Author Topic: shes in another relationship :( (Read 1429 times)

Mr positive · « **on:** September 11, 2011, 10:38:49 PM »

i cant believe this after all the romantic talks we were sharing she is in another relationship! My heart is pretty much in a blender i should change my name to failure because thats all i see myself as and im just in tears cant seem to pull through! This guy owns his own home and nice career and i have nothing to offer im just doomed... i need a better mind set idk why she even still talks to me and tells me that her heart still belongs to me its just a lie sorry for the negativity but my heart is killing me

Vicki Christina · « **Reply #1 on:** September 11, 2011, 10:46:38 PM »

Act as if you have another 100 years to live! Immagine all that you can accomplish with this much time! Bingo, time is no longer a issue!
I am reading your statement from you signature above.... Now is the time to focus on this statement. You have work to do on you! Keep working on the things you have been sharing here as goals - breaking bad habits and keeping them from getting in the way of your relationships with friends, lovers and yourself again. Time is no problem. She cares for you or she would not be talking to you. She has told you in the past that old issues cause concern for her. You can only keep working on your future home, career, and integrity. You will be successful and you will have a wonderful relationship - possibly with her one day! Hugs! VC

ToMeAndOnlyMe · « **Reply #2 on:** September 11, 2011, 10:50:41 PM »

I know it's hard to not compare yourself in a situation where a loved one chooses another. However, it's better to get yourself together and centered. I think anytime you use energy on negative aspects, it causes you to lose power in yourself.

Scream in a pillow, punch a punching bag, do something to let the negative energy out! Get yourself and your energy back! That's always the first and hardest thing to do, but once everything's there, everything will come together. (At least speaking from experience.)

Mr positive · « **Reply #3 on:** September 11, 2011, 10:53:35 PM »

Thanks vc i do need to work on me bc no one would want to be with somone thats a wreck i was so close to having the best mind set than boom it hit me i started to doubt myself and hate myself again i really need to build a better foundation for my life! Thanks again!

DH4-everhappyinlove · « **Reply #4 on:** September 11, 2011, 11:28:00 PM »

Mr Positive..as your name suggest!!! (by the way love it ) now it maybe hard to be that right now but you can..go to the dept of your soul and find that inner strength you can...you know I read something this morning about LOA n it was saying don't know the truth behind it but it says...with every progress(positive step) one makes with the Law one must be aware that there is going to also be a setback(negative step)its a balance...the good thing that it also states is that the next progress you make will be a whole lot greater than the one set back u had before n the cycle goes on until you manifest (so in essence if you see progress say twice with only one set back, the next time around it will be four times greater progress ...you know what it amazes me when i read it...just need to find it to re post...what i just wrote is not word for word but what i understands from it...so what it says the LAW works like that until BAM manifestation. (however hard it may seems now keep in mind it is apart of the law as suggested which by the way make sense to me)

Reason for mentioning here when we make progress we are so happy human nature but when things seems a bit weary we are so hard on ourselves we beat up on ourselves so badly i have seen it so many times right here but everything in life is a balance....listen all is not lost you have got qualities and you just have to work on yourself....Having a home and I car and God knows what else he has does not make him a better person society may perceive it that way, so that is there perception...you are not doomed, you have got YOU TO OFFER and that is what's gonna make the difference.

So love you, be you..don't focus on him and what he have...she is still yours and you are gonna make sure

much love and peace.
DH

UpLOAding · « **Reply #5 on:** September 11, 2011, 11:42:52 PM »

I second every advice given, but have a question as well:
Have the women here done anything similar to the girl of Mr positive?

I always hear these stories about women changing from one day to another. Even good ones, the best of them. Women are fickle.

Can the women please answer: WHY?

ToMeAndOnlyMe · « **Reply #6 on:** September 11, 2011, 11:47:58 PM »

Quote from: UpLOAding on September 11, 2011, 11:42:52 PM

I second every advice given, but have a question as well:
Have the women here done anything similar to the girl of Mr positive?

I always hear these stories about women changing from one day to another. Even good ones, the best of them. Women are fickle.

Can the women please answer: WHY?

Hm, I don't think it's really women, just people in general. I have experienced a similar situation as Mr positive (I am a woman too) and it comes down to what crossroads are placed in front of that person and what they're attracting too. Sometimes what a person wants ends up not being what a person needs, so they change their mind and their focus changes too.

