Author Topic: shes in another relationship :( (Read 1429 times)

lise · « **Reply #15 on:** September 12, 2011, 03:19:50 AM »

Well for one I can disagree with anything I choose to and secondly just because you see it in your experience doesn't make it true of anyone regardless of whether you affirm it or not. I have dated several men who have had gambling habits. That doesn't mean that all men I know have gambling habits, it doesnt mean all men i work with or men who live on my street or in my town or my country or the world have gambling habits. It just means in my experience some men have gambling habits. Even if proportionally 99.5 have gambling habits still means that .5 percent could be a attracted to me. It's not about statistics to me it's about belief.

It's not what happens out there - or what you choose to see iit's what you choose to focus on that's important

ToMeAndOnlyMe · « **Reply #16 on:** September 12, 2011, 03:47:56 AM »

Quote from: UpLOAding on September 12, 2011, 02:52:46 AM

How can you disagree with statistics?
I simply said what I see, what the people around me do. What my mother does.

It's not my vision. It's not my belief. It's nothing even close to what I affirm with LOA.

It is what happens out there.

Granted I'm obviously a newbie, I think when it comes to your surroundings, your natural energy ends up innately dictating to some degree, who you attract and don't when it comes to friends. It may just be that your natural energy attracts the same type of men as you do as friends and the same type of women that you're baffled with.

2thetop · « **Reply #17 on:** September 12, 2011, 04:50:26 AM »

Up i would like to see where you get your so call stats from. If its just based on what you experience, well I would suggest taking a good look at how you see others.

Mr positive, he is nothing more then a temporary blip. There is a possability that my girl is going out with a guy she met at work right after we broke up, and i mean right after. I know the feeling you have. Are you afraid to lose her right now? If you are or if you arent, i think either way you need to take some time to yourself. You are letting her pull at you right now with her telling you that you have her heart. Well then, if thats the case, make her come to you. Right now my guess is shes enjoying the attention and the energy you put into her. Pull it all back, put that energy into you right now. If you would feel better with a fancy car and a big house, then put your energy into getting those things. I personally dont think she is after that. Its nice, but people will chose love over money if theyre even remotely decent human beings.

Keep your head up and stay positive. This guy just might be the one that makes her see how much she loves you.

Mr positive · « **Reply #18 on:** September 12, 2011, 05:38:27 AM »

thank you all for the support and great advice looks like she called me just now and told me about him and at first i was like heart struck but than she told me that he wants to rush things and be a couple after one date and she said she dont want to rush things and hes just being persistant and i am working on me by staying clean and trying to find a new job so i can get my own place and car! Im a good person and i know deep down inside i will get her love back its just a matter of me focusing on me and keeping the focus on me! I just hope i can get the trust back in myself idk tho only time will tell

thanks a bunch again all!

Mr positive · « **Reply #19 on:** September 12, 2011, 06:13:24 AM »

Yeah and she still tells me she loves me when she gets off the phone and says she misses me idk how to take it but i guess just get my life in order than she might come back to me when she sees im doing better for myself

UpLOAding · « **Reply #20 on:** September 12, 2011, 10:44:42 AM »

Of course, I was just talking about my experiences, especially before knowing anything about LOA. But occasionally, even now I come across them, while affirming and visualizing only positiveness.

2thetop · « **Reply #21 on:** September 12, 2011, 11:05:05 AM »

well not to drag this off topic but your personal experiences dont qualify to pass judgement on an entire sex. also dont be mistaken in thinking just because you think positive thoughts that you wont run across negative situations. the key is to find the positive in everything. just as in this situation, mr positive is now focusing on the fact that she loves him and he has personal goals he wishes to achieve. and that she IS going to come back once he feels he is doing better for himself.

Mr. positive, forgiving yourself for mistakes is hard. Especially when it was your actions that caused the fall apart of the relationship. I dont know if this is the case with you. But i just thought id throw it out there because this has been part of my experience. But if this is the case for you as well, remember that you have to forgive yourself first and foremost. its kinda like loving someone else, you cant expect someone to forgive you if you cant even forgive you.

keep your head up and things will be just fine.

