn between the good and the bad times in our relationship.
When we were happy, we had a very peaceful, happy, easy love. He said so himself.
He said he had never experienced happiness like this before. His parents were very happy for us too.
Then there was a 180 degree shift in a span of a few days. It left me hurt and sad.
You are right, I don't deserve to be disrespected. But it makes me wonder if it was my own lack of confidence
in my physical beauty that led to our problems.

Like you, Ron and Ankur have mentioned in other forums, I wrote down a list of qualities I would like my perfect partner to have. He has so many of those
qualities, I feel afraid that I will never find that kind of happiness with another person. But he also lacks many qualities like having a strong resolution. 
So, I don't know if he will develop those additional qualities. Right now he is going through a phase of determining
what he wants in life. He is not seeing anyone. Can I use LOA to direct him my way? I am torn between wanting him and the 'perfect' person that I don't know exists.

Littlegirl.

[Galia]

Hey,

I'm happy you took the time to think about what you should do and want, and what you deserve...

I don't know if you already read the article I wrote on the website..? Here is the link in case.... : 

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-boyfriend-back/


And what I want to insist now more than ever is that You can get your ex back one day...but there's no guarantee it will be soon, and no guarantee it was the best for you, and also, no guarantee that this relationship will be better than it was before.
Actually every person is passing through periods of spiritual or personal growth. That moment is specific for every person and what I mean, is that that guy may come back to you again, but we can't foretell how long time he will need to grow and how he will grow - what person he'll become.

If you have a new relationship with that man, it can be worse than the previous one, maybe it will be better - we never know - but what we know for sure is, that will never be the same!

The Universe has the best man that fits perfectly with you, I don't know if that will be that guy or another one, but I know definitely this person exists. It's a matter of time for him to show up, but you need to be ready and openminded for that. You need to feel happy and independent already, healed from the past....

I would advice you rather trying what Ron  wrote in another topic. I think this describes greatly what is best to do with the Law of Attraction while comes to relationships... :

Fish2,

Rather than trying to visualize a specific person or face, try to focus on the emotion.  Imagine how it would make you feel having a partner with all of the qualities you've listed.  Experience the excitement, the joy, the comfort, the love, the fulfillment or any other emotions such a partner would invoke within you.  Feel it, as though it has already happened and do this as often as possible, several times a day if you can.  The more you do so, the more real it will be to your subconscious and the sooner it will become manifested in the physical realm.

S,

Positivity is great, keep up the good work!  Again, I would prefer to see you maintain focus on your ideal partner's qualities instead of focusing on a specific person.  In order to change your vibration to match theirs, you essentially would have to modify your thoughts and behaviours to more closely match theirs.  This involves trying to mold yourself to be more like them or to be more like they would want you to be, which is really not being true to yourself, nor is it the best way to build a lasting relationship.

By staying positive and focusing on the qualities you want in a partner, it's possible you may still attract that specific someone, or you may just end up attracting someone even better!

Be Happy & Be Blessed,

Ron


Blessings, light and new emotions for you littlegirl!

[littlegirl]

Hi Galia

Thank you for all your kind comments.

It has been 3.5 months since we broke up and I feel like I am getting stronger everyday. 
In the last few years I have focused on things I did not want and now I am focusing on things I do want. I feel like things are already changing for the better.

I have decided to focus on my 'perfect' partner rather than my ex. I do love him but need him to grow up and be strong.  I still have doubts if the 'perfect' man exists. Could you provide some tips on getting rid of my doubts and negativity.

Thank you so much. You've been wonderful.
littlegirl.

[Galia]

hi!

You took the right decision! I can say congratulations!

Negative thoughts is the worst we can have, as well doubts because they stop us from getting what we want and they make negative things and events manifest...

So you can:

1. Cut the negative thoughts as soon as they come, just repeat  them "go away"

2. Replace them with the opposite - my perfect partner doesn't exist ..... you say "The truth is my perfect partner does exist", "I'm now with my perfect partner".....

3. Create new thoughts and new beliefs that you put "artificially" in your mind until they become natural way of thinking - like "Life is beautiful", "I send love and love comes back to me", "I deserve love", "I'm a very loved and desired person", "I'm a very successful person", "Everything in life is easy"......

4. Keep your mind busy with positive things - make a list of your best qualities, of the things you want in your life, of what you do best, remember good memories, success you had previously, stay with positive people around you that bring you good feelings

5. Do things you like - watching a funny movie, cooking with nice music around, going for a walk, hanging out with funny people...Just be happy...


It's not just a "tip" you need, it's a general change of your way of thinking.  You have to see the opportunities in the problems and to keep the good conclusion of all the things happening to you...

Just do nice things you like and try to make affirmations as soon as you can, as well as visualizations of what you want - this gives much power as you can feel the situation.

Affirmations and visualisations are very powerfull!

