Author Topic: somebody please help me clear this confusion! (Read 1336 times)

JustForToday · « **Reply #15 on:** March 19, 2012, 05:16:26 AM »

yeah, i mean you should move on....
of course you can attract back pain into your life.... but do you want that?

ask the universe for the right person for you and let it go.
the BEST will come to you---- might be your ex but also someone else

dont get depressed..... stay for your own---- you are a great woman and get proud. dont let him act like this....

i would suggest you to stop all the intends with him.... let it go and miracles will happen, no matter in which form. believe me!!!

make it to your intend to find happiness and a person who will love you and treat you well.....

Sunflower_Breeze · « **Reply #16 on:** March 19, 2012, 05:21:33 AM »

Okay, so by letting go, should I put away all his stuff? His ring, cards, pictures, his things that i still have in my bathroom? i have been trying to feel like i have my desire by feeling like hes already here.. the person he is acting like, IS NOT HIM. This is not the man i fell in love with. He even said we were soul mates.. I want HIM, and only him.. but it is possible to get him back??

JustForToday · « **Reply #17 on:** March 19, 2012, 05:29:54 AM »

sunflower, its not that i dont want you to be with him, not at all!!

you know, i had the same!! i also needed to delete all connection possibilities i had, numbers, emails etc.... to protect myself, from hurting, even from contacting him.
the final was to put away all his stuff, in a chamber

not that i see it every day and stay detached.
he was my soulmate too but i do not want pain anymore in my life, thats why i moved on.

and in order to attract him back and if youre sure, that he isnt the man now he used to be, you have to move on. that is the most important step in loa. dont contact him, no contact rule.... not at all, even when it takes months.
put away all the stuff and memories for now.
let him go and ONLY care about yourself, you need to get happy!! its possible, believe me....
only then you allow him and the universe to act.

Sunflower_Breeze · « **Reply #18 on:** March 19, 2012, 05:43:47 AM »

I attracted him back twice- even when he had said more hateful things to me.. I know it seems like hes not the one for me, but I have attracted him back before. I just cant remember how. The only difference this time is, the last 2 times I attracted him back, it was within a month after we broke up. This time, its been since the end of January that we havent had any contact. Almost 2 months. I do have a lot of guys wanting to go out with me. I put an ad out on a dating website (just for fun) and I have had 104 responses in less than a week. Im actually talking to someone right now.. I guess so in order to detach, i need to forget about him? The universe knows I want him back- so now i just forget about him?? No more visualizing, affirmations, vision boards?? I guess im confused..

JustForToday · « **Reply #19 on:** March 19, 2012, 05:57:40 AM »

that is needed for now sunflower, forgetting is the worng word for that, just let it go and flow, the universe works all the time, that is sure!! i have seen it.

go out with those guys, enjoy the appreciation you get. dont be fixed to get him back NOW. the universe doesnt know any time. move on and see him coming back and this time with the right treatment towards you.

if youre fixed, youre atached and thats not working. did you read the bible of getting your ex back from ankur? if not, do so! just do a search on here.....

the universe knows that you want him back and in your mindstate i would suggest you to stay away from visualations etc for now. it just keeps you fixed. you have to be and feel free

in fact visualations are not a must.... it just helps when you are really in a positive mindstate.

slacker manifesting:
DO NOTHING
IGNORE IT
LISTEN TO IDEAS
TAKE ACTION TO YOUR IDEAS

thats it.
i always manifested things fast and easy, by just sending an intend, let it go and dont think about it anymore.
your wish has been heard--- if you call a pizza taxi, you dont call and call when your pizza arrives, cause you know it will come with only one call

always remind yourself on that.

have you heard of the magic box... i have one....
find a nice box.... set your intend.... i write it like this

i.e. a black twingo
i am a black twingo and already enjoy driving it--- thank you

put it into your box.... and say- all what this box contains, IS.
close it and forget about it. its sent

could be a good way for you to detach and still send your wish!

be positive sunflower, believe me!!! all is well

JustForToday · « **Reply #20 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:01:03 AM »

ps.... i get my car now, also i got a second job within 2 days while it was in my box

trust though that all whats inside, will come!!!

Sunflower_Breeze · « **Reply #21 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:03:26 AM »

Thank You.

