Some thoughts, any advice appreciated

[animor]

(it may be a little long post!)

I am only a couple of weeks here but I am not new to LOA.
I had read a couple of books, I knew the "basics", and I had no problem manifesting effortlessly what I wanted, both small and big things.

The last couple of months, I want to attract my guy back, we had a 4-year relationship without any problems at all but one day he decided to go away and focus on other things in his life that were not going well.

I started searching more about LOA, I read more books, found other methods like EFT, remote seduction etc.
I tried them all along with the methods I already knew like gratitude list, affirmations, visualizing... in order to find out what is best for me.

I feel that I got lost somewhere with all these. I am a person coming from a lovely family that could always offer me whatever I needed and wanted and I am grateful for this. Then  I have been able to study what I wanted, have the job that I wanted, the people that I wanted in my life, (well, except the last one), travel where I wanted... I manifested all of these without any effort, without all these techniques.
Now that I know more about all these, practice them all, I see them as an obstacle. I have forgiven my guy and I love him, I have no negative feelings, he was the perfect boyfriend, the only negative thing he did during the 4 years was that he broke up with me but I have forgiven him. I used eft to clear any remaing resistance to let him go, and I feel that I made things worse, I feel more attached to the outcome when I try to make it happen. I have been also doing EFT for him too, to be less resistant and then I send him my love ball. The love ball is nice but I want to do it when I feel like I want to do it, not because I have to.

I have literally spent the last couple of weeks reading forums and search for any method mentioned! I don't feel that it was good for me.

I decided to leave everything I learnt the last couple of months and do what I did a long time ago when everything was manifesting. Just do the basics, ask, believe and then receive. I feel like by doing all these I am asking for it all the time, this is not belief, I see it as no trust that you will receive.
I will stop sending balls with messages for him to call me. I will let the universe tell me when is the right time and I will initiate contact, unless he does it first! I believe that he will when he's ready, I won't try to make him ready sooner with all these methods.

How do you see all this? Have any of you ever thought that we may try too much for something that it is supposed to be achieved without any effort?

[onlyhappiness]

Animor ,

 I couldn't agree with you more!! I sometimes thing i am tring too hard which is yes causing attatchment ( for me anyway). Don't get me wrong i love learning more about the Law of Attraction and will continue to expand my knowledge, but i as well have taken a step back. I have asked and i do believe so i know i will receive what i asked for.
Thank you for the post it pretty much mimic's my feelings at the moment.
You just have to trust in the Universe.

[irishgirl69]

Tereza posted this link yesterday and it speaks to what you're saying. 

http://goodvibeblog.com/slacker-manifesting-abigail-steidley/

Everything I have manifested since I've been actively practicing LOA has been by pretty much stating my intention and letting it go.  I haven't manifested anything major but I think this is the approach I am going to take going forward.  I'm focusing now on just meditating daily and journaling (gratitude).

[Apple]

Animor, I'm guilty too. Good for you for figuring that out so quickly. It took me a long time to realize that. I couldn't figure out why things were actually getting worse when I was trying so hard. I was so focused on what I wanted. That was the problem though. I was so busy reading or visualising or doing affirmations or anything to try and manifest, I was not enjoying anything. I just decided to focus on being happy.

Great link Irishgirl...it says it all!!

[animor]

I feel lost with all these techniques and I feel that I am trying too much. And all this searching makes me focus on what I do not have.
I read again the 'Ask and it is given' yesterday, one of the first books that introduced me to LOA a few years ago when I was getting everything that I had asked for. I think I will be stuck again to these basics. It works better for me.

[iloverainbows]

Hey animor, you sound like you've had a really blessed life. I would like to put two possibilities forward for you to consider - if either of them don't resonate please feel free to discard

1) You have had a really blessed life, living much of it in or right near your vortex. Even when you didn't realise you were doing this, you were. You knew to expect the best, so the best kept coming. Instead of looking at this break-up as a negative, you could look at it this way: 'Only great things come to me - I know this. Therefore the only reason my boyfriend would break up with me is because it is for the best. That is, either I will have a happier life single for now, or even there is a better partner out there for me, which my old relationship prepared me for. I feel no hurt from the break up and only forgiveness, and I know with trust that the universe would have only created this break up if it is for the absolute best for me and my life. Therefore I trust that what happens now is going to be even better than what would have happened if the old relationship had continued. I am excited to see what happens next!' (And what happens next may even be that your ex needed time apart from you to know what he had lost, and will come back and love you even more...but whatever happens the point is that the break up was for the best and you know this because you always feel and receive so well).

OR, another possibility:

2) While many blessed things have happened in your life, the way you are writing it here is somewhat of a 'rose coloured glasses' perspective. There have been some hurts - maybe around sudden abandonment, fear of losing those you love, fear of being left? - which you are not posting here, maybe not even acknowledging to yourself. This breakup is a playing out of some of those hurts in the physical, because hurt always replays in our life until we heal it. If this is true, see this break up as an opportunity to learn a spiritual lesson or heal a pain, brought to the surface for you by the gift of the break up. Maybe this is a chance to heal an old pain or learn some forgiveness you never deeply forgave from the past. If you feel this may be the case I suggest you read 'Radical Forgiveness'; you can get it on Amazon.com and many other sites or bookshops.

Finally, if certain processes don't feel good, don't do them. Always do what feels best and true to you x

[animor]

iloverainbows
I feel the first possibility to be closer to me.
I believe (or consciously try to believe sometimes) that everything is happening for my best, even though the situation is not the best for me now.
I want a new relationship with this man, I believe we are not over yet, he just got confused or realized that he didn't move on with other things in his life and he needed some time alone to sort things out. Our new relationship is going to be better this time and the time apart was for our best.
This is what I want and I believe it no matter there's no sign from him. I try not to care.

I think you are right and I should simply ask and believe in a new, better relationship either with him or with someone else.