canhdong-
I'm new to the forum but I have been working on how to be positive for over a year and a half (after the random brutal murder of my 8 year old nephew while he was riding bikes at a country club with his mother twin and older brother). It's not necessary to feel happy all day. It's natural to have feelings of sadness and negativity just don't wallow in them. Here are some strategys to uplift your spirits the first comes from my 96 yr old grandmother- try to do something nice for someone everyday and hope that it's enough. This doesn't have to be anything bigjust something like maybe bringing their garbage can in from the street on trash day. The next is to read through your gratitude journal mine lists the big things like friends and family to the little things like ice, Diet Dr Pepper (my caffine addiction), insulation, toilet paper, ect. I alsohave a gratitude shell attached to my key chain (similiar to the gratitude stones discussed in the secret) I use it to remind me to be thankful whenever I notice it. If these don't help me and I can't get out of my sadness I talk to someone about what I'm feeling. I know it's counterintuitive to LOA to talk about negative feelings but it's extremely important for you to release them and not let them build. Plus when your done you can write it in your gratitude journal (I'm so happy and grateful I can talk to x about my feeling and release them) Gradually it will get easier to flip negatives to positives. If you still have sadness or grief it's OK don't add feeling guilty about having these emotions to the negative mix, simply experience the emotions and then be grateful that this experience has equipped you with the capacity to more fully embrace the joys and positives life isgiving you.
I'm new to the forum but I have been working on how to be positive for over a year and a half (after the random brutal murder of my 8 year old nephew while he was riding bikes at a country club with his mother twin and older brother). It's not necessary to feel happy all day. It's natural to have feelings of sadness and negativity just don't wallow in them. Here are some strategys to uplift your spirits the first comes from my 96 yr old grandmother- try to do something nice for someone everyday and hope that it's enough. This doesn't have to be anything bigjust something like maybe bringing their garbage can in from the street on trash day. The next is to read through your gratitude journal mine lists the big things like friends and family to the little things like ice, Diet Dr Pepper (my caffine addiction), insulation, toilet paper, ect. I alsohave a gratitude shell attached to my key chain (similiar to the gratitude stones discussed in the secret) I use it to remind me to be thankful whenever I notice it. If these don't help me and I can't get out of my sadness I talk to someone about what I'm feeling. I know it's counterintuitive to LOA to talk about negative feelings but it's extremely important for you to release them and not let them build. Plus when your done you can write it in your gratitude journal (I'm so happy and grateful I can talk to x about my feeling and release them) Gradually it will get easier to flip negatives to positives. If you still have sadness or grief it's OK don't add feeling guilty about having these emotions to the negative mix, simply experience the emotions and then be grateful that this experience has equipped you with the capacity to more fully embrace the joys and positives life isgiving you.
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