Katie · « **Reply #22 on:** September 12, 2011, 11:48:17 AM »

Yes Mr Positive, like Shawn says, forgive yourself for all past mistakes. It is a hard job, I know I'm responsible for practically everything that went wrong in my relationship. This whole thing about working on yourself was a totally new concept to me, I was used to being content with the person I was without ever even thinking I could make myself someone better, more understanding, more trustful and less controlling. Those were my personal issues. And who is working on himself now to become a better person too ? my man ! and he knows nothing about LOA and doesn't even want to hear about it.

He is currently in Canada on a trip (he'll be back this week) and before he left, we sat down together and wrote down our commitments to each other. He acknowledged the mistakes he made too, and is willing to work on them. He is such a proud man that not even in my wildest dreams did I ever even think he was capable of admitting that he is not Mr Perfect.

Just to say that like attracts like, in all situations. I'm working on myself and he is reciprocating, without even being LOA savvy.

And this guy who wants to rush things so fast

is an opportunity for your girl to experience contrast like Abe Hicks says, and find out what she really wants. Contrast brings clarity !

Uploading : my father cheated on my Mom for years. He constantly lied to her. Does that mean all men are unfaithful ? No. My guy told me he loved me for years, then that he didn't love me anymore, then that he fell back in love with me, and wants to marry me. Does that mean he is "fickle" ? No. If I believe he is fickle, I'd be living in fear that when he does come home from his trip he'll say : I've changed my mind again.......... and that's exactly what I'd get.

Mr positive · « **Reply #23 on:** September 12, 2011, 12:07:55 PM »

yeah thanks all she was talking to me all night tonight on the phone talking bout we might have a chance still and all kinds of stuff she never brought up my gambling and its like just in one day it made all the difference but im gonna keep focus on me and detach from the outcome and well stay away from all negative outcomes! Enjoyed all the nice talks like her telling me im the perfect balance for her and shes now getting her own place and said she wished i could of been there to celebrate this moment with her! Im just really greatful for you awesome ppl on this forum and for this oppurtunity thanks all

peter_93 · « **Reply #24 on:** September 12, 2011, 07:43:44 PM »

Mr Positive, sorry for your story but I insisted to have faith and believe. Not only you, but we all have been through the similar situation in the past. Sunshine after the rain is always beautiful. And when you keep strong heart and continue with your goodness, you are definitely going to attract goodness. When you are all good, nothing can let you down.

57angel · « **Reply #25 on:** September 12, 2011, 07:48:48 PM »

Give time to yourself and to her to further work inwards, and if there is something that you should work out, only you know that. Believe that everything happens for a reason, and maybe the situation will help her realize faster what kind of a man she is about to let go. This is the time that you need to focus more on yourself, do not just give in that easy for you know that it will only bring more of the things that you don't want. The fact that she tells you things like that, there must be something from within her that wants to be with you. Let the Universe surprise you one of these days

Tell yourself, you are not a failure

Mr positive · « **Reply #26 on:** September 13, 2011, 03:07:13 AM »

i took the first step today and i went out and applied for a few jobs and i feel wonderful! This is just the beginning of working on myself! My first step is get a job than car than appartment little by little than go to school to be a life coach! Im no longer looking for approval of my ex im looking for approval of myself! Im working my program and got almost a half year clean and i feel as though im allready a success and feel real complete the way i am! As far as im concerned she can go looking for other guys but they will never be me

she is mine i can feel it in my heart!

2thetop · « **Reply #27 on:** September 13, 2011, 12:02:34 PM »

Awesome! Thats the attitude to have. Nobody else will satisfy that desire in her. Its like craving chocolate ice cream and then having every other flavor. It just dont cut it. Good to hear youre working on yourself. Keep up the awesome progress.

Mr positive · « **Reply #28 on:** September 13, 2011, 01:38:44 PM »

shes now dating another guy

im so happy its one step closer to getting her back! I couldnt be in a better spot bc she still texts me and says she loves me and calls me babe haha! I love loa! love every one on these forums cant believe i ever doubted my self before

Well i got to get some sleep just wanted to share some positivity with the world and thank you to every one on this forum yall are a blessing