Katie · « **Reply #7 on:** September 12, 2011, 12:01:29 AM »

Hey Mr Positive !

You are not a failure. You are shell shocked right now. If you feel like crying, just cry and have it all out. You have nothing to offer her ? This guy is better than you because he owns his own house and has a nice career ? No !!!!!!!!!! She said her heart still belongs to you ! Believe it ! this guy is not a permanent thing.. as Dhaynes would say, he is only a "distraction" ! Keep working on yourself, she asked you to make some progress, I think I remember reading you were having some gambling problems ? (sorry if I'm confusing you with someone else)

PS : @Uploading : your remark on women being "fickle" ..."even good ones, the best of them"... is unworthy of you

UpLOAding · « **Reply #8 on:** September 12, 2011, 12:33:24 AM »

Kate, I just asked a question based on what I observe.

All my male friends stick to what they say, never change heart so quickly or behave differently from what they say.
All females I have known in my life, including my own mother (sorry mum, but it's true), say something but change the next day. Promise something but never stick to their word.

I am talking about women only in relationships, not outside it. Outside relationships, of course all are human and there are great women.
But inside relationships, women just seem unable to follow through, to devote themselves, to commit, etc.

And trust me, i am not focusing or thinking about fickleness of women. I am using LOA in a very pure way. I am writing this just to report something I observe and am slowly becoming aware of even if I don't think about it...

Mr positive · « **Reply #9 on:** September 12, 2011, 12:55:46 AM »

idk she keeps saying she wants to move on but she cant stop loving me she said if she knew she would of still had feelings for me now she never would of dumped me idk why im so drawn to her!I just want to be free and enjoy life i dont need her but i would love to share my full self with her! I been reading the power of now and am trying to get a peace of mind but all my thoughts are about her its hard to focus on anything else!

ToMeAndOnlyMe · « **Reply #10 on:** September 12, 2011, 01:10:57 AM »

Quote from: Mr positive on September 12, 2011, 12:55:46 AM

idk she keeps saying she wants to move on but she cant stop loving me she said if she knew she would of still had feelings for me now she never would of dumped me idk why im so drawn to her!I just want to be free and enjoy life i dont need her but i would love to share my full self with her! I been reading the power of now and am trying to get a peace of mind but all my thoughts are about her its hard to focus on anything else!

It's not fair for her to pull on you when she's the one who is being indecisive. Maybe take some time away from her to focus on yourself again? I know it sounds bad since you clearly spent a lot of time using LOA to attract her back, but I think sometimes there's a limit when it ends up hurting you the way that it is now. She's taking away parts of you that are important to you because her energy is the one that is chaotic right now.

You are the most important to you, you are the one who loves you the most, you make things happen because of the power inside of you. In light of all that, you can break away from the shackles of her energy and how it is effecting you.

UpLOAding · « **Reply #11 on:** September 12, 2011, 01:13:09 AM »

I would also like to hear what other LOA experts would suggest to the question:
Does the current situation mean that Mr positive has to get a car and a home in order to attract her back, or will he be able attract her back without a car and a home?

lise · « **Reply #12 on:** September 12, 2011, 02:16:13 AM »

Well I'm no expert in loa but I would have thought it was obvious to a blind man on a galloping horse that NO he doesnt need to obtain material possessions to win her back! They are just things. Ok it's nice to have nice things but theyre not vital to life. Plus it's implying that women want men to provide these things for them when they're perfectly capable of obtaining them for themselves.

We should all be working on ourselves inwardly and how we want to be and what we want to attract and not looking outwardly and comparing ourselves favourably or unfavourably with others and how they are and what they want. If cars and houses are important to you (anyone not the poster) then attract them because there what you want and not because someone or anyone else does. Presumably then you will be in alignment with others who are attracted to the same thing.

Mr Positive, believe she will come back and when she does it will be for you and not a car.

Katie · « **Reply #13 on:** September 12, 2011, 02:31:04 AM »

I am no LOA expert either, but I totally agree with Lise. Lise you summed everything up perfectly, thank you.

Uploading, I really disagree with you. If that's the vision you have of women in general, I'm sorry to say this but maybe that's why your relationships are so complicated.

UpLOAding · « **Reply #14 on:** September 12, 2011, 02:52:46 AM »

How can you disagree with statistics?
I simply said what I see, what the people around me do. What my mother does.

It's not my vision. It's not my belief. It's nothing even close to what I affirm with LOA.

It is what happens out there.