I just deleted all his pictures off my facebook, and I finally took out that i had a wounderful boyfriend named*----* in my info. So i felt a little lighter after that? So im going to get a nice box for a creation box, put a note in it like "I desire to be back with *----* in a new loving happy way." than i will put it up in my closet and go on with life???

JustForToday · « **Reply #22 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:06:55 AM »

yaehhhhh.... you got it!!!

move on and enjoy the men who wants to be with you, just enjoy, thats what i am doing right now as well and it feels gooooood.

also sunflower, browse this forum, alot of good infos here and you will find more and more out what is the way to et your ex back....

but dont contact him

beautifulmesss12sc · « **Reply #23 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:18:37 AM »

Sunflower... u can still attract him back... u just have to let go ... live your life ... work on you and loving yourself knowing you are deserving of love ... ALOT of us have been where you are thinking if we didnt get him back wed jst die.. Myself included.. i have had some contact from him but then i reattach and he goes quiet again...

My advice .. and at times i have been as confused as you are right now ..dont obcess. over it .. i still include my guy in my gratitude list .. i still send him love when im feeling it ... but i have SToppED contacting him at all ..and i have gradually stopped thinking about him every sec of every day .the universe has my request which i have changed "i want my guy as a new whole person ready for a relationship with an open heart filled with love , honesty, faithfulness, or someone better.

I guess when u ask for someone better you can never go wrong.. if somene better comes you will wonder why u even wanted your ex

I know i dont want my guy back the way he was at the end of our relationship ,... i ask for him back as a new and improved version... it cld take awhile b4 that happens and if in the mean time i move on then ... i move on but i do believe if we are meant to be together the universe will make a way for it to happen ... be patient ... and be grateful and LIVE... im not saying this is easy ...

Come here to these boards and read all you can the success stories the ppl here will give you all the support you can possibly ask for but you have to do the work !

ASK
BELIEVE
RECEIVE
Be GRATEFUL even for the things you dont have yet
Loose the desperation
Get the old you back

there were some pretty hopeless situations of reuniting with an ex on this forum that you will read about .some were just sad and pitiful.. REALLY!. and it happened .they reunited . JUST READ and TRY to relax

Sending positive thoughts and love to u sunflower we are all here to help

JustForToday · « **Reply #24 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:22:21 AM »

well said beautiful

Sunflower_Breeze · « **Reply #25 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:37:16 AM »

Thank you guys!!!! awww!!!

Oh i did do one thing though, and i replied back to him "No bad feelings. And I am seeing someone. Hes great! I spoil him. The way I used to you!

Please dont respond, as it may be mean. Bye!

"
NOW im detaching!! That gives him the impression i have moved on.. and it may even drive him to think of who im with, and such... but i wont message him again.. pretty soon he will be messaging me.

JustForToday · « **Reply #26 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:41:15 AM »

stay away from contacting him in anyway sunflower.... i guess that he knows you just wanted to tease him it was obvious. but it happened and now move really on, show him that you CAN do without him.....

i just read in another topic, i guess beautiful was it.---- the more you want to control something, being fixed on it, the more it will escape!

stay strong sunflower

beautifulmesss12sc · « **Reply #27 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:46:22 AM »

The only thing that will truly make him wonder is you disappearing .. no texting( at first i cld never get why)...but trust me DO NOT TEXT HIM AGAIN he will never take you serious if you do.. he will knw he can have you anytime he wants u ...

the more you try the faster he will run and think he was right in his decission to leave (assuming he broke it off with you)

Be the strong , vibrant , beautiful , confident women he fell in love with .. STARTING>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>NOW!

simplyjess · « **Reply #28 on:** March 19, 2012, 06:57:33 AM »

Reclaim your energy from him, because the more energy and attention you give to him, the more he would withdraw from you. Do what makes you happy, and do things for YOU. Enjoy this time away from him; it's a great opportunity to focus on yourself!

Sunflower_Breeze · « **Reply #29 on:** March 21, 2012, 04:22:11 AM »

Thank you everyone for your advice!!

I have actually been printing this thread out. I got 3 ring notebinders, and clear plastic sheets, and i print this stuff out, and put it in the plastic sheets and in the binders, and its so easy to just pull out the binder and read it for encouragement.
Where can i find these stories of reuntiing back with your ex even with it seemed impossible?? Thank you guys!!