Be blessed and happy!

[mara28]

My name is Tamara and I am still in love with my ex boyfriend after 8 yrs. We dated for 3 yrs while we were in college and I broke up with him in my last year of college in 2001. Next he married someone after he only known a few months and we didn't speak for 8 yrs until January. We talked on the phone and have been seeing each other. I can feel the connection that we have and feel that he is my soulmate. I want him and back and not sure what I should write as my affirmations. I strongly believe that we will one day be back together. Please help.

[Galia]

Tamara, welcome to our forum!

About your questions, you may find a lot of answers in my article in the blog as examples of affirmations to repeat :

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-boyfriend-back/

 BUT for your specific case, you need to know that if the guy is already married...that will be quite complicated as it seems that he already found his soulmate... and is emotionally unavailable for you?? That has been quite a longtime to stay with his wife and even if somehow his marriage is not "perfect" (knowing the perfect one doesn't exist) he has this energy connection and a "holy" connection (by being married) with his wife...

 Couples always face problems and sometimes it's a hard time for everyone so they try to look back where they seemed to be happy and secured without problems in the past...and that "coming" back in the past gives them a brake... But that doesn't mean one of the partners is about to divorce.

 Marriage is a holy union you don't broke just like that, like you go to the supermarket to return a broken article and get refund!!!

 You need to be very careful about what you do. A married guy is never a good option, believe me!!! I do not put on question your feelings or good judgement about this relationship, but he is married...

 I would rather suggest you to make a more "general" research on a soulmate without staying focused on a specific person. If this guy you want now is your soulmate, he will come to you like a response for the perfect soulmate you've asked from the Universe ...  But you have to stay "general" on that...

You make a list of the qualities you want him to have, physical appearence as well (even if that describes your ex boyfriend) and then you can read them morning and evening and visualize how you want it to be.


A very important thing to understand and accept is that the Law of Attraction is not a black magic spell, it's working with thoughts and vibrations you send to the Universe to create your reality, only your reality, not someone else's.

I would recommand you to stay positive and happy because this is the key of success - stay detached of the outcome and send "good" vibes by feeling good. You need to live like you already have your soulmate with you.
Be a positive person grateful for what you already have, not a needy person.

I hope I helped!

P.S. as you asked me few questions by email:  ....me and my love remained separated for 1 or 2 months after he said he was confused about if he is in love with my best friend...but he took the time to think about and this girl left abroad anyway, and she didn't want anything to happen between them, so it went quickly to be back together. Few times after I dropped him and dated another guy for 3 months but I couldn't stop thinking of my ex and very quickly we came back together....time after I got pregnant with our 1st son and after we got married, now have 2 kids...

Know something very important - NOBODY'S story is the same, Never!  For me attracting my ex boyfriend was the good solution, for others attracting generally a soulmate made them come back together with their ex boyfriend...but what will happen to you , I can't predict it... Remain positive and happy, attract a soulmate and it will be ok....

Blessings for you and have an amazing day!

[mara28]

Thank you Galia for replying. I feel that my ex is my soulmate and never felt this way with anyone else. He stated to me that we have something special between us that he doesn't have with his wife. I can feel that as well. Should I still try the laws of attraction to get him back if we have feelings for each other?

[Galia]

Ok...if he said so...that must be the truth...

I copy what I wrote you already and seems to me, personaly, in any case to be the best solution:


I would rather suggest you to make a more "general" research on a soulmate without staying focused on a specific person. If this guy you want now is your soulmate, he will come to you like a response for the perfect soulmate you've asked from the Universe ...  But you have to stay "general" on that...


So make affirmations at least twice a day while feeling you are already together... You can make it happen of that I'm absolutely sure. Stay positive, no doubts and you'll see that will come quickly.

Light!

[mara28]

Where do I find information on "response for the perfect soulmate?".

[Galia]

Tamara, if you mean affirmations, here some examples:


"I'm in the perfect relationship for me with the perfect man for me"

"I am now attracting a honest, sincere (list the qualities you are looking for) man."

"I now attract the right man who is in complete harmony with me. I'm giving him love, peace, joy."

[Galia]

this is an article from Priya, you should read it :

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-in-action/relationship/how-to-attract-a-perfect-relationship-using-law-of-attraction/


Blessings!

[littlegirl]

Hi Galia

I just wanted to say that I spent all weekend assembling furniture at my new place.
I'm sore, my bank hurts, I have many bruises. Yet, I'm very happy. My place will look lovely when it will done.
I feel very happy today and just wanted to share my happiness.
I'm grateful for hard work.

I hope you're well.

littlegirl. 

[Galia]

 

Hey,

I'm happy for you! Yes, you do great having new plans and new things in your life.

Stay positive and do affirmations for things you want to set up - like the bank   It works for that too, I tried 3 months ago and since then I'm never negative in my account...

Go ahaid!