Some advice wanted please

[stevelewis]

Hi all, just wanted to ask a question on how to respond with something. I will give a brief overview of our relationship so that you can have some background.

Basically I've known this girl for many years, but for whatever reason we lost contact. We had never met before (internet relationship), but she added me back about 11 months ago on MSN. We chatted, and very quickly something kind of developed. Now she was married and living with her two kids and husband, and I was in a relationship and expecting my first baby. So the situation wasn't good. I knew deep down that I had to end the relationship I was in, but it was tough. She ended things with her husband (had more strength than me). and I did end my relationship in the middle of the year. We had such a powerful connection (the new lady), but I did go back and forth over the year with the ex until I left and for good in January. Obviously this had done a lot of damage to the trust and love the other woman had for me! Now me and the new girl started a proper relationship but got sooo wrapped up in each other, and I started not respecting myself, and became a bit of a wreck. We spent a few amazing times together, it was soooo soooo good. But then just before valentines, she distanced herself, and went weird on me. She had written me a valentines card that was amazing, saying we were everything, best friends, and soulmates, and we'd always been together. Anyways, just over two weeks ago (after a week or two of no real contact), she wrote a load of excuses saying she can't follow her heart, she'd lose friends if we continued, and she didnt want a relationship, etc, etc. Wasn't going to follow her heart, and follow her head this time. So that was it. I wrote to her, and dropped it off at her house, a very long letter mainly as a friend, but DID say how I felt and loved her, but wouldn't beg, or try to buy her off, etc. She did text saying she didnt want to cut me out completely, and would be in touch. This was just over two weeks ago.

Since then I found this site, and started following the bible for getting your ex back. And I'm doing very very well. Im respecting myself, exercising like mad (jeans dropping off!) Contacting old friends, and even gone on two dates! Im getting on with my work, and not mopign around being depressed. It's my choice to be happy. Obviously I have my bad moments, but it's getting easier, day by day.

Now she contacted me yesterday just sending a link to a you tube video, saying that she saw this and thought of me (nothing romantic, just silly stuff), and hoped I was doing OK. Now I'm not sure what to reply with, something along the lines of "hehe, thanks for that. Yeah Im going well, hope you are too", or something. I'm damned sure she's fine, has a lot of mates, and will be keeping very busy. What do you think? I don;t want to ignore it completely, as that's just wrong.

Now I personally have appreciated my space a lot, and had loads of time to sort my life out, and thins are going very well for me. I'm staying positive and making lots of live changing decisions. I'm not close to disconnecting myself from the outcome, but I am open to other options, I definitely am not rushing into anything, new or old! Im making real good progress, and whilst I'm not 100% convinced of the LoA, most of it makes very good sense. My immediate concern is the reply I should give (if any!), but I will send a reply.

Thanks guys, great forum and site BTW!

[stevelewis]

Oh and BTW, just read through some other peoples posts, and I knew that she'd contact me (OK she said she'd be in touch), and I also kinda thought though wasn't 100% sure that it'd be two weeks. It was two weeks to the day, hehe. That is positive thinking, and yeah I've been pretty positive :d I;ve focused on what I want from another woman/my soulmate, and whilst she does tick a lot of the boxes, it doesn't mean SHE is the ONE (although open to all possibilities!) That is all thank you please.. :d

[twirlgirl]

Her adding you back is a good start. Keep in friendly, positive communication with her.

[stevelewis]

She didn't add me back (and TBH I don't think I want her to right now!), she just sent me a message, and I DID reply with a short reply:

"Heh cool, thanks for that. Yeah I'm doing well thanks, hope you are too. x "

Leaving it basically short, nice and sweet. I'm pretty confident she'll contact me again within a week, but I won't do anything! I'm doing very well generally, and keeping up the exercise, dating, etc. I have a lot of other stuff in my life, this is my LOW point of my life, and everything will be better from here! I'm a key turning point and Im changing so fast! Amazing what a little positive mental attitude will do for you!

[twirlgirl]

Indeed, it is.!!!


Keep up the good work. Stay positive, and keep us informed about your progress.

I can't wait to hear when she contacts you!!!