Should one attract back love???

[rullikene]

Hi

I've been following the topics here and to see so many broken hearts who are searching a way to get their love back, it made me question, should one attract back ex lover?

I mean, the whole idea is that the Universe is looking out for our best intrests. So, if relationships fall apart, maybe it is because it was meant this way and the idea is to learn our lessons from that relationship and move on? The law says that we must make room for the things we are wishing for. Basically, all of us are looking for love. But what if holding on to ex-lover and not letting them go prevents us from finding the true love of our lives?

I, too, found the LOA due to my divorce, hoping that it would help me save my marriage. But after a few months I started to wonder if there was something better out there waiting for me. I still love my husband, but at some point I decided to let him go and it felt soooooo goooood. It's like I felt that the air got clear around me and I had made room for someone new.

So please let me know what do you think.

Love!

[irishgirl69]

I don't think it's a black or white thing.  For some people, letting go of the past relationship and taking the lessons learned to their new relationship is the best thing.  But for others, the conflict that caused the breakup may be the thing that causes them to grow personally and once that growth takes place, that same person may be the best match for them and their new relationship is better than ever.

Some people start out wanting to get someone back but in the process of growing and becoming a better person, they decide that the best thing for them is to move on to someone else.  But others do know in their heart that their ex is their soulmate and that the breakup is necessary in order for both parties to grow so that their relationship can be the best it can possibly be.  And others decide to open up to the possibility that while they believe the person they are trying to attract is the best match for them, there might be someone even better out there.  So it really is an individual thing and can't be defined as black and white.  People should listen to their intuition and not let fear of being hurt or fear of the unknown guide them.

[lise]

My understanding isn't that the universe looks out for our best interests - it's that it delivers what we put feeling towards attracting.

Its up to us to go within and discover what we really want/need/love and it's only us that's getting in our own way. Whether we look out for our best or worst interests - the universe delivers it.

[MEL]

@rullikene..

OMG- Thats exactly what happened in my life.. I left my husband of nearly 9 years after discovering LOA. And it was the best decision I made. It  just wasn't meant to be.

We have 3 children together. So as it was my decision to leave, I also decided that I would still love him. And he is now what I would call  "family".. Its hard at times to stay focused. I would often think life would be easier just going back to my ex.

But-  I have a vision in my mind of My dream man. I know my true love is already with me in mind and spirit. I already see him everytime i close my eye's. I belive it will be worth it. I hold on to that hope.

When the time is "right". We will be together..  The universe will bring us together.

The universe has already helped me. Years ago. I only imagined part of this person, I never saw a face in my mind. And along the years - after making room for this person to be in my life, His face has become visable and now I have more details about my true love.. And He is perfect.. I belive that more will unfold.

Lots of love  -Mel

[lilly]

I agree with this. It is my understanding that if the universe delivers what we ask for, then it doesn't necessarily mean that we'll get something "better", we'll merely get what we ask for in our next relationship and if we still have unresolved issues we'll carry them in the next relationship too.
Then it is a choice, shall we work on ourself to mend the past relationship, or move on to something new altogether. It is a personal choice really.
I think the struggle with the past relationship that was broken is that there are still things you can have a hard time forgiving and such and which might make it harder than trying something new with another person with whom you don't have "such" past..initially anyway.

My understanding isn't that the universe looks out for our best interests - it's that it delivers what we put feeling towards attracting.

Its up to us to go within and discover what we really want/need/love and it's only us that's getting in our own way. Whether we look out for our best or worst interests - the universe delivers it.

[rullikene]

Dear Mel,

I'm really happy for you. It seems like you know exactly what you want and what you will be delivered soon, no question in that!!!

In my case, however, it was a bit different. My husband left me and it was a real surprise for me as we were already planning to have a baby together. For me this relationship with my husband seemed perfect and I could not understand how he could say that he had just stopped loving me at some point. So for some time I tried to attract him back as I really thought he is the love of my life. But then I came along with the idea that if you really love someone, you let him go. You just have to respect their choice. And I do really love him, so I let him go. I can still love him, I just cannot be with him anymore. Thankfully after some time of fighting we have made peace and we are getting along just fine. I know he is someone I can always rely on and I really hope he is happy and will be happy even if he finds someone new.

For me it is still hard to imagine my perfect man as the image of my ex-husband break in, although he wasn't that perfect at all!!

PS. Please don't get this wrong. I am not saying that it isn't right to attract back love. I'd just like to discuss this topic to understand it better.

[MEL]

Hi Rullikene..

I understand completely... Everyone is different.. Be patient. The universe will help you with what ever it is you need. 

I wish you all the happiness, that your heart needs.. I will send out my good vibes to you and your situation.

Lots of love
Mel

[vanessa202]

Its very interesting as i lost a big love years back and although it feels that my heart is still with him, I do wonder if it was for the best and that the universe has someone better in store for me.
Its very hard when someone opens your heart in that big unique way to fully let go and allow the universe to bring us better. I struggle with this myself and am in two minds of do i want this guy back who broke my heart and left me feeling 2nd best but yet made me feel whole and truly loved ( yes very confusing but true) or do i want that the universe has someone else who is perfect for me.
It would seam like i have answered my own question but those days when my heart longs for him it feels he is the only guy I will ever want.
I do need to clean up some vibrations there and ask the universe to help me do this and put faith that I will fall in love with my soul mate whoever the lucky fella is.
thanks for this very interesting post much love vanessa x